Pregnant and don't know who the father is..

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by sharareperez_808 on Sunday, November 3, 2013 and has 19 replies.

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@sharareperez_808
13 Years

Please don't be rude.

My bf and I split up and April 26,2013 I had sex with another guy and used a condom. It was covered in my cum so I couldn't see if it tore or if it was my cum. But the guy said he checked it out & that the condom hadn't been broken.

June 1 I took a pregnancy test it came back positive. The day after April 26 I was back with my bf. We continued having unprotected sex until June & a lot of unprotected sex in April before we broke up.

I told the doctor the first day of my last menstrual period was April 26 which it wasn't because I had sex with the other guy that day & had no period. I just couldn't remember when it was last. I had an ultrasound done and they told me the first day of my last menstrual period had actually been on May 2, a week after April 26.

Is it at all possible that this baby is the other guys and not my bf's?

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@sweethearts
20 Years5,000+ Posts

Ask you doctor but I would suspect you got pregnant 14 days before 2nd May. What age is the baby via ultrasound?

More to the point are you going to come clean with the bf and is he still in the picture?

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@pathfinder
20 Years1,000+ Posts

Best is to know when you were ovulating -- which is 1 day a month. Once the egg is released from the ovary, it lives about 24 hours. Sperm can live in your body for (about) 3-5 days, so there's about a 6 day period when you could get pregnant; i.e.: 3-5 days before ovulation through the day WHEN you ovulate. Do you have regular periods?

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@sharareperez_808
13 Years

When the doctors told me the first day of my last period was May 2 I was 15 weeks & 6 days pregnant I think. What would that mean? I can't remember if I had a period after the guy either. Yes my bf knows. It's hard because we're both stressing out in hope that this baby is his since we were not using protection.

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@sharareperez_808
13 Years

If May 2 was the day of the first day of my lmp my due date would be February 6. 13 weeks & 4 days left till I give birth. What would this mean?

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@sharareperez_808
13 Years

I had a lot of sex with my bf after April 26 so it's especially hard to pinpoint. I did take a pregnancy test May 3 it was negative. May 4 my bf & I had unprotected sex a lot & the next day & the next etc.. If the doctors are right I conceived somewhere around May 10-16. Really hard for me to know who it could've been.

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@flipyourwig
13 Years

And this is why I always with out fail use Spermicidal Inserts with women. You may have to wait 10 minutes for the suckers to dissolve, but there is a thing called foreplay too. As long as you put a new one in before starting the next sex session so to speak, it's good to go. Provided you're patient with waiting 10 minutes everything.

I'd rather wait 10 minutes, then have to deal with 10 years of raising kids. I noticed the OP said "lots of sex with her boyfriend" Being a Sag Moon myself I can attest that we have raging libidos 🙂

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@ladylibra21
11 Years1,000+ Posts

From the timing it sounds like the baby is your boyfriends but it’s good that he knows that it might not be . I would say since you both know about this it’s best to just put the idea out in your mind for now as best as you can and just enjoy being pregnant. Can’t change what happened what you both need right now is acceptance. It also wouldn’t hurt to have a real conversation about how he would feel if the baby wasn’t his. Meaning is he just there to work it out because you are pregnant or does he want you. You both should be honest with each other because resentment is a hell of a thing.