Why did he stop texting me frequently?

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Hello. Wrote here long time ago. I'm not going to give much feedback but I want you to -please- give some ideas of why he has stopped texting me frequently. He is my boyfriend for a yerar, and as far as I know everything is OK. I have made a big effort to give this relationship some stability and he has shown me he is with me. I know all his family, friends, and bosses, his habits and some of his wishes. When we have fought he has made a big effort to turn down his sensibility and speak instead of yell or fight. I'm not a chaser and I'm not over him all the time, I mean, I give him some space without claiming or getting angry. I think: If he wants to be, he weill be... if not. I'm really sorry, but I can't force him. We have planned some trips for the future and we usually spend very good time when we're together. I can only see him on weekends because of his work, but he has a pic of us in his profile in whatsapp and we used to text each other all the day... every one or two hours maybe... but it's been like a week that he doesn't text me that frequently anymore. I haven't claimed anything, but I'm getting nervous and I don't know if he has lost interest or what might be happening. I only receive two or three messages a day now. I used to wait for him to say good bye at night, and now I wait for him and he doesn't answer. It is until next day that I can read his good night message because he answers when I am already slept. He used to call me approximately three times on weekdays, but now he doesn't call me. What might be happening? Is he losing interest? or maybe he is getting bored of somethig that seems to be good? or is it that he doesn't realle love me? I'm getting worried because he is starting to vanish...
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Posted by AdrianaCrabTor

Hello. Wrote here long time ago. I'm not going to give much feedback but I want you to -please- give some ideas of why he has stopped texting me frequently. He is my boyfriend for a yerar, and as far as I know everything is OK. I have made a big effort to give this relationship some stability and he has shown me he is with me. I know all his family, friends, and bosses, his habits and some of his wishes. When we have fought he has made a big effort to turn down his sensibility and speak instead of yell or fight. I'm not a chaser and I'm not over him all the time, I mean, I give him some space without claiming or getting angry. I think: If he wants to be, he weill be... if not. I'm really sorry, but I can't force him. We have planned some trips for the future and we usually spend very good time when we're together. I can only see him on weekends because of his work, but he has a pic of us in his profile in whatsapp and we used to text each other all the day... every one or two hours maybe... but it's been like a week that he doesn't text me that frequently anymore. I haven't claimed anything, but I'm getting nervous and I don't know if he has lost interest or what might be happening. I only receive two or three messages a day now. I used to wait for him to say good bye at night, and now I wait for him and he doesn't answer. It is until next day that I can read his good night message because he answers when I am already slept. He used to call me approximately three times on weekdays, but now he doesn't call me. What might be happening? Is he losing interest? or maybe he is getting bored of somethig that seems to be good? or is it that he doesn't realle love me? I'm getting worried because he is starting to vanish...


This is weird considering a male Cancerian love to hear from you (they want to hear you talk). Is he getting too comfy with you? I KNOW you've read here in DXPnet about what sign is the most "sensitive". Well, that would be the Cancerian. If you mentioned you've been recently quarreling, then you've got your answer. He's sulking. I KEEP reminding ya'll to look at the zodiac sign!!!! The crab crawls inside his shell and all you see are his beady eyes peering out. Leave him alone.

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You have been with him for a year. You should just voice your concerns.


I have sneaking suspicion that they have not really been "dating".


I'm not exactly sure what to make of it honestly, but what stands out the most is "I can only see him on weekends because of his work."


Work = "ex" girlfriend?


Ugh, I hope not. I think what makes it confusing for me is there appears to be missing details that seems pertinent to offering any sort of sound advice. As she stated: "I'm not going to give much feedback." Also, it sounds like English may not be her first language, so the story is a little confusing for me. Quite honestly, the only thing I suggest is just talk to him about it, because the truth is, we have no idea why he backed off.
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This may help.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/just-a-question-please-i-need-to-broaden-my-perspective-9579047/?checkpg=1

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/anyone-who-is-willing-to-give-advice-please-i-really-need-it--9295498/?p=2
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Posted by AdrianaCrabTor

I can only see him on weekends because of his work

I only receive two or three messages a day now.


Just ask him the next time you see him if everything is good between you.

Honestly 3 texts per day and weekend hangouts sound like a healthy relationship to me. Yes in the beginning you are all up each others butts 24/7 but thats not sustainable.

I feel you cause I can sometimes get inside my head and be a bit needy. I'll even tell my dude that I'm feeling needy and can he call me to talk me off the ledge or whatever. Hypothetical ledge.

We agreed to not go longer than 7 days without seeing each other. Yes life is busy, but you gotta have that quality time to feel the connection.

I'd rather have his full attention/quality time and only see him on the weekend, than to live together but pass like ships in the night.
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Thank you all. English is not my first language but I will try to briefly explain.

He has been my boyfriend for a year. I can only see him on Saturday and Sunday, and sometimes on Fridays because of his work. I think he has been loyal because I have been introduced to all his world: family, friends, and work, and he always introduces me as his girlfriend and in his what’s app he has a picture of us. We have planned some trips for the future and he told me this will be “our year”. Certainly I am not giving it all because he also supports this relationship, although he doesn’t has any “detail?” Such as chocolates or flowers, but he is very protective and gives me his attention. My worries come because he used to call me at least three times from Monday to Thursday. Now he doesn’t call anymore. He used to text me during all day and now he just sends two or three messages a day. We used to say good bye at night (by messages) together and I always waited for him and when I texted him he responded almost immediately. Now I don’t find him at nights and I read his message until next day because he sends it very late and I have to wake up early (so I go to sleep early) because I wake up at 6am everyday. Out of it I don’t see anything strange. My only worry is he might be losing interest or getting bored 😢
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Posted by AdrianaCrabTor

Thank you all. English is not my first language but I will try to briefly explain.

He has been my boyfriend for a year. I can only see him on Saturday and Sunday, and sometimes on Fridays because of his work. I think he has been loyal because I have been introduced to all his world: family, friends, and work, and he always introduces me as his girlfriend and in his what’s app he has a picture of us. We have planned some trips for the future and he told me this will be “our year”. Certainly I am not giving it all because he also supports this relationship, although he doesn’t has any “detail?” Such as chocolates or flowers, but he is very protective and gives me his attention. My worries come because he used to call me at least three times from Monday to Thursday. Now he doesn’t call anymore. He used to text me during all day and now he just sends two or three messages a day. We used to say good bye at night (by messages) together and I always waited for him and when I texted him he responded almost immediately. Now I don’t find him at nights and I read his message until next day because he sends it very late and I have to wake up early (so I go to sleep early) because I wake up at 6am everyday. Out of it I don’t see anything strange. My only worry is he might be losing interest or getting bored 😢

He may just be extra busy if it has only been like this for a week. You should talk to him about it.