Hi, Libra guy new to this message board. Help needed with a Cancer girl. I started getting to know this Cancer girl at my job in late November. Giving her lots of attention. We found out we had so much in common (music, movies, shows, personalities, everything). Our conversations were amazing. Always laughing or having deep conversations. I finally worked up the nerve to ask her out, plus a co-worker mentioned she had been waiting for me to ask her out. I asked her and she said yes without hesitation. We're both huge Star Wars and we had been talking about the new Star Wars movie at that time. I asked her to the movies. We went after work. We had a great time. Afterwards she hugged me 5 times and we expressed to each other how fun we had and that we liked each other, even before formally introducing ourselves. That weekend we went out again for ice cream and walked around a downtown area til late at night. We talked about music, our families and life in general. We kept telling each how comfortable we were with each other and how we loved how easy it was to talk to each other. Walking her to her car her hand brushed mine a couple times and I jokingly said "if you wanna hold mine hand all you have to do is ask" and then she said "you can hold my hand". We held hands the rest of the walk to her car. At her car she opened her arms wide for a hug and we both squeezed tight (she gives the best hugs ever) and we held on for a while, so I kissed her cheek and she turned her face toward mine for a long kiss. We talked more in her car and kissed a few more times then went our separate ways. A few more days later we went out for dinner and a movie. It was great again. Afterwards we were talking in my car. I knew she has always a wanted a serious relationship. I decided to mention to her that I was looking for one because I know cancer girls like to know your intentions. She was taken a back by this. I don't know if she's had a real relationship in the past but our co-worker did mention that in the past she was the one giving the attentions and making plans and the day of the guys would blow her off or just not answer her calls at all. She even told me she wasn't used to a guy showing interest in her and making the plans and going thru with them. The next weekend we went to a museum and had Korean food. I brought hee flowers. She looked very surprised. When we got back later that night. I walked her to her door. We hugged and she said "you're really into me, aren't you?" I said "yeah I really am". I asked if she was and she said she was. I told her I still wanna get to know her and asked if she did too cause I was confused as to why she said that and she said she did. So the next few weeks it started to change. We hadn't been out since that day. She wasn't as excited and was acting shy or moody or annoyed when I came around to her desk and not talking much. I'm assuming she buried herself in her shell since her symbol is crab? We would text briefly morning and at night. That was still going well but i was confused cause not much else was happening. It was killing me not knowing what was going on so I asked her if we could talk after work. We met up walked and talked. She told me I'm everything she wants in a guy but she's confused and doesn't know what's wrong with her but then she asked if I still wanna be friends and hang out in our free time. I wasn't giving up on her so I said yes. Then we continued walking then had Japanese food. It was a great night. I walked her to her car. She gave me a couple big hugs and we left. I texted her to make sure she got home safe and we texted the rest of the night. And then that next week she stopped responding to my texts. I didn't know if she was testing me to see if I would give up and break her heart like the other guys, so I kept sending a morning text and just left it at that. After two weeks of no replies and barely showing interest when I visited her at her desk, I asked again if we could talk. This time she just called me after work instead of meeting. I apologized for the morning texts and she said she should apologize too for not saying anything about the texting. I said "so should I stop texting" and she said "yeah. work related texts are fine but yeah, no texting cause I did say I wasn't interested before" and that was it. She never said she wasn't interested that night we walked and talked she said she was confused and asked to be friends still. So after all that I decided I'm not gonna text her and give her some space. So I tried not to visit her desk too much. Just say hi a couple times a week and that's it. After a few weeks of that this past Friday I worked up the nerve to see if she wanted to do something over the weekend. She looked me right in my eyes, shook her head and said No!" I smiled, said "its ok, no worries" and left her desk. I didn't say anything to her Monday cause I didn't wanna get her mad again. Yesterday, I said Hi to her and she responded back nicely. Today, I didn't say Hi cause I'm still confused and wanna give her space but I go in Instagram this evening and she posted a photo of a wave with the caption "Its weird that I see you everywhere, even when I dont expect it. Your name comes up, thoughts start to swirl. Wishing so many things, feeling all sorts of ways. Just have to settle for memories I suppose and what it was like to see you". I follow photographers on Instagram who specialize in photos of waves. I "like" the photographers photos all the time and I posted two photos of waves i took on my account. Do you think she posted this about me and wanted me to see it and how I would respond or she just randomly decided to post this? I should also mention her mother passed away a year ago this month. So I know shes dwelling on that. She was her best friend. Also her dad has already moved on. Met another woman. Is in her home country right now and bought a house there. He was supposed to come back January 10th for the birth of her sisters baby but he still hasn't returned. Plus she's covering groceries and bills. She's the head of the household right now. Helping take care of the baby plus buying things for her sister and her sisters boyfriend. Is she no longer into me or is it cause she's in her shell with the weight of the world on her shoulders? I told her I was there for her and would help any way I could many times. Any help is appreciated
