Love without Trust

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by Tau75 on Sunday, September 10, 2006 and has 24 replies.

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@Tau75
19 Years
Can Love exist in a relationship without Trust?

This is a question particularly for those who want to "get back" with their Ex.
Other are welcome to comment.
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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces
Tau75, this seems like a silly question to me. Does love exist without trust? Why even ask that question? You and every person who responds is going to say the same thing . . of course not. Are you trying to get back with an ex, but, you don't trust him and now you're trying to decide if you can love him?

The question that stands out in my mind, would be: Can I have a relationship with someone I don't love? If he can't be trusted, then he can't be loved completely, so, can you still be with him without loving him?

Not every relationship is, or should be, love based. Not every union is suppose to mean that you're in love with the person, but, is still worth experiencing. I've been with lots of people, very closely, and wasn't in love with that person.

If it's an ex, AND, that person is an ex because I dont' trust him . . then how could I possibly love him? lol I guess maybe there are some people who would be completely superficial and not have the ability to see into themselves enough to comprehend this, but, it's not likely to find one that's a Pisces. We see very clearly into ourselves and we'd know that you can't love without trust.

Why does it have to be love? Can't it just be to enjoy? He's an ex, there's a reason why he's an ex . . so, it's doubtful that a Pisces would approach this re-uniting with the hopes of finding love . . .
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@ingo
19 Years
Tau75 sometimes i have seen people stick by their partners even though they dont trust them. I have a piscean friend in love with a saggi guy. Now he hasnt really been faithful to her, and she knows that and they fought but they made up. Now she doesnt trust him one bit, she's like always checking on him, but still she is with him. So i guess she does love him.

So i suppose it is possible, but its not a nice state of affairs, i mean why stick around when u cant trust.
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@catfish36
20 Years500+ Posts
Not sure about getting back with an ex but you can still love and not trust a person. My father was unfaithful to my mother for many years and resulted in divorce, but she was devastated when he died. Clearly, there was still love there.
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@pisces
20 Years1,000+ PostsGemini
Can't say I trust my man - from his actions I just can't trust him.
I have had to weigh out what I want from him thou.

Although I can't trust him I do love him & need him in my life. He gives me love & treats me well - he makes me happy 8/10 times & to me that is more than most so I am going to enjoy what I have with him - if it ends in lies & pain, so be it but for now I am happy so if he karma will catch him out. Its only one life 'twill soon be gone
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@ingo
19 Years
Pisces i do know some women who do accept their men even though they dont trust them, but i wonder can the opposite ever be possible - have u met any men who will still love their women even though they dont trust them?

about what u said regarding ur own relationship, u dont trust him becuse he has been unfaithful in the past or he is still screwing around and its ok with u?

must say ur one tolerant fish 🙂
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@pisces
20 Years1,000+ PostsGemini
So true catfish - that?s a different story I guess cause I don't have kids so I am ok with what I do with myself - If I was to have children thou - my first obligation would be to them so I would want a faithful partner who I know is not going to run off in that case.

However, I do feel that without reasonable evidence that your partner is cheating on you then you being worried all the time only effects you & your happiness not theirs. But if there is proof of there infidelity, then you nee to make a decision - ask yourself are you happy? Is this person still giving you what you need & want? Also are they or would they use protection, if they are then what is the problem? I know it hurts me to think of him doing anything with another women but then another part of me says "whatever".
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@Dreamy-Eyez
21 Years
Can Love exist without trust? HELL NO!!! Trust is like the stitch that holds the quilt of love together. -Dreamy Eyez, out.
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@piscgirl
20 YearsPisces
Hey Pisces!
Maybe it is just a pisces thing, I love my bf, and I know he loves me. But if you ask me do I truely trust him, hell no, not as far as I can throw him, and he knows that.
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@cappysweetie
20 Years10,000+ Posts
I don't think opposite is possible. At least in serious way. Once trust is over, the person is over.

Right on Haffo 🙂 Hmmm, I guess I'm just not that sappy too think that honest "love" can be established without trust. LOL! I mean, if I have to always keep watch over the person that's actually suppose to love me then the whole relationship is a waste.

But that's just my opinion 😄
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@piscgirl
20 YearsPisces
Sorry I probably should have specified, I do trust my bf as far as not screwing around on me, otherwise I would not be with him, I value myself more than that. What I was referring to was him doing things he knows I would not like him doing (not to specify). So there could be love without trust, just depends on what you are talking about I guess. Hope that is not confusing.
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@pisces
20 Years1,000+ PostsGemini
Yeah - know what u mean piscgirl 🙂

I have a Suspicious mind so it makes it hard. I love mr Aqua man but he really has to earn my trust & that takes allot of proof & time for me so for now - no trust here
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@wcthrill
20 Years
Gee sorry 2 say but some of women snd pathetic to love w/o trust...and still be there...what a bunch of lucky guys...if I coundt trust my partner then theres no partnership...simple fact. The whole idea of marriage or living with sum1 is cuz u trust them enuff to share ur life. Sorry but I cant agree with you and Im a male.
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@cappysweetie
20 Years10,000+ Posts
i think u can be in love without trust but its gonna be a bumpy ride.

Hey!!! cj7,

Well, I can't really love unless I trust and respect a man. It's weird, after I man has annoyed me to a certain point ... I lose all interest. It's almost like I felt nothing at all. This happen to me with a guy that I think was the best man I ever met -- I lost all interest after he frustrated me.

Love/trust/respect go hand and hand. Without all three, I can't be there anymore.
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@cj7
21 Years1,000+ Posts
well....ok no trust/no love. that is easier to swallow if emotions didnt exsist. if there is no love then why is there pain? i only feel pain for the thiungs i truely care about.






*hey sweetie 🙂 *
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@cj7
21 Years1,000+ Posts
ok sweetie im gonna admit im alittle put off that im not on your favorite users list......i dont love u anymore 😢




actually i dont think im on anyones list so dont sweat it 🙂