How do you 'break up' with a group of girlfriends?

Have you ever had a group of girlfriends that you no longer wanted to be close with? We have a group chat and I've started to respond less and waiting longer between messages.

I want to 'break up:

- I don't want to have a big confrontation

- For various reasons, I no longer see us having things in common

- A couple of them have shown themselves to be people that I don't want to spend time on/with anymore

One of them is getting married and recently invited us all to the wedding this summer. It's still months away, and she's asking us to save the date. I don't even know if I'll be available, or in town at the time. How should I respond?

Thanks. I'm posting in Libra because I have Libra Mars and Venus. In the past, the deep desire for "fairness" and being liked has put me at a disadvantage.

Like said above, I fizzle out, and if they really want to know I'll tell them that we're just growing apart and into different people and there's nothing wrong with it. Such is life.

Tell her you can't promise anything, at this time,

unfortunately-- then distract by asking what she

wants or where she's registered for gifts.

Assuming you want to send something.

There's no obligation here.

She's getting married and that's her real focus...

I wouldn't worry quite so much about this.

Just faaade slowly. ;P

Slowly drift away. Are you in physical touch with this group?

Posted by Rozaeon
Just be honest with them, why beat around the bush ? You can talk to them, explain why you feel that you have nothing in common now etc

What's the point of fading away with things left unspoken ? They were your friends after all they deserve respect and honesty

I agree with this.

You just stop picking up

Fall off the radar, very easy

Posted by Insertusername
Like said above, I fizzle out, and if they really want to know I'll tell them that we're just growing apart and into different people and there's nothing wrong with it. Such is life.

this

and there is nothing wrong with that

it sounds like the @OP is growing and they are not - yes, we do grow in different directions and need to be around people we want to be around rather than just for show so to speak

is this high school or college or after ?

say maybe for now and I'm sure you are genuinely happy for the girl who is getting married but you don't have to feel obligated to anyone but yourself

Posted by SunMoonStars
Have you ever had a group of girlfriends that you no longer wanted to be close with? We have a group chat and I've started to respond less and waiting longer between messages.

I want to 'break up:

- I don't want to have a big confrontation

- For various reasons, I no longer see us having things in common

- A couple of them have shown themselves to be people that I don't want to spend time on/with anymore

One of them is getting married and recently invited us all to the wedding this summer. It's still months away, and she's asking us to save the date. I don't even know if I'll be available, or in town at the time. How should I respond?

Breaking up with a group of girlfriends, I find, is the only time fading away is totally acceptable. Just don't say ANYTHING...except for the wedding invite. Give regards, and say you're out of town.

Become very busy doing other things, like hanging out with people you actually like.

I would definitely respond to the wedding invite (whether it's to tell her you won't be able to make it or whether it's to decline but to send her a present.) Ithink it's the right thing to do, to RSVPto a wedding invite.

As for the rest, I would just talk to the one you have the most respect for and tell her you have the need to move on and that you won't be available anymore. Keep it straightforward and minimal. She will, no doing, relay it to the others.

The rest? Ignore.