My ex (Pisces sun, Aquarius moon, Capricorn Venus) broke up with me very recently after dating for 2 years. We were very much in love and had a wonderful beautiful relationship unlike anything else we’ve ever known. We had been talking about marriage and kids with each other since we first met. We did fight quite a lot throughout the relationship, typically over misunderstandings, though things improved a lot over the course of the relationship and we were clearly moving in the right direction. There were several near-breakups in the past, on both ends, but we always ended up deciding to stay together and work things through and ended up happier for it. Recently however he called things off between us and it seems much more serious this time. He’s been unhappy recently over a few things, like feeling he doesn’t have enough freedom to live the life he wants/fear that time is passing by and he’s going to end up with regrets, and that I don’t respect his boundaries when he says no to things. We both have fault in most of our issues, but often fail to properly communicate and understand each other’s side of it. He told me that he feels depressed when he thinks about having a marriage and kids and future with me or really anyone and that he’s been depressed lately and feels like he’s settling for less, although in the past he’s often told me that he doesn’t deserve me and that I’m so good to him and that he needs me. He said he just wants to be single and doesn’t know how to explain it. Another thing he said is that because he’s accomplished so much in his life lately and has gained a lot of momentum, he really wants to keep going and doesn’t want this relationship holding him back, even though he wouldn’t have gotten here in the first place without me. We were really good for each other and pushed and motivated one another to be better people and improve ourselves and our lives, but now he’s just jumping ship to try to have something better. He’s the type who’s pretty flaky and changes his mind a lot, so I don’t really know what’s going to happen. There was a whole sequence of events that sort of led up to this; we’ve been living apart long distance for about 4 months now and I’ve been trying to move back to be with him (though he doesn’t want to live together, so I think that caused him some stress), and I recently stayed with him at his parents house during the holidays for 2 weeks which was a lot for him because he needs a lot of space to recharge and wasn’t getting it. The full moon and eclipse was yesterday, so emotions have been high. He ghosted me for a day after the break up, and then texted me very early the next morning to tell me that that was the first day since we met where we didn’t talk at all. Later he said that it’s so hard to be away from me even though he knows that this is what’s right for us. I asked him why he texted me to say these things and he said he didn’t know and that he had wanted to delete the messages once he sent them but didn’t want to confuse me further. He hasn’t told his family or friends yet. I’m moving back in a week to be near him (it’s too late for me to back out of the move). Do you think that he’ll come back? I really do believe deep down in my heart that he’s the one and that we’re meant to be together. I have a strong feeling that he wants to be together and is just scared, but I’m scared too that I might lose the love of my life forever. Thanks for reading all this, any advice is appreciated.
