Are we meant for each other?

Hi everyone! 🙂

I am a neophyte so to speak in astrology so any helpful insight would be much appreciated!

So, I'm having issues lately in my love relationship. I have been married for 3 years... prior to marriage, we survived a rocky 2-year long distance relationship. We felt an instant attraction the moment we locked eyes. We felt we are fated to meet and marry each other someday which happened. But things drastically changed since we married... he is not the fun loving guy I used to know before, he exhibits a controlling streak in him, he is secretive, hates confrontation, demanding, he also tends to psychoanalyze everything I do or say, assuming all things have hidden motives. We clash on our values and belief systems. I sometimes feel that I married the wrong guy... other times I feel like we will separate ways sooner or later. I tried to consult astrology as to gain a perspective on our conflicts but I find it a bit confusing. Can anyone help me understand our synastry/ composite charts? It would be really useful to know if there are aspects that suggest:

*lasting union
*strong positive aspects
*hard aspects to work on
*struggles that would be encountered

Many thanks to all! 🙂

Posted by southerncomfort
Not trying to be a jerk, but the only thing I got out of this whole thing was "prior to marriage, we survived a rocky 2-year long distance relationship."

Anything in life is only as strong as it's foundation. And you married the guy.

So.

I wonder about this too. But this could be a good or bad thing. Rocky could mean it had its difficulties, but you overcame them. Or it could mean you guys were so bad off you argued and split up constantly.

Can you please elaborate a little more on this?

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by southerncomfort
Not trying to be a jerk, but the only thing I got out of this whole thing was "prior to marriage, we survived a rocky 2-year long distance relationship."

Anything in life is only as strong as it's foundation. And you married the guy.

So.

I wonder about this too. But this could be a good or bad thing. Rocky could mean it had its difficulties, but you overcame them. Or it could mean you guys were so bad off you argued and split up constantly.

Can you please elaborate a little more on this?

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I'm sorry I haven't made myself clear on that.

What I really meant was when I said rocky, we went under serious ups and downs that almost broke us but then we managed to survive them. We never took the "break up"/ "cool off" stage.

Posted by KittyKnitter
we are meant to meet everyone we meet. the confusion is whether they should be a friend or partner. should they stay a part of our life or be a part of it for a short period, i admit i got this wrong and stayed with the guy i was constantly arguing with for 14 years, 14 years too long. your account of your relationships sounds like mine. except i did not marry and i had a child with this guy. i didn't realize we were not meant to be partners because we were not equals, i acted like an adult and he was immature.

even if your chart aspects are favorable, it sounds like he might have low self esteem and is immature. and if his mindset is to stay that way, then nothing will change so long as you accept the circumstances as they are. good luck with the chart readings.

you can try posting your info on grupovenus.com. i found their compatibility and synastry charts the most useful and it explains stuff in detail. just a suggestion.

Aww, sounds so true KittyKnitter! The attraction was so strong at first but things weren't just the same as they were before... we have so much difference that oftentimes I find myself questioning if I can still put up with everything. I'm not putting all the blame on him but as you said, I was feeling more like the adult in the relationship, must because of my strong Capricorn placements. Our moon signs aren't the most compatible out there but still I'm trying to do a lot of compromising just to keep the relationship.

I will definitely look into your suggestion as I feel that every single day of my life, I'm walking on eggshells and losing myself in the process of loving someone too much.