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Posted by Black-Mamba
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LOOK AT THIS LEO MOON HIJACKING MY SERVICES

That's what we do! But i got a real problem for you.

I talk way too loud as if i want others around me to hear what i am saying, like i need their attention, but it makes me feel horrible to be like this.

what can i do to lessen my need for attention and to speak in a more normal voice
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That is a very big and common Leo moon issue, often exacerbated by other placements (like I think in your case). I suggest you get a cute dog who drains you so you’re more tired and end up becoming less needy yourself without even realizing (psychologically playing yourself). You are very alone and need someone or something else that takes up your attention. A living thing tho that you can express yourself to or through. Look at Ands for instance, he doesn’t pop up as often as before cause I think he’s often busy tending to his cute high maintenance doggie.
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There’s a user here who has a similar profile picture as me but it really bothered another user so I’m thinking of changing it to a fluffy white dog who likes chickie nuggies

Can you help me make a decision? 😝

Chicken nuggets are always tasty, so that's a good look, but doing it cause of some user, Nah.
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lol I was trolling Sassy 😆
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I have a problem. Do I go walking this morning or do I stay in and binge watch Crimes in YouTube?

Go walking then binge.

Ahhh true. 😂 I'm a lazy bugger lol

I agree with her. You have a wonderful dilemma. I wish I was in your place and have the time to walk and binge watch a show.

Perks of being pregnant lol 😂 but I do miss my active life style . And eating oysters lol
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Ohh CONGRATS! How far along are you? Definitely get up and go get some fresh air often missy. Das what I’m prescribing you :p
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Am i an idiot.

What is eliciting this feeling of idiocy?

I feel like i am receiving not even half of what i give. But i am still giving. Help me fluffy thing. How do you walk away?
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Your only choices are to walk away and work on your self esteem or get used and abused. There are no ifs and buts (unless a baby involved 🧐).
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How do you deal with feelings of betrayal? I just wanna fucking cuss out this motherfucker.

First you start off by sharing it, let it out. What did this motherfucker do and what exactly is it that you wish to say to them?

I wanna say the I'm not a fucking retard and I know you're a lying two faced cunt and you know it too because you can't stare me in the eyes for too long because of that.

I hope what you did to me happens to you in the future you cock sucking bitch of a man.

This is the last time you take me for granted.
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You don’t need that negativity in your life. Cut them off for good. Exercise your inner Aqua. What’s the worse that can happen?
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Am i an idiot.

What is eliciting this feeling of idiocy?

I feel like i am receiving not even half of what i give. But i am still giving. Help me fluffy thing. How do you walk away?

Your only choices are to walk away and work on your self esteem or get used and abused. There are no ifs and buts (unless a baby involved 🧐).
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Its my brother and sister, i feel like they are toxic. I used to visit them and go to family events often, but everytime they would pour their problems and complain about life on me. Im the only one doing good in life and like they can't even bother to talk about anything positive. The last few years I've e been decreasing my visits cause of this. I love them very much and would catch a bullet any day for them but i just can't allow all that scarcity mindset get into my life.

So i am feeling a bit sad/conflicted about not reaching out as i used to.
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I hate swallowing. Help.

The real question - does he wine and dine you real good?

good therapist doesn't answer the q with another q.
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Therapists and counselors goals are to get their clients talking of the WHOLE STORY, not fragments. You can’t help someone from a one line sentence...

You CANCERS need to control yourselves from hijacking my thread
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Am i an idiot.

What is eliciting this feeling of idiocy?

I feel like i am receiving not even half of what i give. But i am still giving. Help me fluffy thing. How do you walk away?

Your only choices are to walk away and work on your self esteem or get used and abused. There are no ifs and buts (unless a baby involved 🧐).

Its my brother and sister, i feel like they are toxic. I used to visit them and go to family events often, but everytime they would pour their problems and complain about life on me. Im the only one doing good in life and like they can't even bother to talk about anything positive. The last few years I've e been decreasing my visits cause of this. I love them very much and would catch a bullet any day for them but i just can't allow all that scarcity mindset get into my life.

So i am feeling a bit sad/conflicted about not reaching out as i used to.
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Ahh toxic family members.. you mentioned you're giving more than you’re receiving, is it just in the emotional sense or also financial? Just because they're family doesn't mean you can't have healthy boundaries enforced with them. Have you at any point expressed to them how they make you feel?
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Posted by jezzyboo21

I want to start dating again but im paranoid of all the fuckbois where i live. Im in dire straights and i need a good vetting process because i feel mines is broken.

I personally would vet fuckbois by making it clear from the get go my goal in dating is to find a potential life partner. Also tell them you don’t believe in having sex with just anyone, it is something meaningful to you that you only want to share with someone who you have mutual feelings with. Those points would scare fuckbois like no other.
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Posted by sagaciouscorp

In need to start a detox program per doctors orders. I feel overwhelmed to start plus it’s like 300 dollars that I know I will fail

What is the reason behind you needing to start this detox program? From experience none of that short term shit helps for long term. I personally believe there's a natural cure for nearly everything. Tell me the root issue and I'll find you less expensive solutions!
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Which DXPer should I make mine and love bomb?

Do you think you are asking this because you have a crush on someone on here?

I’ve got several 😂
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I personally think people you meet on the internet can be cooler than the people you come across in real life. Have you ever considered sliding into their DMs? As friends ofc. I don’t like how private messaging others on here is seen as something shady. Just replying to each other on the boards seems to only scratch the surface of things. And then you have others who go straight all out and host tinychats and stuff. Two extremes.
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Is there a way for me to know if my in laws really like me? I think they are pretending to be nice.

You’re lucky! My in-laws are straight up nasty and open about not liking me (my mil has apron string syndrome). My mil is only fake nice to me in front of others because everyone else adores me. But what is making you think they are pretending? Are they different with you when you’re alone with them vs when you’re with them in front of others?
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Is there a way for me to know if my in laws really like me? I think they are pretending to be nice.

You’re lucky! My in-laws are straight up nasty and open about not liking me (my mil has apron string syndrome). My mil is only fake nice to me in front of others because everyone else adores me. But what is making you think they are pretending? Are they different with you when you’re alone with them vs when you’re with them in front of others?
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I'd be more reassured if they were openly nasty to me! Then at least I knew where I stood 😂.

Same to me if in company or alone. There is lots of family drama going on and my side is firmly chosen. It also happens to be not the side they are on.

I wonder if there is talk behind closed doors about me...actually I know there is talk about me behind closed doors.
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blind loyalty is dumb asf.

it should be conditional and mutual.

suspending your own personal intellectual judgement in pre-favor of someone else's. the stuff of religion, cults and group crimes. sad, abusive, dangerous and irresponsible drones. practiced by drones who don't ever wanna meet themselves. just wanting to be codependent with others. that they can only identify themselves through another person or a group. how is this a virtue? basically to stop thinking and questioning is what makes a viRtUe. literally turning off your brain and not critically thinking is a viRtUe.

know what's better without conditions?

inteGRITy.

can't be earned and comes from an individual's natural inner belief and purpose.
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your advice to me was dumb and not helpful at all. You're 25 years old right. This is why I wonder why I even bothered to play.

All you did was criticize me and try to belittle me instead of actually giving real advice.

so my advice to you is stop doing things you're not good at, like being a fake therapist.


Have you met many therapists? They excel at giving wonderful advice they never take themselves. My aunt is a relationship therapist and is on her 3rd? 4th? marriage
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your advice to me was dumb and not helpful at all. You're 25 years old right. This is why I wonder why I even bothered to play.

All you did was criticize me and try to belittle me instead of actually giving real advice.

so my advice to you is stop doing things you're not good at, like being a fake therapist.

Have you met many therapists? They excel at giving wonderful advice they never take themselves. My aunt is a relationship therapist and is on her 3rd? 4th? marriage

lol most therapists become therapists to heal themselves
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your advice to me was dumb and not helpful at all. You're 25 years old right. This is why I wonder why I even bothered to play.

All you did was criticize me and try to belittle me instead of actually giving real advice.

so my advice to you is stop doing things you're not good at, like being a fake therapist.

First of all, I made this thread because I wanted to pass time while I was at work. It was simply for people to drop by with anything they wanted to get off their chest or rant about, I was willing to listen, respond and even converse with them. Simple as that. No literal therapy or counseling shit. This ENTIRE site is based off of people giving each other advice so this is nothing special, idk why you and ladyneptune make it seem like it is lol.

Your advice for me to stop giving advice is unsolicited especially since you find yourself so much better than me to the point where you started your own therapy thread right after being inspired by mine.

Second of all, my response to you came from a personal place since I have strong Leo placements and once struggled with seeking and requiring frequent attention and really did want a dog myself to help with it. If you haven’t noticed, women around your age love having a dog or cat companion so my advice was also pretty generic.

Idk if it’s because of your cancer and leo placements but your energy often rubs me wrong. I find you very unnecessarily aggressive and constantly needing to be the center of anything. Yeah sure it can come off humorous, but that’s all it is limited to, another form of cheap entertainment in the dxp world. You do have real mental issues, but at least you’ve acknowledged it yourself.
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Is there a way for me to know if my in laws really like me? I think they are pretending to be nice.

You’re lucky! My in-laws are straight up nasty and open about not liking me (my mil has apron string syndrome). My mil is only fake nice to me in front of others because everyone else adores me. But what is making you think they are pretending? Are they different with you when you’re alone with them vs when you’re with them in front of others?

I'd be more reassured if they were openly nasty to me! Then at least I knew where I stood 😂.

Same to me if in company or alone. There is lots of family drama going on and my side is firmly chosen. It also happens to be not the side they are on.

I wonder if there is talk behind closed doors about me...actually I know there is talk about me behind closed doors.
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Given a daughter-in-law/son-in-law is a new addition to the family that came from no blood relation, there will always be talks about you behind your back, scrutinizing everything you do or say.

As long as they try to maintain peace even if it's superficial and not do things to pin you and your husband against each other, count yourself very blessed.
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In need to start a detox program per doctors orders. I feel overwhelmed to start plus it’s like 300 dollars that I know I will fail

What is the reason behind you needing to start this detox program? From experience none of that short term shit helps for long term. I personally believe there's a natural cure for nearly everything. Tell me the root issue and I'll find you less expensive solutions!

Immunity

I should just incorporate turmeric

Thank you old wise one from behind the curtain
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Turmeric is really for that! And you should look up hof method shower, it’s something you can easily incorporate into your routine. Here’s a quick article giving a general idea of it:

https://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-try-wim-hof-method-cold-exposure-training-2018-1

Also are you getting enough sleep?
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Posted by virgoOPPP

blind loyalty is dumb asf.

it should be conditional and mutual.

suspending your own personal intellectual judgement in pre-favor of someone else's. the stuff of religion, cults and group crimes. sad, abusive, dangerous and irresponsible drones. practiced by drones who don't ever wanna meet themselves. just wanting to be codependent with others. that they can only identify themselves through another person or a group. how is this a virtue? basically to stop thinking and questioning is what makes a viRtUe. literally turning off your brain and not critically thinking is a viRtUe.

know what's better without conditions?

inteGRITy.

can't be earned and comes from an individual's natural inner belief and purpose.

I think there are other things wrong with a person capable of blind loyalty like how they were brought up and any traumas they experienced or social conditioning (ex: people who fight for terror groups are trained from a very young age so that’s all they understand in life).
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Posted by HippeeGem

Ok here goes. This was my day, lol. I was at work by 5 am today. My kids usually manage to get themselves up for school without me. My 20 year old Aries was off work today. Pisces daughter is the last to leave at 7:30.

She was upstairs getting ready, and my 16 year old Taurus overslept and missed the bus.

She heard him yelling at my Aries to wake up there's a fire. She ran downstairs and my Aries was in her room, and yelled at her to get the fire extinguisher.

I wasn't homes but apparently she had a lot of things plugged into one outlet including a space heater, and it caught a big stuffed animal on fire, and they said it was higher than her bed right next to it, about 4 feet high.

The rug is destroyed in they spot, part of the wall is black, but they contained it quickly, thankfully.

So my problem is, no one freaking called me ar work to tell me what happened.

And I'm also having major anxiety thinking about this all day (since I got home at 3 pm and finally learned about it), knowing how close we came to actual devastation. It was right next to my daughter's bed. What if this happened at 3 am while everyone was asleep? What if my Taurus didn't miss the bus to hear the smoke alarm the Aries was sleeping through and my Pisces didnt hear because she was blow drying her hair upstairs?

I'm mentally drained from what could've happened and this scared the shit out of me.

I'm proud of my kids for handling it well, the Aries tried getting it out with a pillow, he said he went into fight or flight mode, and now he has a burn on his arm :/ Then he used the fire extinguisher to get it out.

So part of my problem can't be solved. Things happen and I'm just a tight wound ball of anxiety right now, but also really relieved this didn't happen when we all weren't home, which happens a lot, or when they were asleep.

But my problem is, they didn't even call me at work. I got one text at 1 pm saying there was an incident, when will you be home mom? And that was it.

I'm just shaken up honestly. Idk what my question is. I want them to let me know what the hell is going on always.

And right now they're all just laughing and playing a game together like this wasnt a scary as all hell day. I dont get it? I'm so relieved but seriously not ok.

That was a real close call, please have your kids make sure they remove unused electronics before they go to sleep because overbearing the outlets is so hazardous. Maybe they didn’t want to tell you because they were worried you’d get upset or they’d get in trouble plus they thought they were able to handle it well. Maybe make it clear to them that next time no matter what happens under your roof to inform you as soon as they've handled it instead of later. They could also just be growing up and feel they don't need to let their mom in on everything and give her that extra stress even though I think that's something pretty serious. Kids bounce back from those things, their time to stress will come soon enough when they walk out into the adult world and become parents themselves :p I hope you hugged them and lectured them about taking the appropriate fire safety precautions when you got home.
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Posted by jeane

Is there a way for me to know if my in laws really like me? I think they are pretending to be nice.

You’re lucky! My in-laws are straight up nasty and open about not liking me (my mil has apron string syndrome). My mil is only fake nice to me in front of others because everyone else adores me. But what is making you think they are pretending? Are they different with you when you’re alone with them vs when you’re with them in front of others?

I'd be more reassured if they were openly nasty to me! Then at least I knew where I stood 😂.

Same to me if in company or alone. There is lots of family drama going on and my side is firmly chosen. It also happens to be not the side they are on.

I wonder if there is talk behind closed doors about me...actually I know there is talk about me behind closed doors.

Given a daughter-in-law/son-in-law is a new addition to the family that came from no blood relation, there will always be talks about you behind your back, scrutinizing everything you do or say.

As long as they try to maintain peace even if it's superficial and not do things to pin you and your husband against each other, count yourself very blessed.
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Wise words indeed! I will do my best to remember that. Genuinely, thank you.