How do you view parenthood?

I noticed a trend with the roles.
It became okay to image the roles as endless suffering and you earn dignity and respect via suffering due to the title, rather than the actions and feats you do while having the role.

I.E. Mom does Everything, poor women. Happy mother's day! vs She manages to meet multiple demands and responsibilities, all without becoming bitter or brittle from all the stressful demands. Going about life with a grace that's admirable!

Now tell me which of the following you'll hear more on daily basis? On holidays?
Yeesh, and people wonder WHY their is a birth decline with how they normally talk about parenthood.

Posted by SirHorns
I noticed a trend with the roles.
It became okay to image the roles as endless suffering and you earn dignity and respect via suffering due to the title, rather than the actions and feats you do while having the role.

I.E. Mom does Everything, poor women. Happy mother's day! vs She manages to meet multiple demands and responsibilities, all without becoming bitter or brittle from all the stressful demands. Going about life with a grace that's admirable!

Now tell me which of the following you'll hear more on daily basis? On holidays?
Yeesh, and people wonder WHY their is a birth decline with how they normally talk about parenthood.

Can you define this "grace that is admirable"?

You're advocating martyrdom on a site where there's Pisces and Virgos..

You're going to hell, Cap.

As something I never want to happen. At all, in my lifetime. Because I could only hate it

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Posted by SirHorns
I noticed a trend with the roles.
It became okay to image the roles as endless suffering and you earn dignity and respect via suffering due to the title, rather than the actions and feats you do while having the role.

I.E. Mom does Everything, poor women. Happy mother's day! vs She manages to meet multiple demands and responsibilities, all without becoming bitter or brittle from all the stressful demands. Going about life with a grace that's admirable!

Now tell me which of the following you'll hear more on daily basis? On holidays?
Yeesh, and people wonder WHY their is a birth decline with how they normally talk about parenthood.

Can you define this "grace that is admirable"?

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As in going throughout the day in the way that distracts or mesmerizes people, the stress and hardship she goes through being masked by how she moves and carries herself in public.

Posted by Damnata
You're advocating martyrdom on a site where there's Pisces and Virgos..

You're going to hell, Cap.

Unless one of the virgos or pisces want to try saving me before it's too late! 😈

Posted by SirHorns

Posted by Damnata
You're advocating martyrdom on a site where there's Pisces and Virgos..

You're going to hell, Cap.

Unless one of the virgos or pisces want to try saving me before it's too late! 😈

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You're a Cap. It's already too late.

Posted by starlover
Are you really only 22??

What did your mother feed you? 😛

Capricorn~
All sorts foods! Cept Scorpion Cake. Yes, that's an actual thing in Asia!

Posted by Damnata

You're a Cap. It's already too late.

Then you already know that just makes me more attractive to them then~ 😏

Posted by Rabbit
There's generally a cult surrounding parenthood in the western world that wants to elevate them above everyone else as being somehow better.

I don't buy into it.

It's weird since they try selling it as the most awful torture you'll ever experience BUT you'll love it, enjoy it and be better than most of other humans on the planet.

But you will be miserable, get grey hairs and will never be able to enjoy life again, you'll just be at best content so long as nothing relatively bad happens to the kid(S) and the house/bank account/fridge/etc.

It's like they can't make up their mind on if they want to sell your parenthood or get you to boycott it all together...

The biological impulse to breed is POWERFUL.
I mean yes, children don't add to you in the MATERIAL sense. However, I suppose with the obsession with materialism, I can't honestly claim to be surprised parenthood would be striped of everything it means and stands for aside from martyrdom and being finically sucked dry.

I'm not saying the realities of parenthood should be hidden, not at all, however with how empathizes it is over everything else, I can not see why WOULD the following generations would WANT to be parents, especially considering the economic atmosphere situation they have to work with.

Just endlessly bitch about how horrid it is to deal with the kids you made and then be surprised when your kids aren't going to give you grandkids? What sense does that make?

Horns, go find "THREE MEN AND A BABY."

Certain criteria should be met before one is allowed to breed.

Good Mental health
Financial security
Parental co-unit in place (preferably married)

Heh

Parenthood is illogical to me. The U.S. and the world's birth rate is high enough that it's going to cause issues for us in the near future. Also, very few parents, in my opinion, are able to provide a stable, healthy environment for their children. I've also noticed that many people want kids for the wrong reasons. For instance, wanting a 'mini-me' is an expectation that is only going to hurt yourself and your child. I know that not everyone can be in the best situation for parenthood, but they should be. There should definitely be qualifications for parenthood. As well as free birth control, free sterilization, and paid maternity and paternity leave.