@Shaniajam
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Being A Masochist...?
Understanding Masochism and Its Psychological Roots
Masochism involves deriving pleasure from experiencing pain or humiliation. It can be linked to complex psychological factors and varies widely among individuals. Recognizing its causes and effects is essential for those exploring this aspect of their sexuality or behavior. Consulting a mental health professional can provide insights and support for managing these tendencies safely.
I'm A masochist,
I like humiliation and pain and punishment in the bedroom, I like to beg for it then ultimately given whatever it is I begged for...
BUT ONLY WITH SEX. How can I let a guy know it's not ok to do this apart from the bedroom and that playing games normally turns me off? This has always been an issue for me and I have yet to find a guy that can be interested and show commitment (I'm really that simple there is nothing fancy needed to keep me), but give me that in the bedroom?
Posted by Shaniajam
I'm A masochist,I like humiliation and pain and punishment in the bedroom, I like to beg for it then ultimately given whatever it is I begged for...
BUT ONLY WITH SEX. How can I let a guy know it's not ok to do this apart from the bedroom and that playing games normally turns me off? This has always been an issue for me and I have yet to find a guy that can be interested and show commitment (I'm really that simple there is nothing fancy needed to keep me), but give me that in the bedroom?
Just tell him!
Posted by tiziani
Also what's genuinely worked for me is you can introduce the idea. Just as a suggestion. Then not act on it. Just let it grow in between you both until they come to you to ask how it works, etc. Then you both get to understand boundaries.
Very good idea thank you.
Posted by Capz
what are your apparence ?
Appearance? Meaning how I look when I go on a date? Depending on the date, however I'm in an industry where there is a lot of manipulators. I'm spooking for a partner but they're looking for someone to use... so I'm trying to figure out how to shake the bad ones and find the geniuine ones.
Posted by LovingSeraphina
Just say it to him. And say it's only in the bedroom you like life to be normal and healthy outside it. And then ask if he wants you to discuss it more. He might not be into it .
Yes over always left it out that I want normalcy outside of that. That would be something to add
Posted by LovingSeraphina
Just say it to him. And say it's only in the bedroom you like life to be normal and healthy outside it. And then ask if he wants you to discuss it more. He might not be into it .Yes over always left it out that I want normalcy outside of that. That would be something to add
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I've always I mean not yes over
Posted by Capz
what are your apparence ?Appearance? Meaning how I look when I go on a date? Depending on the date, however I'm in an industry where there is a lot of manipulators. I'm spooking for a partner but they're looking for someone to use... so I'm trying to figure out how to shake the bad ones and find the geniuine ones.
So are they.
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Ah... I see. Maybe this is something I shouldn't mention right away then?
Posted by Shaniajam
How can I let a guy know it's not ok to do this apart from the bedroom and that playing games normally turns me off?
Try holding a fidget spinner when you say it; that will ease the tension.
Posted by Shaniajam
How can I let a guy know it's not ok to do this apart from the bedroom and that playing games normally turns me off?Try holding a fidget spinner when you say it; that will ease the tension.
A sexy fidget spinner! 😛
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Hell yeah girl! Gold decorated with rubies!!!
Posted by Shaniajam
How can I let a guy know it's not ok to do this apart from the bedroom and that playing games normally turns me off?Try holding a fidget spinner when you say it; that will ease the tension.
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—?? you've been commenting fidget spinner on all posts today ?
Posted by Shaniajam
How can I let a guy know it's not ok to do this apart from the bedroom and that playing games normally turns me off?Try holding a fidget spinner when you say it; that will ease the tension.
—?? you've been commenting fidget spinner on all posts today ?
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Posted by OneKnight
Most Taurus women are just like you. As a matter of a fact you can turn them into masochists very easy. You know why? Cause most men are weak. It's easier for them to turn a woman into a whore than create a woman out of one.You jump into BDSM within seconds of talking with the guy. He controls you, cause it's easy to control a Taurus. If you want that kind of sex, start slow with a relationship and then show the guy what you're made off. Most will freak out 🙂 Those that know what's up, you will fall in love with.
Just like other's said. Tell them straight, don't take any orders from men outside of the bedroom. Be like a Leo woman. They are even more masochists in bed than Taurus, but they have that pride outside of the bedroom. Turn the tables, if he does, this, this and that outside of the bed, he gets this, this and that in the bed.
But I agree, you are working against your natural instincts. Taurus and Leo can be tied up and taken advantage off without much work.
I loved this. Thank you.
Posted by Capz
what are your apparence ?Appearance? Meaning how I look when I go on a date? Depending on the date, however I'm in an industry where there is a lot of manipulators. I'm spooking for a partner but they're looking for someone to use... so I'm trying to figure out how to shake the bad ones and find the geniuine ones.
i mean your style
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I'm a fashionista lol... not conservative unless I have to be, but I dress based on the event, of its dinner and a movie then ripped jeans cute short and wedges (cause I love my heels) but if it's a club then it's all stops... however I'm a mother at home who cooks. I have two sides always.
Posted by LovingSeraphina
You'll be fine OP ..just use common sense. Be safe. In the end there are weirdos out there. I would say that to anyone guy or girl BDSM or Vanilla gay or straight. Most people are lovely. But be sensible and you will be fine 🙂Be genuine too. Genuine people love genuine people 🙂
So true thank you.
After you have submitted sexually, just shout out
"Oi you, get me some dinner, then wash the dishes and take out the rubbish and then clean the floor and no slacking"
They should get the message then
😛
Posted by MyStarsShine
After you have submitted sexually, just shout out"Oi you, get me some dinner, then wash the dishes and take out the rubbish and then clean the floor and no slacking"
They should get the message then
😛
Lmao .... I love it ?
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