Pisces & making friends

Hi everyone..

Why is it so difficult for pisces? What do you all think?

At this point In my life i really feel that Pisces will always be alone and friends will always be at a distance.No matter what! Im so done being genuinely nice.. bc its eventually taken the wrong way lol.. ive concluded i give zero fudges..

I had/have other pisces friends by the way and ive learned to distance myself from them bc thats what works best..(unsaid understanding there). But i feel other people shun away from our confidence and try to either categorize and place us specifically in boxes as a means to figure us out..*side eye ..just stop. Im very accepting of others although i may have an opinion but still..

Also..for some reason Ive acknowledged a repeated dilema where i see ppl that have extreme insecurities always seem to be around me..and their insecurity is exposed somehow unintentionally. But bc im and empath and my intuition is stronger (when im not being oblivious).. i feel the vibes before crap happening and i cant put my finger on it.. smh

Thoughts?

Sounds like a question only Pisces could answer?

Excuse me while I grab my tin foil hat

Posted by LazyK
Sounds like a question only Pisces could answer?

Excuse me while I grab my tin foil hat

Probably ..Lol however youre excused.

Posted by pisceshaze
But i feel other people shun away from our confidence

They shun away from the victim act.

I love Pisces this is my favorite sign! All the Pisces I know are very popular and for good reason... They are non judgemental, fun and usually very calming



Cancer sun/scorpio moon

Posted by Damnata

Posted by pisceshaze
But i feel other people shun away from our confidence

They shun away from the victim act.

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such a typical statement. Thats not even the case. Pisces are not always playing "the victim".

I think ppl should check themselves before insinuating. 😉

Posted by pisceshaze

Posted by Damnata

Posted by pisceshaze
But i feel other people shun away from our confidence

They shun away from the victim act.

such a typical statement. Thats not even the case. Pisces are not always playing "the victim".

I think ppl should check themselves before insinuating. 😉

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You are playing the victim in the OP.

I've learned throughout the years that maybe the grass isn't greener on the other side. I used to wonder why things like friends were so hard for me to obtain. I had people I considered friends who would always come to me with their issues or when they needed someone to talk to. I had a co worker who I got along with real well, but she would go out with other co workers and never invite me. I found it to be weird,

So I've given up on that aspect of life. I enjoy having time by myself. And having friends is like having a garden. You have to water the plants, make sure they get enough sun lights, keep pests away, etc. etc. Friends are the same exact way. They want you to answer every time they call, they want you to go to their kids boring birthday parties, they want you to go out with them on weekends, and I realize I don't have the time to dedicate to those types of commitments.

So just be content being your own friend. Friends come with too much drama and have too many needs.And if you really want friends, you'll attract them.

I used to feel this way.

But now i don't expect people to understand me, like me, agree with me etc.

I can see there are things i do that have worked for me but wont work for others.

I don't care if they put me in a box. They don't have control over me.

If they don't accept the way i am, its their choice and its their right.

Go where you are accepted.

I have learnt to detach myself especially in emotionally draining situations by having boundaries. My friendships now are more about sharing and creating memories instead of power struggles or being drained.

Yes, Pisces can draw in energy vampires due to our selfless nature unfortunately. Sometimes you have to say NO. If someone has way too many problems than me, i honestly don't even bother getting involved now. I don't have the strength to match their needs.

I am not as accepting as i used to be. If there is no respect,i am out. I am still empathetic but now its a two way street. I am not going to lose myself in people's dilemmas or be in one sided situations. They have to take responsibility for their own inner work.

With boundaries, you can teach people how they treat you overtime. This creates rewarding friendships. For those who don't respect your boundaries, don't entertain them again.

Its starts with you. Don't give up. We have something to offer but self protection is key in keeping things balanced.

🙂

Posted by Cancan26
I love Pisces this is my favorite sign! All the Pisces I know are very popular and for good reason... They are non judgemental, fun and usually very calming

+1. when they get out there and meet people, they are usually successful.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by pisceshaze

Posted by Damnata

Posted by pisceshaze
But i feel other people shun away from our confidence

They shun away from the victim act.

such a typical statement. Thats not even the case. Pisces are not always playing "the victim".

I think ppl should check themselves before insinuating. 😉

You are playing the victim in the OP.

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Nopey Nope. *waving index finger* This is my is merely a post of me venting and asking other Pisces their thoughts on making friends hence the title and forum.

Posted by Algol-Rising
It's really hard to find someone who will truly "get you" and who will be patient enough to wait for you to show them your true self. No, that true self. You know, the TRUE self sitting in the back of your head watching out of your eyes.

When you do find someone like that, it's really hard to accept when they do something you see as a slight or betrayal.

And basically, all other friendships will feel hollow, usually, so why bother? (This is the Pisces in me talking.)

Of course, you should bother, because everyone needs people. And you should try to look past your sensitivity, because you're capable. (This is the Gemini in me talking.)

This very true, ("ppl getting to know us") and It really is difficult ("trusting others"). Its like either I'm the "sensitive victim" *blah* or too "insensitive". For the most part I think I'd rather have the attitude of a virgo and just be like whatever and let people come and go and do as they please with out the emotional connect.. ya know, so that my soul isn't irritated.

:-) *flips hair, smiles and walks away* LOL

Posted by lexci
I've learned throughout the years that maybe the grass isn't greener on the other side. I used to wonder why things like friends were so hard for me to obtain. I had people I considered friends who would always come to me with their issues or when they needed someone to talk to. I had a co worker who I got along with real well, but she would go out with other co workers and never invite me. I found it to be weird,

So I've given up on that aspect of life. I enjoy having time by myself. And having friends is like having a garden. You have to water the plants, make sure they get enough sun lights, keep pests away, etc. etc. Friends are the same exact way. They want you to answer every time they call, they want you to go to their kids boring birthday parties, they want you to go out with them on weekends, and I realize I don't have the time to dedicate to those types of commitments.

So just be content being your own friend. Friends come with too much drama and have too many needs.And if you really want friends, you'll attract them.

This is exactly what happens to me a lot but because of my personality and I try to do that. but end up being used ◉_◉ and I don't like that feeling. so I've just decided officially to stick to myself.

Also. I think my mysteriousness come off like .. a box of surprises .. or something and people just never know what personality they're gonna get because of mutable ways depending on my surroundings. So maybe that's part of it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Posted by netpower
I used to feel this way.

But now i don't expect people to understand me, like me, agree with me etc.

I can see there are things i do that have worked for me but wont work for others.

I don't care if they put me in a box. They don't have control over me.

If they don't accept the way i am, its their choice and its their right.

Go where you are accepted.

I have learnt to detach myself especially in emotionally draining situations by having boundaries. My friendships now are more about sharing and creating memories instead of power struggles or being drained.

Yes, Pisces can draw in energy vampires due to our selfless nature unfortunately. Sometimes you have to say NO. If someone has way too many problems than me, i honestly don't even bother getting involved now. I don't have the strength to match their needs.

I am not as accepting as i used to be. If there is no respect,i am out. I am still empathetic but now its a two way street. I am not going to lose myself in people's dilemmas or be in one sided situations. They have to take responsibility for their own inner work.

With boundaries, you can teach people how they treat you overtime. This creates rewarding friendships. For those who don't respect your boundaries, don't entertain them again.

Its starts with you. Don't give up. We have something to offer but self protection is key in keeping things balanced.

🙂

Yes! I wholeheartedly agree. \ (•◡•) /

Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
I've been lucky in that sense tbh because I've never been one to want too many friends. I just don't click easily with people and I'm not into dramatic friendships where there's constant fights.

My sister (who's a pisces sun/taurus moon) has always been surrounded by friends and would put them before her husband/family. But over the years they've all backstabbed her somehow, we were having a conversation about this yesterday actually and she's adapted my mindset now as well, that quantity of friends doesn't mean shit, it's the quality that counts.

Yeah that's where I am too because its happen to me a lot over time. I set out to genuinely be nice and then they do some crap, I'm like really. Ive gotten to the point to even reason out why they may have done crap be it their friendship history or the way they were raised, but then some of it is complete bullshizz. Then when you feel the secret hatred vibes come and someone ELSE confirms it, that is the worse part.

Kudos to her for gaining that!

I think it comes from "what you want you attract" - subconsciously.



in my experience, i have plenty of great friends, but i do too have trouble making them if they don't approach me first. Pisces see the world very differently and deep down we CRAVE that other person who can understand us and actually enjoy it!. so many people we interact with, live life on a different level and there is no emotional exciting connection so its mundane. pisces walk away from mundane. We want real and exciting and understanding and caring and most of all secure and loving friends - which is somewhat harder to come by.

IN my opinion pisces have fewer friends because without realising it, we are very choosy. our energy is delicate.

Posted by surferpisces
I think it comes from "what you want you attract" - subconsciously.

Pisces see the world very differently and deep down we CRAVE that other person who can understand us and actually enjoy it!. so many people we interact with, live life on a different level and there is no emotional exciting connection so its mundane. pisces walk away from mundane. We want real and exciting and understanding and caring and most of all secure and loving friends - which is somewhat harder to come by.

IN my opinion pisces have fewer friends because without realising it, we are very choosy. our energy is delicate.

I also believe this, especially being choosy about our energy, but didn't think to consider it 🙂