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When bad things happens it's to move us away from our current path to a new a brighter path...
Posted by xyIrising
When bad things happens it's to move us away from our current path to a new a brighter path...Sometimes. It doesn't always happen.
I'm at that point. Where exactly is this better path?
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I recently went through this...Felt the doors had closed for me where I used to live, but wasn't ready to leave(friends/bf/sister/job) But then over a few years all those things went away/were not hurdles anymore and then an opportunity came to leave that felt right and haven't looked back. I think you just gotta look out for the signs and then when you see things/people being move around/out of your life you know it's almost time and just look for that new door to go through, whether it's a new job, relationship, place to live, etc. The good thing is there will always be change 🙂
Posted by Moonbutter
I recently went through this...Felt the doors had closed for me where I used to live, but wasn't ready to leave(friends/bf/sister/job) But then over a few years all those things went away/were not hurdles anymore and then an opportunity came to leave that felt right and haven't looked back. I think you just gotta look out for the signs and then when you see things/people being move around/out of your life you know it's almost time and just look for that new door to go through, whether it's a new job, relationship, place to live, etc. The good thing is there will always be change 🙂
I'll look for clues but I don't want to wait for everyone to move on so that I can move. Strategically it doesn't work for me. It'll cause me to act out of desperation. Desperation equals bad decisions.
Posted by Moonbutter
I recently went through this...Felt the doors had closed for me where I used to live, but wasn't ready to leave(friends/bf/sister/job) But then over a few years all those things went away/were not hurdles anymore and then an opportunity came to leave that felt right and haven't looked back. I think you just gotta look out for the signs and then when you see things/people being move around/out of your life you know it's almost time and just look for that new door to go through, whether it's a new job, relationship, place to live, etc. The good thing is there will always be change 🙂
I'll look for clues but I don't want to wait for everyone to move on so that I can move. Strategically it doesn't work for me. It'll cause me to act out of desperation. Desperation equals bad decisions.
I've heard and seen others with stories about one bad event causing to move in a different direction because they no longer had ties where they once were. Ex. Guys gf breaks up with him. So he finally decides to leave HUD hometown where he no job, no future prospects and in need of a change. He moves gets a better secure job/career, meets a girl gets married and starts a family.
Posted by xyIrising
Posted by VenusStar
But how do we know what to do or if we should be changing paths. Maybe were meant to stay and fight. I've stayed and fought. I've lost too many battles to count with no impending rewards or better days to look forward to in the near future or for the next few years.
how do we know what to do
-when old ways/habits leave you unsatisfied
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Treat yourself once in awhile
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working on changing the habits. Can't really treat myself. At this point material things ,shows etc won't make me happy
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by Moonbutter
I recently went through this...Felt the doors had closed for me where I used to live, but wasn't ready to leave(friends/bf/sister/job) But then over a few years all those things went away/were not hurdles anymore and then an opportunity came to leave that felt right and haven't looked back. I think you just gotta look out for the signs and then when you see things/people being move around/out of your life you know it's almost time and just look for that new door to go through, whether it's a new job, relationship, place to live, etc. The good thing is there will always be change 🙂
I'll look for clues but I don't want to wait for everyone to move on so that I can move. Strategically it doesn't work for me. It'll cause me to act out of desperation. Desperation equals bad decisions.click to expand
Nope, this just happened in my case...but def look for the "clues". Some people it is better to just take action you gotta do what works for you.
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by xyIrising
Posted by VenusStar
But how do we know what to do or if we should be changing paths. Maybe were meant to stay and fight. I've stayed and fought. I've lost too many battles to count with no impending rewards or better days to look forward to in the near future or for the next few years.
how do we know what to do
-when old ways/habits leave you unsatisfied
----
Treat yourself once in awhile
working on changing the habits. Can't really treat myself. At this point material things ,shows etc won't make me happyclick to expand
What do you want to change? What are you unhappy about?
@moonbutter - I want to change everything but it seems that Murpheys Law has become a close friend. Every time I try to make a change something bad happens specifically to keep me from pursuing the action that I want.
Ex. My phone doesn't ring all week (job search) and the one day that the phone gets glitchy and doesn't work I miss a call from a possible job.
I decide to start my exercise program again and that afternoon I trip and fall and sprain my ankle. Starting to think I'm cursed.
@TaurusGirlRas- you hit the nail on the head. That's exactly what's been happening. Something bad happens and I try to ignore it and move on and things keep getting worst.
Bad life events. Got a job that paid a lot of money but it was the wrong job for me. I stuck it out for the money. It that time I had my self esteem ripped to shreds and my nerves on edge for 3 years. I was fired/ set up by my boss (that still eats at my soul). Then I thought I met the guy I would marry (Libra) but after what i d been through with the last job I decided a relationship wasn't for, I just told him I wasn't ready. He thought it was because i thoufht he wasnt good enough. He was bitter and sulky and moved. I was heartbroken, now numb. Then I decided not work for a few months, that turned into 2 years. Went from to zero credit card debt to " a new car" worth credit card debt. Missed two payments on one card and it went to collections. Sued 60 days later. Started my job search 9 months ago only to come to the realization that my degree and 6 years work experience means nothing so I'm applying for data entry jobs. My family doesn't respect me. Laptop can't work because it won't charge. Warranty is over and I can't afford repairs.
-sorry, you asked
Still feeling down
Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by xyIrising
When bad things happens it's to move us away from our current path to a new a brighter path...Sometimes. It doesn't always happen.
I'm at that point. Where exactly is this better path?
Positive thinking and image even through hardships will exude positive energy and that positive energy will draw in people who will help us get back up on the path that we are suppose to be on.
Negative energy in down times will make it worse... Try and keep focused on the things you want. Put on attire and do things which give an outward confidence and these in itself will help you feel better.... You will get there in the end. Where there is life there is hope. Whilst you are suffering, always remember there are others in the world who are suffering more than you are and whose predicaments are dire...
Always have PMA (positive Mental Attitude) in everything you do and you will reap the rewards of your efforts when you least expect to...
Leo rising /taurus sun/ Leo moon.
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thanks busy. I've been waking up for the past 30 days deeply depressed.
I'm almost 32 with no career, broke, I had some "friends" but I dumped them because they're drag me down and drain me mentally . no bf prospects. Looks like I'm stuck living with/ taking care of my mom for life.
Posted by thinktoomuch
Sometimes bad things just happen. Things happen without a reason or meaning all the time.I too like to assign meaning and reason to things, but as you may well know now, it´s not always good for you.
You can choose to look at it this way: bad things happen, to keep you from certain things. But you can also look at it as bad things happen, to make sure you want xx and help you fight for it by challenging you.
you're right there has to be a reason for all this pain and bad events in my life. I hope. I do want a different life.
Posted by SDNA
doesn't sound so bad. try relocating to a 3rd world country that likes foreigners. 😛
can't leave parent behind otherwise id be carefree and typical Taurus all about career and setting up house.
Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by xyIrising
When bad things happens it's to move us away from our current path to a new a brighter path...Sometimes. It doesn't always happen.
I'm at that point. Where exactly is this better path?
Positive thinking and image even through hardships will exude positive energy and that positive energy will draw in people who will help us get back up on the path that we are suppose to be on.
Negative energy in down times will make it worse... Try and keep focused on the things you want. Put on attire and do things which give an outward confidence and these in itself will help you feel better.... You will get there in the end. Where there is life there is hope. Whilst you are suffering, always remember there are others in the world who are suffering more than you are and whose predicaments are dire...
Always have PMA (positive Mental Attitude) in everything you do and you will reap the rewards of your efforts when you least expect to...
Leo rising /taurus sun/ Leo moon.
thanks busy. I've been waking up for the past 30 days deeply depressed.I'm almost 32 with no career, broke, I had some "friends" but I dumped them because they're drag me down and drain me mentally . no bf prospects. Looks like I'm stuck living with/ taking care of my mom for life.
At 32 you have tonnes of time to start anew. Time is on your side. I was down (but not out) 3 years ago and only during the last 12 months slowly getting back to my "original state". I turn 50 next month and still keeping positive. I have some more struggles and hurdles ahead but I remain positive. My taurus crush and some strangers throughout the three year journey have been there to help and have become good friends and positive influences in my life. My life has been tough (venus and Saturn conjunct in pisces and in 8th house with many personal losses) but has also been good.
Keep thinking positive. You will succeed. Never give up hope and strive for what you want.
"I believe I can fly" by R Kelly was the song I would listen too in my times of hardship and even though the words brought tears to my eyes they gave me hope....
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that gives me hope. I Saturn in Scorpio retrograde in the 2nd house. And Scorpio retrograde in mars and Pluto.
I guess I should find a song to give me some daily hope so I don't drown in sorrow.
Posted by SDNA
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by SDNA
doesn't sound so bad. try relocating to a 3rd world country that likes foreigners. 😛
can't leave parent behind otherwise id be carefree and typical Taurus all about career and setting up house.
why does it hinder? 1 person doesn't take up much space. shit i have 7 ppl sleeping in my garage!
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lmao.. you seem laid back. I get annoyed by any sounds or the rearranging of my things and she's not the easiest person to live with.
@SDNA- you should set those people free.
Posted by idk
i like these threads... i think it's because they involve change
you're probably gonna hate my generic response, but i think those are the best.
i think a lot of people use "path" to describe their lives... and i'm sure that's accurate...
but especially if you are changing paths, there's no guarantee that the path you are on and the path you want to be on are intersecting. you might go through different interchanges before you get to where you want.
sometimes you gotta hack through the brush, and it might not be easy... i personally couldn't take a cookie-cutter type of life.the parents thing is tough. immediate family is tough in general, i think, for everyone at varying degrees.
i try to stay as close to home as possible.
but when i go back, i consistently feel like "FUCK. THIS. SHIT. RIGHT NOW. i don't need it"
when i leave...... i consistently feel like i'm missing out on something that i have a stake in.
i had to weigh the costs and benefits. if i stayed i would not be living to any sort of potential happiness at all. i feel like i would be moving backwards in life, tbh. i don't know how i'll feel 5 years from now, i do know i'm happiest without interference from guilt, drama, and the like.
it's tough, but i'm sure everyone goes through different things.
you're but still trying to figure where I should be. I myself have been stifled in growth because I stayed home. This isn't the case for everyone who does it but my family , like others, are overbearing. The only way they'll accept change in you ,is for you to leave and find your way back at a later date.as for paths every decision seems to GI wrong. I suspect my path is supposed to be radically different.
Ive learned to not hold onto anything too tightly.
It may seem like im giving up but id rather commit to things that make me happy and amputate things that dont make me happy.
Any sight of friction, i will list pros and cons, future benefit/potential and then i decide to leave or stuck it through.
In the past ive let my ego and emotions let them lead me.
My ego and self worth are extremely important to me. Any friction to those things and im ready to move on and never look back.
Ive never regreted my decisions. Im resilient and always bounce back.
@capricormoon - I do believe in God. With everything that's been happening, I did decide that everything that's happening is beyond my capabilities at this point. I made a decision to start going to the prayer meetings at my church. I missed it last week but I'll start this week.
As for the other thing. I suspect that may have happened, there are plenty who hate me. Evil people attack the "weak". When i fight back, they get extra mad because they thought i was easy prey. I dont want to give them attention. All I can do is pray and hope that whatever was put towards me was placed on them.
@capricornmoon but I hope its nothing. I don't like to give those thing power over me.
For example, Im in a tough spot at work. I felt that before i got this new virgo boss i was on a great path of success with my job. I was happy and content.
Then she happened. Even my psychic warned me that change was coming and i didnt believe her. Like i said i was feeling good about my job.
Now. Things have totally changed. I am not happy with my job at all. Its obvious. Every one except the virgo wants me to stay and the cfo, the virgos boss, is begging me to stay. But the virgo threatens me with termination all the time behind closed doors. Then shes nice infront of her boss.
People tell me to stay and just ignore her. Make the money. But my happiness is diminishing.
Whats the right path?
My current job or a new job?
@idk - lmao I can relate . I have been the nosy neighbor to call the cops if things get roudy and peak through my blinds.
I do hope all of this is bad life events. Let's put the juju to rest. I will be praying though. I hope the praying help direct me to where I should go. Its hard to move along blindly not knowing where you should be.
Ive decided to do what feels good. To do what is scary. To do the unknown. To trust in God and let him order my steps.
Ive decided to do what makes me happy. Leave this virgo bitch and take control of my life.
@dmv I read about your job a few threads ago. You're in a different position because the CFO is on your side. No job is worth your happiness. I would say stick it out if Virgo will be fired for ask the CFO to place you somewhere else. You spend too much time at work to be unhappy. I was in the same place 6 six years ago. I felt sick to my stomach because I knew something was wrong and ignore it. Feelings never go away. It made me anxious . the job got progressively bad during the year and messed me up so much that I could focus on goals outside of work . I wasn't happy and content.
Posted by DMV
Ive decided to do what feels good. To do what is scary. To do the unknown. To trust in God and let him order my steps.Ive decided to do what makes me happy. Leave this virgo bitch and take control of my life.
didn't see this. I hope it works out for you. Your time and happiness is important. I'm sick to my stomach to think I put up with a monster for years. Someone to tell me when to come and go at work. One of my pet peeves is when people tell me what to do. So to think I put myself through that torture only to be set up and fired. That jerk even yelled and demeaned the hr rep. Sad.
Posted by SDNA
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by SDNA
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by SDNA
doesn't sound so bad. try relocating to a 3rd world country that likes foreigners. 😛
can't leave parent behind otherwise id be carefree and typical Taurus all about career and setting up house.
why does it hinder? 1 person doesn't take up much space. shit i have 7 ppl sleeping in my garage!
lmao.. you seem laid back. I get annoyed by any sounds or the rearranging of my things and she's not the easiest person to live with.
just concentrate on the job then. most problems can be solved with money.
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yeah. I hate to say it but I'm not too impressed by money but nothing can be done without it.
Don't let those people near your car. They'll sleep it.
Posted by VenusStar
@dmv I read about your job a few threads ago. You're in a different position because the CFO is on your side. No job is worth your happiness. I would say stick it out if Virgo will be fired for ask the CFO to place you somewhere else. You spend too much time at work to be unhappy. I was in the same place 6 six years ago. I felt sick to my stomach because I knew something was wrong and ignore it. Feelings never go away. It made me anxious . the job got progressively bad during the year and messed me up so much that I could focus on goals outside of work . I wasn't happy and content.
Even tho her boss wants me to stay. Her boss still puts the virgo on a pedestal. This virgo has received numerous complaints from me and other employees. Her boss is a taurus and i think its hard for her to admit she made a mistake.
The thing is...b4 things started really getting bad. The taurus promoted the virgo after only 3 months of employment.
So the taurus just wants to use me because i know the work. I know the game. I peeped that shit.
Maybe my story will help you. Change is scary but its your life. You better make the best of it
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by DMV
Ive decided to do what feels good. To do what is scary. To do the unknown. To trust in God and let him order my steps.Ive decided to do what makes me happy. Leave this virgo bitch and take control of my life.
didn't see this. I hope it works out for you. Your time and happiness is important. I'm sick to my stomach to think I put up with a monster for years. Someone to tell me when to come and go at work. One of my pet peeves is when people tell me what to do. So to think I put myself through that torture only to be set up and fired. That jerk even yelled and demeaned the hr rep. Sad.click to expand
Yes!!! This virgo is so petty. She watches the clock like a beast. Pays way too much attention to when ppl come and go and not enough attention to learning her job. Laat time i checked i was not 12. Im a professional.
When she doesnt have DMV as a scapegoat anymore then what?
She aint my problem anymore
Sorry to highjack your thread. I read your work woes and it triggered me.
Posted by DMV
Posted by VenusStar
@dmv I read about your job a few threads ago. You're in a different position because the CFO is on your side. No job is worth your happiness. I would say stick it out if Virgo will be fired for ask the CFO to place you somewhere else. You spend too much time at work to be unhappy. I was in the same place 6 six years ago. I felt sick to my stomach because I knew something was wrong and ignore it. Feelings never go away. It made me anxious . the job got progressively bad during the year and messed me up so much that I could focus on goals outside of work . I wasn't happy and content.
Even tho her boss wants me to stay. Her boss still puts the virgo on a pedestal. This virgo has received numerous complaints from me and other employees. Her boss is a taurus and i think its hard for her to admit she made a mistake.
The thing is...b4 things started really getting bad. The taurus promoted the virgo after only 3 months of employment.
So the taurus just wants to use me because i know the work. I know the game. I peeped that shit.
Maybe my story will help you. Change is scary but its your life. You better make the best of it
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My last boss's boss was a Taurus. He promoted the idiot to manager knowing that he didn't even know the basics. The guys had subordinates doing different portions of his job bc he didn't know what he was doing.
Posted by DMV
Posted by VenusStar
Posted by DMV
Ive decided to do what feels good. To do what is scary. To do the unknown. To trust in God and let him order my steps.Ive decided to do what makes me happy. Leave this virgo bitch and take control of my life.
didn't see this. I hope it works out for you. Your time and happiness is important. I'm sick to my stomach to think I put up with a monster for years. Someone to tell me when to come and go at work. One of my pet peeves is when people tell me what to do. So to think I put myself through that torture only to be set up and fired. That jerk even yelled and demeaned the hr rep. Sad.
Yes!!! This virgo is so petty. She watches the clock like a beast. Pays way too much attention to when ppl come and go and not enough attention to learning her job. Laat time i checked i was not 12. Im a professional.
When she doesnt have DMV as a scapegoat anymore then what?
She aint my problem anymore
Sorry to highjack your thread. I read your work woes and it triggered me.
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no worries. Your work woes triggered me to. I know what your going through. She's an idiot and the Taurus boss set her up for failure.
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But how do we know what to do or if we should be changing paths. Maybe were meant to stay and fight. I've stayed and fought. I've lost too many battles to count with no impending rewards or better days to look forward to in the near future or for the next few years.