Attraction to driven men

Are you attracted to driven men?

I am, I don't mean, rich, I mean someone who has dreams and are chasing them. Someone who doesn't settle for the bare minimum. I think it turns me off when a man is happy with just status quo. I believe this Gemini guy is selling himself short by not even having a desire to make more for his life. 😪

I made that at the age of 26yrs old, I'm looking to chase dreams with someone so when retirement rolls around I don't worry financially. Are Gem men not like this?

Is this the Scorpio or Virgo energy that's so dominant in my chart? He is Taurus dominant.

Posted by ididntbut_itstillhurt

yeah but overly driven people annoy the shit out of me... like the other day i watched a video about some 20 somethings believing they will be making 20k per month... that's just unrealistic and we cannot hang together. so both extremes are supper annoying.

hmmm it's possible for those in allopathic healthcare that go straight through grad school and residency/post grad training.

( eg crnas and physicians)

you can be making 20k+ a month by the time you are 28 or 29

i don't mind driven men

but i'm not particularly fond of smart mouth men or overly intellectual men for that matter

the highest level of intelligence i expect is for them not to accidentally burn the house down level

also those with high functioning brains somehow plan robbing banks or using you for money

if he makes me think, i ultimately won't settle with him

ambition is a turn on but I also don't want a sell out or an elitist

Posted by ididntbut_itstillhurt

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by ididntbut_itstillhurt

yeah but overly driven people annoy the shit out of me... like the other day i watched a video about some 20 somethings believing they will be making 20k per month... that's just unrealistic and we cannot hang together. so both extremes are supper annoying.

hmmm it's possible for those in allopathic healthcare that go straight through grad school and residency/post grad training.

( eg crnas and physicians)

you can be making 20k+ a month by the time you are 28 or 29

yeah and that's great but they had no idea... one was a fashion entrepreneur and the other had a desk job... it was like a blind date experiment where they ask each other questions... so if i had been there i would automatically been like... and WHAT THE HELL is your plan to achieve this?

but tell me why a plan was not mentioned not once? bc they got none.

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lol maybe there plan is to use the law of attraction lmao 😂 😆 🤣

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't mind driven men

but i'm not particularly fond of smart mouth men or overly intellectual men for that matter

the highest level of intelligence i expect is for them not to accidentally burn the house down level

also those with high functioning brains somehow plan robbing banks or using you for money

if he makes me think, i ultimately won't settle with him

hmmm do you really think all highly intelligent people are prone to be manipulative and or possibly narcissistic—

this is an interesting theory because the most "book smart" person I entertained was a text book narcissist

while my ex whom was the least book smart was the most trust worthy....so there maybe something to your theory

Driven is alright but they must play hard too!!

So it depends on how driven.. that is more a security trait probably earth placements.

I think a balance is best but I tend to be attracted to fun and enjoying life even with my cap traits. I also work hard too so I’d prefer the work hard, play hard type 😁

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't mind driven men

but i'm not particularly fond of smart mouth men or overly intellectual men for that matter

the highest level of intelligence i expect is for them not to accidentally burn the house down level

also those with high functioning brains somehow plan robbing banks or using you for money

if he makes me think, i ultimately won't settle with him

No sassin' back, huh? 😂

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Driven is alright but they must play hard too!!

So it depends on how driven.. that is more a security trait probably earth placements.

I think a balance is best but I tend to be attracted to fun and enjoying life even with my cap traits. I also work hard too so I’d prefer the work hard, play hard type 😁

Seems counterintuitive but i work really hard so I can take more time off and then spend lots not denying any experience. Then work super hard again. Aries moon can be impulsive with money. I attract a lot of lazy princesses though so maybe opposites attract 🤔

Posted by ididntbut_itstillhurt

yeah but overly driven people annoy the shit out of me... like the other day i watched a video about some 20 somethings believing they will be making 20k per month... that's just unrealistic and we cannot hang together. so both extremes are supper annoying.

Yes, I agree these people get on my nerves. Lol I have a few high school friends like this. There is a healthy medium, I feel.

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Driven is alright but they must play hard too!!

So it depends on how driven.. that is more a security trait probably earth placements.

I think a balance is best but I tend to be attracted to fun and enjoying life even with my cap traits. I also work hard too so I’d prefer the work hard, play hard type 😁

Seems counterintuitive but i work really hard so I can take more time off and then spend lots not denying any experience. Then work super hard again. Aries moon can be impulsive with money. I attract a lot of lazy princesses though so maybe opposites attract 🤔

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Well my exCap did that, work hard and make more money for fun vacations to really enjoy yourself. Make sure you have a cushion, so you have to work hard to keep that cushion & do fun things! Also ex Aries sun/cap moon ( opposite of you) very much work hard & play hard too. He didn’t know how to rest lol even when they told him he needed a liver transplant and was supposed to rest for health! He did know how to spend money though lol I’ve done far better financially since we got divorced.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't mind driven men

but i'm not particularly fond of smart mouth men or overly intellectual men for that matter

the highest level of intelligence i expect is for them not to accidentally burn the house down level

also those with high functioning brains somehow plan robbing banks or using you for money

if he makes me think, i ultimately won't settle with him

hmmm do you really think all highly intelligent people are prone to be manipulative and or possibly narcissistic—

this is an interesting theory because the most "book smart" person I entertained was a text book narcissist

while my ex whom was the least book smart was the most trust worthy....so there maybe something to your theory

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dad vibes> uni vibes

i feel no sexual attraction for anyone's mind, only fleeting interest

Posted by Bellabebe

Not really I like laid back easy guys 🤷‍♀️ the capricorn guy was really handy it was almost scary but he’s daddy so you know he can do no wrong haaaahaaa

Omg, that's even more of a bonus if they are handy men as well. Ooh weee...

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't mind driven men

but i'm not particularly fond of smart mouth men or overly intellectual men for that matter

the highest level of intelligence i expect is for them not to accidentally burn the house down level

also those with high functioning brains somehow plan robbing banks or using you for money

if he makes me think, i ultimately won't settle with him

hmmm do you really think all highly intelligent people are prone to be manipulative and or possibly narcissistic—

this is an interesting theory because the most "book smart" person I entertained was a text book narcissist

while my ex whom was the least book smart was the most trust worthy....so there maybe something to your theory

dad vibes> uni vibes

i feel no sexual attraction for anyone's mind, only fleeting interest

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hmmm I'm the opposite.

lol you will probably end up in a happier and healthier relationship

Posted by Nightcap-

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't mind driven men

but i'm not particularly fond of smart mouth men or overly intellectual men for that matter

the highest level of intelligence i expect is for them not to accidentally burn the house down level

also those with high functioning brains somehow plan robbing banks or using you for money

if he makes me think, i ultimately won't settle with him

No sassin' back, huh? 😂

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i like men who are more physical, translates to more practical in my head

most people are clever, smart mouthed and interesting

i don't want most people anyway

don't burn down the house and remember things i like is all i want

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Driven is alright but they must play hard too!!

So it depends on how driven.. that is more a security trait probably earth placements.

I think a balance is best but I tend to be attracted to fun and enjoying life even with my cap traits. I also work hard too so I’d prefer the work hard, play hard type 😁

Yes, I want the balance like you stated. I don't want a workaholic, either.

Posted by Black-Mamba

If you don't have passion in life what's the point of living.

☝️💪👊👌🙌

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Posted by WateryGem

Are you attracted to driven men?

I am, I don't mean, rich, I mean someone who has dreams and are chasing them. Someone who doesn't settle for the bare minimum. I think it turns me off when a man is happy with just status quo. I believe this Gemini guy is selling himself short by not even having a desire to make more for his life. 😪

I made that at the age of 26yrs old, I'm looking to chase dreams with someone so when retirement rolls around I don't worry financially. Are Gem men not like this?

Is this the Scorpio or Virgo energy that's so dominant in my chart? He is Taurus dominant.

Retirement 🤦🏻‍♂️

You gonna live till that —😲

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Hell yeah!! Lol I wanna be the granny dancing and acting up with my kids, grand kids and great grand kids.

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Posted by Nightcap-

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't mind driven men

but i'm not particularly fond of smart mouth men or overly intellectual men for that matter

the highest level of intelligence i expect is for them not to accidentally burn the house down level

also those with high functioning brains somehow plan robbing banks or using you for money

if he makes me think, i ultimately won't settle with him

No sassin' back, huh? 😂

i like men who are more physical, translates to more practical in my head

most people are clever, smart mouthed and interesting

i don't want most people anyway

don't burn down the house and remember things i like is all i want

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Sounds easy enough lol (and be nice to your animals). It's possible to be both.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Nightcap-

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Driven is alright but they must play hard too!!

So it depends on how driven.. that is more a security trait probably earth placements.

I think a balance is best but I tend to be attracted to fun and enjoying life even with my cap traits. I also work hard too so I’d prefer the work hard, play hard type 😁

Seems counterintuitive but i work really hard so I can take more time off and then spend lots not denying any experience. Then work super hard again. Aries moon can be impulsive with money. I attract a lot of lazy princesses though so maybe opposites attract 🤔

Well my exCap did that, work hard and make more money for fun vacations to really enjoy yourself. Make sure you have a cushion, so you have to work hard to keep that cushion & do fun things! Also ex Aries sun/cap moon ( opposite of you) very much work hard & play hard too. He didn’t know how to rest lol even when they told him he needed a liver transplant and was supposed to rest for health! He did know how to spend money though lol I’ve done far better financially since we got divorced.

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Some of that sounds like me. Back when I was a robo athlete, I'd always play injured if I could walk. Of course, injuries would linger longer because of it. If I'm sick, I usually pretend I'm not or not tell anyone. Luckily, I'm pretty healthy. It's definitely the fire. I have to tire myself out or I'll get restless thinking about all the things I could be doing lol. For me, I like to travel (prominent Sag in my chart too) so I spare no expense because I think ' Well, when am I ever going to be here again? I might as well do everything while I'm here.'

Hell yes! I am all drawn to ambitious and driven men if they’re physically attractive as well. Unfortunately, it’s not often you come across physically attractive men who are driven for success because the good lookers are using their looks to get women to foot their bills.

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Driven is alright but they must play hard too!!

So it depends on how driven.. that is more a security trait probably earth placements.

I think a balance is best but I tend to be attracted to fun and enjoying life even with my cap traits. I also work hard too so I’d prefer the work hard, play hard type 😁

Seems counterintuitive but i work really hard so I can take more time off and then spend lots not denying any experience. Then work super hard again. Aries moon can be impulsive with money. I attract a lot of lazy princesses though so maybe opposites attract 🤔

Well my exCap did that, work hard and make more money for fun vacations to really enjoy yourself. Make sure you have a cushion, so you have to work hard to keep that cushion & do fun things! Also ex Aries sun/cap moon ( opposite of you) very much work hard & play hard too. He didn’t know how to rest lol even when they told him he needed a liver transplant and was supposed to rest for health! He did know how to spend money though lol I’ve done far better financially since we got divorced.

Some of that sounds like me. Back when I was a robo athlete, I'd always play injured if I could walk. Of course, injuries would linger longer because of it. If I'm sick, I usually pretend I'm not or not tell anyone. Luckily, I'm pretty healthy. It's definitely the fire. I have to tire myself out or I'll get restless thinking about all the things I could be doing lol. For me, I like to travel (prominent Sag in my chart too) so I spare no expense because I think ' Well, when am I ever going to be here again? I might as well do everything while I'm here.'

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I think Caps must like traveling too..my dad & my ex both loved to, and didn’t have any Sag placements. I think I encouraged the Cap to because he knew I liked to. We traveled really well together. Dad took me, my brother, my kids on so many trips. It was his way to spend time with us and have fun together. He was a freaking workaholic and my parents divorced when I was 8 so that was his way of getting quality time with us 🙂

Its double edged sword, because women make us comfortable & take our drive away. You become 1 person instead of being seperate entities. This in turn is how people lose sight of who they are & individual purpose. For men & women it works both ways

I prefer man who is driven by one force is to make me happy! That feels ducking amazing...

Takes him sometimes to figure out what is that makes me happy but if he wants to know he will learn...😍

Posted by Gemitati

I prefer man who is driven by one force is to make me happy! That feels ducking amazing...

Takes him sometimes to figure out what is that makes me happy but if he wants to know he will learn...😍

same ❤️

Posted by Black-Mamba

If you don't have passion in life what's the point of living.

A habit?

Yes, to a certain extent.

It helps to date a workaholic to some degree if you are one, cause only someone married to their job will better understand why you are prioritizing yours.

But then at the same time, for me at least, the older I get the more I am valuing more balance. Still trying to find that perfect mix. In my profession when its busy its busy and you gotta put your head down and power through.

But I am working towards a 4hr work day. Been taking more full weekends off as well. The struggle is real.

Posted by WateryGem

Are you attracted to driven men?

I am, I don't mean, rich, I mean someone who has dreams and are chasing them. Someone who doesn't settle for the bare minimum. I think it turns me off when a man is happy with just status quo. I believe this Gemini guy is selling himself short by not even having a desire to make more for his life. 😪

I made that at the age of 26yrs old, I'm looking to chase dreams with someone so when retirement rolls around I don't worry financially. Are Gem men not like this?

Is this the Scorpio or Virgo energy that's so dominant in my chart? He is Taurus dominant.

It's because of lower brain/instinctual wiring and your female :-)

I don't mean it as a insult. They have done studies. Men with potential were just as attractive if not more then men who are already successful. The exact reason you listed in a common rational for that.

Astrology wise depending on placements, it might matter a lot more then others for you or you may naturally draw men in that stage of life.

A good example of this is having placements in someone's 1st and 10thhouse.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Yes, to a certain extent.

It helps to date a workaholic to some degree if you are one, cause only someone married to their job will better understand why you are prioritizing yours.

But then at the same time, for me at least, the older I get the more I am valuing more balance. Still trying to find that perfect mix. In my profession when its busy its busy and you gotta put your head down and power through.

But I am working towards a 4hr work day. Been taking more full weekends off as well. The struggle is real.

Savings/retirement and Residual income?

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Posted by Bellabebe

Because they have dicks nothing is more important they need to cum more than go to work ijs merry Christmas don’t say I never did anything for y’all good luck! 🙂

You're wrong. Guys who are the most driven are the ones who are cumming the least. That's how sexual energy works.

Okay boomer

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You said that before. What do you mean by Boomer?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Yes, to a certain extent.

It helps to date a workaholic to some degree if you are one, cause only someone married to their job will better understand why you are prioritizing yours.

But then at the same time, for me at least, the older I get the more I am valuing more balance. Still trying to find that perfect mix. In my profession when its busy its busy and you gotta put your head down and power through.

But I am working towards a 4hr work day. Been taking more full weekends off as well. The struggle is real.

Savings/retirement and Residual income?

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Nope. A work less, make more situation.

Now that my office is expanding I can work less hours and since there are more bodies turning out work = more production = more profit.

I'm 31, retirement is a long way off.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Yes, to a certain extent.

It helps to date a workaholic to some degree if you are one, cause only someone married to their job will better understand why you are prioritizing yours.

But then at the same time, for me at least, the older I get the more I am valuing more balance. Still trying to find that perfect mix. In my profession when its busy its busy and you gotta put your head down and power through.

But I am working towards a 4hr work day. Been taking more full weekends off as well. The struggle is real.

Savings/retirement and Residual income?

Nope. A work less, make more situation.

Now that my office is expanding I can work less hours and since there are more bodies turning out work = more production = more profit.

I'm 31, retirement is a long way off.

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"My office" are you a owner/employer?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Yes, to a certain extent.

It helps to date a workaholic to some degree if you are one, cause only someone married to their job will better understand why you are prioritizing yours.

But then at the same time, for me at least, the older I get the more I am valuing more balance. Still trying to find that perfect mix. In my profession when its busy its busy and you gotta put your head down and power through.

But I am working towards a 4hr work day. Been taking more full weekends off as well. The struggle is real.

Savings/retirement and Residual income?

Nope. A work less, make more situation.

Now that my office is expanding I can work less hours and since there are more bodies turning out work = more production = more profit.

I'm 31, retirement is a long way off.

"My office" are you a owner/employer?

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I am an employee making a percentage. So my income is on a sliding scale based on how successful I grow my department.

Kinda like an owner with no real responsibility (aka overhead) or risk.

Eventually I will get too greedy and strike out on my own (and take 90% of the clients with me) but for now I am happy with the sizable chunk he's given me.

Edit: I refer to it as my office, cause I found the space, hired the employees, bought the furniture, computers, etc. I go to him for any big purchases or decisions for approval but otherwise he's like a silent partner. He wants me to run it cause he's managing 2 other businesses.

I like results...driven is subjective

I'm attracted to driven women.

Yes!!!!

I am attracted to driven, hard working men. I hate a guy who’s selling himself short OR even a guy who settles for bull because they’re not “built” to put in the hard work...

From my observation of men, I noticed Aries, Sag, Leo, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces and some Libras & Libras have shown me that their no settlers...

Posted by GODZ

talking about driven men without talking about capricorn, i'm to busy in my business to take this shade seriously ✋

@GODZ Lol I didn't think of the fact that I do have Cap rising and my moon in the 10th. Cap could be the influence as well. 💪👊🤪 Sorry about that..

Posted by 7s

I agree with the "women and men robbing each other of their ambitions." It's more so women that do it to men tho. And it's by design.

Average women don't know how to play their position and probably don't even know that there's a position to be played.

You can be his inspiration. Show him the value of waking up early. Working towards early retirement etc etc...

Sometimes all a person needs is a vision to work towards. But average women don't Know how to paint that picture so they expect the guy to be everything to them without ever bringing anything to the table.

I've tried this. Lol He argues bc he doesn't have a college degree, blah blah blah! Ugh, come on now, there is so much more to life than a degree defining what you can do with you're own life.

I have this deep desire to want to see him shine and expand further than he can envision but he is his own wall.

Posted by Phangus

I would say passionate and responsible instead of driven. It might just be semantics, but "driven" makes me tired to hear.

Lol it's the same but I get what you mean.

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Posted by WateryGem

Are you attracted to driven men?

I am, I don't mean, rich, I mean someone who has dreams and are chasing them. Someone who doesn't settle for the bare minimum. I think it turns me off when a man is happy with just status quo. I believe this Gemini guy is selling himself short by not even having a desire to make more for his life. 😪

I made that at the age of 26yrs old, I'm looking to chase dreams with someone so when retirement rolls around I don't worry financially. Are Gem men not like this?

Is this the Scorpio or Virgo energy that's so dominant in my chart? He is Taurus dominant.

Retirement 🤦🏻‍♂️

You gonna live till that —😲

Hell yeah!! Lol I wanna be the granny dancing and acting up with my kids, grand kids and great grand kids.

Hahaha...Gems always mad for kids😛

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