How to deal with enemies....?

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by VenusStar on Friday, September 2, 2016 and has 11 replies.

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@VenusStar
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Apparently i have many and they are all people i cant avoid because theyre family, or ex friends hell bent on destroying me or at least making me angry. What did i do so wrong? I stood up for myself or just stopped talking to them because they wronged me. Even if we start talking again there is always some lingering resent ment.

I also find it messed up when i do so much for others and when i request the same treatment people get mad or give me a miniscule amount compared to what i gave . what the fuck is wrong with people!

Im not meant for people on this earth. I sometimes think i should turn into a hardened asshole and stomp alllllllll over peoples feelings, personal space etc just because i feel like it. They dont deserve my kindness. They dont deserve me. It might be too late to reteach people how to treat me but its not too late for me to stand up for myself.

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@VenusStar
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Not when id rather not fight. The lifelong enemies hate me because i was praised by adults. So if i fail they looovvvve it .

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@VenusStar
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Praised as a kid. The adults who hate me, hate for normal reasons. Im young, im quiet so they feel they can get one over me. Or i make them nervous and they dont like it .

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@VenusStar
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Maybe i should just be a loud mouth. It discourages people. I want to leave these people behind but i feel if i give in i lose.

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Well maybe try rationalizing their issues with you, why you consider them "enemies."

If there's anything you realize you could've handled better, assess how- don't worry about their reactions, that is beyond your control.

It's about personal growth at this point, and you should work on whatever improvements you've found space for, meanwhile if you don't want to shut them out, try avoiding favors and being emotionally charged by their actions and words

Don't necesarilly numb yourself, but try to be above it. Hopefully it's natural after that 🙂

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Is there something objectively wrong with them? Like are they all meth addicts, schizophrenics or felons?

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Posted by RealmVisitor

Posted by VenusStar
Apparently i have many and they are all people i cant avoid because theyre family, or ex friends hell bent on destroying me or at least making me angry. What did i do so wrong? I stood up for myself or just stopped talking to them because they wronged me. Even if we start talking again there is always some lingering resent ment.

I also find it messed up when i do so much for others and when i request the same treatment people get mad or give me a miniscule amount compared to what i gave . what the fuck is wrong with people!

Im not meant for people on this earth. I sometimes think i should turn into a hardened asshole and stomp alllllllll over peoples feelings, personal space etc just because i feel like it. They dont deserve my kindness. They dont deserve me. It might be too late to reteach people how to treat me but its not too late for me to stand up for myself.

Look at yourself and ask honestly and make sure you're not being blind and self-absorbed.

You are a Taurus with a fire moon. Earth/Fire Combos can be very bossy/dominating without even realizing it. You will only make enemies if you are not self-aware of this.

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I completely agree. I've been close to many Taurus suns with fire moons and this is what I've also noted.

You should mention some examples...

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Posted by VenusStar

Im not meant for people on this earth. I sometimes think i should turn into a hardened asshole and stomp alllllllll over peoples feelings, personal space etc just because i feel like it. They dont deserve my kindness. They dont deserve me. It might be too late to reteach people how to treat me but its not too late for me to stand up for myself.

hm. you sound like this hopelessly delusional taurus i know. he is a complete asshole, but never sees his wrongs, only others, and thinks his family is wrongfully upset with him, when they have every right to be.

not saying you're the same, just that i was reminded of that.