@Chuckcem
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Libra individuals show they want to reconnect through genuine communication, often reaching out with thoughtful messages. They may also suggest spending time together or express a desire for harmony. Paying attention to their efforts to restore balance and fairness indicates they are interested in rekindling the relationship.
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.
Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
I will always be cordial with ex's. However, if my responses and conversations are long and im asking questions and not just responding, chances are I might be interested.
I don't go back to an ex if the bridge was burnt. No chance. I am aware that the reasons that lead to the failure of the relationship will not disappear, so it is much better to let go and find a true connection with someone else. But lessons are learned and not repeated again. It's called life experience.
Posted by blackphase
From my experience with the males, they will reach out and msg just like the user above has mentioned. They could be waiting for me to initiate, but I refuse to.. so they are the ones who reach from my personal experience. Generally it's just a simple how are you doing msg to see where I stand with them. With my current Libra it's a bit different as we have never spent much time apart to have to rekindle. But before him I was seeing a different Libra who would reach out every few months to see if I was willing to see him again.
this and all the rest of the posts is my experience as well
Posted by compy
I don't go back to an ex if the bridge was burnt. No chance. I am aware that the reasons that lead to the failure of the relationship will not disappear, so it is much better to let go and find a true connection with someone else. But lessons are learned and not repeated again. It's called life experience.
I agree and I did this - told him I was in a relationship and to leave me alone - he was ok with that
Flattery will get your attention.
The libras in my life are very charming people. They are polite and will take an interest in your life by 'catching up'. This is my experience with platonic friends and I love hearing from them.
With romantic interests, it's all of the above with flirtation and they do not go away unless you literally tell them to F off. But even then they like the challenge.
Just my experience but probably rings true for many a sign.
In my experience, a Libra came back after months of no talking or any real friendship by asking for help with writing a paper. Haha
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
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What if you were the one who ended things? Would you still expect the other person to initiate contact?
Posted by tiziani
This thread is going to be like a license to print lies. This is one of the most lied about subjects on here I'm sure. I'm laughing.Why ?
Because there's unnecessary shame around this subject. For some reason "going back" to an ex is meant to reveal who you are as a person. When it shouldn't be. I don't even know why it's seen as "going back" in the first place when everyone does it.
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Can you expand on that?
Posted by compy
I don't go back to an ex if the bridge was burnt. No chance. I am aware that the reasons that lead to the failure of the relationship will not disappear, so it is much better to let go and find a true connection with someone else. But lessons are learned and not repeated again. It's called life experience.
What if the bridge was not burnt?
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
What if you were the one who ended things? Would you still expect the other person to initiate contact?
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Yeah. I mean I probably shouldn't expect that , but the way I see it is if you really want me, you'll try.
Posted by heliumfiasco
I will always be cordial with ex's. However, if my responses and conversations are long and im asking questions and not just responding, chances are I might be interested.
So it's safe to say that you can be cordial, but you'll take the extra step to initiate conversation. What about gift giving, how does that play into things (meaning would you give a gift to an ex)?
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
What if you were the one who ended things? Would you still expect the other person to initiate contact?
Yeah. I mean I probably shouldn't expect that , but the way I see it is if you really want me, you'll try.
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Even better, what if you were the one who said that if things were to rekindle that you needed to be the one to re-initiate? Would you be direct/blunt, or would you hint/feel around even then?
Posted by tiziani
This thread is going to be like a license to print lies. This is one of the most lied about subjects on here I'm sure. I'm laughing.Why ?
Because there's unnecessary shame around this subject. For some reason "going back" to an ex is meant to reveal who you are as a person. When it shouldn't be. I don't even know why it's seen as "going back" in the first place when everyone does it.
Idk why people do that. The people I know that come down the hardest on friends for trying a relationship multiple times are the people that are always alone too. Which makes you suspicious if their frame of mind is producing bias.
But I'm naturally suspicious lol.
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Very true. I tend not to go back to a person, but that doesn't mean I'm not open to it if things didn't end poorly.
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
What if you were the one who ended things? Would you still expect the other person to initiate contact?
Yeah. I mean I probably shouldn't expect that , but the way I see it is if you really want me, you'll try.
Even better, what if you were the one who said that if things were to rekindle that you needed to be the one to re-initiate? Would you be direct/blunt, or would you hint/feel around even then?
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Hint/feel and if I felt you were receptive then I'd be blunt. That could just be my moon though.
Posted by tiziani
This thread is going to be like a license to print lies. This is one of the most lied about subjects on here I'm sure. I'm laughing.Why ?
Because there's unnecessary shame around this subject. For some reason "going back" to an ex is meant to reveal who you are as a person. When it shouldn't be. I don't even know why it's seen as "going back" in the first place when everyone does it.
Can you expand on that?
What I mean is: this is a subject where it can easily get lost in semantics, because we adjust what we believe as "going back" according to how we feel at the time.
"It's not really going back if I never really felt it was over" etc. Just one of the ways I've heard of putting it.
For that reason, take the responses (from myself included) with a heavy pinch of salt, because it's so easy to misunderstand.
And most of all, if you really want to make it work with one another, forget about principles and pride or ideas. As long as you're not hurting one another and you're both willing, there's a way.
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That makes sense, thank you for that response. I agree pride and ideas can get in the way of true honesty. It's unfortunate, but people tend to be so fearful of letting others in that pride often is the fallback.
Posted by compy
I don't go back to an ex if the bridge was burnt. No chance. I am aware that the reasons that lead to the failure of the relationship will not disappear, so it is much better to let go and find a true connection with someone else. But lessons are learned and not repeated again. It's called life experience.What if the bridge was not burnt?
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I do not play with people's feelings, so I always make a proper closure. In the most civilised terms. Therefore, yes, the bridge it is burnt. This is the mature way of dealing with non functional relationships.
Posted by tiziani
This thread is going to be like a license to print lies. This is one of the most lied about subjects on here I'm sure. I'm laughing.Why ?
Because there's unnecessary shame around this subject. For some reason "going back" to an ex is meant to reveal who you are as a person. When it shouldn't be. I don't even know why it's seen as "going back" in the first place when everyone does it.
Idk why people do that. The people I know that come down the hardest on friends for trying a relationship multiple times are the people that are always alone too. Which makes you suspicious if their frame of mind is producing bias.
But I'm naturally suspicious lol.
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In their defense they usually are the friend whose been bitched to about all the shitty times. Which makes them go, "what are you crazy! Don't go back he/she's a dick".
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
What if you were the one who ended things? Would you still expect the other person to initiate contact?
Yeah. I mean I probably shouldn't expect that , but the way I see it is if you really want me, you'll try.
Even better, what if you were the one who said that if things were to rekindle that you needed to be the one to re-initiate? Would you be direct/blunt, or would you hint/feel around even then?
Hint/feel and if I felt you were receptive then I'd be blunt. That could just be my moon though.
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So then hinting at being lonely, stating that you care about the other person, asking about the other persons's friends, and giving "gifts" based on what the other person said would be examples of hints. At that point would you expect the other person to be more direct? OR how would your expect the other person show acceptance?
Posted by compy
I don't go back to an ex if the bridge was burnt. No chance. I am aware that the reasons that lead to the failure of the relationship will not disappear, so it is much better to let go and find a true connection with someone else. But lessons are learned and not repeated again. It's called life experience.What if the bridge was not burnt?
I do not play with people's feelings, so I always make a proper closure. In the most civilised terms. Therefore, yes, the bridge it is burnt. This is the mature way of dealing with non functional relationships.
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So basically when you're done, you're done.
Libras come back —
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
What if you were the one who ended things? Would you still expect the other person to initiate contact?
Yeah. I mean I probably shouldn't expect that , but the way I see it is if you really want me, you'll try.
Even better, what if you were the one who said that if things were to rekindle that you needed to be the one to re-initiate? Would you be direct/blunt, or would you hint/feel around even then?
Hint/feel and if I felt you were receptive then I'd be blunt. That could just be my moon though.
So then hinting at being lonely, stating that you care about the other person, asking about the other persons's friends, and giving "gifts" based on what the other person said would be examples of hints. At that point would you expect the other person to be more direct? OR how would your expect the other person show acceptance?
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Yep, sounds like she's feeling things out again . You should just contact her and ask to meet up. Not much to lose at this point.
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.Might reach out to you, to get a feel of where you're mind is at, assuming I'm not completely done. More than not, you'd need to initiate contact and if I seem responsive I may be open to rekindling something. You can expect a guard to be up as well.
What if you were the one who ended things? Would you still expect the other person to initiate contact?
Yeah. I mean I probably shouldn't expect that , but the way I see it is if you really want me, you'll try.
Even better, what if you were the one who said that if things were to rekindle that you needed to be the one to re-initiate? Would you be direct/blunt, or would you hint/feel around even then?
Hint/feel and if I felt you were receptive then I'd be blunt. That could just be my moon though.
So then hinting at being lonely, stating that you care about the other person, asking about the other persons's friends, and giving "gifts" based on what the other person said would be examples of hints. At that point would you expect the other person to be more direct? OR how would your expect the other person show acceptance?
Yep, sounds like she's feeling things out again . You should just contact her and ask to meet up. Not much to lose at this point.
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Hm, she's been a bit colder lately the last couple of times that I've seen her. I've had to warm her up both times, more than the other times we've cross paths. She did give me something though this last time and hinted that she cared about me. I just tend to be skeptical when someone isn't 100% . I'll keep your advice in mind though.
Posted by Mike79
Libras come back —
Oh they can, as long as the other person is chill and possibly has quite a bit to offer.
One of my good friends is a Libra and I watched him dump a girl, date someone new, then dump the new girl to go back to the previous one.
The main thing to remember is NO ONE likes to lose or miss out. If the other person just shrugs and continues happily living their life without the Libra (and if things didn't end terribly), it may give the Libra pause and motive to reconsider. This is true for the other signs as well.
Posted by Mike79
Libras come back —Oh they can, as long as the other person is chill and possibly has quite a bit to offer.
One of my good friends is a Libra and I watched him dump a girl, date someone new, then dump the new girl to go back to the previous one.
The main thing to remember is NO ONE likes to lose or miss out. If the other person just shrugs and continues happily living their life without the Libra (and if things didn't end terribly), it may give the Libra pause and motive to reconsider. This is true for the other signs as well.
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& what if the person no longer wants the libra, the libra then is forced to take a loss and misses out on something that was already amazing.
Posted by Mike79
Libras come back —Oh they can, as long as the other person is chill and possibly has quite a bit to offer.
One of my good friends is a Libra and I watched him dump a girl, date someone new, then dump the new girl to go back to the previous one.
The main thing to remember is NO ONE likes to lose or miss out. If the other person just shrugs and continues happily living their life without the Libra (and if things didn't end terribly), it may give the Libra pause and motive to reconsider. This is true for the other signs as well.
& what if the person no longer wants the libra, the libra then is forced to take a loss and misses out on something that was already amazing.
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Generally speaking, but that's true for anyone. The truth is being the person who ends the relationship can definitely be the weaker position, especially if that person is not 100% sure they want to end it. If the dumpee simply accepts the break up and moves on, it takes the steam out of the dumper's sails. It can make the dumper doubt themselves and wonder what they've missed.
If a Libra woman is thinking about reconciliation after a break up she will ask questions about what you've been up to, ask if you're with someone new, responds almost immediately to emails/texts/calls, agrees to meet up and catch up on each other's lives
Posted by Mike79
Libras come back —Oh they can, as long as the other person is chill and possibly has quite a bit to offer.
One of my good friends is a Libra and I watched him dump a girl, date someone new, then dump the new girl to go back to the previous one.
The main thing to remember is NO ONE likes to lose or miss out. If the other person just shrugs and continues happily living their life without the Libra (and if things didn't end terribly), it may give the Libra pause and motive to reconsider. This is true for the other signs as well.
& what if the person no longer wants the libra, the libra then is forced to take a loss and misses out on something that was already amazing.
Generally speaking, but that's true for anyone. The truth is being the person who ends the relationship can definitely be the weaker position, especially if that person is not 100% sure they want to end it. If the dumpee simply accepts the break up and moves on, it takes the steam out of the dumper's sails. It can make the dumper doubt themselves and wonder what they've missed.
What you said caught my attention, why you would dump someone if you're not 100% sure in the first place ?
Personaly if i'm being dump i assume that the person had been thinking of this for a " long time " so i would ask why then leave and don't come back. If the person who dumped me comes back i will question every word they say and their motives and their honesty ( I'm a Libra woman )
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Not saying I'd personally do that. Whenever I end something, I'm always sure. However I know people who've ended relationships for less than solid reasons. Some people are impulsive, some people fear getting hurt, some people let circumstance dictate their actions, some people have low self esteem, there's many reasons why someone may jump ship in a relationship.
I also understand your skepticism. Being a Leo though, if someone returns after dumping me my logic is "of course they want me back". At that point I'd need to determine if that person's motives could be trusted. I'd definitely be hesitant to rekindle something because I'd want to know if the other person's actions were truthful.
Posted by Mike79
Libras come back —Oh they can, as long as the other person is chill and possibly has quite a bit to offer.
One of my good friends is a Libra and I watched him dump a girl, date someone new, then dump the new girl to go back to the previous one.
The main thing to remember is NO ONE likes to lose or miss out. If the other person just shrugs and continues happily living their life without the Libra (and if things didn't end terribly), it may give the Libra pause and motive to reconsider. This is true for the other signs as well.
& what if the person no longer wants the libra, the libra then is forced to take a loss and misses out on something that was already amazing.
Generally speaking, but that's true for anyone. The truth is being the person who ends the relationship can definitely be the weaker position, especially if that person is not 100% sure they want to end it. If the dumpee simply accepts the break up and moves on, it takes the steam out of the dumper's sails. It can make the dumper doubt themselves and wonder what they've missed.
You want her back. Which means you are there when she wants you...if she wanted you ..she could have you ..she knows this. She doesn't want to rekindle things. Not truly. If she did you would be together.
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Well that's the thing, I'm not there when/if she wants me. I'm just too busy and have no interest in being her "buddy". I dropped contact a while back, nor have I held out hope for her to "change" her mind. Whenever we communicate, it's because she initiates contact.
So in my mind, I agree that if she wanted something rekindled, she'd say it. Apparently though, I'm hearing that Libras aren't always that direct.
Posted by LovingSeraphina
I would say you should consider it over romantically and move on unless she talks about getting back together.
Right, which has been my thought process.
Posted by Mike79
Libras come back —Oh they can, as long as the other person is chill and possibly has quite a bit to offer.
One of my good friends is a Libra and I watched him dump a girl, date someone new, then dump the new girl to go back to the previous one.
The main thing to remember is NO ONE likes to lose or miss out. If the other person just shrugs and continues happily living their life without the Libra (and if things didn't end terribly), it may give the Libra pause and motive to reconsider. This is true for the other signs as well.
& what if the person no longer wants the libra, the libra then is forced to take a loss and misses out on something that was already amazing.
Generally speaking, but that's true for anyone. The truth is being the person who ends the relationship can definitely be the weaker position, especially if that person is not 100% sure they want to end it. If the dumpee simply accepts the break up and moves on, it takes the steam out of the dumper's sails. It can make the dumper doubt themselves and wonder what they've missed.
What you said caught my attention, why you would dump someone if you're not 100% sure in the first place ?
Personaly if i'm being dump i assume that the person had been thinking of this for a " long time " so i would ask why then leave and don't come back. If the person who dumped me comes back i will question every word they say and their motives and their honesty ( I'm a Libra woman )
Not saying I'd personally do that. Whenever I end something, I'm always sure. However I know people who've ended relationships for less than solid reasons. Some people are impulsive, some people fear getting hurt, some people let circumstance dictate their actions, some people have low self esteem, there's many reasons why someone may jump ship in a relationship.
I also understand your skepticism. Being a Leo though, if someone returns after dumping me my logic is "of course they want me back". At that point I'd need to determine if that person's motives could be trusted. I'd definitely be hesitant to rekindle something because I'd want to know if the other person's actions were truthful.
I agree, some people let circumstance dictate their action but i think it's an excuse or there was no true love in the first place. Would you take the risk to dump the person you truly love just because you fear getting hurt etc ? Again i'm really skeptic here too
And I think that try to rekindle things always ends in total failure
Maybe i'm taking acts and words way too seriously on this topic or i'm too pessimistic haha ( sorry if i'm a bit off topic i wanted to know your point of view )
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No problem. You're right when someone ends a relationship, it's not because they were in love. The situations I'm referring to occur earlier in the dating/relationship phase in which both people may care for one another, but didn't (yet) fall in love. Sometimes people pull the plug early (for whatever reason), just to regret it later.
Even still there are plenty of situations where love isn't a factor at all. Sometimes the dumper comes back because they couldn't find anyone else who would tolerate them. Hence why it's smart to be skeptical. I wouldn't say you were pessimistic at all, just realistic.
Posted by Mike79
Libras come back —Oh they can, as long as the other person is chill and possibly has quite a bit to offer.
One of my good friends is a Libra and I watched him dump a girl, date someone new, then dump the new girl to go back to the previous one.
The main thing to remember is NO ONE likes to lose or miss out. If the other person just shrugs and continues happily living their life without the Libra (and if things didn't end terribly), it may give the Libra pause and motive to reconsider. This is true for the other signs as well.
& what if the person no longer wants the libra, the libra then is forced to take a loss and misses out on something that was already amazing.
Generally speaking, but that's true for anyone. The truth is being the person who ends the relationship can definitely be the weaker position, especially if that person is not 100% sure they want to end it. If the dumpee simply accepts the break up and moves on, it takes the steam out of the dumper's sails. It can make the dumper doubt themselves and wonder what they've missed.
What you said caught my attention, why you would dump someone if you're not 100% sure in the first place ?
Personaly if i'm being dump i assume that the person had been thinking of this for a " long time " so i would ask why then leave and don't come back. If the person who dumped me comes back i will question every word they say and their motives and their honesty ( I'm a Libra woman )
Not saying I'd personally do that. Whenever I end something, I'm always sure. However I know people who've ended relationships for less than solid reasons. Some people are impulsive, some people fear getting hurt, some people let circumstance dictate their actions, some people have low self esteem, there's many reasons why someone may jump ship in a relationship.
I also understand your skepticism. Being a Leo though, if someone returns after dumping me my logic is "of course they want me back". At that point I'd need to determine if that person's motives could be trusted. I'd definitely be hesitant to rekindle something because I'd want to know if the other person's actions were truthful.
I agree, some people let circumstance dictate their action but i think it's an excuse or there was no true love in the first place. Would you take the risk to dump the person you truly love just because you fear getting hurt etc ? Again i'm really skeptic here too
And I think that try to rekindle things always ends in total failure
Maybe i'm taking acts and words way too seriously on this topic or i'm too pessimistic haha ( sorry if i'm a bit off topic i wanted to know your point of view )
No problem. You're right when someone ends a relationship, it's not because they were in love. The situations I'm referring to occur earlier in the dating/relationship phase in which both people may care for one another, but didn't (yet) fall in love. Sometimes people pull the plug early (for whatever reason), just to regret it later.
Even still there are plenty of situations where love isn't a factor at all. Sometimes the dumper comes back because they couldn't find anyone else who would tolerate them. Hence why it's smart to be skeptical. I wouldn't say you were pessimistic at all, just realistic.
Ah earlier in the relationship ! But then if you rekindle it would end in something superficial don't you think ? In the beginning you would want to start building something solid. Unless the both of you don't want something serious
And to answer your intial question, the cliche would like that the Libra will wait until you reach out to her or if she's really interested in you she'll initiate a conversation like " hey how are you ? " " what are you doing ? " whatever -_-
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Maybe, maybe not, but that's the question really. Sometimes it's all just bad timing.
Thanks for the response too.
I've been with 2 Libra men and they both came back. The one I am with currently has disappeared and reappeared twice. The first time he came back, he called like he never left. It had been months but it was like he never missed a day.
The second time, he tested the waters first. He would leave songs on FB and then messages.
I was with another Libra many many years ago. I don't even remember why we broke up but around 3 years later he looked me up. When he called, my new husband answered and that was that.
Mine never came back ..but that's ok cuz they sucked..... 🙂
I don't think you would have to guess. Libra make it very clear when they want someone OUT. So if they have decided for whatever reason they want you to be a part of their life again there will be many attempts to see you, meet up, keeping in touch, them trying to become a part of your daily life again. That is they don't just come out with it.
Posted by Chuckcem
What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.
Libra is a cardinal, masculine sign therefore in many cases he/she will directly tell you.
In my experience they'll reach out by text, a friend request, etc. Basically the same thing as the other responses. In my experience they also like to stay cordial with their exes/ex-friends/people not in their lives anymore (like dead beat dad). They may be nice to them and maintain a relationship for the sake of it but whether or not there will be the same level of trust and candor like before might be faked. The Libras in my life have a hard time breaking up with people or rejecting them.
Posted by LibraLovesHim
I don't think you would have to guess. Libra make it very clear when they want someone OUT. So if they have decided for whatever reason they want you to be a part of their life again there will be many attempts to see you, meet up, keeping in touch, them trying to become a part of your daily life again. That is they don't just come out with it.
There have been varying attempts to reach out when I've fallen off the face of earth. When we see each other she will make hints along with innocuous comments while keeping herself close to me.
Posted by Lilianni
In my experience they'll reach out by text, a friend request, etc. Basically the same thing as the other responses. In my experience they also like to stay cordial with their exes/ex-friends/people not in their lives anymore (like dead beat dad). They may be nice to them and maintain a relationship for the sake of it but whether or not there will be the same level of trust and candor like before might be faked. The Libras in my life have a hard time breaking up with people or rejecting them.
Interesting point. There was quite a bit of trust built between us, so I've been watching how candid she's been with me lately too. Trust is a big thing for me, so I tend to focus on it.
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What are the tell tale signs that a Libra (man or woman) is looking to rekindle things? What will they typically say/do to to get your attention again? Personal experience is always welcomed.