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This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by pinkbird03 on Friday, July 22, 2016 and has 27 replies.

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Thanks for everyone's advice!

The reason I am asking is because I'm confused! I had a conversation about sex with this guy I've been dating and I told him I wanted to be monogamous. He agreed to it. At first I thought that's awesome because I can trust him more and in a way he's mine. Well, then I started thinking more... Maybe this means we're going to be friends with benefits instead. I have no clue how he took it.

Gosh, I finally became brave enough to say what I want after having 3 or 4 glasses of wine and I screwed up my choice of words. I should have said I wanted to be in an exclusive relationship first. Like who says monogamous—

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Posted by Kilgore
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Thanks for everyone's advice!

The reason I am asking is because I'm confused! I had a conversation about sex with this guy I've been dating and I told him I wanted to be monogamous. He agreed to it. At first I thought that's awesome because I can trust him more and in a way he's mine. Well, then I started thinking more... Maybe this means we're going to be friends with benefits instead. I have no clue how he took it.

Gosh, I finally became brave enough to say what I want after having 3 or 4 glasses of wine and I screwed up my choice of words. I should have said I wanted to be in an exclusive relationship first. Like who says monogamous—

What is wrong with that word? Good you spoke up for yourself. It's hard to find the courage to do that

How did it go?

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Well because I think you can be monogamous with one person and still be single. Which is kind of okay with me, but it's still a gray area.

At first he said what do you mean? I couldn't even look him in the eyes I was so shy! I told him and he was fine with it. But then I turned the conversation towards trust and asked him if I could trust him. He said yes. I still told him I don't trust him! Lol

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Posted by narb
ever seen think like a man act like a lady— .... lol. that 90 day rule i think should be applied... imo. to see what the mans mo is

We met online in April. So 90 days from the time you start talking? Or 90 days from the first date, which is early June?

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There's no rule. I'm typically DTF as soon as they are. If it's with someone I've had my eye on, then I've already been waiting foreeeeever to fvck them.

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Posted by Kilgore
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Thanks for everyone's advice!

The reason I am asking is because I'm confused! I had a conversation about sex with this guy I've been dating and I told him I wanted to be monogamous. He agreed to it. At first I thought that's awesome because I can trust him more and in a way he's mine. Well, then I started thinking more... Maybe this means we're going to be friends with benefits instead. I have no clue how he took it.

Gosh, I finally became brave enough to say what I want after having 3 or 4 glasses of wine and I screwed up my choice of words. I should have said I wanted to be in an exclusive relationship first. Like who says monogamous—

What is wrong with that word? Good you spoke up for yourself. It's hard to find the courage to do that

How did it go?

Well because I think you can be monogamous with one person and still be single. Which is kind of okay with me, but it's still a gray area.

At first he said what do you mean? I couldn't even look him in the eyes I was so shy! I told him and he was fine with it. But then I turned the conversation towards trust and asked him if I could trust him. He said yes. I still told him I don't trust him! Lol

Haha. Well done. Trust takes time. So what now?

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Lol I don't know! Go with the flow?? I know I'm not going to sleep with him this month. I'm too busy to see him!

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Posted by Kilgore
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Posted by Kilgore
Posted by pinkbird03
Thanks for everyone's advice!

The reason I am asking is because I'm confused! I had a conversation about sex with this guy I've been dating and I told him I wanted to be monogamous. He agreed to it. At first I thought that's awesome because I can trust him more and in a way he's mine. Well, then I started thinking more... Maybe this means we're going to be friends with benefits instead. I have no clue how he took it.

Gosh, I finally became brave enough to say what I want after having 3 or 4 glasses of wine and I screwed up my choice of words. I should have said I wanted to be in an exclusive relationship first. Like who says monogamous—

What is wrong with that word? Good you spoke up for yourself. It's hard to find the courage to do that

How did it go?

Well because I think you can be monogamous with one person and still be single. Which is kind of okay with me, but it's still a gray area.

At first he said what do you mean? I couldn't even look him in the eyes I was so shy! I told him and he was fine with it. But then I turned the conversation towards trust and asked him if I could trust him. He said yes. I still told him I don't trust him! Lol

Haha. Well done. Trust takes time. So what now?

Lol I don't know! Go with the flow?? I know I'm not going to sleep with him this month. I'm too busy to see him!

Sleep with him if/when you don't have to think twice about it

Hopefully he is thick 😉

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Lol yea true! What do u mean by thick? In his pants? I was wondering too! I only felt it through his pants ?

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Posted by Kilgore
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Omg! Lol that's true! @kilgore

Thats pretty much the only possible deal breaker left on the table at this point!

Really - deal breaker??

Maybe! I'm kind of looking for the perfect guy! As long as it's not too small...

Oh dear...

Yep. I've been single for years! Looking for Mr. Right. You have no idea lol

But thickness as a deal breaker??

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No but I've seen and felt some pretty bad ones. I just want a good one! I do love sex so it's important

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no future- immediately

future wife- i hold out

How long do u hold out? And why exactly do you hold out?

6 months

Interesting! Well I'm going on 5 months soon so that puts it into perspective 🙂

is he a taurus? coz we r notoriously slow

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Nope. He's a Capricorn. He's soooo slow, but he's also the most respectful guy I've dated so I really cant hate on guys who move slow. It's actually rather refreshing! You should be proud of that!

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Posted by Kilgore
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Omg! Lol that's true! @kilgore

Thats pretty much the only possible deal breaker left on the table at this point!

Really - deal breaker??

Maybe! I'm kind of looking for the perfect guy! As long as it's not too small...

Oh dear...

Yep. I've been single for years! Looking for Mr. Right. You have no idea lol

But thickness as a deal breaker??

No but I've seen and felt some pretty bad ones. I just want a good one! I do love sex so it's important

It's like feeling melons in the supermarket

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Lol! Oh so you know exactly how I feel!!

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Posted by andstrollbot
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no future- immediately

future wife- i hold out

How long do u hold out? And why exactly do you hold out?

6 months

Interesting! Well I'm going on 5 months soon so that puts it into perspective 🙂

is he a taurus? coz we r notoriously slow

Nope. He's a Capricorn. He's soooo slow, but he's also the most respectful guy I've dated so I really cant hate on guys who move slow. It's actually rather refreshing! You should be proud of that!

what mars?

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Virgo. I believe!