To Durrie

Hi

Thanks for responding to my message last time.

You know my friendship with my fish friend kind of gotten down recently these last days. I've been having a butter time recently with many things and stopped spending time with my friend so much.The reason for that was that I dont have time so much as i am working and studying at the same time and cant afford to waste my time where my fish friend seems to do it all the time. What pisses me off the most that she always talks about she needs to get a job and etc but she doesnt even try looking how could she get anything. She began spending more time with a friend of mine and she doesnt do butter either and now she's become worse and worse. Now I feel totally bad as if I have wasted so much time on our friendship and never benefited nothing from it.

I feel as I am always trying to do staff and make sure that my life carries on no matter for the problems that happen in life she doesnt so anything about it.She misses her lectures and hardly goes to uni and literally gets stoned all the time. I cant afford to waste my time as the fees for uni are very high for overseas students and literally cant do it. This whole situation is bringing me down so much and now I feel as I have to turn down on our friendship and become distant but I dont want to because I love my friend lots but its just happens to be that way.

And I dont to really yell at her and tell to her face about the things that went wrong because I know she will get offended by it as she is pisces and will take it to her heart and maybe will be pissed off with me for days!

If you have any opinion on this what shall I do about such situation with my friend please reply ok...

many thanx dashka

sorry i wrote butter time i meant butter time thats quite funny lol

Hey Dashka...

I'm sorry to hear about your friend and the way they are behaving and I don't know that I can really help you there other than to echo my sentiments from out last post.

I'm glad you don't yell at her but I do feel you should maybe approach her about things. It's tricky I know and you do stand the possibility of makeing her more angry but then that is not your fault and if your intentions are sincere and from your heart as I know they will be she has no righ to be angry with you...

Always remember Dashka that the way people treat others is often an indication of how they feel about themselves. She may be and quite possibly have being a piscean a situation going on in her life that you are unaware of...

One important thing to remember is that people cannot help others untill that person is ready to help themselves as no matter how hard you try you will never be your friend and as such can never expect to have a lasting affect on them untill they acknowledge that fact for themselves...

Hmmm...this is a tough one Dashka and my sympathy goes out to you...you are a good friend which is evident by your concern but hey sometimes that's what friends are for...to be ther through the bad times.

Only one more thing I'd like to mention to you...you said you feel like you may have wasted your time with her friendship...that's not true and you know it.
Nothing happens in life without your will being an active part of lifes process and besides...I think you are fallinginto the same old trap of seeing the negative side of things just because that is where you are at right now...

My advice...Look after No1...be a friend and be there for her should she ask...maybe even ask her what's up but with the right intentions and a sincere will to help.

It's a tough one...take care...
Durrie.