What to do with you pisces? (Page 2)

Intrigued, I'm glad you found this out. When you mentioned yesterday how you met him on a dating site, that he travels a lot, and he was all around unavailable, it kicked my intuition into gear to think this guy is not on the up and up. I'd hate to believe that he didn't really lose anyone in his life, but part of me now wonders if he has used that story for sympathy sex with so many women.

I'm glad you are cutting yourself loose from this guy - He's a manipulator from what I've read.

I love how the Crabs always hide their messages after posting them!

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Posted by intriguedbypiscesman

Posted by winterwrought
If it being a scheme is true, then that'd be fucked up.

And besides, handsome men merit no sympathy. Their looks and charm get them what they want - easily. Helpless and lonely my ass. He may very well be exploiting his grief (even if earnest) to his advantage. All it takes is a few sullen words, a tragic tale, a sad downturn of the eyes, and some women can't help but to say "Aw. I'll make it bettah fo ya." *Kiss Kiss, grab his hand*.

I'm a fish. And even though I've no "tallies" on my bedpost, I still know that Pisceans traits are easy to exploit for selfish means. I'm trying to kick this horrid habit. I shouldn't expect others to feel sorry for me, or even coerce them to (as I've once done.. years ago). Point being is that Pisceans can be cons if they choose to be.

Why would he do this and then turn down my advances? I'm not ugly and he knew from my expressing my vivid imagination that it'd be a moment he'll never forget. Knowing what I know now....that will never happen. Why would he tell me about the other women before he got me in bed if he was using me? I think he wanted to open my eyes because he didn't want to hurt me. He did though.

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I can see why you may feel hurt but don't mistake him as the one that hurt you. Your projected fantasy of who/what you think he is, was your own making.

I think he's being very honest with you, and didn't take you up on your offers...therefore he does hold you in high regard. But you're a water sign, right? You are probably not a stranger to sex therapy. Sex just for the pleasure of feeling something without obligation or entanglement.

Separating sex and love is not difficult. First thing I did when I broke out of a long term relationship was dust of the cob webs so to speak and was very upfront with my partners that it was only about the physical. Not like it means anything so I wouldn't feel 'betrayed'... you were not in a relationship with this man.

Posted by shellshocker

I can see why you may feel hurt but don't mistake him as the one that hurt you. Your projected fantasy of who/what you think he is, was your own making.

Without question.


It has been made quite clear that lonliness and a lack of feeling loved is the motivator in chasing a man whom doesn't care. Unfortunately, in this case, the fantasy has been allowed to replace reality ....



... this is all in your head, intrigued, it's a dream that you've woven so you don't have to face the pain of your reality

^^ having said that... PPB said this in another thread and I think he explained it well. I agree with him...

Posted by PiscesPosterBoy


I don't believe monogomy is outdated; I go to sleep every night hopeing that I'll have the person I love most to myself for all eternity. 🙂 Hmm, I've sat here in thought for quite a while now trying to back up my point that the "ideology" of monogomy is unevolved.. But the more I think about it the more the words escape me.

This is what I've managed to bring together:
The monogomous ideology is underevolved. For the sake that it is conditional and based on two egos getting together, appreciating the feelings that they bring one another, and sticking together for that reason. Unconditional love, and monogomy that follows as a result, is a different story 🙂

you don't have to stick with someone just because they satisfy a particular feeling at a particular time. I bet he uses your imaginative stories and scenarios with the other women! but you might see this as bad rather than good... (good is probably not the best word to use, sorry)

^^ i was referring to my last post. i'm too slow for this fast moving thread

I'm a smart, rational woman, but I got caught up in wanting to finally be happy and I thought I stumbled onto him for a reason. I thought it was so we could pick each other back up and look forward to something. I still knew all along it wasn't going to go my way but I happily stayed naive because he eased my emptiness.

One thing about a Pisces is that they don't need anybody to pick them up. They can do it all on their own, just a choice they have to make and that can be the hard part.

I think it's good that you can now continue to be his friend (at least from a distance) and see him in a more realistic light. You can now see yourself in a more realistic light and work on making your situation better. No one can do this but you...

Lol um so I should move on then ?

Emma, yes.
Your post got hijacked, sorry.

Posted by shellshocker

One thing about a Pisces is that they don't need anybody to pick them up. They can do it all on their own, just a choice they have to make and that can be the hard part.

So dead on!

It's just so hard to get over him. The way he looked deep into my eyes (the piercing gaze), the half smiles, the way he moved the hair away from my face, the subtle touches, the way he would tease me and pinch me (lightly) during conversation, touch my hand when handing me something.I'm a cancer and I don't usually fall for guys that easily, but with him i fell, and I fell hard. Now I just don't know what to do.

"In this case, if the Pisces isn't wrapping his entire world around you .... then he isn't emotionally connected to deep enough to be your partner. So, my advice to you is to put into memory what you want to take with you to recall .. as you find the exit door.

Because I guarantee you, if you are calling/emailing/texting him all the time while he isn't bothering to initiate then he doesn't consider you as being girlfriend material to him."

Sorry, haven't read the whole thread just the first few posts but this ^^^^^^^^

I was married to a Pisces for 15 years, and if they want you emotionally then you have the whole of them, and they enter into it fully involving you and him in everything, you become their confidant, partner, person to turn to, other half, they will take care of your emotional needs and you will have no doubt that you are in a proper and mature relationship - they are complete partners in the relationship once they choose you and they do not play games with this - not initiating contacts means you haven't got him emotionally - and they are not slow when they have found the one they want, so any slowness means they are not and probably will not become emotionally committed to you.

Decided to read the whole thread - i'm doubting this guy - especially his story about losing his entire family on christmas day.