KittenLaRouge
@KittenLaRouge
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when a man wont let you see his phone
Already trying to stuff your Gemini man into a genie bottle, are ya?
Lol.
Lol.
Posted by RamOfPeaceYes. But shouldnt there be transparency? I have no trouble with him looking at my phone.
Already trying to stuff your Gemini man into a genie bottle, are ya?
Lol.
I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.
Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.
Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.
I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.
But I also don't ask to see theirs.
But I also don't ask to see theirs.
Posted by busyeyes88Gemini. Hes doing shady ish, imo.Posted by KittenLaRougeRed flag!!!
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.
Claims we are in a relationship?
Im peeping game here.
Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?
The taurus will have me in his flat with his ipad, his phone etc he will leave with me and will even let me find certain numbers on it for him if his hands are tied....
You have no right to be looking or sneaking a peak at each others phones etc as that is private imo but to take his phone everywhere... It's a red flag and a warning...
Is this the pisces?click to expand
Posted by AndalusiaDICK PIC COLLECTOR!
I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.
But I also don't ask to see theirs.
I mean yes, I need those spreadsheet sent to me now.
Posted by aquasnozHa! Pics eh?
I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.
Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.
All this looking at one's phone, asking questions like "what are we?" "where is this going?" and the like, are honestly from having too much free time and too many roaches in one's brain.
Why not enjoy the relationship in the present moment instead, rather than self-sabotage? Who cares who he texts, or even sends pictures to?
If he keeps communicating, calls/texts at his own will, seeks dates with you/looks forward to spending all sorts of times with you, then you got it made.
Don't fuck his brain. Or yours, for that matter.
Why not enjoy the relationship in the present moment instead, rather than self-sabotage? Who cares who he texts, or even sends pictures to?
If he keeps communicating, calls/texts at his own will, seeks dates with you/looks forward to spending all sorts of times with you, then you got it made.
Don't fuck his brain. Or yours, for that matter.
Also, how did that cooking at his place end up? Did he at least tie you up doe?
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.
Posted by busyeyes88I Can hand him my phone I have nothing to hide. He guards his like fort knox.
OP, blimey what happened to the pisces...
There is no need to be looking at each other's phones as I think it's private but to not leave his phone alone in your presence suggests he does not trust you or that he has something to hide...
Posted by aquaaa0214So you cant be transparent?
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.
Posted by KittenLaRougeI kid 😛 I usually dispose of all evidence.Posted by aquasnozHa! Pics eh?
I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.
Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.click to expand
Is the gem a business oriented person? I do safeguard my phone for work purposes, it's got very sensitive information on there.
Posted by aquaaa0214She's been actually *seeing* the guy for less than a month, equal to the amount of time I've been seeing my Gem. Trust is built, not granted. 2-4 weeks is just scratching the surface. Paranoia isn't good imo. But if this is getting in the way already, then it's their own problem and it probably won't last that long.
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.
Posted by RamOfPeaceHaha! The first date was great
Also, how did that cooking at his place end up? Did he at least tie you up doe?
Posted by KittenLaRougeIlluminate me 😛Posted by RamOfPeaceHaha! The first date was great
Also, how did that cooking at his place end up? Did he at least tie you up doe?click to expand
Posted by RamOfPeaceSo what? I can hand him.my phone. Nothing to hide.Posted by aquaaa0214She's been actually *seeing* the guy for less than a month, equal to the amount of time I've been seeing my Gem. Trust is built, not granted. 2-4 weeks is just scratching the surface. Paranoia isn't good imo. But if this is getting in the way already, then it's their own problem and it probably won't last that long.
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.click to expand
Posted by KittenLaRougeEeeh just seems like extra headache to me. Checking phones, all these supposedly aerious talks over nothing that is actually important. But I'm not you, so do as you please. LolPosted by RamOfPeaceSo what? I can hand him.my phone. Nothing to hide.Posted by aquaaa0214She's been actually *seeing* the guy for less than a month, equal to the amount of time I've been seeing my Gem. Trust is built, not granted. 2-4 weeks is just scratching the surface. Paranoia isn't good imo. But if this is getting in the way already, then it's their own problem and it probably won't last that long.
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.click to expand
Posted by aquasnozNo, unless hes a drug dealerPosted by KittenLaRougeI kid 😛 I usually dispose of all evidence.Posted by aquasnozHa! Pics eh?
I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.
Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.
Is the gem a business oriented person? I do safeguard my phone for work purposes, it's got very sensitive information on there.click to expand
Posted by aquasnozAlso, the timing of our two comments.Posted by AndalusiaDICK PIC COLLECTOR!
I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.
But I also don't ask to see theirs.
I mean yes, I need those spreadsheet sent to me now.click to expand
/dead
Posted by aquasnozAlso, the timing of our two comments.Posted by AndalusiaDICK PIC COLLECTOR!
I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.
But I also don't ask to see theirs.
I mean yes, I need those spreadsheet sent to me now.click to expand
/dead
He's hiding something it's obvious.
Posted by thinktoomuch
If HE askes YOU to see YOUR phone, then why not just ask him, why you can´t see his then? Talk to the boy!
If you just hand him your phone and then ask to see his and he denies you, then that´s an entirely different story.
After a month and you already think like this, I´d say you´re not really gonna work out...
this is exactly what happened he asked for the code to my phone, i handed it to him and said here, it doesnt have a code you can just see it i have nothing to hide. i said can i see yours he said no i said why, he said dont ask me again and wouldnt let the phone out of his sight. even took it into the bathroom.
Posted by frostey91thank you
He's hiding something it's obvious.
Posted by busyeyes88i need transparency in a relationshipPosted by KittenLaRougeMy point is, it is not necessary to hand him your phone unless he needs.to use it... I gave my phone to my Taurus the other day as he needed to use one as his was occupied and I had no hesitation handing it to him....Posted by busyeyes88I Can hand him my phone I have nothing to hide. He guards his like fort knox.
OP, blimey what happened to the pisces...
There is no need to be looking at each other's phones as I think it's private but to not leave his phone alone in your presence suggests he does not trust you or that he has something to hide...
People do not need to be checking on each other... A person's phone ipad laptop computer etc imo is private. I would not touch. But it is obvious there is no trust here.. How long have you been in a relationship?click to expand
Posted by cuteboyIt has to be both ways though. Either they both can see it or neither. Honestly it's too early for this shit anyway. They have only been dating for like a week or so...Posted by KittenLaRougemaybe he's private and don't want to share what he has on his phone to anybody be it lover, spouse or just a friend. quite honestly i don't blame him. i sure as hell don't want no one looking into my phone. and i don't even ask my fiance to let me see her phone because what she has on it is none of my business.
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.
Claims we are in a relationship?
Im peeping game here.
Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?click to expand
I dont care. If a man gonna cheat, gonna cheat.
Posted by KittenLaRougePosted by thinktoomuch
If HE askes YOU to see YOUR phone, then why not just ask him, why you can´t see his then? Talk to the boy!
If you just hand him your phone and then ask to see his and he denies you, then that´s an entirely different story.
After a month and you already think like this, I´d say you´re not really gonna work out...
this is exactly what happened he asked for the code to my phone, i handed it to him and said here, it doesnt have a code you can just see it i have nothing to hide. i said can i see yours he said no i said why, he said dont ask me again and wouldnt let the phone out of his sight. even took it into the bathroom.click to expand
Two way street.
He's cheating. Period. Make it work or move on. Sorry.
Posted by KoniuchaA very optimistic thought by nah
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster
Posted by KoniuchaSo cute :3
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster
Posted by Magenta_AzureHe is deceiving they haven't even been together long enough to cheat. He's decieving...
He's cheating. Period. Make it work or move on. Sorry.
I knee this was a going to be a disaster from the jump...
Posted by frostey91I handed him my phone I have nothing to hidePosted by cuteboyIt has to be both ways though. Either they both can see it or neither. Honestly it's too early for this shit anyway. They have only been dating for like a week or so...Posted by KittenLaRougemaybe he's private and don't want to share what he has on his phone to anybody be it lover, spouse or just a friend. quite honestly i don't blame him. i sure as hell don't want no one looking into my phone. and i don't even ask my fiance to let me see her phone because what she has on it is none of my business.
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.
Claims we are in a relationship?
Im peeping game here.
Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?click to expand
Posted by Vixen2He turns it off when im there and takes it into the bathroomPosted by KittenLaRougesounds like a scorpio man...
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.
Claims we are in a relationship?
Im peeping game here.
Ils this guy yanking my chain or nah?
although if I had asked he would of shown me, but I just never did & didn't care that went threw mine..
some people are just more private and guarded then others and may not have anything to hide...just the principle but I see your point completely about him looking at yours...
insecurities...click to expand
I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?
Posted by candycloudsHe said were in a relstionship
I would give him 3 months to decide whether you really like him, he really likes you and whether this is going to be a serious official relationship.(it actually takes 6 months or a year to know him better, but at least for now)
Then I would tell talk with him if he also thinks you should be official etc. AND I would tell him what I understand from a serious relationship:
Transparency
Being exclusive- no sending or receiving pics from other people even if only from internet
Telling flings from the past that You have a bf /gf if they message you and ask for pics or call or meeting..
the list can go on. You need to talk about it all. But after about 3 months.
Posted by Koniucha😄Posted by frostey91I was being sarcastic.Posted by KoniuchaA very optimistic thought by nah
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster
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Posted by frostey913 weeks. He said let me see your phone I handed it to him, I said let me see yours he said no. I said I think your texting othrr females. He said, prove it
I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?
Posted by JDrakeThank you. This is Exactly what im thinking as well. Dude is running game.
KLR said that he wanted to see her phone, she let him, but when she asked him to reciprocate, he refused.
The issue here is not "when" or "whether" this should happen, it's whether there should be reciprocity in this scenario. The answer to that is "yes."
He pulled a fast move on her and took advantage of her. I don't blame her for being pissed.
KLR, this guy is trouble with a capital "T." Initiate immediate DUMP protocol!
Posted by KoniuchaI knew you were playing devil's advocate...That was obvious. I was just shutting it down because OP is right.Posted by aquasnozI thought it was pretty obvious 😛Posted by Koniucha😄Posted by frostey91I was being sarcastic.Posted by KoniuchaA very optimistic thought by nah
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster
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There is not much we can do for the Kitten
KittenLaRouge slow down...Just slow down
Don't be so transparent with a man that is not being transparent with you. It must be mutual because if it's not mutual naturally you're going to feel suspicious if it's one sided.
You've demonstrated you're already ALL IN by giving up your phone without blinking and that can make some men feel like pulling back which has a tendency to make a woman feel paranoid, afraid and clingy.
He's guarding his privacy fiercely like a lot of single men do.
Next time don't be so quick to offer up your phone even if you don't have anything to hide unless and I mean unless he's offered to give you the same mutual access to his phone.
He could be hiding something for sure. It's early situation and I'm sure he has not rid himself of all his old contacts just yet, that will come much later as things get more serious.
He could have just been testing to see if you're more into him than he's into you by pushing boundaries. Women that are more into a man will give up their freedom easily and shirk her own boundaries just to show a man she's available, this behavior can help you or hurt you depending on his real intentions to date you seriously or not.
I would suggest being a little bit more stingy with your personal life until a man can demonstrate he's in it for the long haul, right now it's way too early to tell if this is going to be a long term or short term situation.
So for now leave the phone issue alone. Put a code on your phone and before eagerly handing over your personal private information including access to phones, ipads etc make sure it's a mutual situation where you're both sharing or you'll find yourself in these same situations going forward with him or any man.
Don't be so transparent with a man that is not being transparent with you. It must be mutual because if it's not mutual naturally you're going to feel suspicious if it's one sided.
You've demonstrated you're already ALL IN by giving up your phone without blinking and that can make some men feel like pulling back which has a tendency to make a woman feel paranoid, afraid and clingy.
He's guarding his privacy fiercely like a lot of single men do.
Next time don't be so quick to offer up your phone even if you don't have anything to hide unless and I mean unless he's offered to give you the same mutual access to his phone.
He could be hiding something for sure. It's early situation and I'm sure he has not rid himself of all his old contacts just yet, that will come much later as things get more serious.
He could have just been testing to see if you're more into him than he's into you by pushing boundaries. Women that are more into a man will give up their freedom easily and shirk her own boundaries just to show a man she's available, this behavior can help you or hurt you depending on his real intentions to date you seriously or not.
I would suggest being a little bit more stingy with your personal life until a man can demonstrate he's in it for the long haul, right now it's way too early to tell if this is going to be a long term or short term situation.
So for now leave the phone issue alone. Put a code on your phone and before eagerly handing over your personal private information including access to phones, ipads etc make sure it's a mutual situation where you're both sharing or you'll find yourself in these same situations going forward with him or any man.
Posted by frostey91Would u letba girl see your phonePosted by KoniuchaI knew you were playing devil's advocate...That was obvious. I was just shutting it down because OP is right.Posted by aquasnozI thought it was pretty obvious 😛Posted by Koniucha😄Posted by frostey91I was being sarcastic.Posted by KoniuchaA very optimistic thought by nah
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster
There is not much we can do for the Kittenclick to expand
Posted by KittenLaRougeHe is not worth it.Posted by JDrakeThank you. This is Exactly what im thinking as well. Dude is running game.
KLR said that he wanted to see her phone, she let him, but when she asked him to reciprocate, he refused.
The issue here is not "when" or "whether" this should happen, it's whether there should be reciprocity in this scenario. The answer to that is "yes."
He pulled a fast move on her and took advantage of her. I don't blame her for being pissed.
KLR, this guy is trouble with a capital "T." Initiate immediate DUMP protocol!click to expand
It sucks yall work together.
Sketchy cannot be one sided.
I would chuck up the deuces now.
I have nothing to hide...
Posted by frostey91+ 100Posted by KittenLaRougeHe is not worth it.Posted by JDrakeThank you. This is Exactly what im thinking as well. Dude is running game.
KLR said that he wanted to see her phone, she let him, but when she asked him to reciprocate, he refused.
The issue here is not "when" or "whether" this should happen, it's whether there should be reciprocity in this scenario. The answer to that is "yes."
He pulled a fast move on her and took advantage of her. I don't blame her for being pissed.
KLR, this guy is trouble with a capital "T." Initiate immediate DUMP protocol!
It sucks yall work together.
Sketchy cannot be one sided.
I would chuck up the deuces now.click to expand
Posted by cuteboyPosted by thinktoomuchI wouldnt get mad at that
Could be he has pics, he doesn´t want you to see, but they could just be pics.
This. or dirty freaky type videos he don't want her to see. heck i got shit like that on my phone in case i get in a horny mood 😛.click to expand
Posted by KittenLaRougeYeah... HUGE red flag.Posted by frostey913 weeks. He said let me see your phone I handed it to him, I said let me see yours he said no. I said I think your texting othrr females. He said, prove it
I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?click to expand
Prove it? Fuck you buddy. Why the hell even say that? Course you can't "prove it" because mofo won't let you see his phone.
I agree with others. If he was flying straight and true he wouldn't (shouldn't) mind, imo.
I would say mirror him (my Scorpio Moon demands it!). Pull back and see what he does. He says you'll NEVER use/see his phone? Well don't EVER show him yours.
You say you need transparency in a relationship. I can relate to his. If it is truly a relationship need then you should move on to someone else who respects or also has that need.
Posted by KittenLaRougeHe said prove it, huh. Do yourself a favour and drop him, he's a control freak and that whole "prove it" thing is emotional abuse. It's not going to get better, these things only get worse.Posted by frostey913 weeks. He said let me see your phone I handed it to him, I said let me see yours he said no. I said I think your texting othrr females. He said, prove it
I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?click to expand
Posted by DMVI agree, if that's what they want to do, they'll find a way.
I dont care. If a man gonna cheat, gonna cheat.
Besides, things can be easily erased beforehand.
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Claims we are in a relationship?
Im peeping game here.
Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?