I'm just wondering if it's normal to be closer to one parent more than the other? I talk to my mom a lot and I feel confident to tell her things. I talk to my dad but sometimes I feel bad because I don't talk to him as much as my mom. I want to try getting closer to my dad but now it's hard because I never talked to him from the beginning.
Do you feel that you're closer to one of your parents?
Lurking. Judging. ...I really should finish my reports.
26 years old male from Big City
Closer to my mom. My dad is a twat that I haven't spoken to for 15yrs.
The pattern I notice in my circle of friends is that they're usually closer to the parent of the opposite sex. The only exception happen to be the Slavic and Peruvian people I know. Slavs are same sex and Peruvians (male or female) all gravitate to the father.
I would say I am close to each of them in different ways, but there are parts of my identity that I feel come directly from my dad and it’s nice. We are both middle children, both have a passion for film and music, enjoy the same kinds of music, are adventurous with food, love spicy food, love weird comedies, are sensitive and introspective and sentimental, etc. Everybody just wants to be understood and I think my dad at the end of the day can really tell what kind of person I am and I appreciate it and I can tell what’s going on with him a little bit more. I think I’m his favourite haha. I think I can really be vulnerable with him when it comes down to it and he isn’t so quick to judge in the same way that my mom can be. Not to say my dad can’t piss me the hell off, but it’s just much less.
I always feel as though I have to have a wall up with my mom to some degree and it can be taxing. It came to my attention earlier in the year that she ultimately does display some narcissistic tendencies. I mean she is very affectionate and loves all her kids very very much and wants us to just live our best lives and I love her so much but it’s hard work dealing with someone who will not admit to a single fault ever. If you criticize something that completely deserves to be criticized, her go to response is “well that’s just the way I am”.... whereas my dad would apologize and discuss the situation further with you and work out whether or not that side of his personality needs some tending to. My mom kind of refuses to be vulnerable where it counts and it makes it so things can only ever go so far. HOWEVER, my dad really is the quintessential absent minded professor and can be so impractical and short sighted at times and my mom isn’t like that at all. She is a simple thinker in the best sense and it can be much easier dealing with her at times. I really did luck out with my parents when it comes down to it.
Venus ruled, Star gazing Scorpio with Moon in Taurus
Both mine have passed but i was closer to my dad...he was open minded and had a revolutionary vibe to him, he was fearless and always spoke out against injustice and was very kind...❤️. He taught me to be brave, whereas my mother taught me to be fearful
This is like #deep but apart of me feels like my /relationship with my father definitely effected/wounded my masculinity
I had a very unhealthy masculine energy? Or whatever? Like i'd be timid or nervous to set boundaries or put my foot down or I always felt like I had to "be nice" or "don't be rude" and then I'd get fed up with it and this ~unhealthy expression of masculine energy would come out
There was an unstable/unbalanced masculine energy that I definitely think stemmed from my relationship with my father and I wasn't able to heal that until I could recognize some dynamics and #stuffz
Healing my masculine side actually helped me to see my feminine side more clearer then before, so it was kind of a weird thing
I believe that we all have the feminine and masculine side to us but many of us have this unbalance in one of the energies within ourselves and the way it can manifest for each individual person is pretty fascinating and interesting from my view x
I dont consider myself close to either of my parents. They are still married and still in my life and I see my dad everyday but we dont really talk much. I don't know if it's cause I'm the youngest of 5 and they kind of stopped trying by the time I came along or what but yeah. I know my dad treats me with kid gloves compared to my older sisters but we still don't talk a lot. And my mom talks to my older sisters way more than she talks to me. She has always been closer to the 3 oldest than she has been to me and my other sister. Mom: Scorpio Dad: Leo
When I was young and didn't know any better I was very close to my Aquarius step-father. I was invisible to my mother. She's a Scorpio. They're both dysfunctional and I prefer to stay away from negativity and unhealthy life style s.
My real father is a Cancer and he hasn't been in the picture since I was a baby.