@schwarz
9 Years
@Crocodile
Because ejaculation, or orgasm, is wrong. You feel guilt because you're supposed to maintain excitement forever.
Posted by bricklemark
Because ejaculation, or orgasm, is wrong. You feel guilt because you're supposed to maintain excitement forever.
Wrong!
It's more complex and impossible to explain. Unless you willing toners a book after which reading you will be still like whaaaat?
nothing to do with upbringing, it has to do with the quality of your sex.
Some sex will make you feel good afterward, some will make you disgusted and think about your life.
It depends on the how the sex makes you feel about yourself, the type of fantasy you're engaging in,the social relationship it establishes, etc, it's complex to explain, but the bad sex is coarse and generally comes from following bad social standards.
Good sex lets you grow as an individual
Posted by hydorah
nothing to do with upbringing, it has to do with the quality of your sex.Some sex will make you feel good afterward, some will make you disgusted and think about your life.
It depends on the how the sex makes you feel about yourself, the type of fantasy you're engaging in,the social relationship it establishes, etc, it's complex to explain, but the bad sex is coarse and generally comes from bad social standards
Tell me some moar about sex, Hydorah.
Posted by schwarz
Posted by hydorah
nothing to do with upbringing, it has to do with the quality of your sex.Some sex will make you feel good afterward, some will make you disgusted and think about your life.
It depends on the how the sex makes you feel about yourself, the type of fantasy you're engaging in,the social relationship it establishes, etc, it's complex to explain, but the bad sex is coarse and generally comes from bad social standards
Tell me some moar about sex, Hydorah.
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ask dastard, he will show you
Posted by hydorah
Posted by schwarz
Posted by hydorah
nothing to do with upbringing, it has to do with the quality of your sex.Some sex will make you feel good afterward, some will make you disgusted and think about your life.
It depends on the how the sex makes you feel about yourself, the type of fantasy you're engaging in,the social relationship it establishes, etc, it's complex to explain, but the bad sex is coarse and generally comes from bad social standards
Tell me some moar about sex, Hydorah.
ask dastard, he will show you
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He is gay and on a hiatus.
If just some people feel like that then chemicals aren't the cause, and I don't think is mechanic as the feelings you state are quite evolved (guilt/disgust/embarrassment...).
I think it can be due to several factors.
Upbringing, personality, occasional facts...
"lust suddenly seem as an enslaving activity, a permanent reminder that people are just urge driven bacteria roaming around in need of temporary satisfaction"; personally, I'll choose this.
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Why is it so that for a good few minutes after climax, some people have very slight and vague feeling of shame/guilt/disgust/embarrassment?
Why does lust suddenly seem as an enslaving activity, a permanent reminder that people are just urge driven bacteria roaming around in need of temporary satisfaction?
Is it backlash from the euphoric chemicals the body creates? Like a pendulum
Or is it on a more superficial layer, for those with an Anglo-Protestant upbringing?
Or is it more mechanic and behavioral, maybe if way back in human evolution, there had to be immediate urge to stop and return to a physical state where one is not as vulnerable to predatory attack?