@confusedaries7513
9 Years
How to stop thinking about a crush.
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Posted by confusedaries7513
So i have already googled this and tried pretty much everything but nothing's working and i'm running out of patience here. cause tbh feelings are shit and i don't want them. period. so, any advice on how to get over a stupid crush would be greatly appreaciated. thanks.
Lift heavy weights lol
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shit why didn't i think of that? hitting the gym tomorrow. thanks 😄
Posted by tiziani
Talk with them until they do/say something that makes them seem normal.
I talked to him for 2 hours and 30 mins exactly and that's when the feelings got worse!
Posted by tiziani
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by tiziani
Talk with them until they do/say something that makes them seem normal.
I talked to him for 2 hours and 30 mins exactly and that's when the feelings got worse!
Make it 5? He will trip up eventually 😄
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Don't wanna seem too eager tho 😢 SHIT
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Develop a new crush.
I do believe the Leo/Leo moon boards need volunteers.
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lol what does that mean ? i don't come on dxp much except for when i become miserable
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Develop a new crush.
I do believe the Leo/Leo moon boards need volunteers.
lol what does that mean ? i don't come on dxp much except for when i become miserable
Leo placements need attention.
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fuark he has leo placements lol
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Posted by 5TwentyOne
Develop a new crush.
I do believe the Leo/Leo moon boards need volunteers.
lol what does that mean ? i don't come on dxp much except for when i become miserable
Leo placements need attention.
fuark he has leo placements lol
Lol
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honestly who doesn't like attention? i dont even have any leo placements but i like attention lol
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.
-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
PERFECT! LOVE IT. THANK U. and no worries cause i'm generally depressed all the time so... 🙂
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
PERFECT! LOVE IT. THANK U. and no worries cause i'm generally depressed all the time so... 🙂
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Just noticed you have one of my friend's sun/moon/rising lmao.
Double what I said then because that shit really worked out for him.
He had this unrequited love thing and he's the type of person that processes emotions by talking about them so we're out one night and I'm listening and at some point he goes "while I am here running my mouth they are probably having sex with someone else". So I just ran with that (I'm not a sadist I swear) and started describing sex scenes and stuff and how much better that other person is and he just...stared at me then started laughing amidst all the crying. I don't know why..it's like he finally burned out of sadness and masochism at that point. Maybe it was the shock value. He's doing better now.
Posted by Damnata
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
PERFECT! LOVE IT. THANK U. and no worries cause i'm generally depressed all the time so... 🙂
Just noticed you have one of my friend's sun/moon/rising lmao.
Double what I said then because that shit really worked out for him.
He had this unrequited love thing and he's the type of person that processes emotions by talking about them so we're out one night and I'm listening and at some point he goes "while I am here running my mouth they are probably having sex with someone else". So I just ran with that (I'm not a sadist I swear) and started describing sex scenes and stuff and how much better that other person is and he just...stared at me then started laughing amidst all the crying. I don't know why..it's like he finally burned out of sadness and masochism at that point. Maybe it was the shock value. He's doing better now.
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for some reason, i can't find that person who makes me insecure. because my crush told me that he doesn't care about appearances. and its mostly girl's appearances that makes me insecure so yeah i dont know 😢
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Cut your head off.
will you do the honour?
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
My Virgo rising came up with it long ago
it didn't work
even the strongest things in the world-my inferiority complex and possessiveness couldn't override this infatuation
stay strong OP
Posted by tiziani
Talk with them until they do/say something that makes them seem normal.
This.
Posted by schwarz
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
My Virgo rising came up with it long ago
it didn't work
even the strongest things in the world-my inferiority complex and possessiveness couldn't override this infatuation
stay strong OP
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thanks fam
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
Talk with them until they do/say something that makes them seem normal.
This.
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he is already normal too and i know his flaws but why am i still obsessed?
But I did something that helps me stop thinking about him when he isn't around. One particularly sleepless night this sentence just popped in my mind
"You're not a part of his world"
And then some thoughts that seemed a bit foreign to my mind emerged. I just thought how inadequate it looks to be investing energy in him. As if for the first time in my life I actually put myself in someone else's shoes. And I felt like an intruder. How dare I pollute his energetic field with my incessant fantasies.
I feel like directing thoughts at someone does affect their well-being on an energetic level.
So, this sentence seems to do the job when I try to stop thinking about him.
Posted by schwarz
But I did something that helps me stop thinking about him when he isn't around. One particularly sleepless night this sentence just popped in my mind"You're not a part of his world"
And then some thoughts that seemed a bit foreign to my mind emerged. I just thought how inadequate it looks to be investing energy in him. As if for the first time in my life I actually put myself in someone else's shoes. And I felt like an intruder. How dare I pollute his energetic field with my incessant fantasies.
I feel like directing thoughts at someone does affect them on an energetic level.
So, this sentence seems to do the job when I try to stop thinking about him.
wow, reading that helped me realize the same thing actually. im gonna read what u said over and over again till he leaves my mind
Posted by SentimentalCrabby
How to lose feelings for someone:- Go out with your friends
- Do things you like & get distracted by it
- Think of how to pamper yourself & make yourself look good.
- Watch funny prank videos in YouTube
- Watch something logical
- Play video games that you been wanting to play for a long time now.
- Talk to new people
- Focus on studies & goals that will benefit you
- Find something atlethic to do
- Sing in the shower
- Do something weird that will distract yourself
beautiful! thanks so much
Posted by Skye
Posted by confusedaries7513
So i have already googled this and tried pretty much everything but nothing's working and i'm running out of patience here. cause tbh feelings are shit and i don't want them. period. so, any advice on how to get over a stupid crush would be greatly appreaciated. thanks.
Why are you calling your crush stupid? I say embrace your feels! hahaha
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i'm stupid. for having feelings for him 🙂)
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
PERFECT! LOVE IT. THANK U. and no worries cause i'm generally depressed all the time so... 🙂
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this is the worst idea I've ever heard of.
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
PERFECT! LOVE IT. THANK U. and no worries cause i'm generally depressed all the time so... 🙂
this is the worst idea I've ever heard of.
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lol why? would have been nice if it actually worked on me
Divert your attention to work....if you hate your job then divert your attention to new hobbies that you've always wanted tp pursue.
I'm in the same boat as you right now. This helps.
I myself am currently learning how to skateboard.
Next week I'm going sailing. I'm refreshing my maritime skills by crewing on a yacht for a couple of days.
Posted by confusedaries7513
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Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by Damnata
-Think of a person out there of your own gender that makes you insecure as fuck.-Summon imagination to the rescue.
-Imagine this crush with this person, having sex and laughing and planning a life together.
-Try to swap yourself with that person in that scene (remember, it's a person you cannot win against..it's crucial to select someone that fits the bill).
-Realize how that scene looks grotesque and how you don't fit in -that picture at all meanwhile the other person does.
-Cry.
-At some point crying takes so much emotional/mental energy you can't even feel anything about that make believe scenario. You turn numb.
-Wish them best of look in that fantasy.
-Step away.
I mean I am not saying you will feel good but you will probably swap obsession for depression so idk? Win?
PERFECT! LOVE IT. THANK U. and no worries cause i'm generally depressed all the time so... 🙂
this is the worst idea I've ever heard of.
lol why? would have been nice if it actually worked on me
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it's just going to make you feel bad about a situation that has the potential to do so.
people should use crush opportunities as motivations/ incentive to pursue activities that will ultimately lead to for self-improvement and thus have a confidence boosting effect...not the opposite.
take this time to go to the gym and or read more.
maybe take some yoga classes.
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Divert your attention to work....if you hate your job then divert your attention to new hobbies that you've always wanted tp pursue.I'm in the same boat as you right now. This helps.
I myself am currently learning how to skateboard.
Next week I'm going sailing. I'm refreshing my maritime skills by crewing on a yacht for a couple of days.
his thoughts are keeping me from studying. and that's why i'm super annoyed. i have exams to focus on 😢 i'm gonna go hang out with a few guy friends tomorrow , see if i can get him out of my mind
Posted by confusedaries7513
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Divert your attention to work....if you hate your job then divert your attention to new hobbies that you've always wanted tp pursue.I'm in the same boat as you right now. This helps.
I myself am currently learning how to skateboard.
Next week I'm going sailing. I'm refreshing my maritime skills by crewing on a yacht for a couple of days.
his thoughts are keeping me from studying. and that's why i'm super annoyed. i have exams to focus on 😢 i'm gonna go hang out with a few guy friends tomorrow , see if i can get him out of my mind
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oh yeah i know how that goes.
thoughts about ny crush led me to write at least three or four different compositions that had to do with her in my language classes.
i wrote an erotic poem for my italian II class and a romantic short story for my catalan class.
things went awry when I like an idiot decided to post them on facebook.
i was just really proud of my work.....my professors were giving me compliments left and right.i never thought she would read these things.
my ego got me into trouble.
Posted by LivenLuv
Posted by confusedaries7513
So i have already googled this and tried pretty much everything but nothing's working and i'm running out of patience here. cause tbh feelings are shit and i don't want them. period. so, any advice on how to get over a stupid crush would be greatly appreaciated. thanks.
Aww you sound very much like my Aries son who doesn't know about a girl he works with. He's crushing on her, she's flirting with him, and he's confused. Know your worth. That's all I can say ❤️
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Thank youuuu ?❤️
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So i have already googled this and tried pretty much everything but nothing's working and i'm running out of patience here. cause tbh feelings are shit and i don't want them. period. so, any advice on how to get over a stupid crush would be greatly appreaciated. thanks.