Needing some insight on an Aquarius man

First alittle background. I dated this Aquarius man 13 yrs ago for 6 months. I broke it off because I was still broken up over a past relationship. I could see he was getting attached and I didn't want him to waste his time on me, I thought he deserved better. He was to this day the nicest, most chivalrous guy I have ever dated. Even after I broke things off he wrote me the sweetest love letters (I still have them) and begged me to still occassionally go out on a real date with him so he could at least pretend it meant something to me. We remained in contact every now and then for about 4 years. I never forgot about him he was always my standard of what a real good guy is. Of course I went on to have several bad relationships with bad guys and he also had a couple bad relationships over the last 13 years as well. Thanks to social media I was able to track the Aquarius ex down and now being single I thought I would send him a message so I did and left my number. Within an hour he texted me(as I requested instead of calling since I have kids that like to make lots of noise when I'm on the phone) and we texted for 2 hours. The next night we texted for 8 hours straight. We made plans to hang out and catch up. Of course we had a blast and ended up sleeping together (OMG if only I could have felt that 13 yrs ago) and then things got weird. We want to keep hanging out neither of us wants a relationship right now because I'm trying to focus on my kids and home stuff at the moment and he is moving out of state for work in a few months (nothing new with him). Finding time where we both are free is difficult. And now he goes hot and cold on me. I have no idea how to read him. I have to admit I didn't expect to have feelings for him like this but I understand it won't change our situation as it is bad timing on both our parts. I just wish I knew how he felt. If I text him sometimes he seems uninterested and our conversation is very short and general. If I don't text him for a few days he will text me and see how I am. Then there's the fun he's drunk texts that get very sexually focused or he will bring up memories from our past(he remembers everything). Or he will go into detail about everything he loved about the sex we had the other night. So confused..please help...what is he thinking/wanting?

Posted by Octoberfrost
You say that neither of you want a relationship due to bad timing and whatnot, and then go on to question why he isn't putting forth a lot of effort. Well, how can you expect him to behave like you're a couple, when the reality is that you're not?

You're communicating one thing, and secretly desiring something else. Furthermore, you hurt him once before, so maybe he's being more cautious this time around (understandably). Have you told him how you felt? He might be under the impression that your relationship is strictly physical.

Honestly I was considering telling him how I felt until I read about Aquarians not liking to talk about feelings/emotions. So naturally I'm worried if I do it will scare him away. Then on the other hand if he also has feelings for me he may be afraid to express them because of our past. I guess I'm taking a risk either way.