Why would a leeb talk about other women..

When he's coming to see me, hence i assumed it was ME he was after.. I get that you guys are charming and flirty and not serious til you are REALLY serious about someone.. Thats fine i get that.. But i feel like it's kinda disrespectful to cross that line, even if you are dating or looking at other people. I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them.. That's thoughtless.. This makes no sense to me.. And if he just wants to be friends (also fine)why offer to drive several hours to see me?? Bizarre..

Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Posted by Wonderlesswave
Lol didnt i tell you to stay away from this shit

He says this because he has no respect for you, he says this kind of shit because he actually doesnt want you

Just too much of a bitch to say it.

Been there done that heard this saaaaame exact shit before get out now.

I don't recall us talking before... But i appreciate the info! Sorry if it happened to you as well. Pretty lame. Luckily i can walk away with relative ease from asstards like this.

Posted by SofiaV87
Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Well.. Thats what i thought... Then why ALSO agree to drive five hrs to see someone?? Confusing and REALLY stupid.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Well.. Thats what i thought... Then why ALSO agree to drive five hrs to see someone?? Confusing and REALLY stupid.

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Agreed .. he sounds like an imbecile lol

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Lol didnt i tell you to stay away from this shit

He says this because he has no respect for you, he says this kind of shit because he actually doesnt want you

Just too much of a bitch to say it.

Been there done that heard this saaaaame exact shit before get out now.

I don't recall us talking before... But i appreciate the info! Sorry if it happened to you as well. Pretty lame. Luckily i can walk away with relative ease from asstards like this.

Lol ohh im not sorry it was his loss he regretted it in the end came chasing after me several times once I decided enough was enough. Even claimed he was my twin flame and couldn't let me go....boy bye !

But good! Im glad you can walk away, its a long path of nothingness. Don't give him any explanations and just ghost his ass . He can call ghost busters all he wants and come looking for you but don't respond.

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Wow! What a fool. Can't understand why men can't do the right thing to begin with..... But only try to make it better after it's too late. Haha! That ghost busters thing is genius....... I won't reach out to him again..

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
...I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them..

Putting his cards out on the table.

Also, "talk about women" ... in what sense? There isn't much context in that statement. Talking about going out with them? Or just bringing them up because it applies to the subject of conversation?

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Why did you bold i date a lot? Hes mentioned several things and it was totally out of the blue not pertaining to anything i'd said: that he wanted to go look at them, (as in he's wanting to find one, even though i'm right here)saying something about a body part he couldn't resist... There was something else I'm trying to remember.... It just reeked of dismissiveness.. And this isnt like a stereotypical dude.... Not some jock schmuck..

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Lol didnt i tell you to stay away from this shit

He says this because he has no respect for you, he says this kind of shit because he actually doesnt want you

Just too much of a bitch to say it.

Been there done that heard this saaaaame exact shit before get out now.

I don't recall us talking before... But i appreciate the info! Sorry if it happened to you as well. Pretty lame. Luckily i can walk away with relative ease from asstards like this.

Lol ohh im not sorry it was his loss he regretted it in the end came chasing after me several times once I decided enough was enough. Even claimed he was my twin flame and couldn't let me go....boy bye !

But good! Im glad you can walk away, its a long path of nothingness. Don't give him any explanations and just ghost his ass . He can call ghost busters all he wants and come looking for you but don't respond.

Wow! What a fool. Can't understand why men can't do the right thing to begin with..... But only try to make it better after it's too late. Haha! That ghost busters thing is genius....... I won't reach out to him again..

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Ohh yeah . He came with the sweet talk saying all the good shit i wanted to hear .hell he could text me tomorrow morning saying all the good shit i wanna hear but i still wont go back, because he will never change. We will go through the same sick cycle me loving him with all my ignorant Pisces heart.and him playing mind games, pretending to love me one minute , confusing me the next, telling me all about his other women, all while saying he wants to mary me ,but still fucking other women ..i swear this sounds just like his bitch ass..

But yes. You're dealing with a very immature person who is not worth your time dear. You seem levelheaded so just do what's best for you and dont look back.

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What an asshole. I'm sorry.

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...I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them..

Putting his cards out on the table.

Also, "talk about women" ... in what sense? There isn't much context in that statement. Talking about going out with them? Or just bringing them up because it applies to the subject of conversation?

Why did you bold i date a lot? Hes mentioned several things and it was totally out of the blue not pertaining to anything i'd said: that he wanted to go look at them, (as in he's wanting to find one, even though i'm right here)saying something about a body part he couldn't resist... There was something else I'm trying to remember.... It just reeked of dismissiveness.. And this isnt like a stereotypical dude.... Not some jock schmuck..

Because from the way it sounds, dating almost seems like a pissing contest between the 2 of you. Does he know you're dating others too? From the way you described how he talked about other women, maybe he's trying to get a reaction out of you.

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Oh i see.... I guess i just meant in general i do.. But i haven't seen anyone since i started talking to him.. And i have never mentioned any attraction or interest in any other man. Im always respectful.i have no desire to play games or anything.... I think perhaps he just sees me as a friend and i thought it was more... He had just done the sweetest thing for me too, involving this band i like, i really thought he was into me! And then he throws out the other women thing... It really shocked me. I don't recall doing anything that would make him insecure......

I think perhaps he was really excited about me and then got really excited about someone else instead. Seems to happen a lot... I really don't wanna date anymore.

Posted by tiziani
I'm guessing, like Fisk said, to try and get a reaction or see you emotional.

But.... Why?

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Posted by tiziani
I'm guessing, like Fisk said, to try and get a reaction or see you emotional.

But.... Why?

Only you would know lol

I've never brought up other women in that sense, but it's one possible answer to your thread.

Maybe you are a cool customer or have been playing it cool. I see generally men are raised to believe and "expect" women are going to get all these feels about him. And if he doesn't see that + throw in some immaturity in there, then he's going to be all over the place.

You have some dude in the Pisces forum doing exactly that just now.

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Omg you're right... I was just thinking of the parallels of that dude. Hahaha... Well i made it clear i wanted him to come visit.. I agree men think women will just fawn all over them.. And i am extremely stoic and aloof.. Too much fucking aqua in my chart. Erf. He had just done the sweetest thing too.... And i was so happy and shocked... And then i sorta didn't know what to say and stopped chatting for a day... But jeez is he really that sensitive?? I mean women need to time to process and guard our hearts too!!

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It sounds like the Leeb might be testing you and playing with your emotions to see how much interest you have- not cool.

Just a guess though.

Also, to your comment about assuming he found someone else and you not wanting to date anymore... Mind over matter. Don't begin to assume you don't measure up to what he wants, or you never will.

Agreed. Just tired of games and used to the worst case scenario coming true. :/

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I'm guessing, like Fisk said, to try and get a reaction or see you emotional.

But.... Why?

Only you would know lol

I've never brought up other women in that sense, but it's one possible answer to your thread.

Maybe you are a cool customer or have been playing it cool. I see generally men are raised to believe and "expect" women are going to get all these feels about him. And if he doesn't see that + throw in some immaturity in there, then he's going to be all over the place.

You have some dude in the Pisces forum doing exactly that just now.

Omg you're right... I was just thinking of the parallels of that dude. Hahaha... Well i made it clear i wanted him to come visit.. I agree men think women will just fawn all over them.. And i am extremely stoic and aloof.. Too much fucking aqua in my chart. Erf. He had just done the sweetest thing too.... And i was so happy and shocked... And then i sorta didn't know what to say and stopped chatting for a day... But jeez is he really that sensitive?? I mean women need to time to process and guard our hearts too!!

"And i am extremely stoic and aloof"

Yeah, so there you go lol I'm not going to say it doesn't suck, it does, but it takes someone with a very steady hand not to be phased by what you have going on there. People seek reassurance, I've done some things to seek it. I don't bring up other women because .... I don't know, I just think it's unnecessary and straight up rude to try to step on someone like that and see if they react.

The real issue is even if you see someone is seeking reassurance from you, whether respectfully or otherwise, you still don't know if they are genuinely invested in your of if they're just doing it to satisfy their own ego.

But on this issue it sounds like a reassurance thing.

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I agree it is rude.. But you kinda opened my eyes to something ...i know thats who i am.. But i just wanna let my guard down cuz of how many men have been dicks!! Def something to think about..

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It sounds like the Leeb might be testing you and playing with your emotions to see how much interest you have- not cool.

Just a guess though.

Also, to your comment about assuming he found someone else and you not wanting to date anymore... Mind over matter. Don't begin to assume you don't measure up to what he wants, or you never will.

Agreed. Just tired of games and used to the worst case scenario coming true. :/

I understand that. And it SUCKS, trust me I've experienced a lot of 'not being good enough' scenarios in my life from not only lovers but significant family members. It used to be a real struggle bus. But what I learned is that no matter how 'good' I attempted to portray myself to the world didn't matter as long as I truly didn't believe in myself. If I didn't think highly of myself, no one else would either. So please, don't give up hope or use these frustrating situations to reflect your own disposition on being worthy of a good relationship.

This Leeb sounds insecure. And if it doesn't work out, there's a good reason for it.

Best of luck to you regardless!

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I hear you.. Thanks. Good advice.. For everyone!

Posted by boxcarmirnta
When he's coming to see me, hence i assumed it was ME he was after.. I get that you guys are charming and flirty and not serious til you are REALLY serious about someone.. Thats fine i get that.. But i feel like it's kinda disrespectful to cross that line, even if you are dating or looking at other people. I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them.. That's thoughtless.. This makes no sense to me.. And if he just wants to be friends (also fine)why offer to drive several hours to see me?? Bizarre..

Um...thats a typical move guys pull to inspire jealousy so you'll compete for them

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When he's coming to see me, hence i assumed it was ME he was after.. I get that you guys are charming and flirty and not serious til you are REALLY serious about someone.. Thats fine i get that.. But i feel like it's kinda disrespectful to cross that line, even if you are dating or looking at other people. I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them.. That's thoughtless.. This makes no sense to me.. And if he just wants to be friends (also fine)why offer to drive several hours to see me?? Bizarre..

Um...thats a typical move guys pull to inspire jealousy so you'll compete for them

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Probably.. I'm really not good at playing games so i don't pick up on it.... Chess was never my strong suit. 🙂

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Posted by SofiaV87
Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Well.. Thats what i thought... Then why ALSO agree to drive five hrs to see someone?? Confusing and REALLY stupid.

If he is under the impression, that you are just friends, then he has actually done nothing wrong. He drove some time to see a friends of his and talked about his life, including girls, as you do with friends.

Maybe your expectations are just way off for what signals he has really been giving you. Maybe you just really wanted to have him want you.

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You could be right.. He hasn't come to see me yet. I don't think he'd drive super far for a girl he wasnt into.. I wasn't expecting anything i was going off what he was saying to me. I already said if he just wants to be friends thats fine.

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When he's coming to see me, hence i assumed it was ME he was after.. I get that you guys are charming and flirty and not serious til you are REALLY serious about someone.. Thats fine i get that.. But i feel like it's kinda disrespectful to cross that line, even if you are dating or looking at other people. I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them.. That's thoughtless.. This makes no sense to me.. And if he just wants to be friends (also fine)why offer to drive several hours to see me?? Bizarre..

Um...thats a typical move guys pull to inspire jealousy so you'll compete for them

No this is a typical thing girls say, when they do not want to let go of the situation and use this as an excuse to keep chasing.

If a woman accepts that kind of a move as him wanting to compete with other girls of her and starts chasing him, she is a fool. Because pulling a move like that just shows how not-serious he is about the whole thing. Willing to risc it and doesn´t really care.

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What is not a typical thing? I have zero interest in pursuing someone who isn't into me. I don't chase dudes i never have. The way i took it was him making sure i realized he DIDN'T like me in THAT way... Despite all the other shit that contradicted that. I have no illusions about men... This ain't my first rodeo.

ugh..yea..sorry but ...yea.. he doesn't want you to think about this 'relationship' he has with you as serious but wants to contiune it anyway...

thus those little signs here and there with passive aggresiveness :/

don't give him too much time of a day 😉

Besides the fact that this just sounds like any immature guy...... a 'man' would not do that kind of thing surely, why would you blab about other women if you really truly like someone........ you are a Pisces and he is Libra.

I recall you from before, and would say that fishes do not appreciate people taking advantage of their generous and ample good nature. Libra really don't do the 'emotions' thing, overtly anyway... they DO I believe quietly judge and test you in a very cold way. It's not pleasant and you may well end up feeling like you are being taken for a ride anyway.

Good luck, but doesn't sound like a genuine thing either way to me, sorry 😢

Posted by Confused_
ugh..yea..sorry but ...yea.. he doesn't want you to think about this 'relationship' he has with you as serious but wants to contiune it anyway...

thus those little signs here and there with passive aggresiveness :/

don't give him too much time of a day 😉

passive/aggressive - yes, without a doubt!

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Posted by Pisces_Daydreamer
Besides the fact that this just sounds like any immature guy...... a 'man' would not do that kind of thing surely, why would you blab about other women if you really truly like someone........ you are a Pisces and he is Libra.

I recall you from before, and would say that fishes do not appreciate people taking advantage of their generous and ample good nature. Libra really don't do the 'emotions' thing, overtly anyway... they DO I believe quietly judge and test you in a very cold way. It's not pleasant and you may well end up feeling like you are being taken for a ride anyway.

Good luck, but doesn't sound like a genuine thing either way to me, sorry 😢

No offense but, are you a Libra expert to affirm things like that ?

It's not the first time that i see your posts about Libras and i think your opinion is totally biased because you had bad experience with this sign. Try to open you mind a little and maybe you will notice one day that we are not all the same. And that goes for every signs.

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No offense taken..... I have had experience with two Libras, no expert, but both were the same...... I did also say that any 'man'.....

My experiences told me from a personal point of view, that they can't really deal with the negative side of emotions and would therefore kind of 'sugar coat' stuff so as not to offend. Most of us mature peeps would just appreciate honesty, whether it be good or bad. Oh so good however when the going was good for them, to then fall back when called out on their BS.

i agree with tiz, it sounds like a reassurance thing.

i have to admit, i've done it. not talked about other men i'm seeing but talked about other women my prospective partner might be interested in. it normally happens early on and i do it to get a reaction.

i want to see how they respond. yes, it's borne out of insecurity and a way to guard my heart.

example: i promised to be my partner's wing(wo)man before we got together to see what he would say. it would have crushed me if he took up the offer but i wanted to know if he saw me as a potential mate. was it a test? absolutely.

is it a crappy thing to do? sure.

i think as it has clearly bothered you, you should put him on the spot and ask him why he did that? tell him how it made you feel.

early on you are both assessing each other. you need to talk this stuff out otherwise you leave yourself open to misunderstandings. i think i am rather stubborn that way. i don't walk away easily if i am really interested. i prefer to confront the issue and have everything out before making any sort of decision.

if you are not interested though, then it just seems likes too much hassle for the reward.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Well.. Thats what i thought... Then why ALSO agree to drive five hrs to see someone?? Confusing and REALLY stupid.

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He likes you. A lot apparently. He likes you, but he knows this is not forever for him.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Well.. Thats what i thought... Then why ALSO agree to drive five hrs to see someone?? Confusing and REALLY stupid.

He likes you. A lot apparently. He likes you, but he knows this is not forever for him.

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Ok.. What?? Your answer is the most unique which is why im so shocked... Everyone else says hes clearly not that into me..... Why do you say that?

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i agree with tiz, it sounds like a reassurance thing.

i have to admit, i've done it. not talked about other men i'm seeing but talked about other women my prospective partner might be interested in. it normally happens early on and i do it to get a reaction.

i want to see how they respond. yes, it's borne out of insecurity and a way to guard my heart.

example: i promised to be my partner's wing(wo)man before we got together to see what he would say. it would have crushed me if he took up the offer but i wanted to know if he saw me as a potential mate. was it a test? absolutely.

is it a crappy thing to do? sure.

i think as it has clearly bothered you, you should put him on the spot and ask him why he did that? tell him how it made you feel.

early on you are both assessing each other. you need to talk this stuff out otherwise you leave yourself open to misunderstandings. i think i am rather stubborn that way. i don't walk away easily if i am really interested. i prefer to confront the issue and have everything out before making any sort of decision.

if you are not interested though, then it just seems likes too much hassle for the reward.

I see what you're doing saying... I have a hard time with games like this... I responded by saying oh yea i also wanna look at men or something...... Cuz i was pissed he would say that!! I didn't reassure him cuz he didn't reassure me. Ive been hurt a million times.. And that hurt me, I cant be expected to do the right thing when its a hurtful comment.. Sigh....

Posted by Pisces_Daydreamer
Besides the fact that this just sounds like any immature guy...... a 'man' would not do that kind of thing surely, why would you blab about other women if you really truly like someone........ you are a Pisces and he is Libra.

I recall you from before, and would say that fishes do not appreciate people taking advantage of their generous and ample good nature. Libra really don't do the 'emotions' thing, overtly anyway... they DO I believe quietly judge and test you in a very cold way. It's not pleasant and you may well end up feeling like you are being taken for a ride anyway.

Good luck, but doesn't sound like a genuine thing either way to me, sorry 😢

Correct... We do not like it... And i don't wanna be judged... Ive been a really good friend to him.. Hopefully he can return the favor.

Posted by Confused_
ugh..yea..sorry but ...yea.. he doesn't want you to think about this 'relationship' he has with you as serious but wants to contiune it anyway...

thus those little signs here and there with passive aggresiveness :/

don't give him too much time of a day 😉

I hate passive aggressive!!!

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Posted by jeane
i agree with tiz, it sounds like a reassurance thing.

i have to admit, i've done it. not talked about other men i'm seeing but talked about other women my prospective partner might be interested in. it normally happens early on and i do it to get a reaction.

i want to see how they respond. yes, it's borne out of insecurity and a way to guard my heart.

example: i promised to be my partner's wing(wo)man before we got together to see what he would say. it would have crushed me if he took up the offer but i wanted to know if he saw me as a potential mate. was it a test? absolutely.

is it a crappy thing to do? sure.

i think as it has clearly bothered you, you should put him on the spot and ask him why he did that? tell him how it made you feel.

early on you are both assessing each other. you need to talk this stuff out otherwise you leave yourself open to misunderstandings. i think i am rather stubborn that way. i don't walk away easily if i am really interested. i prefer to confront the issue and have everything out before making any sort of decision.

if you are not interested though, then it just seems likes too much hassle for the reward.

This.

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Well i didnt reassure him cuz i was too offended... So i guess i blew it.. Do you guys not understand that that hurts people?

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Posted by jeane
i agree with tiz, it sounds like a reassurance thing.

i have to admit, i've done it. not talked about other men i'm seeing but talked about other women my prospective partner might be interested in. it normally happens early on and i do it to get a reaction.

i want to see how they respond. yes, it's borne out of insecurity and a way to guard my heart.

example: i promised to be my partner's wing(wo)man before we got together to see what he would say. it would have crushed me if he took up the offer but i wanted to know if he saw me as a potential mate. was it a test? absolutely.

is it a crappy thing to do? sure.

i think as it has clearly bothered you, you should put him on the spot and ask him why he did that? tell him how it made you feel.

early on you are both assessing each other. you need to talk this stuff out otherwise you leave yourself open to misunderstandings. i think i am rather stubborn that way. i don't walk away easily if i am really interested. i prefer to confront the issue and have everything out before making any sort of decision.

if you are not interested though, then it just seems likes too much hassle for the reward.

I see what you're doing saying... I have a hard time with games like this... I responded by saying oh yea i also wanna look at men or something...... Cuz i was pissed he would say that!! I didn't reassure him cuz he didn't reassure me. Ive been hurt a million times.. And that hurt me, I cant be expected to do the right thing when its a hurtful comment.. Sigh....

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Everyone plays games at the start. We all only show certain sides, behave certain ways, pretend we're more interested than we are, laugh that little harder...

Yeah I can appreciate you've been hurt. Finding a mate and having it stick is not easy. Sometimes the heart gets trampled on.

One thing you should maybe consider if you are going to hang around libras - we talk a lot of shit. It's best not to take everything we say too seriously.

Look how other libras treat each other. We'll all talk smack to each other now and again. No one ever puts much value in it. We shrug it off and say the next stupid thing that comes to mind.

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Posted by jeane
i agree with tiz, it sounds like a reassurance thing.

i have to admit, i've done it. not talked about other men i'm seeing but talked about other women my prospective partner might be interested in. it normally happens early on and i do it to get a reaction.

i want to see how they respond. yes, it's borne out of insecurity and a way to guard my heart.

example: i promised to be my partner's wing(wo)man before we got together to see what he would say. it would have crushed me if he took up the offer but i wanted to know if he saw me as a potential mate. was it a test? absolutely.

is it a crappy thing to do? sure.

i think as it has clearly bothered you, you should put him on the spot and ask him why he did that? tell him how it made you feel.

early on you are both assessing each other. you need to talk this stuff out otherwise you leave yourself open to misunderstandings. i think i am rather stubborn that way. i don't walk away easily if i am really interested. i prefer to confront the issue and have everything out before making any sort of decision.

if you are not interested though, then it just seems likes too much hassle for the reward.

This.

Well i didnt reassure him cuz i was too offended... So i guess i blew it.. Do you guys not understand that that hurts people?

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Agree with Tiz. Don't ignore your own feelings on this. Call him on his nonsense.

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Posted by jeane
i agree with tiz, it sounds like a reassurance thing.

i have to admit, i've done it. not talked about other men i'm seeing but talked about other women my prospective partner might be interested in. it normally happens early on and i do it to get a reaction.

i want to see how they respond. yes, it's borne out of insecurity and a way to guard my heart.

example: i promised to be my partner's wing(wo)man before we got together to see what he would say. it would have crushed me if he took up the offer but i wanted to know if he saw me as a potential mate. was it a test? absolutely.

is it a crappy thing to do? sure.

i think as it has clearly bothered you, you should put him on the spot and ask him why he did that? tell him how it made you feel.

early on you are both assessing each other. you need to talk this stuff out otherwise you leave yourself open to misunderstandings. i think i am rather stubborn that way. i don't walk away easily if i am really interested. i prefer to confront the issue and have everything out before making any sort of decision.

if you are not interested though, then it just seems likes too much hassle for the reward.

I see what you're doing saying... I have a hard time with games like this... I responded by saying oh yea i also wanna look at men or something...... Cuz i was pissed he would say that!! I didn't reassure him cuz he didn't reassure me. Ive been hurt a million times.. And that hurt me, I cant be expected to do the right thing when its a hurtful comment.. Sigh....

Everyone plays games at the start. We all only show certain sides, behave certain ways, pretend we're more interested than we are, laugh that little harder...

Yeah I can appreciate you've been hurt. Finding a mate and having it stick is not easy. Sometimes the heart gets trampled on.

One thing you should maybe consider if you are going to hang around libras - we talk a lot of shit. It's best not to take everything we say too seriously.

Look how other libras treat each other. We'll all talk smack to each other now and again. No one ever puts much value in it. We shrug it off and say the next stupid thing that comes to mind.

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Ill keep that in mind.. Hahaa.. He's a total ham.. Everything he says is hilarious.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Well.. Thats what i thought... Then why ALSO agree to drive five hrs to see someone?? Confusing and REALLY stupid.

Probably for sex.

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Im sure he can laid in his own town very easily.

Posted by tiziani
I don't think you blew it. I'm not suggesting you go about reassuring people in that way. You don't want to end up stepping on yourself just so someone else can feel better. But I agree with jeane in the sense that one person *if not both) are better off hashing it out, and talking about it openly. Otherwise nothing's going to change.

Yea you're right.. I just don't wanna say something and be seen as overly sensitive or too serious.. I guess thats my issue. Id feel pretty dumb if he wasn't even into me at all and i brought it up..

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Posted by SofiaV87
Usually a man that talks about other women while on a date , hanging out-whatever , isn't that interested .. if he was, he would have the respect to not talk about other women

Well.. Thats what i thought... Then why ALSO agree to drive five hrs to see someone?? Confusing and REALLY stupid.

Probably for sex.

Im sure he can laid in his own town very easily.

I like the way you think.

I used to get told things from my ex's family if I still loved her after a lot of shit we went through. Why would I travel halfway around the world for someone for a booty call? That's one expensive booty call. lol

It may be, as others said, a test to see your reaction. But I'm not one to play games like that. I've never liked that. There's other ways to "test" people without playing the game. And there are proper ways to respond to players when they try stupid games like this.

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Agreed. I responded by saying the same thing basically but about dudes..

Posted by GlaringTruth

Posted by Pisces_Daydreamer
Besides the fact that this just sounds like any immature guy...... a 'man' would not do that kind of thing surely, why would you blab about other women if you really truly like someone........ you are a Pisces and he is Libra.

I recall you from before, and would say that fishes do not appreciate people taking advantage of their generous and ample good nature. Libra really don't do the 'emotions' thing, overtly anyway... they DO I believe quietly judge and test you in a very cold way. It's not pleasant and you may well end up feeling like you are being taken for a ride anyway.

Good luck, but doesn't sound like a genuine thing either way to me, sorry 😢

Quietly judge? I openly judge and frankly don't give a fuck. Lol

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@GlaringTruth..... well that is good news! Much more preferable..... actually I would say despite also 'quietly judging' he was also 'openly critical'..... I could have been the Queen and he would have been the same, but that was ok, I didn't mind that so much apart from it was also quite hypocritical of him in some ways, but I never took it personally!

Posted by x0x0x0x0x
Clearly he doesn't respect you. He doesn't care for you.

Then why drive 5 hrs to see me? And five back?

Give him tit for tat. Start talking about the AMAZING dick you hung out with the other night. Long thick and juicy, with just the perfect amount of curvature.

You girls are clueless!

Men telling you about other women so you know - he got it! And if you aren't sure he worth it - listen to how many he worthies before!

And if you aren't sure - you must reconsider because there were line before you - there will be line after you!

Ego! Not mind you incecurity!

Could be but my husband still after 24 years re-telling me stories about past girls since school!

It's just makes him feel 'da men'...

And I know all of there faces and crap!

Who cares, really? ?

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Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by x0x0x0x0x
Clearly he doesn't respect you. He doesn't care for you.

Then why drive 5 hrs to see me? And five back?

Alright then he's just retarded or something.

You wouldn't be on the road for 10 hrs to visit a person if you didn't care for them. But- You also wouldn't disrespect someone by speaking about another woman in front of them if you cared for them.

Doesn't make sense.

Maybe he was testing you? Probably trying to see your reaction? Idk.

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Haha.. Thank you.. See my confusion? It makes no sense at all......

Posted by Gemitati
You girls are clueless!

Men telling you about other women so you know - he got it! And if you aren't sure he worth it - listen to how many he worthies before!

And if you aren't sure - you must reconsider because there were line before you - there will be line after you!

Ego! Not mind you incecurity!

Could be but my husband still after 24 years re-telling me stories about past girls since school!

It's just makes him feel 'da men'...

And I know all of there faces and crap!

Who cares, really? ?

So im supposed to be impressed? Hes saying hes looking.. Not getting... Not quite as impressive.... Just lame.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Give him tit for tat. Start talking about the AMAZING dick you hung out with the other night. Long thick and juicy, with just the perfect amount of curvature.

Hahahaaa.... I did... Not quite that detailed ..but yes..

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by Gemitati
You girls are clueless!

Men telling you about other women so you know - he got it! And if you aren't sure he worth it - listen to how many he worthies before!

And if you aren't sure - you must reconsider because there were line before you - there will be line after you!

Ego! Not mind you incecurity!

Could be but my husband still after 24 years re-telling me stories about past girls since school!

It's just makes him feel 'da men'...

And I know all of there faces and crap!

Who cares, really? ?

So im supposed to be impressed? Hes saying hes looking.. Not getting... Not quite as impressive.... Just lame.

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NO! I've missed part where he said he is LOOKING?

Sorry! That's the end! Let him 'look'!

What a piece of shit!

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Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by Gemitati
You girls are clueless!

Men telling you about other women so you know - he got it! And if you aren't sure he worth it - listen to how many he worthies before!

And if you aren't sure - you must reconsider because there were line before you - there will be line after you!

Ego! Not mind you incecurity!

Could be but my husband still after 24 years re-telling me stories about past girls since school!

It's just makes him feel 'da men'...

And I know all of there faces and crap!

Who cares, really? ?

So im supposed to be impressed? Hes saying hes looking.. Not getting... Not quite as impressive.... Just lame.

NO! I've missed part where he said he is LOOKING?

Sorry! That's the end! Let him 'look'!

What a piece of shit!

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Ahh... All righty.. Makes more sense.. Haha.

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by boxcarmirnta
When he's coming to see me, hence i assumed it was ME he was after.. I get that you guys are charming and flirty and not serious til you are REALLY serious about someone.. Thats fine i get that.. But i feel like it's kinda disrespectful to cross that line, even if you are dating or looking at other people. I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them.. That's thoughtless.. This makes no sense to me.. And if he just wants to be friends (also fine)why offer to drive several hours to see me?? Bizarre..

Um...thats a typical move guys pull to inspire jealousy so you'll compete for them

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in "The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene" this move is called "creating triangles".

it's a good way to gauge your target's interest in you but also to heighten the effect of the seductive process.

notice you are on here thinking about him..trying to decipher his every move.

by creating mixed signals and yet not completely disrespecting you he's not only managed to keep your interest but also possible deepen it.

You should really check out this book.

I highly recommend it.

As a Pisces who is not so much interested in manipulating, but interested in how I was manipulated with previous love interests...it's been so useful.

I hate games myself but

unfortunately, that doesn't disregard the fact that we live in a world where people play them.

you might as well learn these things if only to protect yourself.

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by x0x0x0x0x
Clearly he doesn't respect you. He doesn't care for you.

Then why drive 5 hrs to see me? And five back?

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I did this for a girl recently.

sex wasn't the primary motivator but I'm not going to lie ..it was something I thought could happen...or rather hoped for.lol

I'm a woman though so I don't know how much it counts when I say that sex with someone you remotely find attractive is nowhere the same as sex with someone you think you might have deep feelings for.....

someone your willing to drive over 800 miles roundtrip at the drop of hat.

I've recently had a lot of interest from other women and also have been in erotically charged environments

where women came on to me......in short

I couldn't even enjoy it ...

.... she's always in the back of my mind. No one else compares.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by x0x0x0x0x
Clearly he doesn't respect you. He doesn't care for you.

Then why drive 5 hrs to see me? And five back?

I did this for a girl recently.

sex wasn't the primary motivator but I'm not going to lie ..it was something I thought could happen...or rather hoped for.lol

I'm a woman though so I don't know how much it counts when I say that sex with someone you remotely find attractive is nowhere the same as sex with someone you think you might have deep feelings for.....

someone your willing to drive over 800 miles roundtrip at the drop of hat.

I've recently had a lot of interest from other women and also have been in erotically charged environments

where women came on to me......in short

I couldn't even enjoy it ...

.... she's always in the back of my mind. No one else compares.

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Wait... So what happened?? It doesn't matter if yr a woman or a man... What was the motivation?? Why is she still on your mind?

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Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by boxcarmirnta
When he's coming to see me, hence i assumed it was ME he was after.. I get that you guys are charming and flirty and not serious til you are REALLY serious about someone.. Thats fine i get that.. But i feel like it's kinda disrespectful to cross that line, even if you are dating or looking at other people. I date a lot but i would never talk about other men to them.. That's thoughtless.. This makes no sense to me.. And if he just wants to be friends (also fine)why offer to drive several hours to see me?? Bizarre..

Um...thats a typical move guys pull to inspire jealousy so you'll compete for them

in "The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene" this move is called "creating triangles".

it's a good way to gauge your target's interest in you but also to heighten the effect of the seductive process.

notice you are on here thinking about him..trying to decipher his every move.

by creating mixed signals and yet not completely disrespecting you he's not only managed to keep your interest but also possible deepen it.

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I will totally check it out..