@Sag89
14 Years1,000+ PostsSagittarius
Thoughts On Marriage?
It's not for me. I have nothing important in the 7th, Uranus dominant. 11th influence. I think I'll end up in the friends/lovers department.
I haven't even found the girl I could be lovebirds with. :/
Posted by Theatrum
It's not for me. I have nothing important in the 7th, Uranus dominant. 11th influence. I think I'll end up in the friends/lovers department.
George Clooney!!
At least it's not ten marriages down the line. Break up. Repeat. Break up. Repeat.
but oh well, that's fate with some. They have a great experience with all.
I've considered marriage in the past.. I'd rather just have the afterparty. Legally signing as one with somebody can create conflict if things don't work out. Some ppl are brought up in this life as devoted HC Christians. (no sex till marriage) Cant really help those ppl. That was the case for a friend of mine who got married at 18..... divorced at 23.
Definitely....
I don't believe in marriage, it's too binding for my taste. And I believe I'm not built for it either because I lack staying power-when things go wrong I want to leave. I've been married before for more than 5 years & I packed & left countless times. I even developed a way to pack faster lol. I'll never get married again because it'll be unfair to the person.
^^Yay! I feel freedom for ya, Watercup! 🙂
Posted by firebunny
^^Yay! I feel freedom for ya, Watercup! 🙂
Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.
Posted by firebunny
^^Yay! I feel freedom for ya, Watercup! 🙂Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.
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I think they can be... With the right partner, obviously. 🙂
Posted by sandynads
So which corporations will i control eventually... dad? 😈hahahahahaha
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i don't get ands' joke... @_@
Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.
I think you're just selfish like most kids these days. You want everything for the minimum amount of effort.
I have a great respect for the institution of marriage and would like to have the legal right to do so someday. But for now my phobia of commitment keeps me running and screaming for the hills any time someone drops the 'm' word.
The idea of giving my solemn word to God and everyone to love someone for the rest of my days however long or short that may be scares the bejeezus out of me when there are so many variables to consider and no real way of knowing whether or not I can keep that vow. Better to just not do it and live in sin.
*shrug*
Posted by sandynads
So which corporations will i control eventually... dad? 😈hahahahahaha
i don't get ands' joke... @_@
he'd marry into a family for money and power. Can't say anything but fair play to that either.
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LMFAO... CLEVER... @_@
Posted by firebunny
^^Yay! I feel freedom for ya, Watercup! 🙂Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.
I think they can be... With the right partner, obviously. 🙂
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That's the thing, where the hell is he, the right partner? I can't stand all these headache causing men, I have no time for that.
Posted by TMV
The idea of giving my solemn word to God and everyone to love someone for the rest of my days however long or short that may be scares the bejeezus out of me when there are so many variables to consider and no real way of knowing whether or not I can keep that vow. Better to just not do it and live in sin.*shrug*
If you are very religious I can see how that can be scary. Life is hard enough as it is, even without religion. Who needs it?
TMV, you're a Catholic?
Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.
I think you're just selfish like most kids these days. You want everything for the minimum amount of effort.
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If that's being selfish so be it, at least I recognize that flaw about myself.
If you are very religious I can see how that can be scary. Life is hard enough as it is, even without religion. Who needs it?
Or I just have a 7th house overload lol.
I think the picture will change pretty soon for you. There's a moment where it clicks and all logic gets reversed forever. It doesn't even necessarily have to happen in a romantic context either.
Logic get reversed forever? Why so mean this morning, tizi?
Posted by firebunny
TMV, you're a Catholic?click to expandI was raised to be, yes. I don't necessarily identify with it anymore and haven't been practicing for years. But some things just stick...
TMV, that's HOT. O_O Where do your roots come from? Ireland?
Posted by firebunny
TMV, that's HOT. O_O Where do your roots come from? Ireland?
There's Irish on my mother's side, yes. We're predominantly Germanic though with a splash of Norwegian.
A White Catholic woman is HOT.
Posted by tiziani
Lolol it's not so bad when it happens TMV I promise. The process is painless 😉
*melodramatic Aqua/Leo temper tantrum*
I don't wwwaaaaaaaannnt eeeet!
I shall live alone forever and become a hermit.
Posted by tiziani
Lolol it's not so bad when it happens TMV I promise. The process is painless 😉
I agree. It's all just a matter of perspective. When you want to settle down, that's the time. When your financial status is going fine, that's the time.
For me, I'd let nature take its course. Eventually, I'll find the right one. 🙂
Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.
I think you're just selfish like most kids these days. You want everything for the minimum amount of effort.
I agree.
Good call.
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Nope, not a good call at all. I work hard for things that really matter to me, I don't expect a quick fix. I'm not bothered only when it comes to relationships.
Isn't Q-bone from Norway?
Posted by sandynads
So which corporations will i control eventually... dad? 😈hahahahahaha
i don't get ands' joke... @_@
he'd marry into a family for money and power. Can't say anything but fair play to that either.
LMFAO... CLEVER... @_@
nothing beats helicopter rides with papa in law!
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rak en rol!
btw, do you read kiko machine?
Posted by sandynads
So which corporations will i control eventually... dad? 😈hahahahahaha
i don't get ands' joke... @_@
he'd marry into a family for money and power. Can't say anything but fair play to that either.
LMFAO... CLEVER... @_@
nothing beats helicopter rides with papa in law!
rak en rol!
btw, do you read kiko machine?
i don't read as of late. my attention span is shit. y what is it?
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hahah nuthin' it's the coolest comic strip in the land nowadays. 🙂
Posted by firebunny
TMV, that's HOT. O_O Where do your roots come from? Ireland?There's Irish on my mother's side, yes. We're predominantly Germanic though with a splash of Norwegian.
can u hold your alcohol? #challengeissued
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Posted by sandynads
TMV WE DO IT BOTH WEARING FRENCH GREEN CLAY MASKS!!! 😛
Oh Lord... No, not ta-kill-ya.
If you want to go shot for shot with vodka or whiskey though, I'm your girl. And why not get some facials while we're at it? We can go for a mani/pedi too lol. 😉
Not THAT kind of facial!
I actually do....
I want it, Badly..its weird. I enjoy being with that 1 person
haha interesting thoughts thanks guys
I believe in love.
Marriage? Meh.
I've seen many a couple get married and honestly, more thought goes into the pomp and ceremony of the day (the flowers, the dress etc.) than the actual commitment being made.
I want it minus the expectations and big wedding. I kind of want to elope....
My cap friend thinks Im crazy, but I want our home to be a duplex. He buys one side, I buy the other...well depnding on how they are sold, and we blow out the wall the seperate the units and put a sliding glass door in that space....that will stay open so we can move from units freely.That way my husband will have his space...free to do what he want, decorate how he wants, and Ill have mine BUT at night, he'll either sleep in my place or me in his. We'll still sleep together, but have options on where. Also, if my family is down, or his is down, they can stay with us without his family interrupting me, or mine interrupting him.
Then, here comes the divorce. Wall goes back up. I have my unit payed for, be me, with the option to sell, and he has his. Split with no hassle.
COMMITMENT
IS THE KEY
YOU ARE A SPECIAL PERSON MISS PIRATE
IF YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE YOU WILL HAVE LOVE
IN THE REAL WORLD
AS IN DREAMS
NOTHING IS QUITE AS IT SEEMS
FOR THE LOVE OF A TRUE WOMAN
IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN A DREAM
FROM THE BOOK OF COUNTED SORROWS
Posted by lnana04
I want it minus the expectations and big wedding. I kind of want to elope....My cap friend thinks Im crazy, but I want our home to be a duplex. He buys one side, I buy the other...well depnding on how they are sold, and we blow out the wall the seperate the units and put a sliding glass door in that space....that will stay open so we can move from units freely.That way my husband will have his space...free to do what he want, decorate how he wants, and Ill have mine BUT at night, he'll either sleep in my place or me in his. We'll still sleep together, but have options on where. Also, if my family is down, or his is down, they can stay with us without his family interrupting me, or mine interrupting him.
Everything you've said here is my dream.
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Oh wow....see!! I can just see me arguing with my husband over decoration, money, bills, noise, pets, probably even what duplex to buy etc etc etc etc lol. Lets just live together but separately.
My cap friend thinks Im crazy, but I want our home to be a duplex. He buys one side, I buy the other...well depnding on how they are sold, and we blow out the wall the seperate the units and put a sliding glass door in that space....that will stay open so we can move from units freely.That way my husband will have his space...free to do what he want, decorate how he wants, and Ill have mine BUT at night, he'll either sleep in my place or me in his. We'll still sleep together, but have options on where. Also, if my family is down, or his is down, they can stay with us without his family interrupting me, or mine interrupting him.
This could possibly be one of the most brilliant ideas I've ever heard. Too bad I can easily see myself turning into a dick in that situation.
@TMV, are you a virgo? I think I saw somewhere before on here you mention being one. I ask because my sister is a Virgo. I think I told her before about this, and she had a "comment" lol. Darn Virgos will find a loop hole in an idea or situation lol. I forgot why she said it wouldnt work for her, but Im sure it was a reason that made me think for a moment. She always makes me think ...sometimes to a point where Im like hmmmm...yeah, maybe not so good of an idea lol. My Cap friend didnt think it was a bad idea per say, he just couldnt explain why it wasnt a good one. its like he could see the arrangement, but couldnt see it at the same time.
@tiziani, thats interesting...wanting to earn your way to her bed. idk, but I could see myself being miserable without certain freedoms or options, and especially with obligations. ugh.
Yup, I'm a Virgo. It really is a good idea I think. I can just see myself abusing the separation of spaces somewhat. If an argument broke out I could just retreat to my side and shut the door instead of staying to listen and settle things. Or really treat it as if I were still on my own coming and going as I please without consideration for the partner.
Little stuff.
Yes, I want marriage and babies.
Still no understanding of where Ms. Right is, however.
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Do you believe in it? Do you want it? I think the biggest thing to really consider is how you become legal bound to that person because of it and everything that goes with that, positive or negative. Like obviously you don't wanna deal with someones debt. ( Not that money is super important ) like i said tho pros n cons.
So what do you think?
I don't like her that much but she is speaking on the topic