I Just Wanna Be Petty

Posted by tiziani
It's fine to be the bad guy as long as there's a point to it.

I'll make sure to remember that. My mom and aunts always get on me saying "well that's family" but family don't ever think about the dumb mess they do to other people.

@Montgomery

13 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by mzmee
Sometimes I find myself saying "why do I always have to be the bigger person" when people Fuck me over...

I'm starting to hate taking the high road.

My cousin pulled some real grimey mess on me and I stopped dealing with her. When I had to put her in her place, I'm labeled the bad guy.

My Virgo sister is mysteriously best friends with the chick my husband cheated with. When I read her for filth, I'm the mean one and need to check my temper.

Why tho— Instead of giving lip service, I can easily slap folks around. I think that may be more satisfying anyway.

Sigh...

I need some insight y'all..

If you don't normally call attention to people's everyday atrocities

against you, then they are stunned when you begin to do so.

You're not supposed to do that.

No need to get physical-- just keep dragging their shit into the

light, and it will eventually stop.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by mzmee
Sometimes I find myself saying "why do I always have to be the bigger person" when people Fuck me over...

I'm starting to hate taking the high road.

My cousin pulled some real grimey mess on me and I stopped dealing with her. When I had to put her in her place, I'm labeled the bad guy.

My Virgo sister is mysteriously best friends with the chick my husband cheated with. When I read her for filth, I'm the mean one and need to check my temper.

Why tho— Instead of giving lip service, I can easily slap folks around. I think that may be more satisfying anyway.

Sigh...

I need some insight y'all..

If you don't normally call attention to people's everyday atrocities

against you, then they are stunned when you begin to do so.

You're not supposed to do that.

No need to get physical-- just keep dragging their shit into the

light, and it will eventually stop.

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That's the thing. I stay in check a bitch mode. I get to where I need to be away from them for a while so I go on a hiatus frequently. I'm always called out for not being about family when I cut a mf off so when I start communicating with the person again, it's like wash, rinse, repeat.

Like these mfs get a kick out of disturbing my peace.

Posted by caIiber
let her kick her feet and scream and call you the bad guy. if what she did was wrong, there's a good chance that others will agree and her actions may not be perceived well.

See it's family. Aunts, my mom, cousins. They all wanna try to tame me when I clap back at they asses. When the elders notice I don't talk to a certain person, instead of asking me about it, they'll assume it was my reaction to the bullshit that was the issue.

I take breaks because I feel like the elders don't hold them accountable for their bullshit but they always know how to point out mine. A bunch of enablers.

@Montgomery

13 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by mzmee

Posted by caIiber
let her kick her feet and scream and call you the bad guy. if what she did was wrong, there's a good chance that others will agree and her actions may not be perceived well.

See it's family. Aunts, my mom, cousins. They all wanna try to tame me when I clap back at they asses. When the elders notice I don't talk to a certain person, instead of asking me about it, they'll assume it was my reaction to the bullshit that was the issue.

I take breaks because I feel like the elders don't hold them accountable for their bullshit but they always know how to point out mine. A bunch of enablers.

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They don't censure them, maybe, because they know

it's useless-- ?

You, they know that you're better, or they know you're

smarter or something... doesn't make it right, but it may

be the reason you're being held accountable.

Posted by andstrollbot
dxp is the only place one should be petty

Booooooooo

Lol

Posted by starwars

I need to be about this life

@themagnetoreborn

Posted by mzmee
Sometimes I find myself saying "why do I always have to be the bigger person" when people Fuck me over...

I'm starting to hate taking the high road.

My cousin pulled some real grimey mess on me and I stopped dealing with her. When I had to put her in her place, I'm labeled the bad guy.

My Virgo sister is mysteriously best friends with the chick my husband cheated with. When I read her for filth, I'm the mean one and need to check my temper.

Why tho— Instead of giving lip service, I can easily slap folks around. I think that may be more satisfying anyway.

Sigh...

I need some insight y'all..

Lol!! Someone has attitude to spare!

@themagnetoreborn

Posted by PotHeadVirgo27
Find another family.

So why are you called potheadvirgo?

@fugu2

regarding the burning desire to slap the stupid out of some people..

the way I look at it is, there are few people in this world I am loyal to to the extent that I'd be willing to do time for. everyone else...nah. I'm not going to commit crimes on their behalf.

so I sure as fuck am not going to get myself a record for someone who I can't stand.

Posted by starwars
kay, serious opinion...

when you're pissed, theres a reason behind it therefor you have the right to go nuts & you shouldn't care about whether they think you're the bad guy or not.

I don't get angry often but when I do no one can tell me I'm the bad guy cause I will be the one doing all the talking roasting their asses and I'm always right

I'm a real happy go lucky person so I rarely get angry. When a person jerks me over, I hate it with a passion. I don't care about the person I cursed out at all. Its the older generation in my family always censoring me.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
so how is that possible, did your sister introduce them?

WTF

When I going thru my emotions, I vented to them. The chick friended my personal and boutique page on FB and I WAS showing them all the comments she used to make. My sister took it upon herself to friend her and they began conversing from there.

Posted by PotHeadVirgo27
Find another family.

Cool. Lemme go make a Craigslist ad

Posted by themagnetoreborn

Posted by mzmee
Sometimes I find myself saying "why do I always have to be the bigger person" when people Fuck me over...

I'm starting to hate taking the high road.

My cousin pulled some real grimey mess on me and I stopped dealing with her. When I had to put her in her place, I'm labeled the bad guy.

My Virgo sister is mysteriously best friends with the chick my husband cheated with. When I read her for filth, I'm the mean one and need to check my temper.

Why tho— Instead of giving lip service, I can easily slap folks around. I think that may be more satisfying anyway.

Sigh...

I need some insight y'all..

Lol!! Someone has attitude to spare!

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I really do. Nbs

Posted by fugu2
regarding the burning desire to slap the stupid out of some people..

the way I look at it is, there are few people in this world I am loyal to to the extent that I'd be willing to do time for. everyone else...nah. I'm not going to commit crimes on their behalf.

so I sure as fuck am not going to get myself a record for someone who I can't stand.

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
I've learned over the years that (in most cases) getting physical doesn't accomplish anything. Except possibly getting you some jail time and you don't want that.

The shit you described is definitely wrong and you are not out of line for being upset about it.

To be honest I would have cut them off a long time ago. They wouldn't even exist in my world.

Don't allow them to bring negativity and toxicity in your life for another second. Cut them ALL the way off and move on with your life. Block them on your phone, on social media, and everywhere else. Life is too short to continuously allow people to bring negative energy into your life.

Everything you say...I'm getting to this point. So serious. You're spot on with this.

Posted by quarius_xy
About loyalty

It sets a high expectation that the other will do the same. Maybe your sis is loyal to you in some ways you may not be aware of.

How was your relationship with your sis before and during that time?

Were they friends previously?

No one is completely evil. Maybe there are other aspects in this girl that is worth being in a relationship with her (friendship).

I get it though.

Nah. No convincing. I'm sorry. This particular sister has done a lot of questionable things. Nope, I'm not buying that at all.

@Kemetisinme

Leave the art of pettiness to us water heavy people. Our deep feels are our alibi.

@butterfly30

12 Years

I glad you can get it off of your chest...shit it take me forever to cush a bitch out..I am always trying to be the grown up about shit..or have this guilt from being an asshole ..also like your situation people always have some shit to say when you blow up. I can look at the situation now and say fuck you. .you did me wronge . It's all have to do with guilt..it's a book call..how to not feel guilty when you say no..something like that..It teaches you how to say what you need to say in fuck up situation.

@Gennie

That's a damn shame. Family is all you have in this world. You should be able to call family at 2am in the morning to help you get rid of the body in your living room, no questions asked. (Its a mob joke no tripping).

That was drilled into our little heads in our family. Blood > Water. Ride or Die. Family is sacred, hold on to the ones you can.

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by mzmee

Posted by SensitiveBlues
so how is that possible, did your sister introduce them?

WTF

When I going thru my emotions, I vented to them. The chick friended my personal and boutique page on FB and I WAS showing them all the comments she used to make. My sister took it upon herself to friend her and they began conversing from there.

how do you have a sister like that? Damn man Satan does exist.

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Honey, I wish I could tell you. My husband was the one that told me they were buddy buddy. My sister has been telling my business to this girl and she goes back and tell him, and of course, he alerted me to it. So now I'm to the point where no matter what I feel or go thru during this divorce process, I'm keeping it to myself.

@GetMisted Lol you say it's in your nature? lol. When I embrace my petty, I'm letting the petty flag fly and I'm moving to petty lane. No hypocrisy in my game at all. lol

@Kemetisinme My alibi will be "fuck them" that's why lol

@UmiSays I feel like when I ignore, they feel like I'm non reactive to their bullshit. I'm sick of it.

@Gennie See what you're saying I wholeheartedly agree. That's how family is supposed to be. I remember a thread I made about family and I think that was P-Angel telling my pretty much my expectations are unrealistic. No they're not. Blood is supposed to be thicker than mud.

@Guesswho22 I like that. We might have to chat sometimes lol

@PotHeadVirgo27 Well I have my big sister. She's always trying to censor me too tho.

@Gennie

@mzmee Your sister should be the one helping you "check a bitch".

Posted by Gennie
@mzmee Your sister should be the one helping you "check a bitch".

See what I'm saying— Instead she does the opposite.

I aired that shit out in front of family yesterday. It sucks because not all knew I was going thru a divorce and if some knew, they didn't know the reason. She tried to act all innocent. I sat back and watched them flame her ass.

I hate I had to do it that way but I have been catching a lot of hell because I was ignoring her and snapping at her. She'll try to play the innocent role and tell everybody about how nasty I treat her when she's telling my soon to be ex's side bitch my every move.

@tcta

10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by mzmee

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
I've learned over the years that (in most cases) getting physical doesn't accomplish anything. Except possibly getting you some jail time and you don't want that.

The shit you described is definitely wrong and you are not out of line for being upset about it.

To be honest I would have cut them off a long time ago. They wouldn't even exist in my world.

Don't allow them to bring negativity and toxicity in your life for another second. Cut them ALL the way off and move on with your life. Block them on your phone, on social media, and everywhere else. Life is too short to continuously allow people to bring negative energy into your life.

Everything you say...I'm getting to this point. So serious. You're spot on with this.

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I totally agree with this - I walked away from my own mother because she was very toxic ... go find your real family - remember the story of the black swan ...