Libra woman hoping to reconnect with aquarius man

So I've been with my (ex) aquarian for almost three years. We had a very nice, deep, meaningful relationship. I was his first love. He is 26 and I am 24. We have been through a lot of things, good and bad, and I have had plenty of the Aquarian disappearing act. We got into a huge blow out fight a little over a month ago. I asked for my apartment key back, and he claimed he threw it in the woods. He didn't really, but the fight got worse after this. In was at his parents house (he lives with them) and at some point his father came out and kicked me off their property. I left and came back, and my aquarian agreed to go for a drive with me to talk. Before we pulled out of the driveway, his father came back out and made him get out of my car. His father called the cops on me after this requesting them to call me and tell me I'm never allowed on their property again. We haven't talked since then. I did blow him up via e-mail,phone calls, and instagram messages. Yesterday was about 21 days since I haven't tried to contact him. I tried to contact him because I saw he had finally read a message I sent him via insta. I had nothing but good things to say, and hoping him well. He read those messages immediately but still no response. Does anyone think I will hear from him? This was not the worst fight we have even been in, although his family was never involved. I have read a lot that aquarian men always go back to those that they truly love. Help?

Give it time.. You guys seem so intense... Just relax and see what he does...

This is a drama filled, toxic relationship.

You two are not compatible, move on. Every thought you are spending on him is a complete waste of time.

I thought libra and Aquarius was compatible

Hm what on earth is his father so upset at you for?

The cop told me he doesn't like being embarrassed in front of the neighbors. They're normally a very quiet family. Never had any disagreements or disputes with his family they always liked me

Which actually brings me to another question- is it normal for him to be bossing around his 26 year old son like that? Not "bossing around" but for lack of better word. I feel like he doesn't respect him as a man capable of making his own decisions?

The thing that bugs me is we probably, at the very least, would have been civil and friendly right now had his dad just let him go with me to talk

That's tough lady. So you both caused a scene now. Just respect the parents and deal with your bff away from there house I suppose, go out and talk.

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We haven't talked in over a month. He's still ignoring me I tried to reach out to him two days ago. I know he read the message but nothing

I know Aquarians are famous for their disappearing act and I'm just hoping he'll still reappear at some point. If things are over between us, I don't want it to be like this. I want it to be peaceful closure

Also- when I talked to the cop he emphasized that I'm still allowed to talk to, date, and see this Aquarian. I'm wondering if this came from the cop himself, or if it was emphasized by the father or the Aquarian himself. I know none of us will every know, but just another tidbit to this story

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Posted by kmri
I thought libra and Aquarius was compatible

Maybe, but you two are clearly not.

I don't think because there is an argument in a relationship it means people are incompatible but okay

Too much arguing is a headache and depending what the issues are too.

Not a lot of arguing. Main issue is how we argue. Need to find healthier way of expressing our whatever it is that might happen that would cause a reason for argument. Main issue in my post is whether or not anyone thinks this Aquarian man will reappear so we can find a healthier means of getting our issues out.

Fixed air sometimes stubborn and blow hot cold for awhile. So not right now.

Thank you. Crossing my fingers for someday

He will cool down after 3 months this was a really bad fight. Aquas can be very weak with family. They wanna make sure family is happy first then you second. Don't give up on him ,just don't try too hard keep your distance yet be close if you know what I mean.

Posted by kmri
I don't think because there is an argument in a relationship it means people are incompatible but okay

We just played a game called "Debate!" with my Aqua boyfriend, which led to "arguments". We also had a pillow fight yesterday, since he threatened to vote for UK leaving the EU. These are good arguments.

What you did, it is not an argument. It is pure rage, police-restraining anger issue, complete lack of control and crass disrespect for his loved ones and their home. You should not be in a relationship till you solve your issues. And find someone else who doesn't trigger such madness in yourself.

If he were my son, I would have done everything in my power to stop him ruining his life (even temporarily) with the "mad" woman. He may be pussy whipped at the moment, but he's not an idiot. Aquas rarely are. Oh, and they abhor crass behaviour.

Posted by Aquastic
He will cool down after 3 months this was a really bad fight. Aquas can be very weak with family. They wanna make sure family is happy first then you second. Don't give up on him ,just don't try too hard keep your distance yet be close if you know what I mean.

Thank you. I'm sure he will come around!

What happened during the fight to bring involvement in from his family?

I can't offer any advice, i'm just curious :p

Lol it's ok. It happened in his driveway and his father came outside probably because he heard us yelling

There are issues though if you are debating or yelling at each other that's not okay. Draw the line say when though.

If we ever get back together, which I'm not sure I would like to do right away if I ever do hear from him, those issues will be solved together. As I said, we do not argue often, but when something arises, we need to learn to deal with it in a healthy way

Compromise and communicate but don't wait. I would wait too but there's not much you can do now. Then when he comes back just say what should we work on to make this work? And listen and discuss then you have your answer.

There is no respect in this relationship compatible or not

Thanks! I'm just doing my own thing and figure out/fix where I was wrong. I do not plan on trying to reach out again (although I guess I can never say never). I feel like if he does come back, it'll be a long enough time where he hopes we do not need to talk about what happened. Either way, what will be will be I guess. Maybe I will not even always hope he comes back. We shall see

Posted by MahoganyLeo
There is no respect in this relationship compatible or not

Who knows what will happen I guess. I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship again if he was to come back (not now anyway) but I just hope things can be on a good note with us someday. If another relationship was to happen, it would be just that. Another relationship

So if you don't what anything why bother talking just move on to someone who has time for you and knows how to communicate when shit hits the fan.

And has respect for you.

I'm not saying I don't want anything from him per se, I do now but I don't know if I will feel this way if he was to contact me years from now or something. I mean if he was to contact me again within the next few months, I would want to start the relationship fresh, just (hopefully) fall in love with each other again. I think it is good I am just spending time just learning about myself for now, and I think it is good for him too

Good luck @Op

Thank you 🙂

Posted by Aquastic
He will cool down after 3 months this was a really bad fight. Aquas can be very weak with family. They wanna make sure family is happy first then you second. Don't give up on him ,just don't try too hard keep your distance yet be close if you know what I mean.

Thank you for the advice. I feel like his family will not let him go either. Which is fine but have you ever seen "Monster in Law"? I feel like that is his family. He is the oldest sibling in his family, and his younger siblings live elsewhere. I just hope and mostly think he will be back because I am his first true love. He has even said I am the closest person he has ever been to. I just hope he gets in touch with me and holds no animosity towards me

You're sensitive and stay strong don't worry about this guy. Woman often think about what is acceptable and not when they are ready like I said to the other thread. How long are you going to wait?

I mean have fun without that guy who is not so sure. Because w9man often know when they are ready.

I had that happened wait for a hot long while to see if change would come, I heard lots of great words, and hardly no action, but since stuck around now for longer than necessary. I don't want to see or hear from him. Because those words kept me around and I missed other opportunities because well I tried working it out see if just friendship would be and I cant. Because I am attracted to him. So no go. A guy should upfront, consistent and stable.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I mean have fun without that guy who is not so sure. Because w9man often know when they are ready.

I had that happened wait for a hot long while to see if change would come, I heard lots of great words, and hardly no action, but since stuck around now for longer than necessary. I don't want to see or hear from him. Because those words kept me around and I missed other opportunities because well I tried working it out see if just friendship would be and I cant. Because I am attracted to him. So no go. A guy should upfront, consistent and stable.

All i can say is listen to firstDecan, she has some very sound advice here. I agree, you need to be able to be your own person for now, self growth, work through your own issues and then maybe if he comes around you will be better prepared to handle the situation and will know exactly what it is you need from him.

All very good advice. Thank you again all so much. I love these kind of sites where people lift either up. As much as I will have self growth, I guess all I can do now is hope the best for him and hope he does the same for himself

#ouch lol

I don't understand people who come onto people's posts and just insult them. Like my post was vague AF so don't assume things. I could have been crying the whole time he was screaming at me but you'll never know because I came here to give a bit of my story and ask a question so don't give me life advice that I'm abusive or I'll give you life advice that you're what's wrong with the world..