mutable sign parenting..

do mutable sign parents push their kids to excellence?

it seems that the lawyers, doctors, engineers etc..that i know, or know of, have mutable sign parents. sometimes i don't get a chance to see the sign of both parents, but a lot of times it seems that usually both parent's are mutable.

for example, i talked about the gemini in the post on intellectuals, who didn't attend college yet is brilliant, and he was married to a virgo at one time, who passed away years ago. their daughter went to law school and became a lawyer. not only was he(gemini) intelligent, but he said the virgo ex wife super smart, smarter than him he says. she had three daughters and the other two are in college, and extremely smart as well.

the doctor i went to school with, i just saw on her page that her dad is a pisces. not sure about the mom, but both her and her sister are extremely smart and her parents are still together.

i just ran across another smart young lady's page, who i don't knonw, and saw that she's in med school. her mom is a virgo and dad is a sag.

just wonder if this is something anyone else notice?

Posted by UnicornSag
My mom is Pisces and yeah she really did push me a lot. At some point I got lazy about college and went mor with having fun instead of finishing it on time and she never stopped nagging me until I did lol

Did she ever get mean with the nagging, or was it like a gentle push all the time?

Posted by LePetitFisk
My favorite aunt is a Sag. I remember her coming over to our house and sitting with me to teach and help me with my homework when I was little. My mom would just bark and yell for me to do it, while my aunt did it with me. When she had her own children, she did the same for them.

Success is taught by example in my opinion.

I watch a youtube channel where the father is a Sag and the way he teaches his daughter makes it fun. Like he keeps her mind stimulated, and never barks down orders, which is interesting because the mom is more strict, she's a Cap, yet the daughter responds to the dad more..

I don't have kids, but I fear that I'd be more like your mother, and I notice that kids don't respond well to that. Even if they do in the beginning, it eventually get old.

Posted by RooSagicorn
I think it’s more in the type of family you’re in & the expectations. I’m a Sag and yeah I nag my kids when they are having trouble.. but doesn’t work so well in my stubborn adhd Leo son, so had to find another way. My Scorpio daughter though is a go-getter.

My parents - Cardinal signs - Libra & Capricorn nagged ALL the time. But then they came from very educationally focused families..

That's good that you found another way and adapted to what works better for your Leo son.

Is your nagging different from your parents, or the same? Were they gently with pushing you?

Posted by Cvurkoo
my mom always nagged me - she is a virgo.

I will nag my kids and im Pisces.

Please don't. Break the chain

Nobody likes being nagged and it's counter productive

Posted by UnicornSag

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Posted by UnicornSag
My mom is Pisces and yeah she really did push me a lot. At some point I got lazy about college and went mor with having fun instead of finishing it on time and she never stopped nagging me until I did lol

Did she ever get mean with the nagging, or was it like a gentle push all the time?

Actually she's very very mean. To the points of impossible. Speaking in general not only about college. I don't appreciate being nagged tho cause it will never result anything good, I do things at my own pace no matter if one sits on my head with all the nagging or gently tries to do that it just becomes counterproductive

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Oh wow. I have a Pisces aunt that sounds like your mom. She use to scare me and I'd do anything she told me to out of fear.

When/if you have kids, will your approach be a bit different?

Posted by Cvurkoo
my mom always nagged me - she is a virgo.

I will nag my kids and im Pisces.

My Virgo sister isn't the nagging type. She just has a very stern tone when she's upset..

My Cancer niece is only 9yrs old, but my Virgo sister gives her a lot of space and lets her make her own mistakes, then she teaches her afterwards. It's almost like she steps back to watch how my niece will move, and then picks her brain to see if she understood why the outcome was the way it was.

Its very different from how I would handle my niece if I were her mother, but my niece seems to be doing just fine.

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Posted by Cvurkoo
my mom always nagged me - she is a virgo.

I will nag my kids and im Pisces.

My Virgo sister isn't the nagging type. She just has a very stern tone when she's upset..

My Cancer niece is only 9yrs old, but my Virgo sister gives her a lot of space and lets her make her own mistakes, then she teaches her afterwards. It's almost like she steps back to watch how my niece will move, and then picks her brain to see if she understood why the outcome was the way it was.

Its very different from how I would handle my niece if I were her mother, but my niece seems to be doing just fine.

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Intelligent parenting

I sense your niece will flourish

🙂

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Posted by UnicornSag
My mom is Pisces and yeah she really did push me a lot. At some point I got lazy about college and went mor with having fun instead of finishing it on time and she never stopped nagging me until I did lol

Did she ever get mean with the nagging, or was it like a gentle push all the time?

Actually she's very very mean. To the points of impossible. Speaking in general not only about college. I don't appreciate being nagged tho cause it will never result anything good, I do things at my own pace no matter if one sits on my head with all the nagging or gently tries to do that it just becomes counterproductive

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You are dead right.

Nagging doesn't work

Love and encouragement do

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Posted by UnicornSag

Posted by lnana04

Posted by UnicornSag
My mom is Pisces and yeah she really did push me a lot. At some point I got lazy about college and went mor with having fun instead of finishing it on time and she never stopped nagging me until I did lol

Did she ever get mean with the nagging, or was it like a gentle push all the time?

Actually she's very very mean. To the points of impossible. Speaking in general not only about college. I don't appreciate being nagged tho cause it will never result anything good, I do things at my own pace no matter if one sits on my head with all the nagging or gently tries to do that it just becomes counterproductive

You are dead right.

Nagging doesn't work

Love and encouragement do

yes that's it. It just doesn't work and isn't appreciated. Some people lack tact to do things in life and don't know how to provide good support

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True

Some just carry on the parenting techniques they received, albeit unconsciously .... it's lazy parenting. It takes awareness, hard work and skill to raise a child but some people don't take the time and effort

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Posted by Cvurkoo
my mom always nagged me - she is a virgo.

I will nag my kids and im Pisces.

My Virgo sister isn't the nagging type. She just has a very stern tone when she's upset..

My Cancer niece is only 9yrs old, but my Virgo sister gives her a lot of space and lets her make her own mistakes, then she teaches her afterwards. It's almost like she steps back to watch how my niece will move, and then picks her brain to see if she understood why the outcome was the way it was.

Its very different from how I would handle my niece if I were her mother, but my niece seems to be doing just fine.

Intelligent parenting

I sense your niece will flourish

🙂

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Aww, I pray so.

"do mutable sign parents push their kids to excellence?"

Don't know that, but fixed sign parents push their children to despair 😄

Posted by RooSagicorn

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Posted by RooSagicorn
I think it’s more in the type of family you’re in & the expectations. I’m a Sag and yeah I nag my kids when they are having trouble.. but doesn’t work so well in my stubborn adhd Leo son, so had to find another way. My Scorpio daughter though is a go-getter.

My parents - Cardinal signs - Libra & Capricorn nagged ALL the time. But then they came from very educationally focused families..

That's good that you found another way and adapted to what works better for your Leo son.

Is your nagging different from your parents, or the same? Were they gently with pushing you?

They had high expectations, and not a lot of support. More controlling the classes I was allowed to take, etc. I don’t really remember having a choice.

I come more from a place of support, guiding, listening. But nagging to make sure they do their homework etc. well the controlling way didn’t work so well on my independent children 😉

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See, I think I would be like your parents. That cardinal energy sometimes just want to give orders and nothing else. *sigh* I see how its very limiting and stifling, which isn't probably the best. My cancer niece is pretty independent and a bit mouthy, so we clash a lot and instead of me trying to ease up and figure out another way to get through to her, I turn it up a notch.....but so does she lol.

I definitely can't be like that when/if i have kids. That's so good for you to see what works with your kids and what does not. A lot of parents don't seem to make the necessary changes.

Story of a single mother, whose two sons got accepted to Stanford and Harvard.

Their acceptance video's went viral.

Virgo

Barack Obama parents.

Sag mother

Gemini father

I do believe mutable parents are great and supportive. I didn’t have them myself, but my husband is one. The amount of energy they can give is what helps I think. My Sag husband is always doing something. So calm and encouraging.

Posted by Skeleton

My mutable parent doesn't give a shit about me.

What is your parent’s sign?

I want children, just need to find the right girl, that's all.

...And yes, I would push them to excellence given the DNA they will inherit from yours truly.

It's akin to molding the finest steel into Excalibur.