Pain o'meter

1 of my friends is going throu a break up, her 100th and she is as heartbroken as if it was her 1st. I dont understand this. Personally, 1 is enough cause Im a coward emotionally and I dont think i would ever let myself go throu a painful process over & over again. My heart is so precious that Im very protective of it...besides, when it broke before i thought i was dying, lol. It was that painful and I dont desire nor wish for an encore. Haha

How many heartaches have u experienced?
How do u do it (keep sane throu all of them)?
Would u ever say "enough is enough"?

Im a scorpio moon btw so that must be why pain is so unforgettable to me. It was SO zoomed that i can still see it years later and its still faintly felt if i concentrate real hard. Ugh..

I dunnno I don'y keep track maybe 7 or 8 through the years that really got to me

You just get through them with your hobbies . work , friends and never alcohol lol

I don't know your hearts going to get broken at times just because you have to put yourself out there in the trust and love department if your going to be in a realtionship. I keep looking like a fool 😛

Well WaterCup - all relationships for me ended in heart break. A few worse than the rest. But that is me. It took a long time to get over the real bad ones. About 1-2 years. My first love was the first bad one, she was Sag and this last one, she was Scorp. But must get back on the horse?
We expose ourselves to heart break all the time when we want to get involved in a relationship. Without sacrifice, there would be nothing to compare happiness too.
As someone wrote, thank god for alcohol at times. LOL.

BUT ELLE HOW MANY HEARTS HAVE YOU BROKEN?

Excellant question.

Well ELLE, how many men's heart are in shambles?

How many heartaches have u experienced?

I feel like it's been a billion, but in reality... i dunno... 7 or 8. i'm not keeping track cuz that just sucks.

How do u do it (keep sane throu all of them)?

come to terms and just figure they're fools. heck, i dunno... it's just about being brutally honest with yourself about where everything was wrong (even where i was wrong) and telling yourself that there's better. much much MUCH better.

Would u ever say "enough is enough"?

prob, but i'd never wanna know that day because im a lover. every time is like the first time and it would take many deep gouges to get me to give up on love.
i like to think i'm not a masochist.

ELLE, spill.

How many men have been devastated?

Posted by ellessque
typos are running wild today. someone round those suckers up!!!!!!!

mrec is retorgrading lettres on keybaords

Only thing that keeps running through my head is 100 different men... sounds like a floozy.

Don't mind me, I have scruples and Merc in Sag!

100 men?

Assuming she started dating at 15 and is now 28 like you thats like about 7 men every year...

Holy fuck man.

Why choose the 100th man to be heartbroken? Why not wait until 1000?

No man, the 100 was an exaggeration, it has been a lot thou. She caught this one in bed with another woman and he embarrassed her infront of the other woman. She is more upset about the fact that the other girl works at KFC, lol. I guess she just needs to feel better or whatever

Posted by WaterCup
How many heartaches have u experienced?
How do u do it (keep sane throu all of them)?
Would u ever say "enough is enough"?

I've taken a few rides on the emotional rollercoaster. It's hard to quantify heartbreak though. Sitting here trying to think about it I noticed that each time it got worse. I think part of that is because personally each relationship I had got longer and longer. A month with one girl in school, then a few months with another, then a year, then two years, then I dated a girl for four years and got married and divorced, then I married again and was in it for seven years. By my calculations the next one should last about fifteen years, that'll put me in my late forties. At that point I should have one more that lasts thirty or so years and I'll probably be dead at that point.

I got side tracked...
How to stay sane?
Hookers and beer.

Would you ever say enough is enough?
Of which, the hookers or the beer?

Lol @ hookers. 'enough is enough' on getting your heart broken..detaching. Tbh i dont know how i got throu mine (caused by a libra, let me add). I remember when it was morning i wished it was night (so i could think in quiet) and when it was night i wished it was morning cause the thinking depressed me and people were a distraction. I was in that state for wks. Never again, lol

Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ hookers. 'enough is enough' on getting your heart broken..detaching. Tbh i dont know how i got throu mine (caused by a libra, let me add). I remember when it was morning i wished it was night (so i could think in quiet) and when it was night i wished it was morning cause the thinking depressed me and people were a distraction. I was in that state for wks. Never again, lol

My most recent and worst was from an aqua so we're even 😛

When I was awake I thought about her, we had moved to TX together and I went for her. EVERYTHING there reminded me of her. She haunted my dreams for months. Everynight i'd either dream we were together having a great time and then wake up and realize it was a dream and I was alone, or i'd have "nightmares" and relive her leaving over and over in all kinds of fucked up ways. I started taking sleeping pills just so I could get a good nights rest. I went to a real bad place in myself for a while.

Even after all that... No, I will never throw in the towel. I have thought about it but don't want to. I don't want that pain again but I refuse to shut down. The only way to ensure you never feel it again is to never love again, and I got lots of lovin in me. Its possible that whatever relationship I get into next would be a long road to more heartache, but it's also possible that I'll meet someone whose broken edges line up just right with mine. It is a big risk for sure but it is one I have to take. The alternative of never trusting and loving again sucks worse than the risk.

ELLE
YOU BROKE MINE WHEN YOU CAME TO ENGLAND AND DID NOT LET ME KNOW OR WAS THAT V/B ANYWAY I WAS HEART BROKEN AND ALMOST DID NOT GET OVER IT.
IT TOOK 6 HOURS IT WAS ROUGH.

Librasid, rather u than me, lol. Your bravery is admirable tbh, but i cant do it...im scared and badly scarred. My ex is still around (and he still wants to try again), i still care very much for him, but the memory of the hurt is still etched in my brain like a tattoo. How long have u 2 called it quits? Libra + aqua = big ouch.

THIS THREAD SHOULD HAVE BEEN CALLED PAIN O PETER
YOU KNOW HOW YOUR IN LOV AND YOU FUCKED THREE OR FOUR TIMES AND YOUR GOING AGAIN AND IT THROBS LIKE CRAZY. YOU ARE TRYING BUT YOU CAN'T CUM. THATS WHEN SHE SHOULD KNOW YOUR IN LOVE.

Its been over two years since we divorced. I left texas and came to SC because I had family here. A year ago though she called me up and wanted to try again so I moved her here too. Long story short it didn't work this time either. We are currently trying to define the lines of our platonic relationship. I still care about her a lot but have finally realized it just ain't gonna work, we're too different.

I hope not all aqua&libra pairs are bad, I seem to be drawn to you ladies.

As for the scaredness and memories... those are good reasons not to try again with HIM, but not cause to give up on us all. I understand it cause I have the same thoughts sometimes but the guy in the cubicle next door isn't your ex, neither is the mailman, or policeman, or teacher. Go find yourself a new rose, don't be scared of the thorns.

I'll pass, tnx but no tnx, lol. I still remember your story well, the last time u guys were staying @ your mom's house. Sad tale indeed. So, what are u up to now..seeing anyone?

Nope, while I won't throw in the towel all together, I washed it, folded it, and put it away for a while haha. I'm spending my time with the kids as much as I can. My son is in a gifted & talented program and they do some activities. I'm gonna be chaperoning a camping trip to the barrier islands in the spring. I'm getting out and meeting people but ain't really even looking for a relationship. Just enjoying the day to day for now.

I AM THINKING AFTER READING THIS I MAY KILL MYSELF

YES THE DRAMA QUEENS ARE OUT TONIGHT.