Im extremely upset with my pisces now. I want to tell her about herself.

Should I? She came to a private event that I was performing at that ran late. She was there with her FWB which didn't bother me at all. It was a BDSM themed party, and I realized her and her fwb were gonna play a little, but she was being weird and distant when she first got to the party. So I went to my car and napped an hour before the event started to clear my mind and recenter.

When I got back, I was social as ever, cracked open my fancy Gin and offered it to everyone there. Started conversation, and was extremely charming. It was as if I had a mojo last night that attracted everyone to me. She came up and said hi later, but we pretty much hung out with other people the entire time, at least I did.

Not sure what happened next, but I was sitting next to her on the floor eventually before they started the opening acts. Her fwb behind her. The were just kinda hanging out at that point. So we chatted a little. Than a girl sat next to me on the floor and we had a politically driven excellent conversation right next to my pisces who I noticed turned around to make out with her fwb. Still I wasn't bothered yet...

Than before the second act I talked to the host of the party and snuck into another spot on the couch to the left of the pisces now. A girl sat next to the right me that I had met earlier. she was kinda between me, pisces and the fwb (also a pisces) And she was flirting HARD, and I back. Im pretty sure my pisces noticed, but I didn't think she cared at the time considering her and her fwb were all up on each other all night, why would she?

Than it was my turn to perform, i was just setting up my mic, about to begin and talk to the room, and she approaches to hug me goodbye. "Im leaving, bye" she said. .... Not warm. COLD.

NOW IM MAD.

As in artist that is such a disrespectful thing to do. As confident as some may seem, artists are very sensitive and the presence and support of their friends means a lot to them. It can shatter their vibe completely when a friend says "see ya gotta go" literally as they are about to start performing. What I don't understand is if she meant to do that (she's not stupid) and maybe she was mad... i don't fucking know.

Or if she ACTUALLY IS THAT FUCKING ALOOF.

I just want to tell her about herself so bad. It was so rude. And I would have not felt that way had she just didn't say goodbye at all. Approaching me as i'm about to start was so inconsiderate for many reasons.

Sometimes the irish exit is a good, polite thing. Thats all im saying. I was glad when someone told me that. And I want so badly to tell her for future reference. I was fine. I crushed my performance regardless. But I found what she did extremely disappointing.

Posted by ManInTheMoon
A classic case of attention whoring.

her or me?

Posted by PVJamz
You should tell her about herself then. Don't hold back. I don't know why people think they have to handle Pisces with kid gloves, you don't. We appreciate straight shooters. She was probably just annoyed that you gave zero fucks about the little show she was putting on. Your lack of jealousy and possessiveness made her feel less like a star so she left right when you were getting your shine on. She's testing boundaries.

but why? we agreed on platonic friendship even tho that wasn't initially what i wanted and i care abu\out her none the less. what was she trying to do exactly? was i supposed to just hang with her and watch her make out with her fwb. no thank you. i socialized instead and talked to people who found me interesting. she left no opportunity for us to hang. she was there to do adult things and we are platonic. so i don't understand what boundry she was trying to push.

also, when she said goodbye i literally went "im about to go on" as to give benefit of the doubt. she ignored what i said and just fucking left anyway. so fucking rude.

and i will tell her. but im gonna be distant as fuck rn. and IF she cares enough to ask whats up, or mentions the party. that's when ill tell her. until the there is no point. even on a friendship level, that was the dumbest form of aloofness i'd ever seen

Before you go beast mode on her maybe ask her why she had to leave early first.

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Before you go beast mode on her maybe ask her why she had to leave early first.

it was late. i don't care that she left. that's not the point im trying to get across. it was the fact that i was literally about to start mic in hand when she decided to approach me. it was tactless. she has a dog, the show ran late. i get it. but when that happens to me i always prefer the irish exit. why make someone feel bad when they know that literally 5 more minutes wouldn't have made a difference?? it infuriates me and i just want to tell her so she knows its rude since she seemed so oblivious. in case she ever has to dip before a friend's performance.not just mine. We got really close recently too. On a friendship level. I shared some of my grandmom's cookies with her on thursday, and she opened up to me about her current deepest struggles in her life. In which i was able to give her an objective outlook on. we really bonded and got close on thursday. She gave me my first real long hug in a while. and snapped chatted with me during her beach trip on friday. all this for context. we ha gotten close enough for what she did to be considered rude. i even told my cap best friend who usually rolls his eyes at me when i bring her up. just to get his point of you. he's a performer too. and level headed. and gets it. even he was like "damn, she could have at least said 'im about to leave so im saying bye now but im gonna stay for a minute whatever' or said nothing at all".

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Before you go beast mode on her maybe ask her why she had to leave early first.

it was late. i don't care that she left. that's not the point im trying to get across. it was the fact that i was literally about to start mic in hand when she decided to approach me. it was tactless. she has a dog, the show ran late. i get it. but when that happens to me i always prefer the irish exit. why make someone feel bad when they know that literally 5 more minutes wouldn't have made a difference?? it infuriates me and i just want to tell her so she knows its rude since she seemed so oblivious. in case she ever has to dip before a friend's performance.not just mine. We got really close recently too. On a friendship level. I shared some of my grandmom's cookies with her on thursday, and she opened up to me about her current deepest struggles in her life. In which i was able to give her an objective outlook on. we really bonded and got close on thursday. She gave me my first real long hug in a while. and snapped chatted with me during her beach trip on friday. all this for context. we ha gotten close enough for what she did to be considered rude. i even told my cap best friend who usually rolls his eyes at me when i bring her up. just to get his point of you. he's a performer too. and level headed. and gets it. even he was like "damn, she could have at least said 'im about to leave so im saying bye now but im gonna stay for a minute whatever' or said nothing at all".

I don't quite understand the point of your arrangement. You obviously want more because you refer to her as "my pisces". She is playing head games, she doesn't seem to know what she wants either. Nevertheless, I do agree that what she did was rude. She may just so self absorbed ahe didn't consider your feelings. Confront her about what she did. If she isn't empathetic to hoe you felt, then cut her off. You're not dating, she's a friend, you don't really owe her anything more.

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I agree. On a friendship level even I wouldn't do that to someone I care about. Regardless of any confusion. I'm gonna wait for when she reaches out regardless. She will. And I'll tell her. Honestly if she's not empathetic than she's not the person I thought she was. I can only hope she was aloof. But if that's not the case and she doesn't care. I don't even need a friend like that. Let alone a love interest.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Before you go beast mode on her maybe ask her why she had to leave early first.

it was late. i don't care that she left. that's not the point im trying to get across. it was the fact that i was literally about to start mic in hand when she decided to approach me. it was tactless. she has a dog, the show ran late. i get it. but when that happens to me i always prefer the irish exit. why make someone feel bad when they know that literally 5 more minutes wouldn't have made a difference?? it infuriates me and i just want to tell her so she knows its rude since she seemed so oblivious. in case she ever has to dip before a friend's performance.not just mine. We got really close recently too. On a friendship level. I shared some of my grandmom's cookies with her on thursday, and she opened up to me about her current deepest struggles in her life. In which i was able to give her an objective outlook on. we really bonded and got close on thursday. She gave me my first real long hug in a while. and snapped chatted with me during her beach trip on friday. all this for context. we ha gotten close enough for what she did to be considered rude. i even told my cap best friend who usually rolls his eyes at me when i bring her up. just to get his point of you. he's a performer too. and level headed. and gets it. even he was like "damn, she could have at least said 'im about to leave so im saying bye now but im gonna stay for a minute whatever' or said nothing at all".

I don't quite understand the point of your arrangement. You obviously want more because you refer to her as "my pisces". She is playing head games, she doesn't seem to know what she wants either. Nevertheless, I do agree that what she did was rude. She may just so self absorbed ahe didn't consider your feelings. Confront her about what she did. If she isn't empathetic to hoe you felt, then cut her off. You're not dating, she's a friend, you don't really owe her anything more.

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I agree. On a friendship level even I wouldn't do that to someone I care about. Regardless of any confusion. I'm gonna wait for when she reaches out regardless. She will. And I'll tell her. Honestly if she's not empathetic than she's not the person I thought she was. I can only hope she was aloof. But if that's not the case and she doesn't care. I don't even need a friend like that. Let alone a love interest.

Posted by Dreamyboy
Also, idk what's your intentions with the other girl, but if you want to come off as serious, you shouldn't flirt with other women. If you are not, then that's absolutely great of you. I don't know the context of your relation with these girls in particular. Also, why would you flirt with a girl that has a FWB?? That's a red flag don't you think? Unless it's purely primal then by all means, go for it.

its complex to say the least. none of us look at relationships traditionally. And this pisces is the one i have history with in my saga. we started lovers. now friends. i wanted more. she didn't, i set a boundary. we became platonic. she acting weird. and i wasn't flirting with her all night at all...

Posted by Dreamyboy
I'm sure she was upset about you and the other girl. Tbh, she wanted your full attention. Both of your attention, including her mate. You powered through it easily and that bothered her. Immature Pisces women, girls I mean, are attention whores. They want everyone's attention. It's the mature ones you want to proceed with. She's in particular is just not ready to commit yet and is busy having fun. Just my 2 cents.

I agree with this.

She obviously likes you and wants you there. She was probably annoyed too that you were not jealous and that you didn't fight for her.

Posted by Piscox
Too many games, both ways. You guys just need to either get together and figure it out, or drop it already.

honestly i stopped playing games. and am trying really hard to be her friend. specifically after she opened up last week about some things she is going through. she needs guidance. not fuck buddies. she's not mentally ready for the kind of love i have to give... she is going through things i went through at 21. im concerned about her. very concerned. but now this happened the other night and it pissed me off. like i really want to tell her that it was fucked up so she knows better next time. thats if she didn't already know better.that's where im at. if she was really playing games like everyone on here seems to think, than i really don't understand the point. if she was aloof. she doesn't care at all. i don't know whats worst. my mom is a pisces.. she goes "we just don't care! don't you get it"? the other day when we spoke... is that true? do pisces not actuallyt care deep down...??

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Also, idk what's your intentions with the other girl, but if you want to come off as serious, you shouldn't flirt with other women. If you are not, then that's absolutely great of you. I don't know the context of your relation with these girls in particular. Also, why would you flirt with a girl that has a FWB?? That's a red flag don't you think? Unless it's purely primal then by all means, go for it.

its complex to say the least. none of us look at relationships traditionally. And this pisces is the one i have history with in my saga. we started lovers. now friends. i wanted more. she didn't, i set a boundary. we became platonic. she acting weird. and i wasn't flirting with her all night at all...

Interesting... What is your concept on a relationship? You sound very open with what relationship is. Also, do you think the Pisces might actually want a relationship now, a traditional relationship I mean, and was probably using her mate to make you jealous?

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I think love should be free not contained in a box. an amazing addition to life and not something co-dependent. im in to the polyamorous community but im not too sure where to place my self yet. when i fully love i only think about that person. but i think the more you allow your self to flirt and have fun and are open and honest with partners the healthier your relationship/s will be. if i want to be with one or more at a time? i don't know yet... one step at a time. but i think i could. and with my pisces... im 26 she just turned 21... she is just starting out in this poly life style ... she just got out of a bad relationship this past year... with an addict come to find out. and she's struggling with some things, that i wont talk about here. that's between her and my ears only. but no. she's definitely not changing the way she looks at relationships either rn. shes just discovering a lot of new things. and dating around. and not thinking bout me... obviously.

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Also, idk what's your intentions with the other girl, but if you want to come off as serious, you shouldn't flirt with other women. If you are not, then that's absolutely great of you. I don't know the context of your relation with these girls in particular. Also, why would you flirt with a girl that has a FWB?? That's a red flag don't you think? Unless it's purely primal then by all means, go for it.

its complex to say the least. none of us look at relationships traditionally. And this pisces is the one i have history with in my saga. we started lovers. now friends. i wanted more. she didn't, i set a boundary. we became platonic. she acting weird. and i wasn't flirting with her all night at all...

Interesting... What is your concept on a relationship? You sound very open with what relationship is. Also, do you think the Pisces might actually want a relationship now, a traditional relationship I mean, and was probably using her mate to make you jealous?

I think love should be free not contained in a box. an amazing addition to life and not something co-dependent. im in to the polyamorous community but im not too sure where to place my self yet. when i fully love i only think about that person. but i think the more you allow your self to flirt and have fun and are open and honest with partners the healthier your relationship/s will be. if i want to be with one or more at a time? i don't know yet... one step at a time. but i think i could. and with my pisces... im 26 she just turned 21... she is just starting out in this poly life style ... she just got out of a bad relationship this past year... with an addict come to find out. and she's struggling with some things, that i wont talk about here. that's between her and my ears only. but no. she's definitely not changing the way she looks at relationships either rn. shes just discovering a lot of new things. and dating around. and not thinking bout me... obviously.

I've noticed that both of your generations are more open to the idea of polyamorous relations, but I can't help but wonder that she's probably changing her mind when it comes to that life style .

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I am late to this thread but agree 100%

Some people like the idea of a Poly life style but that flies right out the window as soon as they develop feelings.

I don't know many people that can handle that life style . Jealousy is such a natural emotion.

Posted by WaterDevil
I crushed my performance regardless....

Hmph. Well if that is the case are you sure you're really only upset by the fact that she left?

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Posted by PVJamz
You should tell her about herself then. Don't hold back. I don't know why people think they have to handle Pisces with kid gloves, you don't. We appreciate straight shooters. She was probably just annoyed that you gave zero fucks about the little show she was putting on. Your lack of jealousy and possessiveness made her feel less like a star so she left right when you were getting your shine on. She's testing boundaries.

and i will tell her. but im gonna be distant as fuck rn. and IF she cares enough to ask whats up, or mentions the party. that's when ill tell her. until the there is no point. even on a friendship level, that was the dumbest form of aloofness i'd ever seen

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You may have explained why you're taking this approach later on in the thread, but in case you don't may I ask why? It's rather passive.

OP, it seems like this girl really has a place in your heart. Friends isn't a viable option at this time. She consumes too much of your thoughts and energy. You have two options, cut her loose completely from your life or get back into a romantic relationship with her. There is no in between here.

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I crushed my performance regardless....

Hmph. Well if that is the case are you sure you're really only upset by the fact that she left?

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AGAIN, My point isn't that she left. is how she left. feel me? coming up to me as im about to begin. just shows you have no interest. it's shitty. and she would have been better off not saying goodbye at all, instead of letting me know she's missing my performance literally as im starting, i mean common.

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You should tell her about herself then. Don't hold back. I don't know why people think they have to handle Pisces with kid gloves, you don't. We appreciate straight shooters. She was probably just annoyed that you gave zero fucks about the little show she was putting on. Your lack of jealousy and possessiveness made her feel less like a star so she left right when you were getting your shine on. She's testing boundaries.

and i will tell her. but im gonna be distant as fuck rn. and IF she cares enough to ask whats up, or mentions the party. that's when ill tell her. until the there is no point. even on a friendship level, that was the dumbest form of aloofness i'd ever seen

You may have explained why you're taking this approach later on in the thread, but in case you don't may I ask why? It's rather passive.

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we're friends and she doesn't owe me shit. but if she cares enough to ask about how my preformance went ill tell her. if she doesn't, why waste words on someone who doesn't care?

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Posted by Piscox
Too many games, both ways. You guys just need to either get together and figure it out, or drop it already.

honestly i stopped playing games. and am trying really hard to be her friend. specifically after she opened up last week about some things she is going through. she needs guidance. not fuck buddies. she's not mentally ready for the kind of love i have to give... she is going through things i went through at 21. im concerned about her. very concerned. but now this happened the other night and it pissed me off. like i really want to tell her that it was fucked up so she knows better next time. thats if she didn't already know better.that's where im at. if she was really playing games like everyone on here seems to think, than i really don't understand the point. if she was aloof. she doesn't care at all. i don't know whats worst. my mom is a pisces.. she goes "we just don't care! don't you get it"? the other day when we spoke... is that true? do pisces not actuallyt care deep down...??

i have no idea if you´re making excuses or playing dumb ....you are complicating this more than is necessary.

and just lol at your arrogance regarding her mental readiness to receive your almighty love ...

pisces is playin you hard and you are unable to see it - cause lust....cause this cause that ....jfc.

i think she feels your patronizing tone - thats why all you´re getting is a middle finger! lmao. what a control-freak crab you are.

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Lol okayyyy. How exactly would I have patronized her? And yeah. I'll admit. I was being arrogant. But you obviously haven't read our history and you are only going by this thread...there is A LOT more to it. And at this point. She failed at being a friend. PERIOD. I was a friend to her VERY RECENTLY after we stopped hooking up. This was a non deliberate test of wether or not she could actually be a friend like I have been to her. And SHE failed. No one is playing no one sweetheart. Sheesh what crawled up your vajayjay today?

Read the first page then skipped to the end, so forgive me if this has already been said...

I'm not a Pisces, so take this for what it's worth. But as a Virgo, I would suggest trying to see things from her perspective before blowing up.

Possible acceptable reasons:

1. She might have gotten an emergency text.

2. Maybe the dog sitter had to leave immediately.

3. Maybe she suddenly had to poop.

But more likely, she was making out with FWB in the hopes of getting you to make some sort of move... maybe a three-way instead of you moving on to someone else. You didn't and it hurt her feelings, but since you're not in a relationship she didn't know how to express her hurt.

And on an unrelated note...

You got in to a politically-driven conversation with a girl at a BDSM party? One of us is doing it wrong... 🙂

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Read the first page then skipped to the end, so forgive me if this has already been said...

I'm not a Pisces, so take this for what it's worth. But as a Virgo, I would suggest trying to see things from her perspective before blowing up.

Possible acceptable reasons:

1. She might have gotten an emergency text.

2. Maybe the dog sitter had to leave immediately.

3. Maybe she suddenly had to poop.

But more likely, she was making out with FWB in the hopes of getting you to make some sort of move... maybe a three-way instead of you moving on to someone else. You didn't and it hurt her feelings, but since you're not in a relationship she didn't know how to express her hurt.

And on an unrelated note...

You got in to a politically-driven conversation with a girl at a BDSM party? One of us is doing it wrong... 🙂

Lol on that last part. I was there preforming. A lot of people were having platonically driven conversations. It wasn't a play party per say.