Liking FB pictures

How would you feel if your boyfriend (or gf) liked a picture of a hot girl on Facebook? Let's say that he rarely likes any photos, so it's not like he clicks like for anything. And he liked one of your best friend, but never likes any pics that you post.

They just became fb friends and they work in the same building. So it's not like they never see each other.

He tries to make me jealous sometimes, so maybe this is part of it? Trying to get a reaction out me. I haven't said anything to him.

He's only liked 2 pictures in the past 2 months. The 2 I mentioned above.

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Posted by P10
He's only liked 2 pictures in the past 2 months. The 2 I mentioned above.

That's a very low amount of likes. Don't let it bother you. Like 2 is nothing. Like really nothing.

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Ok. You don't think it makes the likes more special then. Almost like if he liked everyone's pics, then no big deal.

You're a silly, insecure bitch, aren't ya?

Lol me & my wife have gotten into a few small spats over some things that women from my past have said to me on FB before, but never over me or them liking a pic

Thanks for all of your perspectives on this! Much appreciated. 🙂

He's not that into you, you can either do two things,

1) see your self worth, love yourself and drop him for someone hotter and will treat you better or.

2) Complain to him that you're insecure and become the victim and he becomes the bad guy that will always do something wrong in your eyes resulting in a lot of resentment and hatred resulting in a toxic relationship...

save yourself the time and effort, the mother fucker liked your best friend's picture, he is scum and cant even muster up anything nice to say about you or even like any of your pics on social media......this is one of those situations where you have to listen to your gut and dump him, you'll love yourself more for doing it

IF he never hit like on ANY ONE of your pix.... but liked two of your bff's he isn't a great bf. End of the day....a man should not make his lady feel insecure... it is unwanted attention ON HER especially if she is aware he never liked any one of YOUR pix. I wouldn't question him about this.... like you said he tries to make you jealous... he would use this trick against you... to get a reaction out of you.

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He tries to make me jealous sometimes, so maybe this is part of it? Trying to get a reaction out me. I haven't said anything to him.

That's not cool

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Yup.... drop him after few weeks without any closure lol

Posted by FeelingGuilty
My Gem ex did something similar. But I think it's a bit worse. He secretly added my roommate on Facebook and stalked her behind my back (She told me he liked her pictures from years ago so obviously he was going through her profile). I was fine until he began to suggest that we should invite her to hang out with us (e.g. go skiing together) and then suggested that she should hang out with *his friends*. I think it was ok that he just liked her pictures but it was not ok with me when he literally tried to find excuses to contact her or show her off to his friends. I broke up with my Gem cuz of that. He's still trying to convince me that he's innocent.

HE'S INNOCENT I SWEAR

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My Gem ex did something similar. But I think it's a bit worse. He secretly added my roommate on Facebook and stalked her behind my back (She told me he liked her pictures from years ago so obviously he was going through her profile). I was fine until he began to suggest that we should invite her to hang out with us (e.g. go skiing together) and then suggested that she should hang out with *his friends*. I think it was ok that he just liked her pictures but it was not ok with me when he literally tried to find excuses to contact her or show her off to his friends. I broke up with my Gem cuz of that. He's still trying to convince me that he's innocent.

HE'S INNOCENT I SWEAR

Elaborate !

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nah just trolling, he's guilty dude was trying to make a threesome

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My Gem ex did something similar. But I think it's a bit worse. He secretly added my roommate on Facebook and stalked her behind my back (She told me he liked her pictures from years ago so obviously he was going through her profile). I was fine until he began to suggest that we should invite her to hang out with us (e.g. go skiing together) and then suggested that she should hang out with *his friends*. I think it was ok that he just liked her pictures but it was not ok with me when he literally tried to find excuses to contact her or show her off to his friends. I broke up with my Gem cuz of that. He's still trying to convince me that he's innocent.

HE'S INNOCENT I SWEAR

Elaborate !

nah just trolling, he's guilty dude was trying to make a threesome

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lol i've just realize that your username is feelingguilty

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
He's not that into you, you can either do two things,

1) see your self worth, love yourself and drop him for someone hotter and will treat you better or.

2) Complain to him that you're insecure and become the victim and he becomes the bad guy that will always do something wrong in your eyes resulting in a lot of resentment and hatred resulting in a toxic relationship...

save yourself the time and effort, the mother fucker liked your best friend's picture, he is scum and cant even muster up anything nice to say about you or even like any of your pics on social media......this is one of those situations where you have to listen to your gut and dump him, you'll love yourself more for doing it

I agree with this because the guy made his ACTIONS clear. if he just told you straight, yeah that photo is really beautiful or looks interesting, like looking at a painting or something, or anything that is appealing...

but he "CLICKED" the like button and became friends over the fb?

he KNOWS he's with you but he did that? He has no respect at all. like he could just rodshod over your feelings.


if you still love him very much, because it's hard to just stop loving someone, you tell him you dislike that and it hurt you a lot. Although, I would hope that he knows your personality way before he did this. so, doing that is just disrespectful.

It's the intent that matters

Posted by dominoes
You're jealousy may ruin your relationship.

sooooo if this was TURNED AROUND.....

and you had a girl who you loved,

and she decided "Ooohhh he's so hot..." Does the click button of likes

then friends the guy and you know they see eachother at work.

you wouldn't be jealous yourelf?

ah yes. double standards.

lol

Are relationships always toxic in at least one way for women

This is why I don't "like" any FB pictures of anyone. At all.

Unless there's food or a fish they caught in the picture.

I wouldn't want anyone to think I was lusting after someone.

Beginning of cheating, it always starts 'innocent'. Sad fact

I would like a sense of the bigger picture here tbh.
Like, exactly how much of a douschbag is this guy in general, that liking TWO pictures on Facebook means this entire relationship now has to be dismantled...?
I mean, where's the fucking bar set at exactly.
Do we even know?

MAYBE he's a potentially cheating piece of crap. Is that a statement worth making based on almost NO information, or is he a red blooded male that thinks her best friend posted two smokin hot pics and now everything they've ever meant to each other is being called into question.

We talk about red flags on here all the time. This could be classic red flag territory. I totally see that possibility, absolutely.

Or is this about how social media is the unhappy hunting ground for people who are insecure in almost any situation regardless of what their partner does?
Could go either way

Posted by wagtail
I would like a sense of the bigger picture here tbh.
Like, exactly how much of a douschbag is this guy in general, that liking TWO pictures on Facebook means this entire relationship now has to be dismantled...?
I mean, where's the fucking bar set at exactly.
Do we even know?

MAYBE he's a potentially cheating piece of crap. Is that a statement worth making based on almost NO information, or is he a red blooded male that thinks her best friend posted two smokin hot pics and now everything they've ever meant to each other is being called into question.

We talk about red flags on here all the time. This could be classic red flag territory. I totally see that possibility, absolutely.

Or is this about how social media is the unhappy hunting ground for people who are insecure in almost any situation regardless of what their partner does?
Could go either way

He cheated on one of his relationships, but was faithful in the next two. So far he's been faithful to me, as far as I know. But all of his relationships, including ours, started at work. So that's why I'm worried - BC she works in the same bldg. Not about my bff, but about the girl he recently friended and is now liking her selfie pic. We did get on an argument that day, where he thought that I wasn't supportive of his feelings. That's why I thought he may have liked her picture to get a rise out of me.

@P10 Thanks for replying to me 🙂
So, in fact, this isn't exactly about his liking Facebook pics...?

This is based on his dating history including proven infidelity, the fact that his dating pool seems to have been limited to his workplace,
which includes yourself (? You work together?) a recent argument, and possible mind games...stemming from aforementioned argument.
Does that sum it up?
Ami I warm or cold lol

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Posted by Quantum
This is why I don't "like" any FB pictures of anyone. At all.

Unless there's food or a fish they caught in the picture.

I wouldn't want anyone to think I was lusting after someone.

...or Beer? 😄


I totally agree with what you say, i wouldn't do this either....very disrespectful to your partner

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Yes!

Or people's animals. I never get tired of seeing dogs and cats. Most of the time they're cuter than their kids since they are just being dogs and cats and not dressed up and posed for the camera.

Posted by wagtail
@P10 Thanks for replying to me 🙂
So, in fact, this isn't exactly about his liking Facebook pics...?

This is based on his dating history including proven infidelity, the fact that his dating pool seems to have been limited to his workplace,
which includes yourself (? You work together?) a recent argument, and possible mind games...stemming from aforementioned argument.
Does that sum it up?
Ami I warm or cold lol

Warm? Lol

I don't work there anymore. The past cheating does enter my mind. In past relationships, I have ignored red flags, so I want to be aware, but not paranoid. On one hand, I could talk to him, but if his aim was to make me jealous, I don't want to fuel into that. Or I could just leave it alone.

I just stalk my lover and then stalk the person they are associating with to make sure that doesn't happen. Just locate their house, and leave the head of some furry mammal in their mailbox.

🙂

And install hacking monitoring software on their phone/ in their house just to be safe.

🙂


Phase 3 is locate embalming fluid so your lover is not only unable to leave your sight, but well preserved too

🙂

I'm kidding also.

I'd be a bit jealous, and likely keep a close eye on the person. Not anything beyond Facebook though. I'd probably bring it up to let them know it made me feel a bit perturbed as a test to see how much my opinion a feelings mean to them, and if they didn't respect my feelings and make slight changes to please me I'd break up with them.

That's the truth.

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@P10 Thanks for replying to me 🙂
So, in fact, this isn't exactly about his liking Facebook pics...?

This is based on his dating history including proven infidelity, the fact that his dating pool seems to have been limited to his workplace,
which includes yourself (? You work together?) a recent argument, and possible mind games...stemming from aforementioned argument.
Does that sum it up?
Ami I warm or cold lol

Warm? Lol

I don't work there anymore. The past cheating does enter my mind. In past relationships, I have ignored red flags, so I want to be aware, but not paranoid. On one hand, I could talk to him, but if his aim was to make me jealous, I don't want to fuel into that. Or I could just leave it alone.

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Cool. You'll be fine in the long run either way I'm sure 🙂
Good luck sweet

Thanks @wagtail !

@tiziani - I just googled that, and he doesn't have that app. What is with all the secret messaging?

Alrighty. Well, she changed her profile pic, and he liked it again. I asked him about it and he says he doesn't like her. They have a mutual friend from work. He's never liked a girl's picture consecutively.

Things are pretty rough with us right now. He's been distant and maybe he is doing this to make me jealous or try to get me to break up with him? There are a couple of other friends that are girls that he hangs out with. I know one of them had or has a crush on him.

If he did genuinely like her, why make it so public? With me, he took a while to show his feelings. That's why it seems more to me that he wants to get a reaction out of me.

Any insight? The liking of the pictures and the current state of our relationship makes me feel like he wants to break up with me.

Posted by Arielle83
Maybe you shouldn't date men that have other females around them.

Like female friends.

Maybe he's distant cuz he's fed up.

He does have a lot of female friends.

Neither of us wants to he the one to initiate breaking up. But I'm not liking guys pics on Facebook either.

Posted by FeelingGuilty
My Gem ex did something similar. But I think it's a bit worse. He secretly added my roommate on Facebook and stalked her behind my back (She told me he liked her pictures from years ago so obviously he was going through her profile). I was fine until he began to suggest that we should invite her to hang out with us (e.g. go skiing together) and then suggested that she should hang out with *his friends*. I think it was ok that he just liked her pictures but it was not ok with me when he literally tried to find excuses to contact her or show her off to his friends. I broke up with my Gem cuz of that. He's still trying to convince me that he's innocent.

Smart lady

Posted by ImTheRam
I don't even got a FB account...

Couldn't give 2 fucks about it tbh...

My gf got one almost since the start of it...and i never ever checked her account....she can do whatever she wants with her privacy....

I am not inocent either so....w/e...if she wants to like a photo of a guy...good for her...i really do not care...lol

Respect and Trust goes both ways,

Ooo you got a girlfriend

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Posted by libraqueen
I saw a joke on Twitter about this. This is how it went

Girl: so how come when you start fucking with a guy he stops liking your pics?

Guy: oh that? we only do it to get your attention

Girl: so when you like others bitches pictures it means...?

And the guy is like "we've been compromised men abort mission"

I wonder what wold happen if women took a *tour* on a dinner, night out, or party where there are only man (group of freinds or co-workers, etc).

You do know what's the #1 Topic when alchool kicks in right? Be them married, with kids, with gf, single, w/e...

So if women do the same...great...why not? (but sometimes they rather stabs themselfs when togheter lol)

Doing it on a social media....well i don't know...liking a FB pic of a "meat women on the sales market" might be just plain dumb and asking for troubles...

But that won't change the fact that people talk...people fantasize...not realising this might be a problem.

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I am wondering why he chooses to like her FB twice, in that it is public. Can he not enjoy it in private? What reasons would there be for a guy to do that?

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Posted by libraqueen
I saw a joke on Twitter about this. This is how it went

Girl: so how come when you start fucking with a guy he stops liking your pics?

Guy: oh that? we only do it to get your attention

Girl: so when you like others bitches pictures it means...?

And the guy is like "we've been compromised men abort mission"

I wonder what wold happen if women took a *tour* on a dinner, night out, or party where there are only man (group of freinds or co-workers, etc).

You do know what's the #1 Topic when alchool kicks in right? Be them married, with kids, with gf, single, w/e...

So if women do the same...great...why not? (but sometimes they rather stabs themselfs when togheter lol)

Doing it on a social media....well i don't know...liking a FB pic of a "meat women on the sales market" might be just plain dumb and asking for troubles...

But that won't change the fact that people talk...people fantasize...not realising this might be a problem.

I am wondering why he chooses to like her FB twice, in that it is public. Can he not enjoy it in private? What reasons would there be for a guy to do that?

Brain...and the lack of it...lol

I really don't know what else to say ^^

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LOL, thank you for the laugh

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Posted by Arielle83
Maybe you shouldn't date men that have other females around them.

Like female friends.

Maybe he's distant cuz he's fed up.

He does have a lot of female friends.

Neither of us wants to he the one to initiate breaking up. But I'm not liking guys pics on Facebook either.

So, you have no male friends that you liked their profile picture when they update it, no? No childhood friends?

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I have fb to keep in touch with old friends, but I don't really like it. Not much into it. My bf doesn't usually like pictures either. Except lately.

Posted by Domimoooo
P10, this sounds a bit like a me problem. You're overly jealous. You might want to explain this to your boyfriend that it bothers you and you know you're being jealous. Communicate to him you want help and reassurance from him.

Communication is key.

Things aren't going so well right now. He knows it's making me jealous because we did talk about it.

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Posted by Arielle83
Maybe you shouldn't date men that have other females around them.

Like female friends.

Maybe he's distant cuz he's fed up.

He does have a lot of female friends.

Neither of us wants to he the one to initiate breaking up. But I'm not liking guys pics on Facebook either.

So, you have no male friends that you liked their profile picture when they update it, no? No childhood friends?

I have fb to keep in touch with old friends, but I don't really like it. Not much into it. My bf doesn't usually like pictures either. Except lately.

One if the most important aspects to any relationship is communication. If you lose this then you might as well write you both off.

You have to bring this up to him. Don't force accusations down his neck but ask him what is bothering you and how you are taking it.

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You're right. He can be cold sometimes and either walks away or picks a fight, so effective communication can be hard. I tend to bottle things up and then let it out all at once. Not productive...

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P10, this sounds a bit like a me problem. You're overly jealous. You might want to explain this to your boyfriend that it bothers you and you know you're being jealous. Communicate to him you want help and reassurance from him.

Communication is key.

Things aren't going so well right now. He knows it's making me jealous because we did talk about it.

Well I guess you haven't tried enough. You're going to have to do more than merely approach him. You actually have to have a talk.

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Thanks, I will try.

Posted by sagiluv
Be secure about yourself, don't give it too much importance. Ultimately it's up to him if he wants to stick around or leave and lose a good thing... Don't sweat it too much. We can't waste time analyzing or stressing about someone liking posts.

Thanks, there's other stuff too that I just feel that he's not that lovey with me anymore. But I will talk to him again and see if we can save what we have.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
He's not that into you, you can either do two things,

1) see your self worth, love yourself and drop him for someone hotter and will treat you better or.

2) Complain to him that you're insecure and become the victim and he becomes the bad guy that will always do something wrong in your eyes resulting in a lot of resentment and hatred resulting in a toxic relationship...

save yourself the time and effort, the mother fucker liked your best friend's picture, he is scum and cant even muster up anything nice to say about you or even like any of your pics on social media......this is one of those situations where you have to listen to your gut and dump him, you'll love yourself more for doing it

JFC! I think you have deeper issues than her

Posted by wagtail
I would like a sense of the bigger picture here tbh.
Like, exactly how much of a douschbag is this guy in general, that liking TWO pictures on Facebook means this entire relationship now has to be dismantled...?
I mean, where's the fucking bar set at exactly.
Do we even know?

MAYBE he's a potentially cheating piece of crap. Is that a statement worth making based on almost NO information, or is he a red blooded male that thinks her best friend posted two smokin hot pics and now everything they've ever meant to each other is being called into question.

We talk about red flags on here all the time. This could be classic red flag territory. I totally see that possibility, absolutely.

Or is this about how social media is the unhappy hunting ground for people who are insecure in almost any situation regardless of what their partner does?
Could go either way

If a chick I'm dating is sooooo insecure and jealous that I like 2 pics of my friend on FB, she's gonna be kicking rocks. Guy didn't even comment on them. Some people need to seriously grow up.

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Posted by wagtail
I would like a sense of the bigger picture here tbh.
Like, exactly how much of a douschbag is this guy in general, that liking TWO pictures on Facebook means this entire relationship now has to be dismantled...?
I mean, where's the fucking bar set at exactly.
Do we even know?

MAYBE he's a potentially cheating piece of crap. Is that a statement worth making based on almost NO information, or is he a red blooded male that thinks her best friend posted two smokin hot pics and now everything they've ever meant to each other is being called into question.

We talk about red flags on here all the time. This could be classic red flag territory. I totally see that possibility, absolutely.

Or is this about how social media is the unhappy hunting ground for people who are insecure in almost any situation regardless of what their partner does?
Could go either way

If a chick I'm dating is sooooo insecure and jealous that I like 2 pics of my friend on FB, she's gonna be kicking rocks. Guy didn't even comment on them. Some people need to seriously grow up.

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Whatever. Other stuff going on.

Curious, where's his Sun/Merc/Venus?

I wouldn't be bothered by him simply liking her pics, but it seems like you guys have other issues that have been festering, leading you to question an otherwise pretty innocent act. It does seem like he's trying to coax a reaction out of you.

I'd calmly bring it up, see how he responds, then react accordingly.

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So, you have no male friends that you liked their profile picture when they update it, no? No childhood friends?

I've got childhood male friends. The only time I ever "Like" their profile pic is when it's an image of them goofing off, or if it conveys something special (career accomplishment, marriage, travel etc.), basically as a way of acknowledging their humor or sharing their joy.

Besides those instances (i.e. random selfies), I just don't see the point. *shrugs*

But not everyone has a conscious reason for liking a pic, and if the extent of your relationship is arbitrated by what you do on social-media then you probably have a very vain relationship in the first place.

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Posted by wagtail
I would like a sense of the bigger picture here tbh.
Like, exactly how much of a douschbag is this guy in general, that liking TWO pictures on Facebook means this entire relationship now has to be dismantled...?
I mean, where's the fucking bar set at exactly.
Do we even know?

MAYBE he's a potentially cheating piece of crap. Is that a statement worth making based on almost NO information, or is he a red blooded male that thinks her best friend posted two smokin hot pics and now everything they've ever meant to each other is being called into question.

We talk about red flags on here all the time. This could be classic red flag territory. I totally see that possibility, absolutely.

Or is this about how social media is the unhappy hunting ground for people who are insecure in almost any situation regardless of what their partner does?
Could go either way

If a chick I'm dating is sooooo insecure and jealous that I like 2 pics of my friend on FB, she's gonna be kicking rocks. Guy didn't even comment on them. Some people need to seriously grow up.

Whatever. Other stuff going on.

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Of course there's "other stuff" going on. I'm addressing the root of the problem that you have complained about.

Posted by P10
How would you feel if your boyfriend (or gf) liked a picture of a hot girl on Facebook? Let's say that he rarely likes any photos, so it's not like he clicks like for anything. And he liked one of your best friend, but never likes any pics that you post.

They just became fb friends and they work in the same building. So it's not like they never see each other.

It wouldn't bother me, unless I were insecure in my relationship.

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He tries to make me jealous sometimes, so maybe this is part of it? Trying to get a reaction out me. I haven't said anything to him.

You're reading too much into it.

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Posted by wagtail
I would like a sense of the bigger picture here tbh.
Like, exactly how much of a douschbag is this guy in general, that liking TWO pictures on Facebook means this entire relationship now has to be dismantled...?
I mean, where's the fucking bar set at exactly.
Do we even know?

MAYBE he's a potentially cheating piece of crap. Is that a statement worth making based on almost NO information, or is he a red blooded male that thinks her best friend posted two smokin hot pics and now everything they've ever meant to each other is being called into question.

We talk about red flags on here all the time. This could be classic red flag territory. I totally see that possibility, absolutely.

Or is this about how social media is the unhappy hunting ground for people who are insecure in almost any situation regardless of what their partner does?
Could go either way

If a chick I'm dating is sooooo insecure and jealous that I like 2 pics of my friend on FB, she's gonna be kicking rocks. Guy didn't even comment on them. Some people need to seriously grow up.

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Exactly.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
He's not that into you, you can either do two things,

1) see your self worth, love yourself and drop him for someone hotter and will treat you better or.

2) Complain to him that you're insecure and become the victim and he becomes the bad guy that will always do something wrong in your eyes resulting in a lot of resentment and hatred resulting in a toxic relationship...

save yourself the time and effort, the mother fucker liked your best friend's picture, he is scum and cant even muster up anything nice to say about you or even like any of your pics on social media......this is one of those situations where you have to listen to your gut and dump him, you'll love yourself more for doing it

Spot on.

The fact that homeboy is clicking LIKE on this chick's hot friend photos is a huge red flag.

Relationships should be effortless and honest.

The fact that he is secretly checking out this chick's friends is very disrespectful to her, and something that should not be tolerated.

I know I sure as hell would not be copacetic with some chick going after my friend.

I would dump her on her ass, and tell everyone that she is a whore with bad manners.

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Posted by libraqueen
I saw a joke on Twitter about this. This is how it went

Girl: so how come when you start fucking with a guy he stops liking your pics?

Guy: oh that? we only do it to get your attention

Girl: so when you like others bitches pictures it means...?

And the guy is like "we've been compromised men abort mission"

I wonder what wold happen if women took a *tour* on a dinner, night out, or party where there are only man (group of freinds or co-workers, etc).

You do know what's the #1 Topic when alchool kicks in right? Be them married, with kids, with gf, single, w/e...

So if women do the same...great...why not? (but sometimes they rather stabs themselfs when togheter lol)

Doing it on a social media....well i don't know...liking a FB pic of a "meat women on the sales market" might be just plain dumb and asking for troubles...

But that won't change the fact that people talk...people fantasize...not realising this might be a problem.

I am wondering why he chooses to like her FB twice, in that it is public. Can he not enjoy it in private? What reasons would there be for a guy to do that?

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He is simply trying to get her attention probably because he wants to have sex with her.

Might want to dump his sorry ass before it gets really ugly.