PurelyFierceLibra
@PurelyFierceLibra
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My twin flame isn't ready for me!
I think he is being told that I am bad for him. Our composite chart indicates that I encourage his independence and help him change the way he communicates with others. He sees his own reflection in me, as I see mine in him. This is beneficial to both of us if we are ready. All of my planets in natal birth chart are direct, so I radiate all energy outward and have never saw my own reflection before meeting him.
I know, and I've offered to drive to him but he has excuses. Usually that would be enough for me to move on, however in his chart I understand that he has an almost debilitating effect by having Saturn in house 5. I kinda remember when we met that he may have stumbled and tripped too. I noticed that when we started bonding he stopped initiating contact, but would always reply right away. He stopped all form of interest on the outside, but I feel him. Also I seen that he was "stalking on FB" because he would wait for me to log on and then turn off chat to look like he wasn't there.
He is denying himself, because he does not know his own heart yet. He has been led by others his whole life and I encourage him to make his own choices, which I think is scary for him.
You need to meet up then you will know
Posted by tizianiI do fear hurt and disappointment. Also abandonment and rejection. I'm working on these things as hard as it is, and I am beginning to heal. I've been doing things differently with him and learning a ton about myself with every interaction with him. This is another reason why I don't want to let go. Learning about myself has been magical. Since "meeting" him I have leaped into spirituality, and changed bad habits like cold turkey. I have been digging into astrology, pretty hardcore too. However, I have been more focused on him instead of myself :/
Maybe you fear getting hurt or disappointed but that's just something you're going to have to overcome.
All the things you mentioned are a poor substitute for genuinely taking an interest in each other's wellbeing and getting involved in a life together (in my personal opinion and outside experience of having watched so many people be afraid of relationships, get into astrology and get increasingly self-absorbed).
The twin flame/chart reading route isn't going to capture their heart over just some basic genuine interest and compassion so you will lose more playing it safe than you had if you take a risk, in the end.
Posted by MoonbutterI so agree! But he is afraid to get things started in that way, and not have each other close.
You need to meet up then you will know
Posted by tizianiCan you explain what you mean by a poor substitute? Like it isn't real interest in each other?
Maybe you fear getting hurt or disappointed but that's just something you're going to have to overcome.
All the things you mentioned are a poor substitute for genuinely taking an interest in each other's wellbeing and getting involved in a life together (in my personal opinion and outside experience of having watched so many people be afraid of relationships, get into astrology and get increasingly self-absorbed).
The twin flame/chart reading route isn't going to capture their heart over just some basic genuine interest and compassion so you will lose more playing it safe than you had if you take a risk, in the end.
Also, how does one take a risk? I feel like I have done more with him than any other guy ever.
Posted by KoniuchaaYeah, I think you're right. Thanks.Posted by MoonbutterI totally agree with this. I would do it fairly soon or move on.
You need to meet up then you will know
And maybe try to focus a little less on the astrology stuff.click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaaThat's how I feel, but he is a Cancer sun with Leo moon, impatient and needs to show affection physically and all the time.Posted by PurelyFierceLibraHow else would you get a relationship started?Posted by MoonbutterI so agree! But he is afraid to get things started in that way, and not have each other close.
You need to meet up then you will know
Is he saying he does not an LDR?click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaaWait... what is an LDR?Posted by PurelyFierceLibraHow else would you get a relationship started?Posted by MoonbutterI so agree! But he is afraid to get things started in that way, and not have each other close.
You need to meet up then you will know
Is he saying he does not an LDR?click to expand
Posted by tizianiYES! Balance is my middle name, LOL. That's what I need to do. The confusion has been because he is contradictory. His actions are opposite his words. I opened his eyes to this, and he begun reflecting and started making small changes.... until the FB post thing, when his friends bashed him.
"I have been more focused on him instead of myself"
Maybe you can find a balance between both. We've all been there, I think. We can all relate.
Posted by tizianiYes! Thank you so much for this insight 🙂
Taking a risk here could be: just for starters, meeting up in person, listening and taking notice of the other person. And hopefully he is willing to take the very same risk with you.
Posted by KoniuchaaAhh... yes, that is the problem :/Posted by PurelyFierceLibralong distance relationshipPosted by KoniuchaaWait... what is an LDR?Posted by PurelyFierceLibraHow else would you get a relationship started?Posted by MoonbutterI so agree! But he is afraid to get things started in that way, and not have each other close.
You need to meet up then you will know
Is he saying he does not an LDR?click to expand
Do you know where he works?
Thanks everyone. I feel a small bit of relief.
Posted by MoonbutterNo, I never asked where. I just know he works in sales. I'm not very good at asking people questions about themselves :/
Do you know where he works?
Posted by KoniuchaaI don't think he can handle it... he's been stressed about not being able to take care of me in person.Posted by PurelyFierceLibraWhat is? He doesn't want one?Posted by KoniuchaaAhh... yes, that is the problem :/Posted by PurelyFierceLibralong distance relationshipPosted by KoniuchaaPosted by PurelyFierceLibraHow else would you get a relationship started?Posted by MoonbutterI so agree! But he is afraid to get things started in that way, and not have each other close.
You need to meet up then you will know
Is he saying he does not an LDR?
Wait... what is an LDR?click to expand
Posted by PurelyFierceLibraPosted by MoonbutterNo, I never asked where. I just know he works in sales. I'm not very good at asking people questions about themselves :/
Do you know where he works?click to expand
I think that's a Libra thing? Lol I'm like an interrogator haha. If you don't ask the questions, how will you know the answers?
There's my answer... Leave it alone, work on myself, and let the universe take over. Letting go of control is one of my life lessons too ;0
Posted by PurelyFierceLibra
There's my answer... Leave it alone, work on myself, and let the universe take over. Letting go of control is one of my life lessons too ;0
Yes, this is exactly one of the very definitions of a twin flame. its all about timing.
Posted by MoonbutterI know you're so right! It's just not me to ask things. Perhaps another thing for me to work on.Posted by PurelyFierceLibraPosted by MoonbutterNo, I never asked where. I just know he works in sales. I'm not very good at asking people questions about themselves :/
Do you know where he works?
I think that's a Libra thing? Lol I'm like an interrogator haha. If you don't ask the questions, how will you know the answers?click to expand
Posted by geegeeLOL! Damn that's so true! Every time I take a break.... I have questions that pop up and need to google. I am also a "healer" and feel directed this last couple of months to pursue my destiny in this area. I may have been a bit pushy... I can feel his presence, vibrations, illusions, visions, emotions, which led me to subcotiously post quotes on FB. Probably scary for him :/Posted by Koniuchaa"And maybe try to focus a little less on the astrology stuff."Posted by MoonbutterI totally agree with this. I would do it fairly soon or move on.
You need to meet up then you will know
And maybe try to focus a little less on the astrology stuff.
That made me laugh out loud, literally. That's like Jesus saying "whoooa maybe you need to chill on that Bible stuff." ?click to expand
Posted by PlaguedNot true. You are plagued... with doubt. But thanks for your oppinion
We share same sun and moon, I've found cancer men to be a poor match in my opinion.... he's probably not used to you barking down his shell. Not literally but he doesn't sound interested.
Also the secret is nothing more than manifestation they just wanted to slap a name on it and make money thenselves lmfao.
Posted by MoonbutterYeah. Maybe I can eat now, lol. I haven't had an appetite and have lost more weight than ever before. However, I have become deeply in tune with my emotions again, have intellectually and spiritually expanded, and have begun to heal.Posted by PurelyFierceLibra
There's my answer... Leave it alone, work on myself, and let the universe take over. Letting go of control is one of my life lessons too ;0
Yes, this is exactly one of the very definitions of a twin flame. its all about timing.click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaaOMG! I know, I felt that! But our Ego's got in the way!! I held back constantly because he wasn't reciprocating the way I felt he should 😢Posted by PurelyFierceLibraPlus if you don't ask questions, the other person may think you aren't interested in them. I know I would feel that way.Posted by MoonbutterI know you're so right! It's just not me to ask things. Perhaps another thing for me to work on.Posted by PurelyFierceLibraPosted by MoonbutterNo, I never asked where. I just know he works in sales. I'm not very good at asking people questions about themselves :/
Do you know where he works?
I think that's a Libra thing? Lol I'm like an interrogator haha. If you don't ask the questions, how will you know the answers?click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaaLOL! You're great, I like you 🙂
Well I didn't say stop, just maybe try not to base your decisions so much on it.
We all are in to astrology, that is why we are here. Some of us anyways.
Posted by PurelyFierceLibraPosted by MoonbutterYeah. Maybe I can eat now, lol. I haven't had an appetite and have lost more weight than ever before. However, I have become deeply in tune with my emotions again, have intellectually and spiritually expanded, and have begun to heal.Posted by PurelyFierceLibra
There's my answer... Leave it alone, work on myself, and let the universe take over. Letting go of control is one of my life lessons too ;0
Yes, this is exactly one of the very definitions of a twin flame. its all about timing.click to expand
Maybe you are just light headed from being malnourished then? ?
Posted by PlaguedI'm sorry, that wasn't very nice. It was an instant reaction to your post. I believe that The Secret teaches us the steps to manifesting, and I know without a doubt that he is interested... There is an undeniable flow in our connection. No doubt about that.
We share same sun and moon, I've found cancer men to be a poor match in my opinion.... he's probably not used to you barking down his shell. Not literally but he doesn't sound interested.
Also the secret is nothing more than manifestation they just wanted to slap a name on it and make money thenselves lmfao.
Posted by geegeeI am intense. I know that, and I also know that I need to dial it down. Also, I'm not a dude 🙂
@Purely You're kinda intense dude. You should definitely dial it down. Dial everything down, All the way down. You're even finding reasons why he's not doing certain things when there could be a million and one reasons and possibilities at play.
The human spirit is way too complex for astrology to understand it all. My guess is you're probably weirding this dude out just like the majority of the chicks here weird me out.
You also remind me of Libra chick that was way into me than I was her. I had to move to get away from her. Dial it ?
But do you know all of activity happening up there. The planets are doing things like never before. It's all affecting me.
Posted by geegeeOh and by the way... I have NEVER pursued a guy, ever! I'm following my heart this time, instead of being persuaded into a relationship. Yikes! Maybe I'm trying to do that now! eeew.... horrible 😢
@Purely You're kinda intense dude. You should definitely dial it down. Dial everything down, All the way down. You're even finding reasons why he's not doing certain things when there could be a million and one reasons and possibilities at play.
The human spirit is way too complex for astrology to understand it all. My guess is you're probably weirding this dude out just like the majority of the chicks here weird me out.
You also remind me of Libra chick that was way into me than I was her. I had to move to get away from her. Dial it ?
He has expressed some insecurities about himself with me... He doesn't love himself yet, and there is nothing I can do about that either 😢
Posted by PurelyFierceLibra
He has expressed some insecurities about himself with me... He doesn't love himself yet, and there is nothing I can do about that either 😢
Hmm yeah that's rough he needs to work on himself. Don't be his sounding board and go through the frustration and hurt like I did 😢
I think you should meet him in person before anything..
Maybe he isnt your twin flame, I mean you havent even met up yet.
Maybe try to talk about this in the metaphysical section.
Meeting someone or not has little to do with love nowadays, some people can handle that others cannot. I say do whatever makes ya feel good.
Back to your actual problem? Some people you just have to let it go. After you've tried and can no longer feel happy and spend more time sad you should take that as a sign to move forward no matter how hard it may be. And trust me, it's hard... but life goes on and should he return then good, if not think also good.
My TF wasn't ready, so I moved on to another heavy karmic relationship that I feel we settled our karma pretty well or good enough and when that failed, I moved on to my current who so far has the most heavy karma shiit we have to work on. And I'm ready for it.. because of what I've learned. And all the Saturn this dude has towards my chart, im gonna be learning a hell of a lot more.
So, my advice is everything happens for a reason, do what you must and then move forward. Talk to your spirit guides and your God for guidance on where your soul needs to go next.
Meeting someone or not has little to do with love nowadays, some people can handle that others cannot. I say do whatever makes ya feel good.
Back to your actual problem? Some people you just have to let it go. After you've tried and can no longer feel happy and spend more time sad you should take that as a sign to move forward no matter how hard it may be. And trust me, it's hard... but life goes on and should he return then good, if not think also good.
My TF wasn't ready, so I moved on to another heavy karmic relationship that I feel we settled our karma pretty well or good enough and when that failed, I moved on to my current who so far has the most heavy karma shiit we have to work on. And I'm ready for it.. because of what I've learned. And all the Saturn this dude has towards my chart, im gonna be learning a hell of a lot more.
So, my advice is everything happens for a reason, do what you must and then move forward. Talk to your spirit guides and your God for guidance on where your soul needs to go next.
Someone wise in my life once told me, if the person is the one, everything should flow in place and things will happen. If u had to make tht much effort to convince him in the initial stages, then maybe its not meant to be.
Last yr, I was in a bad place from a failed r/s and when the pisces i lost touch with 20yrs back reconnected with me. He actually msged me tht he was in town and if i wanted to meet, the following week we found out we were flying back to our hometown for a few wks. He saw me cry and helped me out of the emotional rut and i felt ohhh maybe he is meant to be. Having said tht, i had this gut feel that we werent compatible....6mths later, the LDR came to an end despite the effort we put in....
If u believe in the secret then u know that when u believe tht much in something, it will happen.....but what u r going thru seems like u have to go against too much energy for a start....
*dont get me wrong, i believe in effort to make things happ, but the effort shd be on both parties, dont take it on urself
Last yr, I was in a bad place from a failed r/s and when the pisces i lost touch with 20yrs back reconnected with me. He actually msged me tht he was in town and if i wanted to meet, the following week we found out we were flying back to our hometown for a few wks. He saw me cry and helped me out of the emotional rut and i felt ohhh maybe he is meant to be. Having said tht, i had this gut feel that we werent compatible....6mths later, the LDR came to an end despite the effort we put in....
If u believe in the secret then u know that when u believe tht much in something, it will happen.....but what u r going thru seems like u have to go against too much energy for a start....
*dont get me wrong, i believe in effort to make things happ, but the effort shd be on both parties, dont take it on urself
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