Help me understand why taurus breaks up with me

I am a Leo woman and I met my taurus man last year. We were very opposite but somehow he literally WORKED his way into my life. During our 1st month together he took a unexpected trip out of town for 4 days & did not call me ONCE! I was furious & was about to leave him. He broke down & told me the truth (after he tried countless times to lie about it). I always stressed HONESTY in my relationship. He went to Mexico with a woman that he had previously planned the trip with. I forgave him and we moved forward. We went on things were great, 5 months later I moved out one apt and couldn't move into the next apt until the following week. I needed a place to go for a week. He NEVER offered his place AT ALL. I would spend the night every night, but I wanted it be verbally agreed I could stay for the week. We were laying in bed & I asked him. He chuckled but became very uncomfortable. So the following day I told him, since I can't stay with you (assuming since he never responded to my question) then it shouldn't be an issue or question were I stay. We ended up arguing & I hung up. He sent me a text asking off his belongings. I told him I would mail them to him. I was okay with it, cause I was very upset. We didn't speak for a week and I posted a funny post about single ladies on IG. He immediately responded with "thanks for confirming that we are not together". I to him if my man leaves me stranded & we don't speak for a week you r damn right I'm single. When that method didn't work he texted me saying "my mom said thanks for the card & that you look very pretty". I kept it short and told him tell her thanks. His final strategy worked. He just pretended we never broke up which was actually funny. He apologized & told me he loved me, & would do right by me. We were good for about a week, them he became distant. So I went to talk to him today, & he told me he didn't want to b in a relationship, & he wants to be friends. I was literally torn apart, he said it's not me but him. I began to cry and gather my belongings. He stopped me and asked "what's wrong". I was so upset and really wanted to know why even peruse me if he knew he was not ready for relationship. He was at a lost for words. I went to walk out and he asked so we can't talk any more. I told him I prefer not to at this time cause breaking up was not what I wanted. I left & I'm so hurt. We were SO close, we knew what each other was thinking before saying it, I took care of most of his business, and he calle

He was my best friend, and we were so coose

Oh Lord, I??ve been there with a Taurus and to this day that man is still part of my life, or somehow lets me know he's still lurking in the shadows keeping watch of me.lol. However he has made countless girls his girlfriend and has broken all their hearts and somehow he always ends up running back to me. He and I went together in college I used to help him take care of all his homework, and essays, and even as a grown up helped him handle his business when the business side of his life seemed to be coming apart any way, in college he broke my heart too and once he saw the tears he kissed them away and promised to never to do it again. To this day he's kept his promise, and we've been friends ever since. I wont lie he holds a special place in my heart, but he's one that I??ve learned to love from a distance for my own good. He was my first heartbreak and my first love. So you can imagine how long it took for me to come to terms with the fact that he just may not be the one, and its okay because if it's not him it's someone. You know?

He's not ready now but maybe he thought he was when he pursued you. It's one thing to daydream about being a relationship with someone, and then once you get them you are not so sure if it's what you want so you rather let them go now rather than later. I have to give the man credit for being upfront, because giving your obvious feelings for him he could take full advantage and just cheat on you and do his own thing and then you??d really be on here torn to pieces.
Just try to understand that when a man steps up and is honest enough to tell you he's not ready, be woman enough to accept it and move on, because so many men, lie and pretend to be ready for something they??re not and all they do is break hearts.

@Tavern,

Seriously? You cant honestly think that she's wrong for wanting to dump a man that calls himself her boyfriend but leaves her hanging for 4days straight to go out with ANOTHER WOMAN; oops i'm sorry GO OUT OF TOWN with another woman? Seriously, you sound too submissive and a little too patient. If he can just up and go out of town with another woman while being her man, then his ass should've stayed single until after the trip.

We started seeing each other last November. I did not like him because I thought he was the most selfish person alive. However, he began to HONESTLY try and we made it official in February. We did not have a lot of drama, the first incident was at the beginning, and this last incident was all one incident. But he came to me, and we worked it out. We was face timing and talking all day every day. He was the one to initiate these conversations all day. He made it very clear that he knew what he wanted and was ready for a commitment.

Posted by Msvenus885
We started seeing each other last November. I did not like him because I thought he was the most selfish person alive. However, he began to HONESTLY try and we made it official in February. We did not have a lot of drama, the first incident was at the beginning, and this last incident was all one incident. But he came to me, and we worked it out. We was face timing and talking all day every day. He was the one to initiate these conversations all day. He made it very clear that he knew what he wanted and was ready for a commitment.

Yea, well as i stated in my response he changed his mind and instead of hiding that from you he was upfront and told you how he felt, all you can do is respect. You want to know why broke up with you, it's because he decided he's not as ready as he thought he was and it happens. All you can do is respect a persons honesty. However i still dont think your wrong for wanting rip his head off for going out of town with another woman, that was low and he if he wanted to go so dang bad, i say he should've just continued to date you before making things official.

Sorry for your heartache. I think he was hurt or felt dispected by your IG post and getting back with you then breaking it off was a little vindictive/ sadistic on his part. Especially since he knew you were hurting after he broke it off and tried to pretend like he didn't know what was up. That's sick and emotionally draining. Also, he is looking for reassurance to see how much you like him. Don't reassure him though. Youll only be doing yourself a disservice.

Do yourself a favor don't contact him for at least a month. He's still interested, trying to add you to the harem with his request for friendship. Even if he contacts you, ignore him.

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/11/dating-when-why-how-use-no-contact-rule.html?m=1<BR>

^^Read this article from this blog. The author discusses when, why and how to use no contact when men pull these types of stunts.

@taverine I think that the ultimate reason that I was furious is because the last thing he said to me that Thursday was I'll call you when I get the the hotel. Expectations is everything. If he said I'll talk to you when I get back (I probably wouldn't have liked it knowing me) but I would have accepted that. I probably would've taken a little better had he not said anything at all. It was his actions and the way he handled things that ultimately drew my suspicion. He contradicted earlier lies he said before he left to go on the trip. But Yes I am one of those people who resents it when a person say "I'll call you back" and then do not call or text back at all.

beware of taurus men majority of them are players , they appear genuine but thats fake fake fake. They're cheaters but afraid to get hurt, selfish to the core.. losers they really are. A broken man like that dont deserve a single tears babe.

beware of taurus men majority of them are players , they appear genuine but thats fake fake fake. They're cheaters but afraid to get hurt, selfish to the core.. losers they really are. A broken man like that dont deserve a single tears babe.

Posted by crabberries
beware of taurus men majority of them are players , they appear genuine but thats fake fake fake. They're cheaters but afraid to get hurt, selfish to the core.. losers they really are. A broken man like that dont deserve a single tears babe.

Riiiiiight......

Lol. Yes I forget I'm talking to Taurus??s. I still think it's messed up, but she took him back anyway. So it don't really matter. I would??ve chewed him out. But that's just me. I don't believe if you are in a —relationship?? that you should be able to disappear for even 2 days unless you are in jail or a hospital bed. Other than that, you better had been kidnapped otherwise I'm dumping you especially if I find out it's because you went out of town with another woman. I don't care if the trip was planned before hand, you should??ve waited until after you came back to ask me to be your girl then. If I'm not your girl I cant really trip, but If I'm your girl then it's on.

I answered in the Relationships forum.

sounds like a harem to me, sorry

but the staying with him for a week is a bit rushed imo. that would scare the pants off me.

So he texted me last night "are you okay" I ignored him and plan to from here on out. I feel that was manipulative and beginning a cycle that I do not care to continue.

Posted by Msvenus885
So he texted me last night "are you okay" I ignored him and plan to from here on out. I feel that was manipulative and beginning a cycle that I do not care to continue.

Hats off to you!! Don't give into any temptations to communicate with him. Wait at least a month. Give him lots of time to think about his poor behavior and cruel treatment towards you.