Friends of the opposite sex...

Do you stop talking to friends of the opposite sex when they get into a relationship or if you get into one? And what's your sign?

I have an Aries and Libra friend that I've known since I was a teen. They used to call me or text me and bug me to hang out every now and then. Sometimes I would go and just chill and we'd have deep conversations til the morning. Never had anything romantic with either. Just platonic friends.

Since I said I was seeing someone, they stopped calling me. I drove past the Aries today and he waved so I called him then popped over to his house (he lives around the corner from my parents) and he said they stopped bugging me because I have a boyfriend now. I told him that's stupid and to stay in touch.

Anyway, it made me think that friendship with the opposite sex is temporary and fragile. There's conditions and stupid shit attached to it. Has anyone else experienced something similar? I'm a Leo so I can be just friends. Why can't people just be friends without thinking it crosses some line?

No, friends are friends.Never had that problem.

Maybe they think that your boyfriend would mind and they are respectful about it

Posted by pisceswoman123

No, friends are friends.Never had that problem.

Maybe they think that your boyfriend would mind and they are respectful about it

Yeah maybe. It's just weird. I've known them since I was like 12 or something.

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

it's weird to say that though:

"can't hangout with you anymore coz i have a boyfriend now"

like was he some kinda stand-in for your need for possible romantic male companionship or something?

though i've gotta say that biologically, men tend to over-interpret 'signals' women give off.. which means that in opposite sex friendships, they're oddly the more likely to fall into an unrequited attraction..

I have known them for over 20 years so it's just weird. Like we didn't really hang out that much until the past couple years but I don't think there was unrequited love there. I've never flirted or anything like that. They were just mates.

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Posted by Elissar18

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

it's weird to say that though:

"can't hangout with you anymore coz i have a boyfriend now"

like was he some kinda stand-in for your need for possible romantic male companionship or something?

though i've gotta say that biologically, men tend to over-interpret 'signals' women give off.. which means that in opposite sex friendships, they're oddly the more likely to fall into an unrequited attraction..

I have known them for over 20 years so it's just weird. Like we didn't really hang out that much until the past couple years but I don't think there was unrequited love there. I've never flirted or anything like that. They were just mates.

yeah most women are seldom attracted to their male friends but men are more likely to be attracted to their female friends

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Maybe.. the libra is married but I think he has a thing for me. The Aries is like a brother. Like I know he'd have my back if I ever needed him and he said he wants to meet my man. I don't think that will happen anytime soon though

Posted by Arielle83

Guys I’m with akways ask who I’m talking to.

Most of my frievds are guys.

They are the ones who usually distance when they have gf.

I think that’s pathetic

I’m a cancer.

Yeah it's kind of harsh. Especially if you didn't have anything more than just friends with them. I'm dating a Cancer, he has female friends. He doesn't see them but they call or message him occassionally. They all know he's seeing me so I'm not bothered and I trust him. It's silly how people make a thing of it. Fair enough if it's a "new friend" you meet but old ones, shouldn't think they are redundant or make you redundant just because one of you gets into a relationship

Posted by Antiochus

No, friends are friends and no relationship will ever get in the way for me.

Have you had female friends that distance themselves when they get in a relationship?

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Posted by Elissar18

Posted by Antiochus

No, friends are friends and no relationship will ever get in the way for me.

Have you had female friends that distance themselves when they get in a relationship?

No, if anything it tends to be the opposite.

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Is it because they want advice or some other reason?