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rakac
@rakac
9 Years500+ Posts

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Learn from experience and move on, actions speak lounder than words, when you want something with person you don't just go hang out with others when it get's hard, i think you just showed him that you couldn't handle the hard situation ,it's like they say,if a relationship can't handle the wave there's no point going into the sea. If you go with a person you go all in,you put in effort,hard work,everyone can say they love a person when everythings perfect,but in hard moments and hardships you can see who is willing to put in work,sacrifice things and do things for a person they love,but you were right to leave him ,but you shouldn't have told i leave doors open,you were hoping this aqua to return while you were dating another guy?you fucked up the guy you were dating at the moment while hoping aqua to return, i'm a cancer but i don't get that.why would you do that,it's like you're dating 2 people and hoping everything will turn out ok,if you want relationship be with 1person ,what you did wasn't nice you were dating a guy and in your heart you still had that aqua guy in your heart,it's a situation when you can't win,damned if you do damned if you don't ,it's a karma circle now i think, if you get involved with 2 people you don't have the one that you need because if you would rly have a person you need in your life you wouldn't have the second one, and you wouldn't even have to thing about the one you have to choose.Aqua comes back and you immediatly stop seeing the guy but keep flirting with him,how is that normal, if you want relationship break it up,either way,you showed the aqua guy that you would leave a guy for him,as you did,but kept flirting with him,he will have trust issues,and also you made clear you can leave a good you're dating for another one ,so he might also think you might leave him one day the same way you left him,learn from this experience and grow,because now you seem fucking confused,dating guy while having other one in your heart and keeping the doors open for him,when you're into relationship devote yourself to one person not only thru hard times but also thru hard times,keeping the commitment is where you separate mature from the immature,brave in love from the cowards.. keep growing,learn lesson and move one,because in any case,you can't win this,either way you'll end up single,write down the things that cost this relationship to end and try to avoid it next time,you should alrdy know love is not enough for relationship to work,you need honesty respect and trust ,if either one of them is broken,relationship starts breaking,unless both of you are willing to put in work,while for me it seems he doesn't want to do anything with you anymore,one persons efforts can't work because 2people build a good relationship,not one!goodluck!stay positive! 🙂
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Cancergal32
@Cancergal32
9 Years

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Thank you. And I proved that I could handle him through the rough times I stuck by him through a lot of different situations
All while he'd be gone he'd get other girls hair done his ex was always a problem and I stayed
I didn't say that in this explanation lol so I'm just letting it be known that I stayed through a lot
So I let him know I was done with the games, and I needed him to make up his mind or I'd make up mine. But yes I do understand your logic and I'm just going to move on