@natural25
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Posted by ScorpSuperior
DamenIt doesn't take 8 years to figure out whether or not you want to marry someone.
Sounds like you're trying to justify your reasons for delaying solidifying your relationship.
Now, say it ain't so...
i may be a lil hesitant,but this thread wasn't made to justify ME not getting married at all..if anything, more people should do what im doing instead of hopping into this type of commitment..because when i do it, then thats it..we not breaking up or divorcing,lol
my father waited 7 yrs before he married my mother, and they're still together to this day..so i think im going about it the right way
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Stop playing, Damen. So you're suggesting more people "play house" and "test out marriage" like you're doing? Basically, you want all the benefits of marriage without the binding contract.
While you're looking up stats, did you see the ones about people who cohabitate prior to marriage being more likely to divorce than those who don't?
Is you girlfriend a virgin? Please tell me if I am prying too much.
I am trying to understand where you are getting your logic.
she's not a virgin, and idk if she's been with 10-20 guys, but one thing i can say is she fit to be wifey...real traditional,looks good (blk/puerto rican),homebody,doesn't care about going to the club all the time,can cook & clean, and her FEW friends are in relationships..and she isn't pressuring me TO get married
and my logic comes from being surrounded by people who are in relationships with that don't fit the traditional role a wife should have
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so really good looking and racially mixed are the same thing? I cant with your logic
Damen
So you're hesitant. Okay. Meaning, you're not 100% certain you want to walk down the aisle and make what you consider a lifelong commitment to this woman. But, what's it going to take for you to be totally convinced the decision to do so is right? What more info do you need that you haven't gotten in the LAST EIGHT YEARS!?
He has it all figured out lol
Is you girlfriend a virgin? Please tell me if I am prying too much.
I am trying to understand where you are getting your logic.
she's not a virgin, and idk if she's been with 10-20 guys, but one thing i can say is she fit to be wifey...real traditional,looks good (blk/puerto rican),homebody,doesn't care about going to the club all the time,can cook & clean, and her FEW friends are in relationships..and she isn't pressuring me TO get married
and my logic comes from being surrounded by people who are in relationships with that don't fit the traditional role a wife should have
so really good looking and racially mixed are the same thing? I cant with your logic
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I saw that too, but decided to leave it alone- for now. Different day, different thread. I cannot go there right now.
He has it all figured out lol
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LMFAO!
I'm dying over here tonight.
Is you girlfriend a virgin? Please tell me if I am prying too much.
I am trying to understand where you are getting your logic.
she's not a virgin, and idk if she's been with 10-20 guys, but one thing i can say is she fit to be wifey...real traditional,looks good (blk/puerto rican),homebody,doesn't care about going to the club all the time,can cook & clean, and her FEW friends are in relationships..and she isn't pressuring me TO get married
and my logic comes from being surrounded by people who are in relationships with that don't fit the traditional role a wife should have
so really good looking and racially mixed are the same thing? I cant with your logic
I saw that too, but decided to leave it alone- for now. Different day, different thread. I cannot go there right now.
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lol
Every guy that I know (not saying you Damien) that has been with a woman for that long do so because they are doing their dirt and testing to see how far they can go before she cracks and leaves. If she doesn't, cool... You can get married and continue to cheat. If she does crack, cool... You'll tell all your friends she was crazy and find another docile woman.
Posted by wateryram80
Every guy that I know (not saying you Damien) that has been with a woman for that long do so because they are doing their dirt and testing to see how far they can go before she cracks and leaves. If she doesn't, cool... You can get married and continue to cheat. If she does crack, cool... You'll tell all your friends she was crazy and find another docile woman.
ahahahahaaa
Posted by wateryram80
Every guy that I know (not saying you Damien) that has been with a woman for that long do so because they are doing their dirt and testing to see how far they can go before she cracks and leaves. If she doesn't, cool... You can get married and continue to cheat. If she does crack, cool... You'll tell all your friends she was crazy and find another docile woman.
sounds about right
Stop playing, Damen. So you're suggesting more people "play house" and "test out marriage" like you're doing? Basically, you want all the benefits of marriage without the binding contract.
While you're looking up stats, did you see the ones about people who cohabitate prior to marriage being more likely to divorce than those who don't?
no i didn't see those, but i did see that more women are indeed moving in with there bf's before getting married at a higher rate then ever
http://www.cnn.com/2013/04/04/living/women-premarital-cohabitation
Is you girlfriend a virgin? Please tell me if I am prying too much.
I am trying to understand where you are getting your logic.
she's not a virgin, and idk if she's been with 10-20 guys, but one thing i can say is she fit to be wifey...real traditional,looks good (blk/puerto rican),homebody,doesn't care about going to the club all the time,can cook & clean, and her FEW friends are in relationships..and she isn't pressuring me TO get married
and my logic comes from being surrounded by people who are in relationships with that don't fit the traditional role a wife should have
so really good looking and racially mixed are the same thing? I cant with your logic
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I was going to leave that alone.... But you took the words out of my mouth.
8 goddamn years
I wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
Is you girlfriend a virgin? Please tell me if I am prying too much.
I am trying to understand where you are getting your logic.
she's not a virgin, and idk if she's been with 10-20 guys, but one thing i can say is she fit to be wifey...real traditional,looks good (blk/puerto rican),homebody,doesn't care about going to the club all the time,can cook & clean, and her FEW friends are in relationships..and she isn't pressuring me TO get married
and my logic comes from being surrounded by people who are in relationships with that don't fit the traditional role a wife should have
so really good looking and racially mixed are the same thing? I cant with your logic
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lol
i didn't mean it like that, but lets be real..a lot of mixed women do look fine as hell
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
Bwwaahahahaha @ "I wish the hell I would"!!! This is hilarious. So true but hilarious. Smh... A sin and shame.
Is you girlfriend a virgin? Please tell me if I am prying too much.
I am trying to understand where you are getting your logic.
she's not a virgin, and idk if she's been with 10-20 guys, but one thing i can say is she fit to be wifey...real traditional,looks good (blk/puerto rican),homebody,doesn't care about going to the club all the time,can cook & clean, and her FEW friends are in relationships..and she isn't pressuring me TO get married
and my logic comes from being surrounded by people who are in relationships with that don't fit the traditional role a wife should have
so really good looking and racially mixed are the same thing? I cant with your logic
lol
i didn't mean it like that, but lets be real..a lot of mixed women do look fine as hell
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sooooo, that IS what you meant. You just didn't realize that's what you meant until it was brought to your attention, lol.
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
excatly....in my mind couples should get married when they are still in love and excited about each other...not after they are getting their second wind as a couple..thats just settling.
Posted by wateryram80
Every guy that I know (not saying you Damien) that has been with a woman for that long do so because they are doing their dirt and testing to see how far they can go before she cracks and leaves. If she doesn't, cool... You can get married and continue to cheat. If she does crack, cool... You'll tell all your friends she was crazy and find another docile woman.
lol..i never thought of it like that thou
Is you girlfriend a virgin? Please tell me if I am prying too much.
I am trying to understand where you are getting your logic.
she's not a virgin, and idk if she's been with 10-20 guys, but one thing i can say is she fit to be wifey...real traditional,looks good (blk/puerto rican),homebody,doesn't care about going to the club all the time,can cook & clean, and her FEW friends are in relationships..and she isn't pressuring me TO get married
and my logic comes from being surrounded by people who are in relationships with that don't fit the traditional role a wife should have
so really good looking and racially mixed are the same thing? I cant with your logic
lol
i didn't mean it like that, but lets be real..a lot of mixed women do look fine as hell
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Come on ladies!
Everybody knows MIXED women are beautiful. Who wants a straight black woman when you can play in that long pretty hair, nice fair skin... I mean its like having the best of both worlds. Hair that you dont have to put a hot comb to but with the potential of having a fat ass at the same damn time! Now that is beauty!
I cant. **serious side eye**
lol @ natural25
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
excatly....in my mind couples should get married when they are still in love and excited about each other...not after they are getting their second wind as a couple..thats just settling.
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At my age, after 2 years I'm throwing up the peace sign.
She gave you her youth man... marry that girl.
Posted by ScorpSuperior
DamenSo you're hesitant. Okay. Meaning, you're not 100% certain you want to walk down the aisle and make what you consider a lifelong commitment to this woman. But, what's it going to take for you to be totally convinced the decision to do so is right? What more info do you need that you haven't gotten in the LAST EIGHT YEARS!?
And again.... ^^^ this is my question to you, Damen, sir.
Posted by robyn808
WHORES!
LMAO!
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
not really, only because she haven't been pressuring me, so when i pop that question out of the blue,she's gonna be surprised as hell..whenever that day come
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
excatly....in my mind couples should get married when they are still in love and excited about each other...not after they are getting their second wind as a couple..thats just settling.
At my age, after 2 years I'm throwing up the peace sign.
She gave you her youth man... marry that girl.
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Tell me about it, lol. I say the same thing. I would never pressure any man to marry me, but if it isn't clear whether or not this is headed in the direction I want it to within a certain amount of time (no more than 3 yrs), I'm outty- 5000.
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
excatly....in my mind couples should get married when they are still in love and excited about each other...not after they are getting their second wind as a couple..thats just settling.
At my age, after 2 years I'm throwing up the peace sign.
She gave you her youth man... marry that girl.
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Lol @ youth. Right.
Posted by robyn808
WHORES!LMAO!
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ahahaha @ robyn
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
not really, only because she haven't been pressuring me, so when i pop that question out of the blue,she's gonna be surprised as hell..whenever that day come
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Smh @ "whenever that day comes." Unbelievable.
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
not really, only because she haven't been pressuring me, so when i pop that question out of the blue,she's gonna be surprised as hell..whenever that day come
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lol. Fall 2032. When your kids are off to college. Save the date, y'all!
Posted by ScorpSuperior
DamenSo you're hesitant. Okay. Meaning, you're not 100% certain you want to walk down the aisle and make what you consider a lifelong commitment to this woman. But, what's it going to take for you to be totally convinced the decision to do so is right? What more info do you need that you haven't gotten in the LAST EIGHT YEARS!?
And again.... ^^^ this is my question to you, Damen, sir.
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its been a lot of other issues that has transpired throughout our relationship that i'd rather not divulge in thats has also played apart in us not getting married just yet..now if u can excuse me, i'm about to go eat some ribs that my lovely gf for 8 yrs has made
I hope she says no when you pop the question.
"Whenever that day comes"....FOH.
^^^^^ lmaooooooo
8 years is a long test drive. Goddamn. Pull out your checkbook already.
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
not really, only because she haven't been pressuring me, so when i pop that question out of the blue,she's gonna be surprised as hell..whenever that day come
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wow and your still undecided
Posted by ScorpSuperior
8 goddamn yearsI wish I would. More power to her. But, I wish the hell I would.
By the time you pop the damn question, your fiancee's reaction is gonna be like, "Oh. Okay. Cool." *straight face, no excitement*
And the family is gonna be like, "Well, it's about damn time!" OR "We thought y'all were married already!"
excatly....in my mind couples should get married when they are still in love and excited about each other...not after they are getting their second wind as a couple..thats just settling.
At my age, after 2 years I'm throwing up the peace sign.
She gave you her youth man... marry that girl.
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church!!!
He must not know the competition that's out here in these streets.
Dudes are making whole youtube proposal videos and whatnot. Let's go, Damen. Your next move needs to be your best move.
Get right or get left.
lately it seems as of you and Don are competing for attention...any attention....by any means....I could be wrong
And she's cooking ribs on a Monday! She's working hard for that ring. "She hasn't pressured me..." Ha!
Posted by wateryram80
And she's cooking ribs on a Monday! She's working hard for that ring. "She hasn't pressured me..." Ha!
ikr!!! that a sunday dinner meal!
Tell me about it, lol. I say the same thing. I would never pressure any man to marry me, but if it isn't clear whether or not this is headed in the direction I want it to within a certain amount of time (no more than 3 yrs), I'm outty- 5000.
At my age, after 2 years I'm throwing up the peace sign.
She gave you her youth man... marry that girl.
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had to come back for this thou..
who the hell decided on how long a person should wait before asking the question? is it a rule?
thats another problem women have..always trying to dictate the pace all the time!
now im about to eat for real
Posted by wateryram80
And she's cooking ribs on a Monday! She's working hard for that ring. "She hasn't pressured me..." Ha!ikr!!! that a sunday dinner meal!
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Ikr! It was chicken and rice around these parts. Lmao!
Posted by wateryram80
And she's cooking ribs on a Monday! She's working hard for that ring. "She hasn't pressured me..." Ha!
lmao
i meant to say "prepared" the ribs..they were already cooked
Posted by wateryram80
And she's cooking ribs on a Monday! She's working hard for that ring. "She hasn't pressured me..." Ha!lmao
i meant to say "prepared" the ribs..they were already cooked
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Lol! Well enjoy. 🙂
Posted by wateryram80
And she's cooking ribs on a Monday! She's working hard for that ring. "She hasn't pressured me..." Ha!lmao
i meant to say "prepared" the ribs..they were already cooked
Lol! Well enjoy. 🙂
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For some reason, this made me lol.
Tell me about it, lol. I say the same thing. I would never pressure any man to marry me, but if it isn't clear whether or not this is headed in the direction I want it to within a certain amount of time (no more than 3 yrs), I'm outty- 5000.
At my age, after 2 years I'm throwing up the peace sign.
She gave you her youth man... marry that girl.
had to come back for this thou..
who the hell decided on how long a person should wait before asking the question? is it a rule?
thats another problem women have..always trying to dictate the pace all the time!
now im about to eat for real
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personal preference...some ladies just cant wait 8 years and counting to make a commitment.
Posted by wateryram80
And she's cooking ribs on a Monday! She's working hard for that ring. "She hasn't pressured me..." Ha!ikr!!! that a sunday dinner meal!
Ikr! It was chicken and rice around these parts. Lmao!
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lmao
Tell me about it, lol. I say the same thing. I would never pressure any man to marry me, but if it isn't clear whether or not this is headed in the direction I want it to within a certain amount of time (no more than 3 yrs), I'm outty- 5000.
At my age, after 2 years I'm throwing up the peace sign.
She gave you her youth man... marry that girl.
had to come back for this thou..
who the hell decided on how long a person should wait before asking the question? is it a rule?
thats another problem women have..always trying to dictate the pace all the time!
now im about to eat for real
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You know what, you're right. If the two of you are happy, then that's all that matters. It just wouldn't work for me.
Heh.
A whore doesn't make for a good wife?
No shit? Really?
Posted by LoversInLove3
There's a very large hole in this statistical "analysis".Relationships have two halves.
The women who have more sexual partners are not necessarily incapable of being marriage material; the outcome here reflects more on the state of mind their potential partner is in socially. The partners (most likely men) depicted here do not marry women with "high" numbers because of social stigmas (most probable), not because the woman is literally a malfunction. Malfunction of societal constructs and judgement of an impressionable (arguably weak) state of mind, maybe.
There are so many variables it would take more than a lifetime to construct an accurate (relatively) statistical analysis of a woman's/man's suitability for marriage.
A more logical response would be to wonder why partners are insecure about marrying a woman with a "number" higher than what you find acceptable (where do you get your threshold is a good question to ask yourself, as well). Barring disease, what exactly is the problem? Where does your influence come from? Probably not your own mind.
No self-respecting man with a good job and decent money will take in a whore for his wife.
That said, a whore is a chick who fucked 10-20 different dicks and just seems nasty. Plus, theye usually mentally unstable for one reason or another and are justifiably viewed with contempt by decent ladies and good men.
Act like a whore, get regarded as a whore.
Act like a lady, get regarded as a lady.
Its really that simple, so I that the resident whores on DXP would chill out and accept the truth for a change.
And there you have it ladies and germs! Different stokes for different folks. No pun intended.
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