I writing to this forum with tear in my eyes

I know what I have to do but it is so hard to walk away. Yet even though it is not my fault I still feel guilty.

I was having hard times still recovering a year later from a 4 year marriage. I was pretty much abandoned with two kids. Then because of my financial situation he came back to get them. So I became a very angry woman. Wanting really nothing to do with the opposite sex.

So, I was getting myself together. Then sometime in June (my life changed) I met this guy. Our first meeting was casual (I thought he didn?t notice me) but I felt a nice chemistry. In the mist of me rambling about how (I don?t care about men) and wouldn?t mind being a side girl because, I was not ready to commit to anyone no time soon. He heard that and made his move.

I ask him ?do you have a girl?. He said ?yes but we are having problem?. I asked ?do you live together? and right now honestly I don?t remember his reply. He offered to take me out to the movies. I replied with the affirmative because of our initial connection. But, when the next day came he text me to confirm we were still on. By then I had time to really analyze things. I though to my self man he has a girl/ but they r having issues/ and he is nice. So, instead of telling him no (because I really did want to go) I took a rain check.

Now 5 months later his girl is 3-4 months pregnant. Yet he claims to be so in love with me and wish he could make our relation reality. Now I am sitting hear trying to be miss tough girl and be with him but I cant. Its been occasions where I was going to leave and he would get really up set. I mean real tears claiming his love and how he wished it could be. In turn I get all soft and, every time I try to pull away, every time I am like that?s it I end up in his arms.
I mean what can expect coming from my extremely emotional failed marriage. Being with a guy and never having an argument or not even a fight. When we r together he makes me feel like I am his full attention. But now he?s treating me like a deal with it type attitude (don?t want you to leave but deal with it).
Mind you he never says stay. He never tells me what to do. He doesn?t talk much or express his feelings. I just seem to always understand him. He would squeeze me so tight. I remember telling him that?s his way of saying I love you. Now when ever I am @ my end points he squeezes me oh so tight like he doesn?t want to let go. But he goes home every night.
But the funny part is I don?t want him to

awwww honey I am so sorry.

He may love you but he loves the drama of cheating more. He will never give you the love you need not because you are undeserving but because he is a very flawed man incapable of giving more.

Do what is right for you and the other girl. Walk away knowing you deserve love.

Here's my advice...watch "Waiting to Exhale"...that'll put things in perspective. That or make you even MORE bitter. Scratch that...

Hugs...Hugs...and more hugs. Sometimes we fall for the wrong person. You just have to bite the bullet, cry a bit more...maybe destroy some property, picture...whatever helps you sleep at night. Then let him go. (Pshaw...like I can talk! 😛 )

BTW, Is this guy a Pisces? I wouldn't be surprised.

Get out now. It will only get worse.

I'm going to be unemotional here and ask you one question... are you so afraid of being alone that you are willing to accept a player, or do you think your tears are because in your heart you know that you are worth more? Are you going to let your bad times dictate what happens to you know and accept a man's crumbs that he can spare or does your heart yearn for being someone's partner in life?

Facts are facts... this girl is pregnant.

Please don't jump off a building or lash out at the question. I just really want you to look inside yourself and ask yourself 'what am I worth and what do I deserve?'

know equals now

horus...what happened with your taurus soulmate— and so, this guy you are talking about is a cappie, correct?

horus...what happened with your taurus soulmate— and so, this guy you are talking about is a cappie, correct?

Ok, so he's cheating and lying. Now there is another member of society on the way (baby) and you let him suck you back in? Basically you are the piano, he's the fingers. When you move on he'll replace you with someone else. I understand you've probably lashed out because of the bad relationship but you're the hurt one. Wake up and get with the program. Sometimes we get stuck in situations and don't know how to get out then we learn how and jump out of them all. Finally, we reach the happy medium. Learn how to jump out, life is too short.

Let him go...as hard as it is let him go. I have to say this and it may sound crude however....You have to do this not just for you but also for your children. What type of example are you setting for your children. If you have daughters do you want them to experience this type of pain or think that this is the type of man they should find? If you have sons is this the type of man you want them to grow up to be? I just ask that while I know you are really thinking of your hurt right now think of your children to.

Lastly....she is pregnant....he will always always be tied to her! I'm sorry 😢

Yes he is a cappy and I am a taurus.

Well Hello All
(Update)

We are still passsionate with each other. He has spent alot more time with me lately. I think its beause after writing to you all I was fustrated. I told him if they are going to stay together than let me know so I can go do my own thing. Then he left me two cards stating he was not tryig to string me along. That he knows the suggestion is not right.He didn't expect this to happen. Meaning he did not think we would fall for each like we have. We chill for a little while after that. But if we do not see each other for a number of day its like there is something missing. So of course we are back in each other arms again. Loving ever moment of it. But now he has change. They no longer live together. He took me to his apartment. He ask me would I cook and help clean up. Of course I said yes knowing I would because he has done so much for me like it was second nature.

I know to you all this may seem strange. Hell its strange to me but I never experience so much passion the connections is amazing.

You can't help who you fall in love with.
Which remind me you know how cappies are all close. Well he has his time where he will open up.So I ask him "Do you love her? He said, Yes. So I ask why are you here with me. He said "I may love her but that doesn't mean I am in love with her"

The thing about is we never argue. Even when I am upset I can't even say mad b/c I never get mad at him.Its like we have our own world and when there is a problem we kind of hold on even tighter. I also think the sex plays a major role. We have a very passionate connection.We can sit holding each other for long periods of time not realizing it. Like we are feed off of each others energy. Speaking without talking.

"Do you love her? He said, Yes. So I ask why are you here with me. He said "I may love her but that doesn't mean I am in love with her"

Do you truly believe in this BS? What do you think that he tells her about you—?
I mean, fine, stay with your man! Who knows why we remain in relationships with some people but don't fool yourself about it: worse don't allow him to make a fool of yourself with this empty statement so easily!

"Do you love her? He said, Yes. So I ask why are you here with me. He said "I may love her but that doesn't mean I am in love with her"

Do you truly believe in this BS? What do you think that he tells her about you—?
I mean, fine, stay with your man! Who knows why we remain in relationships with some people but don't fool yourself about it: worse don't allow him to make a fool of yourself with this empty statement so easily!

He had a choice between a girl that he lived with and is having his baby or a new girl who he doesn't need as much... the sex is better, she's willing to clean up for him, and y'all don't talk outloud and let the psychic connection be enough etc.

You may be happy and you have a right to be happy. I just hope that you know in your heart that you will and can be happy, no matter what this guy does later.

As long as we are alive there will be all kinds of situations that we find ourselves in and have no understanding of what is going on.

I believe that each one of us is in a certain relationship/situation because we are to be there to learn a specific lesson that cannot be learned unless we go through the experience feeling ALL of the feelings that are brought to us.

Advice can be given from those who have gone before us and we can see if it applies to our situation. Then....we have choices and in order for us to REALLY learn, it is only us that MUST go through the experience - we learn by feeling and by being involved. When we have had enough pain or the ah-ha bulb lights up - we will have achieved the knowledge required to move ahead, peacefully and with conviction.

Horus....my best wishes to you with this lesson.

Would you all like to see our chart. I got it from one of the websites recommend on here.

did his pregnant girlfriend move out b/c she found out he was cheating on her?

Horus, did you say it was only when you said "... (you)wouldn't mind being a side girl because you are not ready to commit to anyone no time soon." that he made his move? he has not forgotten that...

Horus..

I was in a similar relationship many years ago. It proved to be mentally and physically exhausting for me in the end. He did not have a pregnant girlfriend, however, he had a really hard time being committed bc he had a ex that kept resurfacing. When I realized what was happening I did allow myself get sucked into thinking I was the only one, even though he was playing it like I was.

The issue was I was in a bad marriage prior to meeting him and when I finally got out I met him and he was the exact opposite of my husband. He did not argue with me, he was quiet and considerate, he took a lot of time with me and when we were together it was all about "me". What woman does not like attention from an attractive man? Because he spent so much time with me and allowed me to be myself around him, the sex was automatic. He was a great lover and spent a lot of time getting to know what I liked etc. However, every time things would start going good there was this chic calling my home, crying, etc. I later found out about other women he was seeing also during this time. Every time I asked him to leave me alone and go on with these other girls he would tell me he will never leave me alone so I needed to stop asking. I was frustrated as I did not want to be one of many, this is just not how Aquarians do it. This caused a constant inner struggle for me.

I had to stop and assess the relationship because it was driving me crazy. I realized that what I got out of the relationship was worth the compromise. I decided to accept him as he was(liar and all), I had to accept the relationship as it was and I had to stop fighting it. I enjoyed the time we spent together, I enjoyed having sex with him and I enjoyed his companionship. When he left my house, I forced myself to not think about him and continued to casually date other men so he was not monopolizing my thoughts and my time. He did not like me seeing other men, but I did not care and it made me feel like I was taking some of the control back. Eventually an opportunity came up for me to go to school full-time in another city and I took it. One of the main reasons was to get away from him. It took three-years to get rid of him, but when I finally did it was a relief.

I learned a lot about myself through that relationship and it made me look at men, more like objects than human. This has had good and bad effects on later relationships, but I say all this to say you have to learn from ever

OOPS! ... you have to learn from every experience. Someone once told me being mature is the ability to make tough decisions. When we don't take control we leave ourselves vulnerable to our emotions and make decisions based on them and not true reality. This can allow a relationship to spiral downward quickly and end with the other person in the "power" position. We are left empty longing for something that was not real, which leads to a lot of waisted time and energy. If we are going to put that much time into something or someone we should gain something from the experience that we can use to better ourselves for the "right one" when we comes along.

for Horus H (female)
born on 19 May 1985 local time 4:30 am
in Miami, FL (US) U.T. 08:30
80w12, 25n46 sid. time 18:57:02

Planetary positionsplanet sign degree motion

Sun Taurus 28?18'24 in house 2 direct
Moon Taurus 22?16'01 end of house 1 direct
Mercury Taurus 8?22'05 in house 1 direct
Venus Aries 15?27'43 in house 12 direct
Mars Gemini 15?47'47 in house 2 direct
Jupiter Aquarius 16?31'57 in house 11 direct
Saturn Scorpio 24?33'42 in house 8 retrograde
Uranus Sagittarius 16?43'49 in house 8 retrograde
Neptune Capricorn 3?07'19 in house 9 retrograde
Pluto Scorpio 2?39'47 in house 7 retrograde
True Node Taurus 18?14'18 in house 1 retrograde
Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

House positions (Placidus)Ascendant Aries 19?27'18

2nd House Taurus 22?50'57
3rd House Gemini 19?08'51
Imum Coeli Cancer 13?07'20
5th House Leo 8?48'28
6th House Virgo 10?13'54
Descendant Libra 19?27'18
8th House Scorpio 22?50'57
9th House Sagittarius 19?08'51
Medium Coeli Capricorn 13?07'20
11th House Aquarius 8?48'28
12th House Pisces 10?13'54

Major aspects Sun Conjunction Moon 6?02
Sun Opposition Saturn 3?45
Moon Square Jupiter 5?44
Moon Opposition Saturn 2?18
Mercury Trine Neptune 5?15
Mercury Opposition Pluto 5?42
Venus Sextile Mars 0?20
Venus Sextile Jupiter 1?04
Venus Trine Uranus 1?16
Venus Conjunction Ascendant 4?00
Mars Trine Jupiter 0?44
Mars Opposition Uranus 0?56
Mars Sextile Ascendant 3?40
Jupiter Sextile Uranus 0?12
Jupiter Sextile Ascendant 2?55
Uranus Trine Ascendant 2?43
Neptune Sextile Pluto 0?28
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).

Astrological Data used for Short Report - Personal Portrait for (male)
born on 22 Dec 1980 local time 6:00 am
in Washington, DC (US) U.T. 11:00
77w02, 38n54 sid. time 11:56:29

Planetary positionsplanet sign degree motion

Sun Capricorn 0?45'59 in house 1 direct
Moon Cancer 10?03'32 in house 7 direct
Mercury Sagittarius 25?41'32 in house 1 direct
Venus Sagittarius 5?13'37 in house 12 direct
Mars Capricorn 23?22'16 in house 2 direct
Jupiter Libra 8?41'15 in house 10 direct
Saturn Libra 9?07'19 in house 10 direct
Uranus Scorpio 27?54'40 in house 12 direct
Neptune Sagittarius 22?41'57 in house 1 direct
Pluto Libra 23?58'45 in house 10 direct
True Node Leo 11?26'28 in house 8 retrograde

House positions (Placidus)Ascendant Sagittarius 11?28'24
2nd House Capricorn 14?45'30
3rd House Aquarius 22?56'48
Imum Coeli Pisces 29?02'25
5th House Aries 28?09'55
6th House Taurus 21?21'08
Descendant Gemini 11?28'24
8th House Cancer 14?45'30
9th House Leo 22?56'48
Medium Coeli Virgo 29?02'25
11th House Libra 28?09'55
12th House Scorpio 21?21'08

Major aspectsSun Conjunction Mercury 5?04
Sun Square Jupiter 7?55
Sun Sextile Pluto 6?47
Moon Square Jupiter 1?22
Moon Square Saturn 0?56
Moon Quincunx Ascendant 1?25
Mercury Conjunction Neptune 3?00
Mercury Sextile Pluto 1?43
Venus Sextile Jupiter 3?28
Venus Sextile Saturn 3?54
Mars Sextile Uranus 4?32
Mars Square Pluto 0?36
Jupiter Conjunction Saturn 0?26
Jupiter Sextile Ascendant 2?47
Saturn Sextile Ascendant 2?21
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1?17
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).

Astrological Data used for Short Report - Personal Portrait for (male)
born on 22 Dec 1980 local time 6:00 am
in Washington, DC (US) U.T. 11:00
77w02, 38n54 sid. time 11:56:29

Planetary positionsplanet sign degree motion

Sun Capricorn 0?45'59 in house 1 direct
Moon Cancer 10?03'32 in house 7 direct
Mercury Sagittarius 25?41'32 in house 1 direct
Venus Sagittarius 5?13'37 in house 12 direct
Mars Capricorn 23?22'16 in house 2 direct
Jupiter Libra 8?41'15 in house 10 direct
Saturn Libra 9?07'19 in house 10 direct
Uranus Scorpio 27?54'40 in house 12 direct
Neptune Sagittarius 22?41'57 in house 1 direct
Pluto Libra 23?58'45 in house 10 direct
True Node Leo 11?26'28 in house 8 retrograde

House positions (Placidus)Ascendant Sagittarius 11?28'24
2nd House Capricorn 14?45'30
3rd House Aquarius 22?56'48
Imum Coeli Pisces 29?02'25
5th House Aries 28?09'55
6th House Taurus 21?21'08
Descendant Gemini 11?28'24
8th House Cancer 14?45'30
9th House Leo 22?56'48
Medium Coeli Virgo 29?02'25
11th House Libra 28?09'55
12th House Scorpio 21?21'08

Major aspectsSun Conjunction Mercury 5?04
Sun Square Jupiter 7?55
Sun Sextile Pluto 6?47
Moon Square Jupiter 1?22
Moon Square Saturn 0?56
Moon Quincunx Ascendant 1?25
Mercury Conjunction Neptune 3?00
Mercury Sextile Pluto 1?43
Venus Sextile Jupiter 3?28
Venus Sextile Saturn 3?54
Mars Sextile Uranus 4?32
Mars Square Pluto 0?36
Jupiter Conjunction Saturn 0?26
Jupiter Sextile Ascendant 2?47
Saturn Sextile Ascendant 2?21
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1?17
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).

What do you of or charts————??

Can some give me a simple break down of our charts please———?

I want to give an update.
Lately we have spent a lot of time together. During the week we have lunch together. He takes care of his son in the day. When she gets off he gets him settled in for the night. Then he calls me in the evening. We end up spending the rest of the night together. He has made hints about me moving in. I always play it off. But one time I entertain his thought to see if he was serious. His mother was getting new beds in the house. He said " We can take your bed to my apartment" I said playing it off " How can I take my bed to your house when I sleep here". He said "you can sleep there" again I played it off " what about my clothes I have to go to work" that's when he said "you can bring your clothes" I left the conversation alone. Then again the subject came up. Now its never like will you move in or should we live together. It's always like an indirect conversation in spurts. I don't remember how it came up this time but I said " what if someone (of course he knows who I am talking about) needs to come up here" he said in a slightly serious tone? what will they need to come up here for ? I said ? like if they need to pick up something' (his son). He said they can pick out what ever they need up the street. And again I left the conversation alone. I don't think I am ready to live with him.
I am not sure what is exactly going on with him and his girl. But I seen that the radio of the car they both share was gone and one of the speakers was pulled out. I asked what happened he said someone stole it. Then the next day his car was missing the keyhole like someone was trying to break in. Again I ask what happened he said someone was trying to break in. I smirk and said looks more like the doing of an angry woman. I knew I would get no response but his silence was answer enough.