could you ever have sex with someone

you weren't physically attracted to?

No, there has to be a spark. And that involves engaging my brain. But what I find attractive, someone else might not and yada yada yada.

Nopee I don't see that working out physically.
Plus it's not like I'd feel obligated?

Are you feeling shallow about not wanting to have sex with someone you don't find attractive?

That's what I'm getting at I guess...

Yeah but even booty calls - usually you want to have sex with them, cause they're at least a little attractive

I don't get wet.

I have, there was little physical attraction but for some reason the sexual connection was/is off the hook!!

Posted by brianafay
Are you feeling shallow about not wanting to have sex with someone you don't find attractive?

nah. i've felt guilty about it before, but i don't think it makes me shallow.

Posted by INAV8R
I have, there was little physical attraction but for some reason the sexual connection was/is off the hook!!

how is it possible to have a sexual connection with someone when the physical attraction is lacking? close your eyes, imagine someone else, turn off the lights? this is a serious question.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
Yes, if they gave me lots of money lol

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fo reelz or are you kidding?

that's interesting hairitic.

Well, I agree. It wouldn't make you shallow.
I have felt sexually attracted to someone I didn't really find all that physically attracted to. That's completely possible

well, i see a sexual connection as something that's physical, because you can't really know if you have a sexual connection until you have sex with them........at least in my experience? i guess i'm not understanding the difference between sexual attraction (you'd have sex with them) and physical attraction (you'd have sex with them). lol.

I have, but it didnt last. Even thought the sex was actually GREAT I just couldnt continue. Initially I was moderately attracted to them physically but as I came to know them better, I became even less attracted. Eventually I had to end it though because as my attraction to them dwindled, I was unable to enjoy the sex as much.

Posted by Astrological Aftermath1
yes lady M. YOU! mwahahahaha

Wait...Do I know you?

Ugh. It's hard to explain. When I met my bf I thought he was obnoxious and kind of homely, tbh. But he exuded mass sex appeal. I don't know what it is about him. Maybe his confidence. He was so convinced, he convinced me? Like Vinn Diesel. Kind of homely...but sexy at the same time.

On the flip side, I've found some incredibly adorable. Gorgeous. But I couldn't see myself having sex with him for some reason...

It's the weirdest thing...sexual chemistry. I don't think I need to try someone out to know either.
I just know most of the time. Well, my body does I guess. :/

si.

Posted by .sb.
Isn't there a difference between sexual compatibility and physical attraction?

I think so.

Posted by ?_uvis
i dunno but its possible not to have a sexual connection with a person you find attractive isnt it?

Hell to the YES!!!

Yes, and it was a disaster !!
not recommended

no. i have to be somewhat physically attracted or i won't get wet. that's no bueno!

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Posted by ?_uvis
i dunno but its possible not to have a sexual connection with a person you find attractive isnt it?

Hell to the YES!!!

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absolutely! i have a good friend that looks like he stepped off an abercrombie and fitch billboard and yet i have no desire to fuck him whatsoever. he's also genuinely kind and humble so he melts all the ladies' hearts. same goes for brad pitt and johnny depp. gorgeous specimens of men but i'm not feeling it downtown, u know what i mean?

Posted by Astrological Aftermath1
huh? how ironic? someone here is called lad m!!! i actually adressed this to a different lady M tehe

Pleased to make your acquaintance. I am the great M of DXP.

i think for most females attractiveness is not very important. mostly women can compromise attractiveness if they get money, status or understanding. depending upon what they want.
but mostly men cant compromise attractiveness.

Posted by brianafay
It's the weirdest thing...sexual chemistry. I don't think I need to try someone out to know either.
I just know most of the time. Well, my body does I guess. :/

yeah, i get what you're saying. but the reason i said you don't know if you have a sexual connection with someone til you have sex with 'em is cause sometimes, the chemistry you feel can be VERY misleading. which is a big disappointment.

so. what i'm gathering is that the reason some people are able to have sex with someone they're not physically attracted to is cause they can still have a sexual attraction to that person, or that person gives them money (prince pisces 😛). ok, i think i get it.

so could you ever have sex with someone you weren't physically or sexually attracted/connected to? (i already know pp won't give it away for free)

Posted by trifles light as air*
so. what i'm gathering is that the reason some people are able to have sex with someone they're not physically attracted to is cause they can still have a sexual attraction to that person, or that person gives them money (prince pisces 😛). ok, i think i get it.

so could you ever have sex with someone you weren't physically or sexually attracted/connected to? (i already know pp won't give it away for free)

Well prostitutes do this everyday...and they lose their souls. 😄

so, cheers?

What happened anyways? What are you getting at? I want the deetss

lol 😛
a lot of my male friends have sex with girls, and then later claim they're not attracted to them. i find that confusing because i physically can't have sex with someone i'm not attracted to.....i tried to go through with it once (cause of not wanting to be a "tease"), and it was almost a complete disaster.

so i was just seeing if they're full of shit about not being attracted to the girls they sleep with. they're not desperate. so i just don't get it.

i still don't see how you can maintain a state of arousal with someone you're not attracted to. i can see hormones coming into play for getting in the mood, but it seems like that would be lost if there was truly no attraction.

then again, i don't know all the details. so they might have gone soft halfway through. who knows.

all i know it's almost impossible for me to get aroused by someone i don't find attractive...and i sure as hell am not staying that way. regardless of their skills.

Hmm maybe it's different for males

or they're just full of shit.

I'll believe either