What's your love language?

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by krysrenee7 on Monday, November 4, 2013 and has 17 replies.

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1. WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
Unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Verbal compliments or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love to you. Actions don't always speak louder than words with you. Someone telling you how much they love you & why they love you will send your heart sky-rocketing. Someone using mainly verbal affirmation, compliments or words to express their love to you. The way someone speaks to you & the things they say matter the most & are what you hang onto the most. Example: Someone telling you they love you by literally saying it as opposed to someone cuddling with you or buying you something as a means of expressing that they love you. You receive love via compliments, words & verbal affirmation

2. QUALITY TIME
Nothing says "I love you" like full undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. For you, TIME is a strong communicator of love. The love language of quality time has many dialects. One of the most common is that of quality conversation — two individuals sharing their thoughts and feelings. You receive love via someone's effort & ability to spend quality time with you. Example: All of the sweetest words & promises in the world don't mean much unless that person is willing to take out the time to spend quality time with you as opposed to the person who would be fine not being around their partner as long as they being verbally affirmed.

3. GIFTS
Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures. Almost everything ever written on the subject of love indicates that at the heart of love is the spirit of giving. All five love languages challenge us to give to our spouse, but for some, receiving gifts, visible symbols of love, speaks the loudest. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, —Look, he was thinking of me,?? or, —She remembered me.
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4. ACTS OF SERVICE
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an —Acts of Service?? person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: —Let me do that for you.?? Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter.*

People who speak this love language seek to please their partners by serving them; to express their love for them by doing things for them. Actions such as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing the dishes, sorting the bills, walking the dog or dealing with landlords are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. I'm not saying become a doormat to your partner and do these things out of guilt or resentment. No person should ever be a doormat. Do these things as a lover. Example: Someone unexpectedly running your bath water after a long day or cleaning the house for you might be more meaningful to you as opposed to someone who'd prefer being taken out for dinner or cuddling with you on the couch.

5. PHYSICAL TOUCH
This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.*

Holding hands, kissing, hugging and sex — all of these are lifelines for the person for whom physical touch is the primary love language. With it, they feel secure in their partner??s love. —Love touches?? don't take much time, but they do require a little thought, especially if this isn't your primary love language or you didn't grow up in a —touching?? family. Sitting close to each other as you watch TV requires no additional time, but communicates your love loudly. Touching each other when you leave the house and when you return may involve only a brief kiss, but speaks volumes. Example: It'd mean much more to you for someone to hold you in a long kiss/hug/caress as opposed to someone who'd prefer someone cleaning the house for them as an expression of deep love.
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LMAOOOO! Love the pic!! So F'ng classic!

Sun: Aquarius
Venus: Capricorn
Primary LL: Quality time

I agree that gifts are the least important to me. I'd much rather have someone show me they love me by giving me their undivided attention vs. their undivided wallet lol
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Libra - i have a tie between quality time and physical touch.. I love when he is with me and i love being touched.. I get so upset if he sits there and stare and not make physical contact.. I love gifts as well.. like little trinkets.