I'm a Leo woman interested in a cancer male. we met in church . My friend introduced me to him. He seem a little hesitant and shy but we still had a brief conversation and exchanged numbers. 3 days later he contacted me and we were iristable for months, we would mostly talk on the phone and text when was needed. He would send me sweet quotes and poems that would make my heart melt. He would invite me to bbqs and ask to spend time with me. but either i was to busy or he was to busy...or our plans wouldnt go through. After a couple of months continuing to know each other. I could tell he was pulling back from me. There suddenly wasnt as much calls and little texts. He totally confused me.. i would wonder if i was doing something wrong. He would always reinsure me that he liked me and nothing was wrong. He said he knew heart/feelings were involved so we decided to take it slow. Suddenly there was a complete cut off of communication... MONTHS LATER...I find him on internet website. We started talking again. and exchanged numbers. I'd ask him why we lost contact and he would reply" i had switched my phone and lost contact. but i did try looking for you. we continued to text and everything is good. But im feeling a little distance from him. i'd ask him why are you so distant. He would reply" sorry i just have been really busy lately. i really like you though. He tells me he likes me alot one day and he's been thinking of me..Then the next he's not sure about his feelings. NOW... its like he texts me every 3 days but when we do its like we have nothing to talk about. I mean i know he probably isnt feeling me like before. But why does he continue to check up on me and text me.. You would think if a guy dosent like you he would not text you at all. all advice will be accepted.
cancer men..ughh so confusing!!!

He was really into you at first, pouring it on. But since you two didn't see each other, he either lost interest, or thought you lost interest, or both. Cancers hate confrontations, so when you questioned him about losing contact he probably made something up rather than come right out with the truth and risk a head on collision.
Seems like he has moved on. Not sure why he is still texting you. Maybe he is hoping for a booty call? Or maybe he is hoping that something will develop.
Don't you see him at church? Or is one of you two not regulars?
Seems like he has moved on. Not sure why he is still texting you. Maybe he is hoping for a booty call? Or maybe he is hoping that something will develop.
Don't you see him at church? Or is one of you two not regulars?
Seems like the emotional intensity died down for whatever reason. You might have to be ready to just let this one go. I know for myself when I cut off communications, my heart or desire isn't in it anymore. I dunno if he's just being polite by keeping on contact now or is trying to see if there's any feelings lingering that may arise.
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