Reset your life- have you ever done this?

Well perhaps I have a couple of times. Both times I got divorced for one, big switches in the way life went.

However I have done this in the last year. I chose peace and putting walls up to doors that needed to close. Friends & otherwise. To not letting any new doors open unless they were right & to take on those things I never did. November is the end of my 2nd Saturn Return. January will be my last exam. It’s been 11 months since I dated let alone anything else.

Tbh this is what I planned to do when I got divorced. One way or another you end up where you need to be? I suppose that’s what has happened. Not sure where I’ll end up, but I will be in a much stronger position to do it. And I’m okay with the universe showing me or it evolving whatever it actually is. Hmmm maybe Saturn Returns & Mercury Retrogrades aren’t so bad after all 😂🙃

Have you had resets in your life? Self imposed or forced?

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Well perhaps I have a couple of times. Both times I got divorced for one, big switches in the way life went.

However I have done this in the last year. I chose peace and putting walls up to doors that needed to close. Friends & otherwise. To not letting any new doors open unless they were right & to take on those things I never did. November is the end of my 2nd Saturn Return. January will be my last exam. It’s been 11 months since I dated let alone anything else.

Tbh this is what I planned to do when I got divorced. One way or another you end up where you need to be? I suppose that’s what has happened. Not sure where I’ll end up, but I will be in a much stronger position to do it. And I’m okay with the universe showing me or it evolving whatever it actually is. Hmmm maybe Saturn Returns & Mercury Retrogrades aren’t so bad after all 😂🙃

Have you had resets in your life? Self imposed or forced?

Yes I’m a Scorpio 😃

Some chosen and some not...

I’ve become calmer as a result

Each one taught me I’m not able to control some events in my life.....so letting go of outcomes is the lesson.

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Well perhaps I have a couple of times. Both times I got divorced for one, big switches in the way life went.

However I have done this in the last year. I chose peace and putting walls up to doors that needed to close. Friends & otherwise. To not letting any new doors open unless they were right & to take on those things I never did. November is the end of my 2nd Saturn Return. January will be my last exam. It’s been 11 months since I dated let alone anything else.

Tbh this is what I planned to do when I got divorced. One way or another you end up where you need to be? I suppose that’s what has happened. Not sure where I’ll end up, but I will be in a much stronger position to do it. And I’m okay with the universe showing me or it evolving whatever it actually is. Hmmm maybe Saturn Returns & Mercury Retrogrades aren’t so bad after all 😂🙃

Have you had resets in your life? Self imposed or forced?

Yes I’m a Scorpio 😃

Some chosen and some not...

I’ve become calmer as a result

Each one taught me I’m not able to control some events in my life.....so letting go of outcomes is the lesson.

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Ah yes completely!! Maybe my Scorpio Midheaven has a role in this? Plus Pluto & Uranus in the 8th house. I don’t know but I have gone through tremendous change in the last 10 years.

Posted by ClaireDeLune

In the process of a restart......or an improvement after a good few years of Hell to pay first.

Yes years if hell will do that for you. Certain has for me each time. Otherwise, it’s not necessary. Good for you on the restart & improvement 🙂

I’ve definitely hit the reset button a few of times in my life and the most recent being the best so far—though it came with lots of pain. I guess most of my growth comes through pain so lol but I’m really happy with the journey I’m on rn. Everything might not be perfect, but I’m getting more like my true self as I’m going. Finally old enough to kind of see things for what they are and trust in the unknown more. And still young enough to find happiness and joy in everyday life. As long as the wonder is still there for me, I don’t feel my age.

Posted by AbbyNormal

I’ve definitely hit the reset button a few of times in my life and the most recent being the best so far—though it came with lots of pain. I guess most of my growth comes through pain so lol but I’m really happy with the journey I’m on rn. Everything might not be perfect, but I’m getting more like my true self as I’m going. Finally old enough to kind of see things for what they are and trust in the unknown more. And still young enough to find happiness and joy in everyday life. As long as the wonder is still there for me, I don’t feel my age.

Yes it always comes with pain for me too. It’s alright good to face it & walk through the pain to the other side. That is what drove a lot of my growth. You can always find happiness & joy in everyday life no matter the age. Hope is the key but not too much lol Just ages and stages, different things to deal with at each age🙂

Posted by ImperfectStorm

Yes Pluto has been transiting my 4th house for the last few years.. it was a combination of by choice and by force.

In 2016 I first found out my sons dad cheated on me.. I moved out for the first time, but for the wrong reason (in hindsight). I still wanted it to work but wanted him to realize what he was risking. Our son was only 2 at that time and I still desperately wanted our family together.. so the move was subconsciously manipulative in a way, rather than truly wanting to end things.. if it wasn’t for the cheating I wouldn’t have moved, which is why I say that first move was by force. I didn’t want to move but at the same time couldn’t just sit still.

I moved back a few months later after a few sessions of couples therapy and church together.. But it was still me doing all the heavy lifting (surprise, surprise). I continued to go to therapy by myself even after he stopped. After a couple years of nothing changing and the sneaky behavior continued, I started to emotionally detach a little bit more each day, week, month etc.. until 2018 I was truly fed up and chose myself and moved out again. But this time it was because I was truly done.. so it was by choice.

It took a while to settle in to my new condo emotionally.. I went through a depression where the dishes would pile up in the sink, I didn’t put up a Christmas tree for the first couple of years and didn’t hang pictures on the wall.. over the last couple years I finally turned this place into “home”, and when my sons dad tried to get me back again, I couldn’t even stomach the idea of going back to sharing a home with him after experiencing the peace of mind that I have being apart from him.

It’s been a painful few years and definitely not what I’d planned, but I’m grateful for the lessons and the growth. Like stars said, it has taught me that we have control over absolutely nothing or no one except ourselves and what we are willing to tolerate. (Or not).

Yes it is about what you do when you don’t have control, and can’t change it. This was the case in both my marriages. I did similar to you but I don’t leave until I know I must for me. #2 was due to being an alcoholic, and then dry drunk for years when not drinking and insisting on me allowing his wanting to be enabled by his parents after we moved from where we grew up. As I was isolated from friends & family 😢 I worked on it for 3 years after 3 years of being unhappy. I started a process of personal growth & healing and when you start it is really tough to go backwards. So said goodbye to 20 years, the love of my life, and towards walking the healthy road. We would have never been divorced otherwise. I had to stop trying to force him to do what was good for him & allow him to find his way or not. The hardest thing ever & I was a mess for years after & he walked the unhealthy road 😢

Anyway, you know we find our way. We must. We get stronger and go more towards what is healthier and better for us. As long as you keep this in mind, you keep progressing towards that. Whatever that may be.

Posted by ImperfectStorm

Yes Pluto has been transiting my 4th house for the last few years.. it was a combination of by choice and by force.

In 2016 I first found out my sons dad cheated on me.. I moved out for the first time, but for the wrong reason (in hindsight). I still wanted it to work but wanted him to realize what he was risking. Our son was only 2 at that time and I still desperately wanted our family together.. so the move was subconsciously manipulative in a way, rather than truly wanting to end things.. if it wasn’t for the cheating I wouldn’t have moved, which is why I say that first move was by force. I didn’t want to move but at the same time couldn’t just sit still.

I moved back a few months later after a few sessions of couples therapy and church together.. But it was still me doing all the heavy lifting (surprise, surprise). I continued to go to therapy by myself even after he stopped. After a couple years of nothing changing and the sneaky behavior continued, I started to emotionally detach a little bit more each day, week, month etc.. until 2018 I was truly fed up and chose myself and moved out again. But this time it was because I was truly done.. so it was by choice.

It took a while to settle in to my new condo emotionally.. I went through a depression where the dishes would pile up in the sink, I didn’t put up a Christmas tree for the first couple of years and didn’t hang pictures on the wall.. over the last couple years I finally turned this place into “home”, and when my sons dad tried to get me back again, I couldn’t even stomach the idea of going back to sharing a home with him after experiencing the peace of mind that I have being apart from him.

It’s been a painful few years and definitely not what I’d planned, but I’m grateful for the lessons and the growth. Like stars said, it has taught me that we have control over absolutely nothing or no one except ourselves and what we are willing to tolerate. (Or not).

Oh & Pluto has been transiting my first house for years & I’m a 1st house stellium. omg seriously!

It’s sad to me how peoples’ resets are mostly centered around something painful/heartbreaks/end of relationships.

Resets can stem from the opposite as well. I was extremely nervous about getting married and completely intertwining my life with another human after believing I preferred solitude for the longest time. However it turned out to be one of the best things I ever did for myself. Enjoying and building life experiences with someone from the ground up can be so beautiful.

Posted by SassyKiwi

It’s sad to me how peoples’ resets are mostly centered around something painful/heartbreaks/end of relationships.

Resets can stem from the opposite as well. I was extremely nervous about getting married and completely intertwining my life with another human after believing I preferred solitude for the longest time. However it turned out to be one of the best things I ever did for myself. Enjoying and building life experiences with someone from the ground up can be so beautiful.

Well usually change is triggered by pain, but it doesn’t have to be. That is great you’ve had the opposite experience! Don’t get me wrong marriage #2 was like you mentioned for years. Or else it wouldn’t have lasted so long. Even sometimes bad things happen and you get through them. They all have ups & downs. The great ones will be able to work through anything together. Others hit a wall & it becomes toxic. I think there are stage of a relationship somewhere which describes it well.

Yeah I've done it

Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzul

My life has been a series of resets

Is that a good thing or bad thing?

Knowing me, my life will never result in a hard reset. It will always have to be the result of long and slow yet efficient growths, much like tackling a hoarding or addiction problem. Probably true for anyone with Taurus/Scorpio placements. If I want to lose weight, it'll take months. Mental health, probably years. Wealth, probably years as well. The long game isn't easy.

@AbbyNormal

"As long as the wonder is still there for me, I don’t feel my age."

I have a similar philosophy. "You are as old as you feel." Just turned 38.

In my past, big change was forced onto me by circumstances, other people's will & choices, and my passivity. Some rather nasty upsets.

Still going with the flow and keeping flexible with things but taking more control of the overall direction I'm headed.

Posted by SassyKiwi

It’s sad to me how peoples’ resets are mostly centered around something painful/heartbreaks/end of relationships.

Resets can stem from the opposite as well. I was extremely nervous about getting married and completely intertwining my life with another human after believing I preferred solitude for the longest time. However it turned out to be one of the best things I ever did for myself. Enjoying and building life experiences with someone from the ground up can be so beautiful.

I would like my next adventure to be something similar to this.

Moving country was one of the most significant resets I had that was chosen

All of my family passing was another which I had no control over...

Posted by Findingbalance

Yes. More than once. In the midst of one now, thanks in part to my twin flame. I guess that's just Scorpio things, y'all don't only do it for yourselves but for others as well. I can't say that it's easy but this particular one is probably fueling more growth than past adventures. But as typically for me, unsure if the path was the "right" one (the one originally planned somehow) I know it is where I'm supposed to be now but I think I picked the wrong one two years ago, which led to this one. Or so it felt (certain feelings and synchronicities have left, replaced by different signs), although I still believe the final outcome will be soul growth. I just wish it didn't feel like I missed the opportunity to know the peace I felt I was being led towards. If I did, it would make sense because that's a lifelong theme, I always pick the hard road 😜. Like Bon Jovi said, I did it my way.

You’re twin is a Scorp?

Posted by Lostthoughts

@AbbyNormal

"As long as the wonder is still there for me, I don’t feel my age."

I have a similar philosophy. "You are as old as you feel." Just turned 38.

In my past, big change was forced onto me by circumstances, other people's will & choices, and my passivity. Some rather nasty upsets.

Still going with the flow and keeping flexible with things but taking more control of the overall direction I'm headed.

I love this—I’m 38 as well! And I can relate with a lot that you said about your past. 💜

Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzul

My life has been a series of resets

#Pisceslife lol