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Do Pisces Men like aloof women or the opposite? (Page 2)
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Posted by ianthefish
another future prediction...your husband finds out you are still dealing with pisces.... he is destroyed to the point of no return this time.. he leaves... you chase pisces hard... pisces retreats... you are left alone....
maybe you find another man...
You are right about my husband being destroyed. I want to STOP loving Mr. Pisces. And I for one have realized a long time ago that he will not leave his wife for me. I cannot compete with 20 years of their history. Believe me, it is very painful to realize this as I left my husband before just for a chance to be with him. I'm tired of analyzing his behaviour. I don't understand why he puts all effort to keep me in his life if you think he is just playing with me. If he is playing, why doesn't he take full advantage and sleep with me? So, I thought, maybe he does care a lot for me. But then again, not enough to leave his wife. So there it is. I will not be chasing him if I ever get divorced though. This relationship is stressful and it drives me crazy.
Posted by tubbyscubby
what is hubby's sign?
Sagittarius.
Posted by Lauren89
One thing seems suspicious to me.. Why is the husband that much calm!—No one noticed this—?? :O
I know Lauren89...he is not the jealous, explosive type. Of course he was hurt. But I explained it all to him, the lack of passion eventhough everything else is pretty much great. He understood. To be honest, I think he feels the same way about me. He loves me but he is not in love with me. He is not passionate about me, but he loves me. We've been through a lot with each other. We are sweet, kind, and affectionate with each other. Just no passion.
Posted by Lauren89
From my own experience for a man to accept his woman that is into someone else or she had a fling then there must be something wrong with himself!Does he have problems in bed? Is he into someone else too? Did he had a fling with someone else or he has any other skeletons in his closet? He has already lost the passion for his wife?
He supposed to feel angry about it or at least very hurt. If he would not have been expressing anger he supposed to be distant.
This guy has NO reaction!!!!!!!
He had a reaction of course. He was extremely angry and hurt. It was a mess believe me. But, no he doesn't have flings. My husband is very much a loner. He loves his guitar and his books. He is very independent, an intellectual, and self-reliant. When we were separated, he would buy groceries for me and bring it to my place. I told you, we are like bestfriends. But no, he doesn't have flings. In bed, he can perform, but I don't he has a very high libido, as he never initiates sex! And I'm not bad looking..lol....he is quite gorgeous too. Close friends are shocked when they find it we don't have sex =)
No, no, no leo, you misunderstood ME. I fully admit I get on a high horse about a relationship because I value them keenly and am more than disgusted with the world in general because things look so *throw away* to me. Just my opinion and outlook. That was in no way, shape or form a way to point a finger at you personally. Only you and your husband truly know what it is to be in the eye of the hurricane. I am just an outsider looking in and do not have all the pieces to your particular puzzle. But you admit to having feelings for a man who is NOT your spouse. And you know you were in the wrong seeking attention outside of that. Since you and he no longer share a physical relationship one can conclude that somewhere along the line communication between the two of you degraded, and it bled into the physical aspect. You are certainly not the first, nor the LAST human being on this earth that this has happened too. Not by a long shot.
I do not think this makes you an uncaring woman, nor a crazed one. But this whole scenario with this particular Pisces is doomed to complete and utter ruin. You see that, you want to distance yourself from it. And there is no 'trying' to achieve this. You ruthlessly cut it off at the knees and busy yourself with other things.
There is no knight in shining armor. No one to come rushing in and make us complete. No one person that will make any of us happy unless we're happy with ourselves first. Then, and only then, can we look outward and invite people into our world that are sound. Of good character and fiber, people that will be good for us.
Posted by Lauren89
About the pisces guy...
His wife is well established in his life because they have more than sex that is connecting these two ppl. And I am not talking only about emotional connection which is definitely stronger than passion. These two will feel family for ever. NO MATTER WHAT!
I am talking as well as financially and as an everyday life.
About your marriage.....
If cheating on your husband did not ring a bell into his heart then you have something dead over there. It cannot be resurrected either! If couples survive through flings and cheating are because jealousy is reigniting passion!
Your guy just did not feel anything intense there. He is your best friend ( with perhaps benefits?? ) . Not your husband.
Unless you want to accept things as: open marriage and occasional fling with the pisces. I see nothing more there. Is this happiness for you? If yes then stop feel worried relax and enjoy!
Yes, Mr. Pisces met his wife when he was 24, fresh of the boat from Ireland. She was 36 and an executive at work. They have plenty of money. I know he feels like they are family. He has said so. And I know I can't compete with that. Also, she just recently survived breast cancer. He would never leave her.
Lauren, I cannot hurt my husband again. I just cannot. And I do love him. I have so much love and respect for him. I adore him. And yes, I am shit for what I did and I don't deserve him. But, I'm not going to destroy his world again. I am happy with him even if we don't have sex. All I want is to get over Mr. Pisces. This is the truth.
^ Definitely what Sea said.
Posted by leolei
Here we go...but I'm afraid you may be disappointed or "disgusted"...but alas, it's the truth: I met this Pisces man via work in 2006. I was married in 2005 (everything perfect except no passion in the relationship). At first, I didn't pay attention to the Pisces man as he is pretty much an executive at work, 10 years older, and I felt intimidated. He is in a common-law relationship with a woman 13 years older than him. He's 43, she's 55. Anyways, in Nov 2007, I noticed Pisces man always giving me these looks, shy glances at first and then more assertive looks ....I also liked the fact that although he is an executive, he kept to himself and did not play cheesy office politics. We went out for drinks, the chemistry was intense and we kissed. I felt guilty and to make a long story short, I separated from my husband. During this period, Mr. Pisces and I got to know each other and I fell in love. The problem was his wife of course. Yes, I am aware that I will be judged. I told him that I loved him and that I want him to leave her. He said he was confused. I asked him if he was in love with her and he said "I don't know about being in love with her, but I do love her. We have been together for almost 20 years and she has put up with a lot of my shit." I do know he loves her. He would kiss me and then stop and says he has to go. One time, he even got all teary eyed and said he fe
as i said, you're a status whore.
i also didn't realize the pisces was in a common law relationship. maybe that's why you fill that it's ok to violate his union?
you were married in 2005. when did the loss of "passion" begin? the moment you said "i do" or in 2006 when you met the pisces executive?
^feel
the scorps on this board sans Meg-God and a few others make my e-skin crawl.
Not to worry, I'm feasting on Cinnamon at the moment.
oooooooh, THAT thread. i was reading that one earlier today.
i chose not to bother. i hate e-scorps so i'm fine with them hating me. that cinnamon chick seems to start a lot of threads about how everyone known to man is jealous of scorpio...which is pretty much the trend of every thread on the scorp forum.
she's one note but grind her up and sprinkle her on a tart vb then feed it to stray.
On this particular note it sounds slightly out of tune, like a rusty squeeze box. Two replies, and she doesn't want to play with me anymore. That's a shame too, I was just getting warmed up. Excellent idea, I'm feeling in the mood for *licking teeth* cinnamon toast.
Posted by leolei
I met this Pisces man via work in 2006. I was married in 2005 (everything perfect except no passion in the relationship). At first, I didn't pay attention to the Pisces man as he is pretty much an executive at work, 10 years older, and I felt intimidated. He is in a common-law relationship with a woman 13 years older than him. He's 43, she's 55. Anyways, in Nov 2007, I noticed Pisces man always giving me these looks, shy glances at first and then more assertive looks ....
I also liked the fact that although he is an executive, he kept to himself and did not play cheesy office politics. We went out for drinks, the chemistry was intense and we kissed. I felt guilty and to make a long story short, I separated from my husband. During this period, Mr. Pisces and I got to know each other and I fell in love. The problem was his wife of course. Yes, I am aware that I will be judged. I told him that I loved him and that I want him to leave her. He said he was confused. I asked him if he was in love with her and he said "I don't know about being in love with her, but I do love her. We have been together for almost 20 years and she has put up with a lot of my shit." I do know he loves her.as i said, you're a status whore. i also didn't realize the pisces was in a common law relationship. maybe that's why you fill that it's ok to violate his union?
you were married in 2005. when did the loss of "passion" begin? the moment you said "i do" or in 2006 when you met the pisces executive?click to expand
And from this you gather that I went for the Pisces because of status? I am giving you a background of the situation! I said I felt intimidated at first that he was an executive! Did I say I was impressed by it? And the second part, I said "ALTHOUGH he is an executive" I liked the fact that unlike typical, cocky Wall street types, he kept to himself and did not participate in office politics. I don't know how you can deduce that I'm into his executive status from that! I think you have burned by a LEO before and you have all sorts of presumptions about this sign lady!
Posted by tubbyscubby
the scorps on this board sans Meg-God and a few others make my e-skin crawl.
And you make mine crawl with all your presumptions and negativity.
yeah, that typically happens when leo's are forced to view themselves for what they really are.
what does his being an executive have to do with anything? are you going to tell us that he likes steak with ketchup and krispie kreme donuts too?
Posted by tubbyscubby
yeah, that typically happens when leo's are forced to view themselves for what they really are.what does his being an executive have to do with anything? are you going to tell us that he likes steak with ketchup and krispie kreme donuts too?
Listen I have been called all sorts of names on this board that I have accepted that I deserved! But, I will get angry over something that is totally untrue. I have no fucking reason to lie about this. I have exposed everything, all my faults and weaknesses about this whole situation. His executive status means nothing to me. FYI, I have been hit on by plenty of executives before and I was turned off by their cocky attitude.
I bring up the fact that he is an executive to POINT OUT, ILLUSTRATE... that his very nature is the complete opposite of what I presume "executives" typically are (something that I despise). So it is very ironic that you are accusing me of the opposite.
awwh fish bitch, local? i am merely a visitor to the fish bowl and i would kindly ask you to get to cleaning. the walls of this thread are looking a little scummy and are in need of a bottom feeder like you.
Posted by tubbyscubby
awwh fish bitch, local? i am merely a visitor to the fish bowl and i would kindly ask you to get to cleaning. the walls of this thread are looking a little scummy and are in need of a bottom feeder like you.
god, please don't tell me all Scorpios are this bitchy. WTF?
that's not mine silly. i thought given your expertise on toilets you'd be more adept at identifying poop.
and no, i'm an uber-bitchy scorp.
but back to the topic at hand, your bitch factor. i asked you if you lost your leonian "passion" the moment you said "i do" or was it after you saw the fish buying a latte from starbucks...where the regular, non-executive types get their coffee?
and based on an astro level, you're a lion, he's a fish, your husband is a centaur.
since when does fire and water bode well together? again i say, you like him because he's running. your husband has fire in him. maybe your infidelity and selfishness dulled his flame?
ian, thanks for visiting my profile. one more profile view. WOO!
you think i'm ashamed of my profile posts? i'm hoping to crack 10000 by years end.
plus, a good 40% of my posts appear elsewhere on the internet or have you not figured that out yet genius? i kill many birds with one stone. i use magic buckshot.
i'm not discussing pisces turdlicker. i'm discussing leo on a pisces forum. swim faster bitch.
you know, i'm trying to understand pisces males.
when you and your wife have sex, which one of you weeps and needs to be held?
lol, you're veering off topic and i'm veering off topic and yet of the two of us, who has addressed the lion?
i'm waiting for her to answer a question. you're merely comic relief.
Posted by tubbyscubby
and no, i'm an uber-bitchy scorp.but back to the topic at hand, your bitch factor. i asked you if you lost your leonian "passion" the moment you said "i do" or was it after you saw the fish buying a latte from starbucks...where the regular, non-executive types get their coffee?
My husband and I lost the passion probably after 3 years of dating, so in 2002.
and yet you married him 3 years later?
are you a fixed sign that stayed way too long or a 30 year-old woman who heard a clock ticking?
*jinx*
Posted by tubbyscubby
and based on an astro level, you're a lion, he's a fish, your husband is a centaur.since when does fire and water bode well together? again i say, you like him because he's running. your husband has fire in him. maybe your infidelity and selfishness dulled his flame?
I don't know what dulled his flame. Maybe he just has a low libido. It doesn't matter. It's me who needs fixing.
Posted by tubbyscubby
and yet you married him 3 years later?are you a fixed sign that stayed way too long or a 30 year-old woman who heard a clock ticking?
Yes, because I didn't think sex was so important. Ok, maybe I was dumb to think that, but it's true. I loved the man, I respected him, I adored him, so I married him. About the clock ticking, maybe that was part of it. I've been going out with him for 6 years, things were great (again back then I didn't think sex was an issue), so the next step was to get married.
and this is why the divorce rate is high.
some women like to convince themselves that it's the heart that matters and maybe that's true post menopause and when you're wearing dentures but when you're a sexually active, vibrant woman, to commit to someone who does not fulfill your physical needs is folly.
women who claim to put the heart first are generally those who also claim their body is a temple. if it's such a temple, you wouldn't permit en masse entry by the mediocre peasantry. if you value your body, you seek someone who values and cherishes it the same manner you do.
at the end of the day, sex, kids and money ruin a marriage. when these foundational pillars are on shaky ground, you risk succumbing to reality. i might have missed it but, your sex pillar, it on sand or rock? was it always crappy or did this develop over time?
if it was NEVER good, well hey, e-divorces are the in-thing nowadays as statistically that's where you're heading anyway right? not only is sex gone, but you've mentally checked out as well.
from this point you have to measure whether your fixed sign nature is causing you to keep grinding at this because you believe that brighter days are ahead if you could only figure out how to get there or if you're just in a mode where you stubbornly refuse to accept defeat? if it's the latter, it's going to take you a while to come to terms with the concept of throwing in the towel but the pisces isn't your out. it sounds like you weren't in a long time ago. after all, you married in 2005 and by 2006 you were smitten with another man.
read up on fixed signs and how that pertains to leo, you might be surprised. sometimes it's ok to just STOP, embrace change and move in a brighter direction...whether that be recommitting to hubby or moving on without him.
hmm, i told you i couldn't be objective. gotta go.
*taps bowl violently* on the way out
I have a Pisces guy who is insanely obsessed with me. He is fucking annoying as fuck. He likes me because I am extremely independent, "different then other women", brash, harsh, and mean to him..
whatt thee fucckk.
ahah.
ughh.
no.
I was googling stuff about Pisces guys, not expecting to be led back to dxpnet.com but here I am again 🙂 I know this is a very old thread and I'm not sure if any of you still come here..
I just think this needs to be said. It seems like leolei caught "Mr Pisces" at a weak point. His wife had cancer which undoubtedly put him in a very vulnerable and possibly confusing position, and rather than being sympathetic toward him she mistook his attention as an infatuation or something along those lines at first and then has manipulated him into continuing to talk to her ever since. I'm not saying Pisces men are all innocent, but generally the good intentions seem to be there and the timing of their intersection is hard to overlook.
It's hard for me to pity leolei who says she is sensitive, yet has no hesitation with delivering snide responses. To me, that doesn't strike me as sensitive and loving. I also see that she was trying more to understand his motives from an advantageous angle until she caught so much shit from everyone that she began to back pedal and say she really did want to get over "Mr Pisces". Which by the way is / was a total lie. I just had to comment on this thread in case someone else like me stumbles up on it via google search. Her behavior is so transparent and just appalling to me.
-chrissy22 (Aquarius female with many Pisces aspects, and with an amazing Pisces man).
I'll also answer the OP's question 🙂 Since we got wayy off topic.
I think Pisces men like attentive ladies who are real. So if you are confident, don't be afraid to show it. If you are feeling weak, don't be afraid to show it. My man has seen my temper flare when I've thrown little fits, he told me randomly one day that he likes to see my heat. Don't forget like most men they prefer a lady on the streets, freak in the sheets 🙂
They are observers, they can read you better than you expect. So don't be fake or wreck yourself trying too hard, just be you! 😄
hi leolei
I don't think anybody should judge you.
I would have judged you quite harshly myself, only a few months ago. not now.
everything that happened to you is so against my principles, and yet ANYBODY can find themselves in a trap like this! Gosh I know it.
but you (forgive me) were not having a fulfilling relationship with your husband -you need sex as a yong and healthy woman! and your husband too, I would think... I don't think that I could live a sexless married life... no way!
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My god people you have got me all wrong. Listen, I'm the first to admit when a post has insights even if that post calls me all sorts of names that I think I deserve - broken, screwed up, none deserving of my husband, full of shit, addicted, and toxic. But you guys are dead wrong if you think I fell in love with Mr. Pisces because of his executive status. Give me a fucking break.