Eye Contact

Have you guys ever found yourself making eye contact with someone but it's not just the typical "I see you, you see me, hello" kind of eye contact? It's more like... your eyes lock and, you don't even know each other (or maybe you do because he's in your class), and it's like a connection or an energy force pulling you towards one another and you know they feel it too but... it's nerve wrecking and you have no idea how to talk to each other!!


I can't remember the last time I felt this shy around a guy. And for no clear reason. And I know he's not the shiest guy around either because he's the one who participates in almost all of the class discussions. Often he's the only one making comments.

He's been sitting in the middle or back of the class for the past three months and I sit right in front of our professor, so I never really looked at him but I'm very familiar with his voice.

Two class sessions ago he was sitting two seats behind my usual one and when I came in to set my things down that was the first time I really looked directly at him. Random intense eye contact but whatever, I just sat down and started doing my own thing.

We had about 15 minutes before class started so I step out, walked around, got some water and when I came back to our end of the hall there he was standing in front of a board covered with club posters and other school related things, just pretending he's so fascinated with what's up there.

After this weird looking at each other and moving from spot to spot dance we were the only ones left out there. This guy just keeps looking at me! So, I decide to make an approach finally. I sit next to him on the floor and tried to break the ice by saying, "is it just me or is this building always hot?" (It really was hot. I had taken my sweater off already) "It's just you," is all he said.

It was the smallest small talk I have ever had with anyone. Just awkward!
He's been quiet in class since. I feel like I broke him!

I tried to chat things up after class ended last night when I came across him again in the hall but it wasn't easy. I feel my guts tighten up when we make eye contact. He didn't even seem like he was trying. He spoke so softly and I found myself speaking just as soft and low.

When a group of people past by we both turned to look at them. It was a relief to look away for a good moment. Until I looked back to find him staring at my face again. My only thoughts were "please don't say anything funny! Please don't think of anything funny!!"

I felt like if I started laughing or even attempted to smile my face would twist up and turn red!!!

That was my last class for the day and he had at least an hour before his next one but I had to get out of there! I said goodbye and walked away.


I have no idea what's going on here but it is making my flesh burn up. He's handsome and healthy/fit (I guess, I haven't really looked below his neck) but his looks have nothing to do with this strange attraction. An attraction that is based on intense eye contact only. It's not physical and we don't know a thing about one another...

I feel like some stupid Twilight movie series thing is going on here!! All they ever did in those movies was stare at one another and bamn! Let's get married! Maybe this is how I'll score a husband?! Everyone I know is either engaged or married now!

Haha this is all weird.Damn this guy and those eyes of his!!! I don't have time to play stupid staring games!

I wont lie, I have this strong urge to just go up to him when we're alone in the hall and just kiss him. Just a passionate kiss out of the blues with no words of exchange and then wing the rest like we're in the movies! Bamn! We're soul mates!!! Like some delusional romantic movie!

Go for it 🙂

You mean the kiss or getting to know the guy? Can't say I'm brave to do either.

both!

Ok... so should I start with the kiss or ..?

You know what?! I'm going in for the kiss!! Best ice breaker, right? Also a good story to tell later no matter where it goes!

I'm going to need a shot of vodka for this. Hwooo! _— my stomach is twisting up just thinking about it!

AWW good luck! =) How exciting.
The last time I felt that intensely re: eye contact I was twelve LOL I wish I still had that confidence hehe
Enjoy the sparks!

Confidence?!
What confidence? I think all confidence I have ever had has just left the building!! But wow I'm so doing this!!!!


Flash-back✨**
I just remembered my first kiss with the only serious boyfriend I had ever had. I was the one who kissed him! Oh wow! How could I have forgotten this?!... We had just finished eating together at this chinese food place by the school and were just sitting in his truck. He was talking about all the scenarios on where things could go between us and it all sounded like down hill. So I gave him a new scenario. Well, I showed him the new scenario. I kissed him!! Just like that!
BUT... I didn't like him so much to begin with so I think it was too easy. We lasted 3 years. Broke up 2 years ago and are still the best of friends!


... Maybe I CAN do this!!

Wow, good luck, and.report back! :-)

Total fail!

He hardly made eye contact with me today. I gave him the opportunity to talk to me but he hardly looked at me tonight!

I went to school early today to spend time with friend. I was playing around and dragging my beautiful little friend on her brothers skateboard in the campus center and I noticed him. I smiled at him but I couldn't let my friend go and we were heading away from the building he was walking to.

Later when I get to our class I walk in and he's chatting with these other girls and I wont lie, insecurities surfaced. I setting into my seat, did my own thing, stepped out and hung out in the hall alone.

We had a break (we don't usually have a break) but I hung out in the hall but I don't know where he went to I returned a phone call to another friend of mine. While I was finishing up the call he came and sat two feet away from me. When I hung up, without even looking at me he said it was sweet was I was doing for my friend (referring to me dragging her around on the skateboard). I muttered something like "yea I guess" and sat down quickly close to him and then stupidly said "she's always making me run around and workout."

He was fiddling with his phone and I was fiddling with mine. It was just SO awkward. And even more so when a few other classmates just randomly joined us in our quiet "sitting session."

Annnd that was that.

There are only two weeks left so I'll only have two more chances, but this us ridiculous. The guy's a chatter box with everyone else and talkative in class.

Maybe I imagined it all? Maybe he changed his mind already?...

Look at all my little grammer mistakes!! This whole thing has really gotten under my skin -_-

"fortune favours the brave"..you need to take a chance! It sucks having regrets, and he can only say no 🙂

The look is energy, through the eyes we lose so much because of this is better shut in concentration.
Look says a lot about a person but also depending on how you look at it like, is a two-way street and it is important to learn to look good, with a look as wide , unfocused. Says an Arab proverb "Who does not understand a glance, neither understand a long explanation".

Ooooh! I love awkwardness like this, sometimes I purposely drag it out because I enjoy it so much. But you only have 2 chances left soooo
I want to tell you to just kiss him, but it would be so horribly embarrassing if he was like wtf? But then again, you only have 2 weeks left so you'd never see him again anyway, right?

So exciting!

Also, I nearly choked when I read " I think I broke him" hahaha.

I would love to just kiss him!!
I just need the perfect moment. For one we'll have to be alone in the hall again. I hated how those two classmates of ours joined in. They were just as quiet and awkward, facing us while we sat against the wall looking like there's something interesting in out phones. Damn phones!!

I've decided that I'm not taking my phone out there with me during these last classes. Maybe I'll ask him what he's got going on in his!

I just need that perfect awkward moment while we're alone and making eye contact so I can lean in and see if he'll lean in in return. That'll say it all! It'll mean we're on the same page!

Well keep us updated!

I'm not as bold as I sound >_

So.... _— last two weeks... The week before last he didn't show up. That left only one chance, the day of the final...

We completed our papers about the same time and though he hung around the hall he stayed close to some guys from class and hardly looked at me. I really really was ready to approach him but... he gave me no opening!

It's been two weeks since I last saw him and he's still on my mind. I wonder if he thinks about me too...

Chances are I'll see him again during the Fall semester and I'm crossing my fingers that he stays single till I can just get another chance! I'm pretty much ready to make a fool of myself if I must!

I'm taking a Sumner course so my Sumner should go by fast. I keep my eye out in case he's taking a Sumner course too but I haven't spotted him. Waiting for Fall!!

And then someone else kisses me.

All summer I've been noticing men who remind me of my crush! Dark hair, dark eyes, square jaw, etc. Can't help it! It's like I've never notice men like this before. I had always found men with lighter hair and eyes more attractive since my preteens!!
But I had decided to wait. I really wanted to wait to come across my crush again!
in the mean time, I went about my usual. I have been more social all year (it was my new years resolution to try to be) so making new friends has been a frequent thing already.
in my workout class I already have a few acquaintance and friends.
One guy in particular looked so familiar, I knew I had seen him somewhere! I worked out around him for some time while he used a machine I really wanted to use. When he started chatting with me I found out I look familiar to him, too!
that was Thursday night. Monday night he walked me to my car and we had a conversation that lasted about an hour or so. All friendly chat. He seemed sweet and as attractive as he is, I didn't feel a think! I just enjoyed his company! (He's like a taller clean shaved version of my crush with thick framed glasses and in pretty great shape and a Spanish accent. If I wasn't crushing so hard I'd be all over this one!!)

Tuesday night I was preoccupied with a coach. Wednesday, today, I got on an elliptical beside him during the last hour in hopes of more good conversation. I found out he's a few years younger than me (but not by much, he's 21, I'm 23. He's more mature than some guys my own age!)

After mimicking some of the stretches I was doing he sort of just hovers over me and follows me tothe other side of the room like a cute puppy. I think iit's one of the cutest things guys do!
Anywho, we walk to my car, talk about anything and everything. We exchange numbers because there were some likes I wanted to send him. He stood closer to me towards the end of this hour long conversation and I could feel my blood run hot! I knew what he was hoping for!! I stop making as much eye contact at this point because despite how attracted I felt I really didn not want to go there!
It was time to part and he was standing beside my car, a step down the sidewalk which really aligned our heights perfectly. I wrap my arms around him for a hug and when I let go I realize that his arm is still wrapped tightly around my waist. He looks into my eyes and it's coming!!... I grab his face, his him on the cheek and tell him we can't. I shake my head and barry my face in his shoulder. When I look at him again he holds my face and right before he presses his lips on mine I just mutter, "I don't want things to get awkward."
I felt like dehydrated paralyzed fish or something. It's like I had never kissed anyone ever before! I couldn't move my lips. Heck, I couldn't FEEL my lips. All I could feel was the dryness in my mouth and my heart rate rising up. I mutter that one like a fool, "uh, you brought my heart rate back up."
When he finally let's go I walk awkwardly backwards to the other side of my car as I was goodbye.

The moment I get into the drivers seat, the face palming begins!
I watched him walk away till he was almost out of sight before starting my car. I felt so flushed. I realized I was hiding behind my steering wheel as I watched him, as if he could see me! It wasn't until I began driving that the feeling to my body returned and I could feel how extremely aroused I really had become!
Yet, despite this arousal, I also felt unsure. I like this guy, but I'm not sure if I like him enough to pursue something while my thoughts are on another. This guy is also transferring to the same school so I feel like he could be a good choice for the long run, especially if I really never see my crush again.
One of my biggest worry is if this does move somewhere somewhat serious and then I DO come across my crush, manage to become friends and have sparks the whole way!...

Thjs really went against my "dating a classmate" rule! The rules is to never get involved before midterms; keep 'em close but don't pursue till the end is near or after. This way the semester goes smoothly and if things go sour it wont get in the way of class. It's usually sparks in the beginning so by the time red flags appear, class is over!

Yes, eye glances even sorry to say eyefks are my forte. I'm not a very verbal person but my eyes do enough of the talking.LOL

So.... We're halfway through a new semester. I have found him again!

But it's like he's forgotten me completely.


When Fall began, I kept my eyes open just for him. In fact, the very second day of school, Tuesday, I saw him!!!!! From a distance. I was standing with a group of friends and chatting away like my usual self. Then I see him with the same friend he had during the previous semester who was also in the same class. His friend is tall with long hair and beard and I notice him a mile away, which is nice because they always together and I know when they're coming. Apparently, this tall friend is also a friend of an acquaintance. I thought this would be great but I haven't been able to use this to my advantage. What I was hoping for was a chance to bump into him, talk to him, see how the air feels between us, if there's still something there.
I spent the first few weeks paying attention (stalker mode!) to which direction they come from and which direction they go and about what time as well. During these first few weeks, they would leave the campus pretty early. I'd linger around in areas I know they would walk by hoping to catch his eye, but it's been so unsuccessful!!!

Last week while I lingered around and bumped into a friend instead. I decided to walk with her and wait with her for her bus. When we reached the corner and were ready to cross, I noticed him on the opposite corner from the direction we were headed. I waited with her and watched him the whole time. They just hung around like silly boys. I couldn't tell if they were waiting for a ride or...? Just hanging out.
After my friend left, I headed towards their corner because that's the direction I park every day. I needed to grab my guitar to practice. I thought, yes!, he'll see me!!!! Kind of hard to miss someone with a guitar over their shoulder, especially since no one else has a guitar over their. I didn't manage to catch his eye when I came back to the corner to cross back onto the campus but I did get to hear a few seconds of him speaking loudly about goofy childish things. He seemed so loud and happy. Which got me excited because I get just as loud and goofy when I'm having fun just hanging out with my friends.
Few hours later, while I was eating some food on the stairs near the library, I see him come out. I've never seen him come out of the library!!! Especially not alone!
He went straight into the student store and I gave myself an excuse to walk in moments after him!! My excuse: to use the microwave! Perfect, he's standing next to the microwave looking at food.
I became so nervous!!!! My mind was a complete blank. This was the moment I was waiting for, the opportunity, FINALLY! ... And my mind draws a blank.
My hands trembled while I struggled to open the microwave door and try to speak to him.
"You look familiar."
He removes his headphone and looked at me.
I repeated, NO, I mumbled and slurred, "you look familiar...?"
"oh." Is all he said, confused, an

And he walked away from me.
I just stood there, holding my own trembling hands, feeling like the worlds biggest fool! "You look familiar"?!?! Really?!
And he just walked away?! Didn't he recognize me? I mean, people usually remember the faces of even the oldest crushes they have! Yet, he walked away like I was some weirdo that he'd never seen before! I felt so blown off!
And then I ask myself if it's even him or just someone who looks pretty identical to him... Maybe I'm going after the wrong guy here?...
I decided to just try to get over him after that. I was done!


But... the following week comes around and I see him more frequently in one day than I had all semester. It's like everywhere I turn, there he is, walking with his tall friend like they have a destination, but really they're just walking aimlessly. Huh. This has been happening every single Tuesday and Thursday since last Tuesday. I've been seeing him around so often. You'd think this was a good thing but.... HE WONT LOOK AT ME!!!!!!! I feel so invisible! It's almost like he's deliberately NOT looking at me even when he's facing my direction.
Yesterday, when he came out of the library, I was sitting right outside, eating and chatting with a guy friend. I didn't notice it was him when I quickly glance his way like I do with most people passing by and I caught him glance at me. It was the quickest eye contact but it's like, just that moment of eye contact, his eyes felt familiar, I knew it was him, I knew it was the right guy I've been "stalking" this whole time.

My best guy friend tells me that it can't be coincidence that I'm seeing him more often now. I feel like he's just feeding my delusions!
My best guy friend did make a point though... I said, well, maybe he stays on campus to study more. I go to the second floor for labs and tutoring, never the first floor where he's been going. Yet, he never has books with him and he also has a really small backpack that doesn't really fit much in there. I don't think this guy could even fit a folder in there. "So, what? He's folding his papers up??"
Again, I feel like my best guy friend is feeding my delusions! I mean, I sound pretty delusional, don't I?
The guy won't look at me like I'm a total stranger and I'm over here wondering if secretly he's noticing me and wants me just as much as I want him!
I have never felt so stupid!

And you know what? I'm great at talking to strangers!! I can carry a conversation at any given time with any handsome stranger even on my worst day!

I don't know what to do here. I want to give up but I've already painted a target on this guy and I don't want to put the arrow I have intended for him away. I feel like I can't give up without giving it my all! But this is so hard. This has never been so hard!

... Maybe I should pass him a note. Talking is almost impossible!

Yeah I get that feeling too. I have Venus in Taurus. God help me if he is cute. Cause if my eyes lock. I may want you. I try not to make eye contact with anyone. I look down. Haha. And then again if I sit back or around you long enough. It will fade because their behavior isn't what I thought. But to me physical attraction is important to me. Which later has repercussions.

I'm falling in love with this story