what do you think?
DXP or Real World - Who Gives Better Advice?
I don't ask others for advice ... I hold my own counsel.
So, my answer is: niether
Posted by P-Angel
I don't ask others for advice ... I hold my own counsel.
So, my answer is: niether
Ditto!!
Advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn't --
Posted by VivaciousScorpio
You must have a pretty bad social circle/support network to rely on dxp for advice...
what about if your looking for a non-biased advice? your network could be tainted with haters.
Posted by tiziani
That's funny, I was thinking about this topic as a thread today.
At first I'd say DXP, now I would say it's helped me to get better advice out of my real life surroundings.
id agree with you.
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn't --
guilty as charged
I always ask questions I know answers to
It doesn't look to me like anyone needs advice, unless it's technical/mechanical/that sort of thing.
When people ask advice on relationship questions, which is clearly the majority of the time .... they already know what they are going/want to do ... they're aren't looking for an answer, they are looking for validation.
So, I would say RL ... because there your people lie to you, and tell you what you want to hear, and ultimately that is the only thing they are really looking for.
In the end, I already have an idea of what I want to say or do, but sometimes it's nice to get an outside perspective just to make sure I'm not way off base.
Also, I do consult friends & family, but I sometimes find they can be biased.
Also, I do consult friends & family, but I sometimes find they can be biased.
DXP for me is a place to learn what to look out for in the real world (a navigation tool of sorts), especially when it comes to relationships. Too many scary but very helpful stories here.
I still deal with my own problems my way, though. With only a few gems of advice here & there taken from DXP people...the ones that don't think they're guru-ji.
I still deal with my own problems my way, though. With only a few gems of advice here & there taken from DXP people...the ones that don't think they're guru-ji.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by WaterCup
the ones that don't think they're guru-ji.
Oh you mean like PEE-DEVIL?click to expand
LOL! She can be annoying but there are others way more annoying than her. Those are like Tsetse flies to me. All I hear is "bzzzzzz", because nobody is going to tell me how to go about my business. Suggest, but don't tell me what to do. Period.
I think there's the opportunity to get great advice outside of dxp. Like, from professionals or those who are really philosophical, etc. This site is limited to whatever members are here. Most of the advice given is one-sided and based on personal experiences. Which is okay, I suppose, but you're not going to find the advice that wows you or really gets you thinking. Nor are you going to get advice from people who know the psychology behind the situation. And, if you do get such advice...are you going to take it? I'd say most people would prefer to take the easy answer or the answer they want, which isn't always the answer that has the most research behind it. In person, though, if the one asking for advice sees a professional and an educated person rather than a screen name, perhaps that advice would be taken over others.
In the end, perhaps dxp gives slightly better advice than what the norm may be (such as biased advice from your friends or what not), but the real world, I think, has a much better opportunity for great advice, while dxp is limited.
If only I could write my assigned papers as easily as this stuff. Haha!
In the end, perhaps dxp gives slightly better advice than what the norm may be (such as biased advice from your friends or what not), but the real world, I think, has a much better opportunity for great advice, while dxp is limited.
If only I could write my assigned papers as easily as this stuff. Haha!
Posted by Rabbit
DXP
fortune cookie?
Posted by PVAF
It depends on the issue. If it's concerning my personal life, and not work related, then I prefer real world advice from family and friends. Though I do have a few people here on dxp that I'm relatively close to and whose advice I respect. I would go to those people directly for advice though, I would never post a thread on dxp about my personal business.
If it's a general question where I want a diversity of opinions, then dxp is better.
+100
I really don't see a difference between DXP and "the real world." Everyone is alive and has feelings and experiencing right. All of it is real and honestly there is no separation. How you feel and think creates your reality...in person or on a computer. People reacts to words on a page just like the person was standing in front of them. So, to me, whether it's here or in person...I take advice based on validity.
I'd go with DXP because no one gives a fuck so at least you get a lot of different answers.
Friends and family will coddle you and support you in your delusion.
None is better though.
Friends and family will coddle you and support you in your delusion.
None is better though.
Posted by Damnata
I'd go with DXP because no one gives a fuck so at least you get a lot of different answers.
Friends and family will coddle you and support you in your delusion.
None is better though.
ONLY if you have those "types" who will coddle you.
If you have brutally honest types and you are not sensitive and hurtful and cry all the time, and learn over time to have a thicker skin with your family members who will say brutal stuff. You better believe it i'd go to them. You'd be HIGHLY PISSED if you get coddleness and coo coo coo baby i'll tell you what you want to hear BS and then go out into the world like a dumb ass cause your close relatives NEVER told you the truth.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Damnata
I'd go with DXP because no one gives a fuck so at least you get a lot of different answers.
Friends and family will coddle you and support you in your delusion.
None is better though.
ONLY if you have those "types" who will coddle you.
If you have brutally honest types and you are not sensitive and hurtful and cry all the time, and learn over time to have a thicker skin with your family members who will say brutal stuff. You better believe it i'd go to them. You'd be HIGHLY PISSED if you get coddleness and coo coo coo baby i'll tell you what you want to hear BS and then go out into the world like a dumb ass cause your close relatives NEVER told you the truth.click to expand
I know my friends..they decide according to my vibe if they're going to be harsh or keep me deluded for a while. They care for me a lot so they try to pick words to soothe me. I appreciate them for that, even though I still like the harsh approach
Posted by DMV
what do you think?
But what if the amount if time you spend on DXP outweighs the time you spend in RW? Wouldn't the opinions you take possibly be tainted? I really don't go to the internet seeking advise, I rely on instinct, personal experience and possibly a really good friend if I can't sort my shit out.
People on the inter webs do not know you, the situation or others that might be involved- they only can take in what you feed them.. /shrug so you may ask a question but only give part of the factors involved so you get told what you want anyways. 🙂
dxp.
i think dxp coz astro stuff explain to you things normal people wouldn't.
Posted by Damnata
I'd go with DXP because no one gives a fuck so at least you get a lot of different answers.
Friends and family will coddle you and support you in your delusion.
None is better though.
yeah i feel like this.
Real Life...FTW
Advice and suggestions are not synonymous.
Advice is what they would do.
Suggestion is what you should do.
When people say ..take my advice they really mean do what I would do.
DXP is great for advice..thats all it could ever really provide unless you have met the DXPer in RL.
Suggestions should and are often based on you and your personality. When you boss says why don't you try leaving a little earlier since you are always late. That is based on you and your inability to adhere to your schedule.
Advice and suggestions are not synonymous.
Advice is what they would do.
Suggestion is what you should do.
When people say ..take my advice they really mean do what I would do.
DXP is great for advice..thats all it could ever really provide unless you have met the DXPer in RL.
Suggestions should and are often based on you and your personality. When you boss says why don't you try leaving a little earlier since you are always late. That is based on you and your inability to adhere to your schedule.
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