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lol

I need to do laundry as well. I have a mountain of clothes to wash.

i think P is right. your friend will come back to you and i hope, for her sake and safety, it is before this scum of a boyfriend of hers harms her any further. like father like son in this case.

protect yourself Thetis and stay out of harms way with this crowd.

SS! 🙂 *hugs*

I agree with bijou2u Thesis.


S.S. I have a mountain of clothes too, the problem is that they are not in the wash yet LOL!!!!!

Well they are all done in my eyes now, and yep I have loads of good friends who won't stand for it. At this point I'm just hoping no-one takes it further though.

And I know I shouldn't have got involved, I just saw red. As for my friend I just can't believe what she is prepared to take from this man, he speaks to her like shit. But she has to learn for herself, I am definitely staying well clear of them.

Lesson learned I guess eh lol.

Thetis .... how was the reference about the sons gf being a skank, full stop ... have anything to do with this situation?

Was it actually the skank girlfriend who started this whole mess? Was it her who began the mouthing-off, which influenced the son to project this hateful energy towards his fathers girlfriend?

And I know I shouldn't have got involved, I just saw red. As for my friend I just can't believe what she is prepared to take from this man, he speaks to her like shit. But she has to learn for herself, I am definitely staying well clear of them.

Thesis, does she have self-esteem issues? Has she ever dicussed that with you?

Yeah she instigated it all basically, flirting with our friend etc. I told him to watch because she's well known for it, next thing you know she's away telling her boyfriend that it was HIM who was hitting on her. So her man goes for our pal, it all kicks off, I am at this point just trying to calm things down.

I go back inside to see if my guy mate is ok, my girlfriend comes in and says they've left but that the son was having a go at her etc. so I stupidly run out after them.

Skank over here btw means slutty.

You know .. it's quite possible that your girl-mate, and her boyfriend (father), were trying to ignore the drama.

It may appear as though they were being victims, and I suppose it is a victimization .. but, maybe they already know this happens, and probably happens often .. so, instead of embracing this negative energy for it to hieghten, they just choose to ignore it, so it will go away.

Sort of like ... consider the source, before allowing reaction to it.

I'm just pondering alternatives here as to 'why' this was ignored, and these two kids were permitted to create this drama, without an emotional response.

However it went down, and for what reason that might be valid on their part ... somebody SHOULD have made a stand to protect you from getting physically injured.

So she started it ...

You weren't being stupid, Sweet .. you were being human, and were subjected to an energy field in which propelled you into responding, accordingly.

Hope you are feeling better soon Sweetie P-Thetis!

"You know .. it's quite possible that your girl-mate, and her boyfriend (father), were trying to ignore the drama"

Well things have kicked off before, and her man always takes his sons side, I'm not saying he should take hers just that he's the one who should be saying something to calm things down. And regardless of what he does my friend keeps making excuses for him.

Trust me, any remark like that to her a few years ago and he'd have been dumped on the spot. She is the one out of all my mates who doesn't take any crap, and yet with this guy she does.

My mum called, I had to tell her something, they came down and she is freaking out she started crying when she saw me. 😢

Trust me, any remark like that to her a few years ago and he'd have been dumped on the spot. She is the one out of all my mates who doesn't take any crap, and yet with this guy she does.

So my assumption early was false then Thesis, she doesn't have self-image problems?

My mum called, I had to tell her something, they came down and she is freaking out she started crying when she saw me.

Your poor mom 😢

I don't think so Choco, fuck this girl has never been afraid of anyone in her life, I've seen her knock lumps out of guys. The thing is she will shout at him and go mental etc. and will probably go for him when she sees him, but it will all calm down and she'll take him back.

hmmm ...

"her man always takes his sons side, I'm not saying he should take hers just that he's the one who should be saying something to calm things down"


That's unfortunate, and should be the writing on the wall to her .. you can only hope that one day her eyes open.

Sides .. goddam sides 😕

That's Pisces worse enemy, right there !!!!! We can't STAND sides, so I can see how you felt the need to slap some (verbal) sense into those fools for thinking that there is a division, used for competition, within regarding on same levels.

I'm surprised you didn't lump the father-boyfriend upside his head to knock some sense into him for being a chucklefuck >>>>> no sides, muther-fucker, just "feel" both of them.

Oh well, the only thing you can do is what you've done already .. which is let them be to resolve thier issues contemptuously. I can't even imagine how painful it must be to have to face the awareness that a strong and vibrant woman like that could allow herself to be reduced to such insignificance.

One day, she's going to rise above, Sweet-T ... and your dear friend will have returned. 🙂🙂

Thanks guys, and lesson well learned lol I'm staying well out of it from now on.

Plus it looks like she's taking him back he's already back at her house. There's nothing I can do really, she's made her choice, so hell mend her. From here on out she's on her own.

The eye is still pretty bad looking, but I've been told to get something called Arnica from the chemist helps reduce bruising my friend Justine has said if I need anything to give her a shout so she's going to pick some up for me, don't fancy walking about looking like this lol.

Nah I'm done with her full stop, been really upset today. I mean taking it for herself is bad enough, but to still side with him after this and the state I am in?

They deserve each other.

Kris I know what you mean, I actually was with a man who hit me, and I curse myself more than anything for taking it. Having said that, had he allowed this to happen to one of my friends, or my family, that would have been the clincher.

I could take it for myself, but not for people I care about.

Which is why I am done with her.

It's not just me she's lost either, all of our friends have said the same, they are shocked and disgusted that she would allow this.

Nope she is a Cancer, and her man is a Pisces.

The Virgo girl, who I think you mean from my pic, is my sister. She's a sweetheart. 🙂

Thanks choco, it's more purple today that's the bruise came right out but I suppose the quicker it comes out the quicker I can get rid!

I got some creme that's supposed to help so been applying that all afternoon. 🙂

Yeah Kris they do seem to cling on to crap more than most I have to say.

And lol @ SF, this is where I'm supposed to say "yeah well you should see the state of the other guy/girl" hehe. 😛

Well the biggest laugh is that her man is a Pisces. So there you go, female Pisces gets involved and gets a black eye....while male Pisces just stands back and lets it happen.

He is pathetic beyond belief.

ACK! Sorry about this, Sweet T. Quel nightmare!

For wednesday, I would just use concealer, foundation AND powder over the bruise. You could also do a deep part on the opposite side, so your hair hangs over the bruised eye. Sexy, yet functional. 😉

Thanks Sea, I'm thinking thank goodness I invested in some YSL Touche Eclat lol. 😛

SF that is so sad sorry to hear that. I am in no doubt that things will continue to get bad for this girl until she gets herself out of there. But there is nothing I can do, I've tried. It's such a shame that it has to get to that point though.

Ice and time. Plus, you're a girl so you can use makeup. If I were you I'd be rocking the shiner for an entire week hahahaha!

..same here, hope you're healing fast, Thetis.

"Crazy Sea Siren/Vampire has came forth!!!"

CHOCO!!!!!!! Yes, the sun is not quite down as of yet, so I am in my coffin typing. 🙂

"whatzzz up vampire woman.....been biting people lately??"

Not since last night..... 😉

i'll say i'm not a typical cancer....my moon is in scorpio and wow i'm soo glad that i'm not the type that stays in abusive relationships...if you don't treat me right then i'm out

Well the bruising is worse now, it's a lovely combination of black purple and yellow lol. But that's good because it means it's healing.

Anyway I called my new boss this morning just to warn her, because there is no way I'll be able to hide it. I just told her I was attacked at the weekend, kept it brief, but that I wanted to come in tomorrow and was ok physically, but just to let her know what to expect when she sees me.

She could not have been nicer, said as long as I feel ok to come in that's fine, and that I've not to worry about it. I thought I better say something now than just walk in tomorrow looking like shit.

My friend has been texting me saying she's sorry that she doesn't want to lose me as a friend etc. but no mention of him..........I know she's forgiven him and all is rosy.

I'm just ignoring her, because honestly I want nothing to do with her full stop now. At this point sorry is just not good enough.

Nevermind .........

What is it P? I can handle it lol even if it's bad. 😛

Sweets .. I was just wondering why none of your other friends came to your assistance when you were being physically injured?

And why you aren't upset with them as well?

Certainly, I can understand how by her going back to this man, after you tried to defend her integrity, makes you feel bad .. and it would anybody ... but, what I don't understand is that you had other friends there, as well ... and they didn't help you, nor do you have any ill-will towards them, only her.

And I can't figure this out.

Why didn't the others help you?

Hey P, no that's fine I get what you are saying.

My only two friends who were actually there were this girl and my guy friend, who was himself sitting with a burst lip and a swollen face.

Both were inside as it was happening, but you wonder why I am angry at my mate? When I went out she didn't try to stop me, or come to see if I was ok - and out of everyone she probably knew it would kick off.

So yeah, I can't understand it either, which is another reason I am done with her.

And as I said, her man was there while it happened, and just stood there, never tried to break it up or help me.

As I said, he is scum, he did nothing........and she forgave him.

"there were this girl and my guy friend, who was himself sitting with a burst lip and a swollen face."

Oh, see, I thought you were with a bunch of friends .. and that's why I couldn't figure out why they didn't help you. Apparantly, your guy friend tried to do "something" if he got hurt, also.

I was just sitting here with the impression that you had a whole group of friends with you ..... while they just sat there, talking about the weather while you were taking the punches .. and I was like .. what the hell is this? They would let you get injured, while just sitting there?


I understand why you are upset with your girl-mate ... she should have had your back. She turned on you when you stood up for your convictions, and that isn't acceptable.


Good Luck tomarrow at your new job 🙂

It's quite laughable really, I get hurt because I stood up for her (stupidly I know) and she doesn't have my back. Well lesson learned as I said.

And thanks P, I'm really looking forward to it. Onwards and upwards, I have too much to look forward to to let this drag me down. 🙂

girl ,you'll be alright...i think your girl mate will always have that guilt in her. i can't belive she did'nt defend you...where her loyalty

Thanks guys.

My new job is awesome! Everyone seems really nice and the work really interesting.

I'm going to be working with academics all across the University helping them cost proposals for funding various types of research.

I think I am going to really enjoy this job.

Anyway just thought I'd give an update for anyone interested. 🙂

That's awesome that your job is great !!!!!!

I was hoping you would pop in here and tell us about it. 🙂

How's the eye?

That's awesome, Sweetums. Your job, I mean. Not the eye, of course.

DAMN missed another good one. What a woman. I must teach you how to set up a right cross with a left Jab. Nice blackeye good new job what more could you ask for lov.

Aqipaperspachtelprugelfoldingagua dang you have such a long name lol....it's pretty cool

lol @ AG it doesn't quite pay THAT well! 😛

The eye is so much better, all the swelling is gone and all that's left now is a small purple line that's easily coverable with make-up.

Thanks guys.

My new job is awesome! Everyone seems really nice and the work really interesting.

I'm going to be working with academics all across the University helping them cost proposals for funding various types of research.

I think I am going to really enjoy this job.

Anyway just thought I'd give an update for anyone interested.

Thats awesome Thesis!!!! YAY!!!! I hope this weekend goes better then last weekend.