@zoe gonzales
11 Years
a question for gay women here
"how you make yourself recognizable as a lesbian"
What do you mean by this?
Posted by Ram416
"how you make yourself recognizable as a lesbian"What do you mean by this?
I mean, is there any specific appearance or body languages or any random things that make poeple click that you're actually gay without you saying it out loud yourself?
Posted by Ram416
"how you make yourself recognizable as a lesbian"What do you mean by this?
I mean, is there any specific appearance or body languages or any random things that make poeple click that you're actually gay without you saying it out loud yourself?
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Lol
I remember when I thought like you...
But Imma be real with you now.
When I was what me and my friends call a "BABY LESBIAN" or "newbie"..I thought I had to dress a certain way... look for certain types... be a certain type... and Id assume EVERYONE was straight lol.
NOW, in days like these... lets call it the "QUEER GENERATION", I approach dating very differently.
I approach ANYONE that catches my eye, with confidence. If I think they are gay, straight whatever.. it doesnt matter because I don't "look gay".
Some days, or most im super androgynist leaning toward the femme side.. other days Im waring cute crop tops to the club, and waring lipstick.
Listen, there is no perfect look. There is just CONFIDENCE.
Iv met many of girls just walking up to them and being genuine as possible. Like "Hey, you are beautiful and Id like to know more about you". At the very least bit they are straight as fuck but a good compliment is always received well and builds confidence.
Posted by Ram416
"how you make yourself recognizable as a lesbian"What do you mean by this?
I mean, is there any specific appearance or body languages or any random things that make poeple click that you're actually gay without you saying it out loud yourself?
click to expand
Lol
I remember when I thought like you...
But Imma be real with you now.
When I was what me and my friends call a "BABY LESBIAN" or "newbie"..I thought I had to dress a certain way... look for certain types... be a certain type... and Id assume EVERYONE was straight lol.
NOW, in days like these... lets call it the "QUEER GENERATION", I approach dating very differently.
I approach ANYONE that catches my eye, with confidence. If I think they are gay, straight whatever.. it doesnt matter because I don't "look gay".
Some days, or most im super androgynist leaning toward the femme side.. other days Im waring cute crop tops to the club, and waring lipstick.
Listen, there is no perfect look. There is just CONFIDENCE.
Iv met many of girls just walking up to them and being genuine as possible. Like "Hey, you are beautiful and Id like to know more about you". At the very least bit they are straight as fuck but a good compliment is always received well and builds confidence.
I stopped worrying about finding out if someone is gay BEFORE I show them Im gay. Im gay no matter what. And its my personality. Ill flirt, Ill ask if they date girls. I try to have no filter when it comes to my identity and it attracts potentials at the least. Read the book "THE LAW OF ATTRACTION". It has nothing to do with dating. But it will make a lot of sense to you. At the end of the day when it comes to the looks. Dress how you are comfortable no matter what... And creepy men will always be there unfortunately. Even if you cut your hair in to a mullet, men will STILL see you as a challenge. lool
Aside from the painfully obvious stereotypes........
it's not easy to tell one from the other these days.
I give it & take it up the pooie-hole but you could never guess I'm gay in a million years if you met me. I look as straight as they come. I don't have any feminine mannerisms, I don't dye my hair every color under the sun or wear makeup or wear pink or anything of the sort.
Your best bet would be to socialize with other lesbians. Look for chat groups in your city.
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have you ever dressed yourself in a femme way, butch way or androgynous way or even you're too depressed to groom yourself so you end up wearing comfy casual wear to messy wear yet it failed to attract any single women? More sadly, there are more mens who actually whistling at you and start flirting with you. Do you ever experienced like that?
Ok thats what happen to me. I live in a straightville. In the past I have several friends whom fall for both men and handsome women. It crushed my heart when I heard them saying that I didnt look like a handsome women. Even until now I experienced this situation. I'm sad because I was unnoticed by women...but I easily become the prey of lesbian wannabes and lesbians who only see me as "convenient".
I'm almost 30, unmarried, full-time working, and "came out" to the people of my life that I trusted and open-minded. Share with me about how you make yourself recognizable as a lesbian. Your response are most appreciated, thank you.