My dream girl, a pisces girl

I would like some opinions and advice on what I'm recently going through with a pisces girl. It started off somewhere in April this year at my workplace. This girl caught my attention when we were in a same training together. She's very familiar - then I found out she's from the same hometown as me and she knew my old friends, I knew hers. It's quite a coincidence. Then we became quite close friends, out drinking together, dinner, lunch, coffee etc, but most of these times are out of office interactions. In office, we hardly talk, even though we're in a same department. Then from very close, she began her hot and cold treatments- sometimes we would text each other for hours, ongoing for 3 or 4 days, then no messages at all for a few days.Then we would go out for dinner then other times she acted cold and don't want any meal with me. At the beginning I was confused because I don't know why she is like that. She even blocked me from facebook. but i didnt ask her cos I'm sure she have good reason to do so. Then one time we did a project together and something amazing happened, she accidentally stumbled and I managed to catch her because I was just behind her. Although its only for a few seconds, but I felt the jolt of electricity but we recovered quickly, both blushing - it's hard to explain. Then that night we had dinner with another close friend and we were so close even our friend felt it. After that day, we had a dinner with a new colleague, who felt that we're like more than friends. That day she unblocked me from facebook, because i can see her posts again. But after that day, things got weirder up to now. She stopped messaging me, or replying me. She totally ignored me in office unless I ask her work related questions. Not even good morning, no smile, sometimes even black face towards me. I asked her for dinner as usual, occasionally I would before but she said no. I thought she was stressed at work or something made her unhappy so I tried cheering her up but she just ignore me. I'm already used to her mood swings before, but now I'm baffled with what's happening. But I do love her, I just didn't make any obvious move because I want to protect her at all cause, you know office rules. And I don't want to push the relationship too fast, and give us both the time, i can be patient for her. It's just I'm a little confuse with her reaction...

That sounds like my issue with Pisces girls. I feel like they are a paradox. They get turned away by strong affection yet want to give some one strong affection.

Maybe she's really shy and confused about her feelings? Or the fact that she may not want to mix work and personal relationships as it may get awfully messy if the relationship doesn't work out?

On another note it's only been five months and you're already in love?

You need to take this girl down off the pedestal that you have placed her on, and actually really get to know her. From what I gathered... you are "close friends" but most of your interactions are with other people around, office functions, but you barely speak at work. She is a bit flaky in communication via technical means (facebook *ugh*, and texting). You say you love her.... but I'm a bit confused at how you could be in anything more than infatuation/like/lust... given all that I just mentioned.

There are potential things going on here (perhaps you will be able to clear some of it up for me) :
1. is she single - as a fact?
2. she may not dip her pen in the company ink, and that's why she'll go back and forth... she may not want to complicate her work life with personal life interjecting
3. she may like you as a friend, but that's it. You have no real confirmation that she feels more than that.

I'm not trying to be discouraging, just pointing out possibilities here. In hopes that you'll slow your brain down, and take things as they come. If you are willing to be patient, then there is no expiration date on how this plays out.

lol 1803 - you beat me to it

Thanks for all the opinions and views. To clarify some points, yes, she's single, and we do not only talk through text and Facebook or whatever digitalised means, we do interact a lot during our private meetings and outings, which I don't think it is necessary to put in too much details. And yes, "in love" is such strong words for some, however, regardless the time frame, I am sure that it is for me, not just lust nor infatuation, if it were I wouldn't put the word "love" in it. Though its not a fairy tale driven situation, I do believe anyone could be in love. That's just my belief. I am not putting her on any pedestal, i havent been obvious, in fact i have been refraining a lot due to work. again, i myself do not mix work and personal life. Most of what she and myself shared are during our private time together. perhaps i am not asking the right question here. But yes, although i do find that it is odd of the sudden change in her reactions and are curious about it, i am not pestering her nor forcing anything, i am just letting it be, as we go along. Anyway, I do treasure all your views and welcome more. Thanks.

Posted by deezie
lol 1803 - you beat me to it

Sorry 😛

I can only speak from my own experiences but if I were that Pisces girl then it would mean that I was not interested in anything more than a friendship and I am trying to keep it at the friendship level by my changes in actions. A lot of my guy friends have fallen for me over the years and I can sense when they do and that is when my behavior changes from more friendly to more cold. I just do not want to give the wrong impression.

That being said, when I do actually like someone I also do not go out of my way to let them know and sometimes get really shy once I realize I have feelings so this could be a possibility. You can only know if you ask her on a date. A real date.

Again, this is just speaking for me.

^^ I agree.

I do the same thing. If I am interested in someone you will always get a response from me. I delay messages and interaction when I feel someone, I only want to friends with is interested in me.