New to the boards

Hi everyone, my name is Steven and I have been checking out the boards the past few months trying to learn more about myself and my girlfriend. Shes the one that got me to realize how piscean I really was haha, which is a relief because I thought I was really weird compared to other people.

My info is 03/03/81 born in Philadelphia at 7:00 pm
She was born on 02/20/81 in Bangkok at 4:20 pm

This is my first post because Im looking for a little advice from my fellow pisces. In my relationships in the past I usually have been attracted to many females and they to me also, but have never had the feeling that it could last so I usually went on a few dates and quickly lost interest in them and disappeared. That was until I met my pisces lady in 2002. I met her the first week she moved to California on her second day on the job. I went into a bar I never have gone before and was instantly attracted and felt connected to her. I dated her for 6 months, but nothing came out of it when I asked her out because she told me I was too inexperienced in relationships and that I should find one to have "firsts." Well it broke my heart because I really saw myself being with a girl like her for my whole life.

Over the years I never forgot her and called every holiday to see how she was doing, but never came into contact with her. By chance she saw me this past october driving down the street and we rekindled the friendship we had two years previous. We hang out everyday go study, chill at her apartment, and live a nice homey life that we both enjoy. We have been together for three months now and I love the girl to death. I always try to be there for her when she needs me and go out of my way to make her happy. Sometimes I feel unappreciated and retreat into my world only to awaken when she asks me whats wrong. I tell her and everything seems ok. Recently she told me I upset her because I forgot to take down some stickers on a refridgerator that I gave her and when I told her I forgot she turned 180 and said that I dont prioritize her in my life. I live in a strict family environment and she is on her own, so she also gets upset when I tell her I need to spend time with my family. She believes that she is taking me away from them, but I try to reassure her that they do like her because she is so positive to me. But lately she tells me that her life is in disarray because her grades are slipping and that she relies on me to much. She is used to living alone and taking care of herself. She then tells me she wants to break up with me and that lifes not fair because I want to continue and she doesnt. She takes out everything in my car that belongs to her and starts removing my things from her apartment and placing it in a box. She tells me to give back her key, then says that I gave it up so I accept the fact that we are apart when I concede to her demands. I spend the night with her and we sleep in each others arms after a couple hours of separation and have sex when we wake up. I know not everythings ok, but should I be worried that everytime something doesnt go her way that she threatens to break up with me because the emotions are taking its toll with the highs and lows out of nowhere. I dont want her to be unhappy with me, but am I being selfish by keeping the relationship together. I told her I will never let her go, but I cant take the fact that she isnt willing to try unless I start begging her to give me another chance. I dont want to be delusional because she is my first true love and I am not hers. Is she just being a girl or are we not compatible is the question Im asking?

Thanks for listening to the incoherent rant but there is a lot of things that occured and its already a long read.

Can't really say about your issue with your female fish, but I can say that perhaps the problem isn't that she's Pisces - she's female!

The same delimna that has plauged us all for Centuries - how do the genders understand each other.

Hi Steven-

You said something that always "got" to me

"Well it broke my heart because I really saw myself being with a girl like her for my whole life"

The three words- "girl LIKE her"-

I let go of an (supposedly extrememly compatible, top pick of "pisces" match) Aries male because I strongly felt, after SEVEN LONG years, that it wasn't the ACTUAL me he was in love with... it could have been ANY girl LIKE me... Does that make sense? I hope so-

In other words, I felt like he was extrememly in love with, being in love, with a girl LIKE me... He'd say things like "nice italian girl like you", etc... instead of YOU- as in "the one"... I hope you get what I'm saying... !! I did not feel appreciated for my indivduality in that relationship, but rather, that I fit some sort of "mold"- (And this Aries man treated me like gold- would run to the store at 2:00 a.m. to get me Ben & Jerry's if I asked for it!)- & I let him go... AND found my "one" in a man who did not bend over backwards kissing my butt...etc. It just goes to show you... your "one" may not be what you've expected...

You sound a tad young, and admitted to not having very much "experience" (which some girls might find very attractive- this is not a "bad" quality!) But... there are SO MANY fish in the sea- no need to "settle" for a girl "LIKE" that... because you have a unique soul mate, and she's out there :-) My advice is, until your struck in AWE and amazement by your realization that you have found your special, unique "the one", just have fun!! (Careful fun, of course :-)

:-)

Thanks P-Angel and 4theloveofthesea. I dont really go on the computer a lot and find some time between classes on the weekdays.

Well I always tell her I think shes the one for me, but I get insecure when she doesnt tell me the same. I just dont like putting myself out there I guess unless I have to.

Forluvofsea, I was wondering why you let go of the person who did everything for you because Im in a real dilemma. My girl always acts whiny towards me and I do everything I can to make her happy, but sometimes I feel that if I tell her no she will be mad at me even if I think its for her own good. Should I be a man and put my foot down? She has the my way or the highway attitude. I was wondering why you let your aries go if he was always there for you.