@bkbella86
15 Years5,000+ PostsAries
Are there any signs
serious questions guys
Not exactly.. Maybe if they never talk about the opposite sex in a romantic or sexual way.. but they could also be very private. The way a person looks/speaks to the opposite/same sex could be an indication.
Why, who's gay?
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?
lol I was snooping on my ex bf page on ig and I saw some gay guy commenting on a ton of pics. Then on one pic he said ive been calling you...ex responds with my phone is off then the guy said im coming down to ny...lord i gasp for ait. Then the guy liking a ton of pics as well.
I had my suspicions about him when he told me he went to a gay club when I spoke to him recently. He claimed that he went with some gay cousins or something but I knew that was a bs story. The way he spoke about it i could sense the excitement in his voice. he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people that when my eyebrow went all the way up. I snooped on the gay guys page as well and he is def gay and proud. But under one of his pics i saw my ex say he was taking notes i was like wahhhh
oh and the guy commented and said ooo handsome under another one of his pics
Posted by cunninglinguist
Take them to a place full of hot ppl. Who does he immediately look at first?
lmao i wish I had the chance now...but we dont talk any more. i just was so shocked that I may have dated someone that was on the dl
Posted by DonJohnson
strong virgo influence.
lol whats a strong virgo influence?
ex's chart?
he is a gem with a leo moon
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?lol I was snooping on my ex bf page on ig and I saw some gay guy commenting on a ton of pics. Then on one pic he said ive been calling you...ex responds with my phone is off then the guy said im coming down to ny...lord i gasp for ait. Then the guy liking a ton of pics as well.
I had my suspicions about him when he told me he went to a gay club when I spoke to him recently. He claimed that he went with some gay cousins or something but I knew that was a bs story. The way he spoke about it i could sense the excitement in his voice. he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people that when my eyebrow went all the way up. I snooped on the gay guys page as well and he is def gay and proud. But under one of his pics i saw my ex say he was taking notes i was like wahhhh
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I don't think this makes him gay. There's a guy in my hs who hangs out with all girls and gay guys and he is happily in a rs with a girl. He fan girls over Kesha and says a lot of sterotypical gay things but claims he is straight.. I guess this would be a lot different if he was older. Idk.
Posted by DonJohnson
strong virgo influence.
gotta check his other placements
but i know alot of fem guys with leo and gem placements...i try to not to associate that with being gay tho cuz I know straight guys who have a fem vibes but are straight according to them at least
Just because he has one gay friend, that doesn't mean he is gay. Do you have any friends that are lesbians? Wouldn't you hate it if everyone assumed you were gay because of your friends? People are more than just their sexuality. Gays and straights can have things in common, y'know.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?lol I was snooping on my ex bf page on ig and I saw some gay guy commenting on a ton of pics. Then on one pic he said ive been calling you...ex responds with my phone is off then the guy said im coming down to ny...lord i gasp for ait. Then the guy liking a ton of pics as well.
I had my suspicions about him when he told me he went to a gay club when I spoke to him recently. He claimed that he went with some gay cousins or something but I knew that was a bs story. The way he spoke about it i could sense the excitement in his voice. he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people that when my eyebrow went all the way up. I snooped on the gay guys page as well and he is def gay and proud. But under one of his pics i saw my ex say he was taking notes i was like wahhhh
I don't think this makes him gay. There's a guy in my hs who hangs out with all girls and gay guys and he is happily in a rs with a girl. He fan girls over Kesha and says a lot of sterotypical gay things but claims he is straight.. I guess this would be a lot different if he was older. Idk.
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see i dont think what you wrote makes the guy gay but what i wrote def has me thinking along those lines. I mean why comment under some gay guys pic that your taking notes?
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?lol I was snooping on my ex bf page on ig and I saw some gay guy commenting on a ton of pics. Then on one pic he said ive been calling you...ex responds with my phone is off then the guy said im coming down to ny...lord i gasp for ait. Then the guy liking a ton of pics as well.
I had my suspicions about him when he told me he went to a gay club when I spoke to him recently. He claimed that he went with some gay cousins or something but I knew that was a bs story. The way he spoke about it i could sense the excitement in his voice. he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people that when my eyebrow went all the way up. I snooped on the gay guys page as well and he is def gay and proud. But under one of his pics i saw my ex say he was taking notes i was like wahhhh
I don't think this makes him gay. There's a guy in my hs who hangs out with all girls and gay guys and he is happily in a rs with a girl. He fan girls over Kesha and says a lot of sterotypical gay things but claims he is straight.. I guess this would be a lot different if he was older. Idk.
see i dont think what you wrote makes the guy gay but what i wrote def has me thinking along those lines. I mean why comment under some gay guys pic that your taking notes?
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As a joke.
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why you hide?
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?lol I was snooping on my ex bf page on ig and I saw some gay guy commenting on a ton of pics. Then on one pic he said ive been calling you...ex responds with my phone is off then the guy said im coming down to ny...lord i gasp for ait. Then the guy liking a ton of pics as well.
I had my suspicions about him when he told me he went to a gay club when I spoke to him recently. He claimed that he went with some gay cousins or something but I knew that was a bs story. The way he spoke about it i could sense the excitement in his voice. he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people that when my eyebrow went all the way up. I snooped on the gay guys page as well and he is def gay and proud. But under one of his pics i saw my ex say he was taking notes i was like wahhhh
I don't think this makes him gay. There's a guy in my hs who hangs out with all girls and gay guys and he is happily in a rs with a girl. He fan girls over Kesha and says a lot of sterotypical gay things but claims he is straight.. I guess this would be a lot different if he was older. Idk.
see i dont think what you wrote makes the guy gay but what i wrote def has me thinking along those lines. I mean why comment under some gay guys pic that your taking notes?
As a joke.
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lol nah as i explained there is history within their pictures a dialogue that had been going on for some weeks
it aint no joke and he damn sure didnt tell me he had gay friends when we dated
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Just because he has one gay friend, that doesn't mean he is gay. Do you have any friends that are lesbians? Wouldn't you hate it if everyone assumed you were gay because of your friends? People are more than just their sexuality. Gays and straights can have things in common, y'know.lolol too much like common sense? :-?
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thats in a perfect world
i could see some straight women having lesbian friends but straight males making new gay friends isnt something that happens often.
Also straight guys how do you feel about befriending gay males?
I'm secure in my sexuality so it doesn't bother me at all. But having said that I rarely actually "befriend" any guys because they've got nothing I want.
im asking yall to be real not hypothetical bs
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?lol I was snooping on my ex bf page on ig and I saw some gay guy commenting on a ton of pics. Then on one pic he said ive been calling you...ex responds with my phone is off then the guy said im coming down to ny...lord i gasp for ait. Then the guy liking a ton of pics as well.
I had my suspicions about him when he told me he went to a gay club when I spoke to him recently. He claimed that he went with some gay cousins or something but I knew that was a bs story. The way he spoke about it i could sense the excitement in his voice. he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people that when my eyebrow went all the way up. I snooped on the gay guys page as well and he is def gay and proud. But under one of his pics i saw my ex say he was taking notes i was like wahhhh
I don't think this makes him gay. There's a guy in my hs who hangs out with all girls and gay guys and he is happily in a rs with a girl. He fan girls over Kesha and says a lot of sterotypical gay things but claims he is straight.. I guess this would be a lot different if he was older. Idk.
see i dont think what you wrote makes the guy gay but what i wrote def has me thinking along those lines. I mean why comment under some gay guys pic that your taking notes?
As a joke.
lol nah as i explained there is history within their pictures a dialogue that had been going on for some weeks
it aint no joke and he damn sure didnt tell me he had gay friends when we dated
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What are they talking about? Sucking each others dicks? I don't see anything wrong with "taking notes"..
Also straight guys how do you feel about befriending gay males?
I'm secure in my sexuality so it doesn't bother me at all. But having said that I rarely actually "befriend" any guys because they've got nothing I want.
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thank you
i believe alot of straight guys share the same sentiments...not that they have anything against gay people but why? the only way i see it working is if the gay guy came out during the friendship but then i could still see them growing apart
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?lol I was snooping on my ex bf page on ig and I saw some gay guy commenting on a ton of pics. Then on one pic he said ive been calling you...ex responds with my phone is off then the guy said im coming down to ny...lord i gasp for ait. Then the guy liking a ton of pics as well.
I had my suspicions about him when he told me he went to a gay club when I spoke to him recently. He claimed that he went with some gay cousins or something but I knew that was a bs story. The way he spoke about it i could sense the excitement in his voice. he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people that when my eyebrow went all the way up. I snooped on the gay guys page as well and he is def gay and proud. But under one of his pics i saw my ex say he was taking notes i was like wahhhh
I don't think this makes him gay. There's a guy in my hs who hangs out with all girls and gay guys and he is happily in a rs with a girl. He fan girls over Kesha and says a lot of sterotypical gay things but claims he is straight.. I guess this would be a lot different if he was older. Idk.
see i dont think what you wrote makes the guy gay but what i wrote def has me thinking along those lines. I mean why comment under some gay guys pic that your taking notes?
As a joke.
lol nah as i explained there is history within their pictures a dialogue that had been going on for some weeks
it aint no joke and he damn sure didnt tell me he had gay friends when we dated
What are they talking about? Sucking each others dicks? I don't see anything wrong with "taking notes"..
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lmao so if ya man said that comment under a flamboyantly gay guys pic you wouldnt be the least bit perturbed?
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Just because he has one gay friend, that doesn't mean he is gay. Do you have any friends that are lesbians? Wouldn't you hate it if everyone assumed you were gay because of your friends? People are more than just their sexuality. Gays and straights can have things in common, y'know.lolol too much like common sense? :-?
thats in a perfect world
i could see some straight women having lesbian friends but straight males making new gay friends isnt something that happens often.
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Why not? Gays are just like straights. They like the same things we do. The only difference is that they are not attracted to the opp sex.
Ahh.. this isn't quoting right..
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Ahh.. this isn't quoting right..
dont worry you dont have to quote just use the arrows ill know your responding to me
To your last post, no I wouldn't think anything of his comment. Maybe I'm just the typical naive Aries.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Just because he has one gay friend, that doesn't mean he is gay. Do you have any friends that are lesbians? Wouldn't you hate it if everyone assumed you were gay because of your friends? People are more than just their sexuality. Gays and straights can have things in common, y'know.lolol too much like common sense? :-?
thats in a perfect world
i could see some straight women having lesbian friends but straight males making new gay friends isnt something that happens often.
Why not? Gays are just like straights. They like the same things we do. The only difference is that they are not attracted to the opp sex.
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i understand but that idealistic thinking and the real world rarely works out that way. YOu know that the things we are or tend to be seperate us from one another
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
To your last post, no I wouldn't think anything of his comment. Maybe I'm just the typical naive Aries.
hold hold up im an aries too
but it could be your age not your sign
i know we are very optimistic and thats a great quality with a a dose of skepticism.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Just because he has one gay friend, that doesn't mean he is gay. Do you have any friends that are lesbians? Wouldn't you hate it if everyone assumed you were gay because of your friends? People are more than just their sexuality. Gays and straights can have things in common, y'know.lolol too much like common sense? :-?
thats in a perfect world
i could see some straight women having lesbian friends but straight males making new gay friends isnt something that happens often.
Why not? Gays are just like straights. They like the same things we do. The only difference is that they are not attracted to the opp sex.
i understand but that idealistic thinking and the real world rarely works out that way. YOu know that the things we are or tend to be seperate us from one another
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Well this could be one of those rare moments. What were his views on gays while you were dating.. did the topic ever come up?
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
To your last post, no I wouldn't think anything of his comment. Maybe I'm just the typical naive Aries.hold hold up im an aries too
but it could be your age not your sign
i know we are very optimistic and thats a great quality with a a dose of skepticism.
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True.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Just because he has one gay friend, that doesn't mean he is gay. Do you have any friends that are lesbians? Wouldn't you hate it if everyone assumed you were gay because of your friends? People are more than just their sexuality. Gays and straights can have things in common, y'know.lolol too much like common sense? :-?
thats in a perfect world
i could see some straight women having lesbian friends but straight males making new gay friends isnt something that happens often.
Why not? Gays are just like straights. They like the same things we do. The only difference is that they are not attracted to the opp sex.
i understand but that idealistic thinking and the real world rarely works out that way. YOu know that the things we are or tend to be seperate us from one another
Well this could be one of those rare moments. What were his views on gays while you were dating.. did the topic ever come up?
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nope never but after we broke up he made that comment about gays being fun to party with and how he may do it again the following night
thats very strange for a guy who claims to be straight
where are the straight guys at? i neeed some feedback
It's in the chemistry with the opposite sex. Body language and eye contact will be pretty neutral, even when flirting after a while. Obviously a few times here or there won't mean much because people don't click with everyone they meet but if it's consistently dead space between them that could be a sign.
There are also clues in the eyes and what they follow. Most people tend to naturally wander towards what they're attracted to and the pupils will dilate in response to that. If they never give the look to someone of the opposite gender but linger on members of the same sex, that could be another sign. Some of use get pretty slick about it though so it can be hard to tell for sure.
The only way to really know though is to ask. Or spy on their bedroom activities, but I don't advise that. I know a guy that pings my gaydar like a three dollar bill--I think it gets more gay than him--but he's absolutely straight. On the other hand, there's another dude that you would never be able to guess is gay in a million years unless you met his boyfriend. There really aren't any universal signs or behaviors when it comes to sexual orientation.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Why, who's gay?he also claimed that gay people party better then straight people
Well its the truth LOL! Straight people don't know how to have fun. They think standing around their garage with a few people and some cheap beer is a party.
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LOL i do know this to be true but i dont believe thats why he went
For me I could say, he is probably bi-sexual. If he gives more attention to his gay friends than he gives it to u, then there's probably something fishy there.I won't be surprised if one day he comes out saying he is comfortable being with guys than women (as in gay). So if I were u, I would be alert and so observant
Posted by BaitedFish
For me I could say, he is probably bi-sexual. If he gives more attention to his gay friends than he gives it to u, then there's probably something fishy there.I won't be surprised if one day he comes out saying he is comfortable being with guys than women (as in gay). So if I were u, I would be alert and so
observant
wow i totally forgot this one tidbit....but we used to tlak about his roomie who i initially thought was a bit gay too. I couldnt put my finger on it. Then one day he had a visitor who was def gay and I was like hmmm. YOu cant tell from first glance his roomie had this thing about him...but he is really masculine so is my ex both were in the army....
myself and roommie became friends on fb and my suspicions grew because of this post. he said some really crazy things i can go back and look and quote if you like.
Posted by BaitedFish
For me I could say, he is probably bi-sexual. If he gives more attention to his gay friends than he gives it to u, then there's probably something fishy there.I won't be surprised if one day he comes out saying he is comfortable being with guys than women (as in gay). So if I were u, I would be alert and so
observantwow i totally forgot this one tidbit....but we used to tlak about his roomie who i initially thought was a bit gay too. I couldnt put my finger on it. Then one day he had a visitor who was def gay and I was like hmmm. YOu cant tell from first glance his roomie had this thing about him...but he is really masculine so is my ex both were in the army....
myself and roommie became friends on fb and my suspicions grew because of this post. he said some really crazy things i can go back and look and quote if you like.
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Wow! That's way too suspicious, I mean he only has gay friends. No straight friend at all?
Posted by Jynja
You're trying to justify why things didn't work between you two.If your ex is indeed gay, or bi-sexual, then this is probably why he's worried about openly declaring his status...
all this suspicion. Wow.
And if he is indeed gay, then what?
im not trying to do anything
we didnt work out for other reasons
but im over him I have zero feelings for him and my feelings werent that strong to begin with
we only dated a few months
Posted by Jynja
You're trying to justify why things didn't work between you two.If your ex is indeed gay, or bi-sexual, then this is probably why he's worried about openly declaring his status...
all this suspicion. Wow.
And if he is indeed gay, then what?
and there is no then what
i was just so shocked and enough so to post on here and get feedback is that plausible?
i mean if it were you you wouldnt be shocked? in the least bit? i think you would be
I know that we Aquarians are very observant & know how to put 2 & 2 together if we see a lot of the same patterns ending up in the same results
I do have great gay-dar. Not sure if it's an Aquarian thing though
I have great gay-dar b/c I grew up in Atlanta, 1 of the gay capitals, & have been around/seen so many homosexuals that I've put 2 & 2 together. If you see that the majority of the males who ended up being gay walk a certain way, call it stereotypical, but I start to assume oh ok he's walking like a girl so he's probably gay.
If certain traits/behaviors/life style s all seem to have 1 thing in common---> homosexuality...then yes you start to believe that certain things mean homosexuality
The same rings true for other things too. If you notice that a lot of the players you've encountered in life, all just so happened to be smooth talkers or only call you after hours, your mind naturally starts assuming that any man who does those things must be a player
Of course you're wrong sometimes, but hey perception is reality
It's not even that feminism in a man means that he's gay. For every feminine gay man, there's got to be a masculine one. For every butch female, there's usually a feminine one. So you can't base your gay-dar entirely on feminism vs. masculinity b/c gay people fit under both categories
But you'd have to be exposed to enough homosexuality to know that. If you're from a city where you only know a man is gay b/c he's too feminine OR only know a woman is gay b/c she's too butch, you're forgetting that those 2 will always have a partner that is the complete opposite. Just b/c you may not see their partner doesn't mean they aren't out there.
In bigger cities though you get to see BOTH so your awareness is a lot higher
If yo
Krys
the dude who commented on his pics and vice versa is from Atlanta the black gay capital of the world. i mean cmon
and there was too many clues for me
like his roomie and his mouth matter fact im about to go to his fb page to refresh my memory but that dude was saying crazy shit
you got cut off btw
but im sorry if yall slept with a gay or bi man unknowingly wouldnt you want some answers or wouldnt you be shocked if you found out?
Posted by BaitedFish
For me I could say, he is probably bi-sexual. If he gives more attention to his gay friends than he gives it to u, then there's probably something fishy there.I won't be surprised if one day he comes out saying he is comfortable being with guys than women (as in gay). So if I were u, I would be alert and so observant
yea of course bi because he was attracted to me for a short while
Posted by DonJohnson
strong virgo influence.gotta check his other placements
but i know alot of fem guys with leo and gem placements...i try to not to associate that with being gay tho cuz I know straight guys who have a fem vibes but are straight according to them at least
Hi bella🙂
I am a Gemini female with leo moon and leo mars, and I've been told I come across as masculine/dominant. Not in the way I look (thank God for my cancer venus, lol), but more behavior wise. So maybe it works opposite in a guy? Since Gemini is a dual sign, maybe guys give off a bit of female vibe and leo moon makes him a bit vain/shallow?
I don't know. I honestly don't think it's astrology related. I think if he is gay or bi, that's just the way it is. The best is to ask him openly? Most people come out sooner than later.
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hey gem
i barely speak with him he calls me once in a blue moon to tell me about how great his life is or isnt
im not sure i wanna just call him and be like are you bi? but I am curious tho
I dont think its astro related either but I did notice patterns with those signs thats why I mentioned it
I think he's bisexual. He probably likes the attention he's getting from his gay friend. *Leo Moon*
Here are my TOP signs that a man is gay (or on the down-low)
1. He walks, talks, acts like a female. A man can be straight & feminine, but not act like a female
2. There's a twist & a strut in his walk (straight men have an unconscious masculine walk)
3. He is extremely feminine & has mostly female friends
4. He's overly homo-phobic. When we hang out, he singles out gay people as if they're the only ones in the room
5. He'll watch Dr. Phil, Tyra Banks, Chick flicks & other female-dominant shows with you, enjoy them AND even watch them without you (If your man is into Project Runway or American's Next Top Model more than you, yeah he's gay!)
6. He sleeps with women that he's clearly not attracted to (In their minds, as long as they are sleeping with a literal woman, no one will have any suspicions that they are gay; the key though is that they are sleeping with women they don't even like)
7. He cries more than his whining girlfriend (A Feminine gay man's emotions work a lot like a woman's)
8. My gay friends are warning me that he's gay (Gay men have the best gay-dar)
9. There are more than 1 rumor that he's gay (Men don't randomly spread those kinds of rumors. They'll attack a man's character in other ways, not that 1. If lots of people have suspected/accused him of being gay, there's probably some merit to it)
10. He's overly-metrosexual. His sense of fashion & knowledge of it far exceeds most women's (He can spot Prada from a mile away
11. He has a lot of bisexual or fully gay female & male friends (Keyword: ALOT)
12. He's been seen in gay bars or areas where gay men frequent.
13. And BEST of all, my intuition/gay-dar is telling me he's gay lol
^^^^^ lmao that sounds like a few men i thought were straight and never suspected a thing. But nah my gay dar went off too many times about him and his roomie. If he does actually call in the future I'm asking him straight up...ever been attracted or with a man. Lets see how honest he can be. I don't care of course it's been over for two years but it is shocking to me. My pisces friend always gets guys to admit to being bi..well the ones who are actually bi of course...they just spill the beans
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that point to someone being gay without telling anyone they are. Not just being feminine as male or butch as a female. Is there anything else that could point to them being gay?
Also straight guys how do you feel about befriending gay males?