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"The enemy of my enemy is my friend"
Better yet. The enemy of my enemy is my friend for the time being until loyalties are tested. The friend of my enemy is also my enemy.
Posted by Taureye
Not really. You have a common enemy and whats better than to double your strength when going against a common enemy? Total Frenemies
They may have a common enemy. But there's always the fact they may have fought the enemy of their enemy. So the enemy of my enemy is also my enemy and now everything will turn to a big pile of fuck
Posted by Koniucha
Friend of my enemy is my enemy, for sure
There could be 2 good people who aren't compatible.
I can be friend with both. But them 2 are not friends. They might hate each other.
But I can be compatible with them both.
Posted by Gemitati
I don't know why this phrase is used as something that is true.
I think it is totally wrong. Enemy of my enemy can be my worse nightmare enemy...
It is more speaking to a situational friendship. Often we have friends in life that come and go... Someone can be a friend for 5 mins and then do you wrong. It is important to set boundaries and look for motivations beyond the obvious. You should take into considerations why your enemy is not there friend but there enemy.
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they might betray you...that kind of thing.
it comes from this:
the end of The Spanish-American War/Roosevelt Corollary (1898-1902) meaning :
as long as I (or my country) have a common enemy with a given person (or other country) I will take the risk that this friend (or allied country) of mine might later betray me.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=my+enemy% 27s+enemy+is+my+friend
also very new age, or very relgious:
good article,
it's kind of a good subject for saturn in Sagittarius, surrounding religion, and how religion is linked to this.
* i mean they will take the chance.
for example, i was thinking of the Triad that formed, during ww2. Italy, Germany and Japan. they all formed a strong bond. triangles are symbolic of power.
Even J.K.Rowling refers alot to triangles (in friendship too with Hermione, Harry and Ron) because it forms power.
Agree about the wars but in this life the sentence is wrong.
Or incorrect so to speak...
Posted by Koniucha
Friend of my enemy is my enemy, for sure
And the enemy of your friend... is that also your enemy?
I think we had a thread on that, before.
Very interesting.
Posted by lisabethur8
* i mean they will take the chance.for example, i was thinking of the Triad that formed, during ww2. Italy, Germany and Japan. they all formed a strong bond. triangles are symbolic of power.
Even J.K.Rowling refers alot to triangles (in friendship too with Hermione, Harry and Ron) because it forms power.
Oh yeah.. a trinity.
A cord of three strands not easily broken.
Good point.
Posted by Koniucha
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Koniucha
Friend of my enemy is my enemy, for sure
And the enemy of your friend... is that also your enemy?
I think we had a thread on that, before.
Very interesting.
Yes
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Same.
A lot of people don't think that way though.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
In most cases, I agree with this statement. If we dislike the same person you're pretty much cool in my book unless you f*ck that up.
You can dislike same person and dislike the person who dislikes that person, right?
So 2 no's don't make 1 yes. Well, not in every case.
I think that statement should not be used unless its a war. LOL
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
In most cases, I agree with this statement. If we dislike the same person you're pretty much cool in my book unless you f*ck that up.
i'm like that in real life.
if my husband likes someone i dont like, i am upset with him.
we are close me and my hubs, like bonded.
so i notice that i dont like and not comfortable with someone, he was friends with, he will DROP him.
i didnt even have to say anything!!!!!
that's psychic.
i mean i try really really hard not to say anything because i dont want to control who and what my hubs hangs out with once in awhile.
but if i'm not comfortable, it's like he knows deeply. So he doesn't hurt me....and all of a sudden he DROPS him.
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Koniucha
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Koniucha
Friend of my enemy is my enemy, for sure
And the enemy of your friend... is that also your enemy?
I think we had a thread on that, before.
Very interesting.
Yes
Same.
A lot of people don't think that way though.
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nope. NOT many people think this way....
it's RARE and beautiful.
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Koniucha
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Koniucha
Friend of my enemy is my enemy, for sure
And the enemy of your friend... is that also your enemy?
I think we had a thread on that, before.
Very interesting.
Yes
Same.
A lot of people don't think that way though.
nope. NOT many people think this way....
it's RARE and beautiful.
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What is beautiful?
that a person you love emotionally understand without words, or arguments. it's a feeling.
Posted by lisabethur8
i mean i try really really hard not to say anything because i dont want to control who and what my hubs hangs out with once in awhile.but if i'm not comfortable, it's like he knows deeply. So he doesn't hurt me....and all of a sudden he DROPS him.
I don't think this is what we are talking about here.
What you are describing has nothing to do with enemies.
You just tell your husband who to hang out with, that is all.
Do YOU drop people he dislikes or he is not allowed to tell?
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
i mean i try really really hard not to say anything because i dont want to control who and what my hubs hangs out with once in awhile.but if i'm not comfortable, it's like he knows deeply. So he doesn't hurt me....and all of a sudden he DROPS him.
I don't think this is what we are talking about here.
What you are describing has nothing to do with enemies.
You just tell your husband who to hang out with, that is all.
Do YOU drop people he dislikes or he is not allowed to tell?click to expand
no i told you, i dont tell him to do anything.
you can't make a man do anything he dont want to do, remember that.
if he does stuff out of his own free will, that's his choice.
Posted by lisabethur8
that a person you love emotionally understand without words, or arguments. it's a feeling.
Bull. Person who loves another person will not control them like a high schooler.
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
i mean i try really really hard not to say anything because i dont want to control who and what my hubs hangs out with once in awhile.but if i'm not comfortable, it's like he knows deeply. So he doesn't hurt me....and all of a sudden he DROPS him.
I don't think this is what we are talking about here.
What you are describing has nothing to do with enemies.
You just tell your husband who to hang out with, that is all.
Do YOU drop people he dislikes or he is not allowed to tell?
no i told you, i dont tell him to do anything.click to expand
Sure you just puff your lipsies and look sadly or angry and he smart enough to get it.
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
that a person you love emotionally understand without words, or arguments. it's a feeling.
Bull. Person who loves another person will not control them like a high schooler.
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?? huh i just told you, i dont have to say anything.
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
i mean i try really really hard not to say anything because i dont want to control who and what my hubs hangs out with once in awhile.but if i'm not comfortable, it's like he knows deeply. So he doesn't hurt me....and all of a sudden he DROPS him.
I don't think this is what we are talking about here.
What you are describing has nothing to do with enemies.
You just tell your husband who to hang out with, that is all.
Do YOU drop people he dislikes or he is not allowed to tell?
no i told you, i dont tell him to do anything.
Sure you just puff your lipsies and look sadly or angry and he smart enough to get it.
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he can go hang out with that person without me though. that's the point. I wont be upset. I love my husband, he is free to do what he wants.
in the past i would just say, naw, you hang out with him i dont want to go with you guys. so yes he gets my emotional cues. but i wont control him. He wont be with a controlling woman.
everything is free will.
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
i mean i try really really hard not to say anything because i dont want to control who and what my hubs hangs out with once in awhile.but if i'm not comfortable, it's like he knows deeply. So he doesn't hurt me....and all of a sudden he DROPS him.
I don't think this is what we are talking about here.
What you are describing has nothing to do with enemies.
You just tell your husband who to hang out with, that is all.
Do YOU drop people he dislikes or he is not allowed to tell?
no i told you, i dont tell him to do anything.
Sure you just puff your lipsies and look sadly or angry and he smart enough to get it.
he can go hang out with that person without me though. that's the point. I wont be upset. I love my husband, he is free to do what he wants.
in the past i would just say, naw, you hang out with him i dont want to go with you guys. so yes he gets my emotional cues. but i wont control him. He wont be with a controlling woman.
everything is free will.
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May I ask what signs are creating such a beautiful union?
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by lisabethur8
i mean i try really really hard not to say anything because i dont want to control who and what my hubs hangs out with once in awhile.but if i'm not comfortable, it's like he knows deeply. So he doesn't hurt me....and all of a sudden he DROPS him.
I don't think this is what we are talking about here.
What you are describing has nothing to do with enemies.
You just tell your husband who to hang out with, that is all.
Do YOU drop people he dislikes or he is not allowed to tell?
no i told you, i dont tell him to do anything.
Sure you just puff your lipsies and look sadly or angry and he smart enough to get it.
he can go hang out with that person without me though. that's the point. I wont be upset. I love my husband, he is free to do what he wants.
in the past i would just say, naw, you hang out with him i dont want to go with you guys. so yes he gets my emotional cues. but i wont control him. He wont be with a controlling woman.
everything is free will.
May I ask what signs are creating such a beautiful union?
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well....it has to be the water. only the water...
Posted by tiziani
2 no's can make 1 very big yes when the negatives are uneven. When you're forced to choose between two uneven negatives, out of that often comes a very big cathartic positive for everyone involved.
Agree but not always the case. 50/50?
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I don't know why this phrase is used as something that is true.
I think it is totally wrong. Enemy of my enemy can be my worse nightmare enemy...